Lupita Nyong'o Is Summertime Fine At The Veuve Clicquot Polo Classic

Sweet, sweet Lupita Nyong’o.

The 31-year-old attended the 7th Annual Veuve Clicquot Polo Classic in Jersey City, New Jersey on Saturday and wowed us with her style for the millionth time.

She was the picture of summer in a black and white Alexander McQueen dress, wide brim black straw hat, black wedge sandals and a matching black and white small handbag. The sweetheart neckline and knee-length cut of her patterned frock helped to break up the bold pattern, showing off just the right amount of skin.

Nyong’o added a pop of color to her sophisticated ensemble with navy blue eyeshadow and raisin-colored lip gloss. However, the actress’ best accessory was her megawatt smile.

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Other celebrities to hit the bright green carpet in warm-weather fashion at the 2014 Veuve Clicquot Polo Classic…

Julianne Moore

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We’re in love with Julianne Moore’s navy jumpsuit. The wide-leg fit and pockets make it a hit!

Dakota Johnson

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The “Fifty Shades of Grey” star’s take on black and white is chic with a printed dress and pointed-toe flats. Extra cool points for the straw fedora and sunglasses that block UV rays.

Olivia Munn

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Munn kept it sexy in an off-white lace minidress with nude platform sandals, a small clutch, slicked-back hair and red lipstick.

Busy Philipps

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Another example of white done right — Philipps looked prim and polished in her see-through frock and ankle-strapped heels. A purple clutch, matching pink lipstick and manicure and thick milkmaid braid added a fun finish.

Behati Prinsloo

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The Victoria’s Secret model went playful in a neutral jumpsuit and sandals with black sunnies and loose locks.

Aaron Paul

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The “Breaking Bad” actor cleaned up nicely with this tailored suit, green striped shirt, navy tie and buttery brown dress shoes.

Daily Meditation: God Particles

We all need help maintaining our personal spiritual practice. We hope that these daily meditations, prayers and mindful awareness exercises can be part of bringing spirituality alive in your life.

Today’s meditation features a poem by contemporary American writer James Crews. Where have you been, and where are you headed? What is keeping your body “fixed to its place on the earth”?

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God Particles by James Crews

I could almost hear their soft collisions
on the cold air today, but when I came in,

shed my layers and stood alone by the fire,
I felt them float toward me like spores

flung far from their source, having crossed
miles of oceans and fields unknown to most

just to keep my body fixed to its place
on the earth. Call them God if you must,

these messengers that bring hard evidence
of what I once was and where I have been—

filling me with bits of stardust, whaleskin,
goosedown from the pillow where Einstein

once slept, tucked in his cottage in New Jersey,
dreaming of things I know I’ll never see.

Jesuit Pierre Teilhard De Chardin's 'Conscious Evolution' Plays Role In American Nuns vs Vatican Debate

(RNS) Are American nuns paying for the sins of a Jesuit priest who died in the 1950s?

It might seem that way, given the ongoing showdown between doctrinal hard-liners in the Vatican and leaders representing more than 40,000 U.S. sisters, with one of Rome’s chief complaints being the nuns’ continuing embrace of the notion of “conscious evolution.”

To many ears, “conscious evolution” probably sounds like a squishy catchphrase picked up after too much time in a New Age sweat lodge, and that’s pretty much how Cardinal Gerhard Mueller, head of the Vatican’s Congregation for the Doctrine of the Faith, views it.

The German theologian bluntly told heads of the Leadership Conference of Women Religious last month that the principles of “conscious evolution” — that mankind is transforming through the integration of science, spirituality and technology — are “opposed to Christian Revelation” and lead to “fundamental errors.”

That’s tough talk, and Mueller warned them that if the nuns persist in pursuing such dangerous ideas, Rome could cut them loose.

Yet those principles, and indeed the very term “conscious evolution,” also lead directly back to Pierre Teilhard de Chardin (1881-1955), a French Jesuit who was by turns a philosopher and theologian, geologist and paleontologist.

It was Teilhard’s thinking about humanity’s future evolution that got him in trouble with church authorities, however.

Teilhard argued, for example, that creation is still evolving and that mankind is changing with it; we are, he said, advancing in an interactive “noosphere” of human thought through an evolutionary process that leads inexorably toward an Omega Point – Jesus Christ — that is pulling all the cosmos to itself.

“Everything that rises must converge,” as Teilhard put it, a phrase so evocative that Flannery O’Connor appropriated it for her story collection. This process of “complexification” — another of his signature terms — is intensifying and Catholic theology could aid in that process if it, too, adapts.

Now, that’s a perilously brief sketch of what is an intricate and often impenetrable series of concepts, but that language is enough to show why, as early as the 1920s, Teilhard’s Jesuit superiors barred him first from publishing and then from teaching, and then effectively exiled him to China to dig for fossils (which he did with great success).

In fact, most of Teilhard’s works were not published until after his death, and in 1962 a nervous Vatican issued a formal warning about “the dangers presented by the works of Fr. Teilhard de Chardin and his followers.”

Yet if few remember who Teilhard was, his views on faith and science continued to resonate, and today, remarkably, he’s actually enjoying something of a renaissance.

Pope Emeritus Benedict XVI, for example, who as a young theologian named Joseph Ratzinger criticized Teilhard’s views, a few years ago praised Teilhard’s “great vision” of the cosmos as a “living host.” That raised a few eyebrows and prompted Benedict’s spokesman to clarify that “by now, no one would dream of saying that (Teilhard) is a heterodox author who shouldn’t be studied.”

Benedict’s successor, Pope Francis, has also invoked Teilhard-sounding concepts about the ongoing development of human consciousness, and Vatican observers say it would not be surprising if Teilhard made an appearance in an encyclical on the environment that Francis is currently writing.

Teilhard “is definitely being quoted or invoked in ways we haven’t seen in decades, and really never before by the Roman magisterium,” said the Rev. Paul Crowley, a Jesuit at Santa Clara University who has studied Teilhard.

Crowley said one reason for the reconsideration is that reality caught up with Teilhard’s ideas: The growing global ecological crisis is prompting demands for the kind of holistic scientific and moral response Teilhard would have endorsed, and the Internet is itself a digital “noosphere” of universal interconnectivity.

At the same time, scholars such as David Grummett and Sister Elizabeth Johnson have been honing and deploying Teilhard’s often arcane ideas, and the American Teilhard Association has an agenda busy with conferences and publications. It is “the emergence of Teilhard de Chardin,” as John Haught titled a 2009 essay in Commonweal magazine.

There’s even a major documentary on Teilhard in the works, with a blurb from NPR’s Cokie Roberts: “Bringing Teilhard de Chardin alive to another generation could not come at a more opportune time.”

So how is it that the American nuns are getting tripped up by Teilhard just as Teilhard is becoming cool again?

The problem is, as Crowley put it, that for every serious Teilhard scholar “there are nine New Age types who invoke Teilhard’s name” — and often botch the pronunciation.

Granted, Teilhard remains his own worst enemy. He was as much mystic as scientist, and his concepts could be so idiosyncratic and esoteric that they fed right into the ecology-and-spirituality movement that blossomed in the 1970s and beyond. Teilhard tends to be quoted by the left the way G.K. Chesterton is cited by the right — frequently and to great effect, but often torn from any meaningful context.

To be sure, Teilhard’s disciples, including author and lecturer Barbara Marx Hubbard, whose invitation to address the American nuns in 2012 continues to irk some in Rome, helped keep his legacy alive.

But at this point the Catholic Church may need to take Teilhard more seriously if it is to take him back from his fan base outside traditional religion.

Teilhard “needs substantive theological attention,” Crowley said. “What we need to do is to separate the gold from the dross and appropriate it in new ways.”

Google's hacking game trades exploits for cake

Everyone knows the best way to teach children is to make the learning process fun and engaging; and if we’re honest, that methodology works just as well on us big kids, too. Now, even hunting through code for cross-site scripting (XSS) bugs can be…

Massachusetts Private Plane Crash Kills 7

BEDFORD, Mass. (AP) — All seven people aboard a private plane that crashed in a Massachusetts air field and erupted into a fireball were killed, authorities said Sunday.

The Gulfstream IV crashed as it was leaving Hanscom Field about 9:40 p.m. Saturday for Atlantic City International Airport in New Jersey, said Matthew Brelis, a spokesman for the Massachusetts Port Authority, which operates the air field. “There were no survivors,” Brelis said. “Our thoughts and prayers are with the people on board and their loved ones.”

The names of the victims were not immediately released, and officials didn’t say if they were traveling as a group to Atlantic City, a popular casino resort spot on the Atlantic coast.

Officials also did not speculate on what they think caused the crash. They said the National Transportation Safety Board will investigate and determine what happened.

Nearby residents recounted seeing a fireball and feeling the blast of the explosion shake their homes.

Jeff Patterson told The Boston Globe he saw a fireball about 60 feet in the air and suspected the worst for those aboard the plane.

“I heard a big boom, and I thought at the time that someone was trying to break into my house because it shook it,” said Patterson’s son, 14-year-old Jared Patterson. “I thought someone was like banging on the door trying to get in.”

The air field, which serves the public, was closed after the crash. Brelis said responders were still on the scene early Sunday morning.

An aviation expert who spoke to New England Cable News said various explanations for the explosion were possible.

“The engine could implode, if you will,” said Steve Cunningham of Nashua Flight Simulator. “A turbine wheel could separate, there could be a fire in the combustion chamber. Or a fuel leak could also create a fire of that nature.”

Hanscom Field is about 20 miles northwest of Boston. It was used by the Army Air Corps and military operations dominated until it became both a military and civilian facility in the 1950s. Massport currently manages it as a regional airport serving mostly corporate aviation, private pilots, commuter air services, and some light cargo.

These Wedding Splurges Just Aren't Worth The Cost

By Davia Montaya for Bridal Guide

Throughout the wedding process there will be elements that entice you to spend a little more than you were planning on — and we all know how tempting those can be! Some splurges are worth every penny while others may leave you with a case of serious budget regret. Here are a few guidelines to help you decide where to cut corners.

1. The Champagne Toast
The champagne toast is a wonderful tradition and something that I personally love as a champagne drinker. Unfortunately, it’s also one of the biggest wastes I tend to see at weddings since most guests prefer to toast with their beverage of choice, if given the option, which means that their champs will go untouched or they’ll barely sip it. My recommendation to all of my clients who want to cut costs is to skip the bubbly and just make sure that all of your guests have a drink in hand.

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2. The Cake
However you decide to approach the dessert course, my advice here is to simplify. There’s no rule that says you must serve cake — think of it more as an opportunity to share your favorite treats with your guests. For example, maybe your wedding calls for cookies and milk or pie and root beer floats. 

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I come from a family of cake-lovers so not having one simply isn’t an option. However, my cake will not be some overly dramatic style that requires countless man-hours and has a huge price tag. I’m leaning towards having a trio of simple, smaller cakes in a variety of flavors that all of my guests can enjoy.

If you want to have a cake-cutting ceremony, consider serving sheet cake to your guests instead of paying for a tiered confection. Besides the huge savings, the beauty of sheet cake is that it can be pre-plated and served the second after you cut the display cake. This ensures that less goes to waste because it’s at the forefront of guests’ minds that they better grab a slice before hitting the dance floor all night!

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3. Wedding Rentals
Although I adore a well-designed place setting from the amazing, creative vendors out there like Casa De Perrin, most guests will not know the difference between specific glasses or appreciate the cost of a colored cut crystal goblet. However, what they will remember is how their meal was presented and how delicious it tasted when they cut into it. I can assure you that a simple white plate with a beautifully presented entrée course can be just as impressive as the same meal served on a different plate.

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There are other, more cost-effective ways to play up your table décor than renting expensive tableware and linens. For example, you could get creative with your napkin fold, handwrite a thank-you note for each guest’s place setting or add a spring of fresh lavender to every dish. All of these small touches will leave your guests thinking how tastefully simple and elegant everything was.

4. Guest Favors
Personally, favors are something I can do with or without unless there’s some emotional or personal significance to the item. For example, I’m not a fan of personalized M&Ms or bubbles; these are the types of favors that will get left behind or eaten before guests even leave the wedding. They also cost more than you’d think! In my opinion, anything with your name etched into it, whether it be glassware, bottle openers, or containers, also aren’t worth the splurge. If you have a lot of guests traveling from a long distance to your wedding, then you may want to avoid items that they can’t easily pack in their suitcase, such as planted herbs.

I advise my couples to think local by offering edible favors that guests can take home with them, such as cooking oils and spreads from the region where they’re getting married. By creating something that is a reflection of your wedding, you are inviting loved ones to continue to remember the celebration and to bring that joy into their homes. Or you can skip the favors entirely by hosting a late-night snack station or take-home breakfast treats station, instead. These are great additions to your catering budget.

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5. Luxe Centerpieces
I’m a sucker for beautiful flowers but I also know how much they can cost. What I love about wedding centerpieces is that they are a complete reflection of you as a couple and don’t need to follow any specific guidelines. Who says that your centerpieces have to be completely draped in expensive blooms? Instead, I would suggest displaying a collection of simple, in-season flowers, more greenery and décor accents such as candles, driftwood or even antlers from your father’s collection. Most of your guests may not know the difference between a peony or a hydrangea but they will notice the small details that are a reflection of the two of you.

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A great designer or florist won’t try to talk you into more than what you need, want and have budgeted for; what they will do is create a beautiful tabletop that is reflective of your personalities, budget and wedding vision. Don’t feel that you have to go over-the-top and spend hundreds of dollars on your centerpieces. Think of it as an opportunity to get creative and find something truly unique to your special day.

Of course, there are many other ways that you can trim your budget without sacrificing style, such as asking a friend or relative to officiate your ceremony or calling upon talented friends. Remember that what’s truly priceless is celebrating with loved ones and creating memories that you’ll cherish for the rest of your life.

Tell us: What are you skimping and splurging on?

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10 Reasons My 'Failed Marriage' Was Anything But A Failure

By Sophie Rosen for DivorcedMoms.com

Our brain tells us that hindsight is 20/20. Yet emotion often gets the best of us. Particularly after a divorce, it is tempting to beat ourselves up as we contemplate what we could have done differently were we able to change the past. It is easy to point a finger at others, blaming someone else for why our lives did not turn out the way we had hoped or expected. But such thinking fails to take into account that the decisions we made at the time were the right ones for the simple reason that we made them.

In retrospect we tend to forget, but at the time we weighed our choices, considered the outcomes, and determined what was best for us then. And though some decisions may not have worked out in the long run, it is important to remember the times when they did, and the lasting effect and opportunity such choices created for our present and future.

My marriage may have ended, may have caused me indescribable pain at different times over the years, but calling it a failure is not entirely accurate. Even if I could to do it all again, I would not change a thing. Here is why.

1. My children. I cannot imagine my life without my children. Even as a young girl, as I pretended to feed my dolls, bathe them and change their miniature diapers, I always dreamed of being a mother. I love each of my children for their individuality, creativity, and their ability to love. They are the unique product of my husband and myself, and I could not imagine them, nor would I want to, any other way.

2. The good times. Though my marriage is over, and ended for good reason, there are plenty of wonderful memories to be savored. We shared joyous occasions, as well as unremarkable moments of contentment and bliss. No marriage is perfect. It is only when those bad moments overtake the good that we struggle to remember the bond that united us in the first place. Peacefulness and healing only comes when we are able to recall, acknowledge, and appreciate the happiness we once brought to each other’s lives. When we do, somehow the bitterness miraculously falls away, and we realize the years spent married was not time wasted.

3. The bad times. Periods of hardship and tragedy are the universal marks of life and cannot be escaped. It is during such times we see our partner’s strengths and weaknesses, and they ours. Bad days are informational — they grant us an opportunity to self-reflect, informing us where we need improvement, as well as how grateful we should be for the treasure we have in our spouse. When support from our spouse during a crisis is lacking, we evaluate if our relationship can be improved or whether it is appropriate to part ways. Knowledge is power, and without those bad days to guide us we are unable to trust in and enjoy our good days, the sanctity of our marriage, and its likelihood of survival. As I reflect on the bad periods during my own marriage, I recognize where we each fell short, how I can do better in my next relationship and what I hope to achieve from it.

4. Fabulous firsts. We shared many firsts during our marriage — the renting of our first apartment, the purchase of our first home, and the birth of our first child, to name only a few. Our many firsts together are experiences I will cherish forever. Though we will no longer enjoy firsts as husband and wife, the beauty of life is the endless possibility of more firsts in the future. With fondness I will remember the experiences we shared, while looking forward to those that will emanate from the ties we maintain through our children, and the joy I know awaits me in my new life as a single woman.

5. Self-discovery. It is very easy to become lost in a marriage. Married young, I had not yet fully come into my own. With the passage of time, I recognized those areas in my life where my dreams had not been realized, and the goals I still wanted to reach. Equipped with this knowledge, today I have a newfound confidence that with hard work I can achieve the goals I set for myself.

6. Living in the moment. Marriage was where I needed to be when I needed to be there. Living for the present, and neither wallowing in the past nor living for what may or may not happen in the future, can never be a wrong choice. To do otherwise is to not live at all.

7. Following my heart. Making the decision to marry was admittedly made with more heart than head, and that is a good thing. If we do not follow our emotions, and marry for reasons apart from love such as money, status, or time pressures, we put ourselves at a disadvantage. Any marriage lacking love and passion is at risk for ultimately falling apart as one or both parties either cheats or someone finally leaves permanently to search elsewhere for what they are missing.

8. Forgiveness. The deterioration of my marriage taught me that both parties contribute to a marriage’s demise, even in cases where one spouse cheated. By accepting my own part in my marriage’s end and forgiving my spouse for his, I freed myself to move on and find happiness. Forgiving my ex-husband and myself for the mistakes we both made has empowered me to pursue the relationship I want. Only after forgiving my ex-husband and myself am I finally in a position to love again.

9. I am older and wiser. Through experience comes wisdom. The last few years of my marriage were extremely draining. I was lonely, depressed, and angry. Today I know if I ever find myself in a bad relationship, I will remove myself from that situation and change my scenery for the better. No one should ever feel such unhappiness, including me, and I will never allow myself to feel trapped ever again.

10. I grew into the person I am today. We are each the sum total of our experiences. Because of the vows I took, I know what it means to fully commit — to put another’s needs before my own and to love someone else unconditionally. Marriage has not only taught me the joy of loving and caring for another, but in later years the importance of also loving and caring for myself. I know what I want in my next relationship, and because of the lessons I have learned I will not settle for anything less.

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44 Republicans Voted Against Time Between Troop Deployment. Suicides Skyrocketed. Why?

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Before reading, please be advised that this post contains some graphic footage of the Iraq War.

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If I had to experience the firefight below, I would hope that Congress would give me the required time to heal from the psychological and emotional repercussions of battle:

As a citizen who never fought for this country (like most Americans), simply taking a glimpse at the video above makes me pause for a moment. If I can’t stand watching a mere video, imagine what would happen to me, and you, if we experienced them? I know that I’d need the necessary and ideal time in between my tours in Iraq or Afghanistan to ensure that I came home with my sanity. Studies show that it takes 24-36 months to recover from deployment, but during the Iraq War, soldiers received only one year at home for a 15 month deployment.

On September 19, 2007, there were 44 Republican Senators who voted “Nay” on S Amdt 2909 – Time Between Troop Deployments. Before conservatives prevented any possibility of giving our troops more time away from battle, former Senator Gordon Smith (D-OR) spoke to lawmakers in support of the much needed law: “Our service men and women are under constant strain, spending more time in theater than they have with their families …This amendment would provide our troops ample rest and recuperation, time to visit with family, and an opportunity to extract our troops from the stress of war.”

Since there were fears in 2007 that the amendment proposed by Senators Jim Webb (D-VA) and Chuck Hagel (R-NE) would lead to an early exit from Iraq and Afghanistan, Republicans voted against a law that could have helped ease the stress of continual battle and fatigue. According to the Military Times in 2007, disagreement stemmed from fears that increasing troop times between deployments would risk the mission:

Sen. John McCain, R-Ariz., led the opposition to Webb’s amendment.

He called the amendment “pretty much of a back-door effort to get the president to accelerate the drawdown” of troops from Iraq.

Sen. Lindsey Graham, R-S.C., agreed with McCain that the surge is working. An Air Force Reserve lawyer, Graham said he has deployed to Iraq three times. Earlier in the war, he said, troops’ morale was exemplified by a soldier who said he felt “like I am waiting to get shot. This summer, however, a more typical response to ‘How’s morale?’ was ‘Colonel, we’re kicking their ass,'” Graham said.

Another Military Times article in 2007 explains some more GOP logic behind voting against the time between deployment amendment. As stated by Republican Senator Lindsay Graham, “If you want to take care of the troops, let them win.”

Apparently, Lindsay Graham’s “let them win” attitude and the Republican fear of “a back-door effort to get the president to accelerate the drawdown” let directly to thousands of veterans seeking treatment from the VA. Veteran suicides reached a record pace in 2009 and the issue of PTSD could have been mitigated to a great degree had Republicans allowed troops the necessary time needed to recover from war in 2007.

According to a study by the National Health Research Center, there is a direct link between dwell times (time between deployments) and PTSD: “In 2007, the Mental Health Advisory Team (MHAT) found that soldiers on their third or fourth deployment in support of OIF had a significantly higher risk of mental health and
work-related problems than did soldiers on their first or second deployment.”

Therefore, it’s safe to assume that the recent death of veterans in Arizona was a politically expedient way for the GOP to erase history. If lawmakers were aware that insufficient recovery times between deployments would lead to problems, they should have acted sooner, rather than later at fixing the VA.

Veterans around the country, including John Stoltz of VoteVets.org warned the country in 2009 of the increased rates of suicide among soldiers and veterans:

The news gets more and more troubling when it comes to Army suicides, which continue on a record pace, according to the latest report. March and April saw 13 suicides each. May saw 17 suicides…First, it isn’t just the stress in the field, it’s the stress of having to do multiple tours, with very little time at home…Imagine that you’re in the Army and you do a year in Iraq, come home for under a year, are redeployed for another year, come home for a short period, and are sent out again. It’s like being in a revolving door moving at supersonic speed, and just when you think you’re out and can relax, they throw you back in. Eventually, you don’t know which way you’re going, or how to make it all stop. For some, sadly, taking their own life becomes the answer.

Instead of listening, Republicans continued with the “mission first, troops second mentality.” According to PTSD expert Ilona Meagher in 2007, “Many of our troops have been deployed upwards of 3, 4, or 5 times. For the past six years, this high operational tempo has resulted in human and mechanical stresses and strains throughout the system.”

Republicans got what they wanted and successfully blamed Gen. Shinseki for the VA crisis; pretending that the GOP emphasis on mission success over mental health never existed. They managed to circumvent their role in ignoring the lack of recovery times between deployments, an issue they knew about in 2007. This negligence led directly to the inability of the VA to perform the task of treating hundreds of thousands of veterans returning home from the longest wars in U.S. history.

Congratulations GOP, you’ve successfully utilized the Arizona veterans tragedy to your advantage. Congressional record, however, won’t forget your role in the VA crisis.

Can A Vibrating Pill Cure Your Constipation?

Introducing the Vibrating Capsule: a pill with an engine inside that;s programmed to vibrate 6-8 hours after it’s ingested to cure chronic constipation. No more gas, cramping and diarrhea for the 15% of US population who take laxatives. Soon it will be cool to be constipated.

Social Media, Sedition, Sectarianism and Sisi Grip #AMF14

“Saudi cleric says chatting online is haram” (religiously banned in Islam).

According to Saudi daily al-Eqitisadiya, Sheikh Abdullah al-Mutlaq, a member of the Saudi Committee of Senior Scholars, said that chatting online through social networks falls under the forbidden “khulwa” (a religious term describing a situation where a man and a woman are alone in a private area).

Sheikh al-Mutlaq, speaking on a local Saudi radio show, warned that “the devil would be present when women talk to men” and urged women not to talk to males, even if the purpose of the discussion is to obtain guidance and advice.

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Social media aficionados Ali Jaber and Mona Bou Samra (Abu-Fadil)

A jarring contrast to this year’s Arab Media Forum organized by the Dubai Press Club with an agenda focusing on where media are heading, sedition, sectarianism, and whether the proverbial Arab Spring had become an Arab Autumn.

“Autumn is a loaded word,” insisted Mamoun Fandi, director of the London-based Global Strategy Institute, noting that non-government media in his native Egypt were not private or truly independent since their shares were not sold on the stock market.

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Mamoun Fandi (Abu-Fadil)

Co-panelist Abdallah Shaiji, chair of Kuwait University’s political science department, said there was media chaos in the Arab world following revolts of the past three-plus years.

“Children, not just youth, are using media: all you need is initiative,” said Mohamad Al Hammadi, editor in chief of the United Arab Emirates daily Al Ittihad.

This initiative is driving legacy media to seek innovative ways to reach audiences across a proliferation of platforms and formats, with increasing reliance on digital and virtual newsrooms.

Enter the Arab world’s first futuristic intelligent newsroom inaugurated at the forum where journalists can replace telephones and writing tools with touch screens and video walls to collect, curate, edit and disseminate their reports.

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Future digital newsroom in Dubai (Abu-Fadil)

Egypt’s president-elect Abdel Fattah El Sisi also made an indirect appearance at the event where participants flocked to see and meet his biggest cheerleader.

The woman made famous by a viral YouTube video in mangled English dubbed “Shut Up Your Mouse Obama,” slamming U.S. President Barack Obama for backing deposed Egyptian president Mohamad Morsi, and praising Sisi, created a buzz when she appeared at the convention.

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Shut Up Your Mouse Obama’s Mona Al Beheiri (Abu-Fadil)

A participant in one session, echoing other members of the audience who felt Mona Al Beheiry didn’t belong in the gathering of media professionals, referred to the woman as uneducated and a poor example of “new media’s” marginalization of traditional outlets.

To which Al Beheiri objected saying she may not be well educated but had every right to express her views.

A talk show host later said the woman capitalized on being in the spotlight by demanding $300 per TV interview.

Another key issue at the forum was online incitement to violence along religious lines and via mushrooming Arab satellite channels and ways to control, or minimize, it.

“Sectarian sedition is the greatest danger to the Arab world,” said Mustafa Agha, an anchor on the Saudi-owned MBC channel, adding that whoever speaks the truth to criticize it pays a price.

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Mustafa Agha on sectarian sedition (Abu-Fadil)

An editorial in Dubai-based Gulf News said experts and observers had expressed concern about extremist political groups’ growing ability to spread insurrectionary messages and exhortations through the virtual world.

“While laws and government regulations have a role to play in containing this contagion, what will restore the equilibrium between cyber wars and real-world resolutions for peace is heightened awareness among the youth and women on the machinations of the virtual world,” it said.

Various panelists openly criticized Qatar’s Aljazeera network for fomenting trouble in the region and backing Egypt’s outlawed Muslim Brotherhood.

Conspicuously absent from this year’s forum were Aljazeera editors, anchors and correspondents who had previously spoken at the event or presented prizes at its Arab Journalism Award ceremony capping the two-day extravaganza.

A session entitled “Qualifications: Pretty Face” stirred a hornets’ nest of comments, among five attractive female TV presenters on the panel as well as the audience, on whether beauty queens’ and supermodels’ looks trumped qualifications as anchors or light fare stars.

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Lebanese TV star Nadine Njeim (Abu-Fadil)

“Some people think if a woman is beautiful she can’t be intelligent, and I’m against this portrayal and persecution,” opined Nadine Njeim, a former Miss Lebanon who appears on a popular TV show, noting that her looks hadn’t barred her from setting up an IT company, speaking four languages, and acquiring two university degrees.

Other sessions included discussions on the future of media in general and news in particular, as well as a workshop tying academic offerings and achievements to the job market.