American Lives Have Not Been Wasted in Iraq

Sunni extremists’ recent gains in Iraq have strained our nation’s foreign policy. Liberal and conservative politicians alike are calling for intervention, and their demands are competing with an equally audible — and bipartisan — cry for restraint. President Obama has come under extreme pressure to act, and though many are upset about his reluctance to do so, we must consider that there aren’t any “easy” or “good” solutions for this conundrum to begin with. Perhaps Obama’s emphasis on careful and deliberate analysis before committing to military action is in fact the only way we can salvage what little utility remains from the sacrifices our fighting forces made in our near-decade long Iraqi quagmire?

Militant Islamists controlling the very ground our forces fought so hard to stabilize is understandably aggravating for any veteran of Operation Iraqi Freedom. The war alone was damaging enough; the latest offensive by the Islamic State of Iraq and al-Sham is the proverbial salt in our veterans’ wounds. Most of our nation’s service members, past and present, are now wondering if everything we sacrificed in Iraq was for naught. American lives were not lost in vain, and President Obama’s reluctance to get deeply involved is proof of this.

Since the last American troops withdrew in December of 2011 we have had to observe Iraq spiral out of control; the fragile government, which depended heavily on US forces for guidance and legitimacy, is rapidly losing influence among the Iraqi people and sectarian violence is threatening to pull the country into civil war. The introduction of an aggressive and powerful international terror group intent on establishing a Caliphate is a disturbing addition; the disintegration and subsequent failure of Iraq’s military is even more so.

This is all indicative of an outcome many of us foolishly ignore or stubbornly refute: we lost the war in Iraq. The mission was regime change, and given that the US is now contemplating pressuring Iraq’s Prime Minister to resign in order to avoid an all-out civil war it is difficult to argue otherwise. Regardless of this loss, however, the value we ascribe to our military’s sacrifices remains subjective and I implore America to honor our military by not letting these lost lives be wasted.

Our losing the Iraq war taught us a very valuable lesson, and President Obama’s policies reflect that by showcasing America’s newfound reluctance to engage in military action where diplomatic means may be more, if not exclusively, appropriate. The history of U.S. foreign policy progresses in tandem with the history of our country itself; that is to say, American foreign policy has always adapted to fit our unique place in the international hierarchy, whatever that position may be at a given time. Unfortunately for us, our policies cannot and will not ever change instantly. These changes take time, and President Obama’s actions prove that a positive iteration of policy change is currently taking place.

When considering the way U.S. foreign policy fluctuated between periods of interventionism and isolationism during the first and second world wars, as well as the astoundingly assertive policies we adopted in our efforts to counter expansion of the U.S.S.R., we can see that adaptation is and has always been very fluid; the driving force behind its evolution usually manifesting in the form of recognized and respected lessons learned. For the United States, the Iraq war is one of many such lessons. The collapse of the Soviet Union and America’s resulting ascent to the top of a then newly unipolar international order absolved the need for constant and intruding assertiveness, but consistent with history, reflection in our foreign policy lagged considerably. America failed to adopt appropriate corrections in time to save us from the mistakes we made in Afghanistan and Iraq.

Our military incursion into Afghanistan, aiming to destroy al Qaeda ‘s ability to operate, may have been justified but was nevertheless poorly planned and lacked sufficient foresight to alert us of the entanglement that would follow. Our nation’s leaders made the mistake of thinking that replacing the Taliban would be an easy feat, but as holds true with any matter of international relations, it was impossible to precisely identify the perfect course of action; we can really only ever discern which actions are wrong, and even at that our ability to do so is often restricted to the realm of post-action scrutiny. After thirteen years of combat and few tangible successes it is safe to say that the depth of our role in Afghanistan was likewise a mistake. But this mishap pales in comparison to our calamity in Iraq.

America preemptively invaded a sovereign nation on the false premise of Iraq’s possessing weapons of mass destruction. Our “Coalition of the Willing” then set in for what would turn out to be a demoralizing, confusing, expensive and bloody occupation. The damage this caused to our nation’s reputation and the more than 3,500 American lives lost were enough to force us past the threshold of policy adaptation, and President Obama’s decisions to abstain from intervening in Syria and the Ukraine, as well as his current reluctance to provide military assistance to the embattled Iraqi government, represent a welcome break from the Bush-era practices that put our military in Iraq to begin with. The United States is finally shifting away from the aggressive policies we enacted to counter the rise of the Soviet Union.

Our invasion of Iraq was a result of overly assertive, Cold War-era foreign policy. The tragedy of the invasion and occupation served as an unfortunate but necessary check to what was becoming a dangerously nationalistic American Exceptionalism. We should not trivialize the sacrifices our fighting forces made on account of a lost war, but rather we should actively prevent those lives from being lost in vain by ensuring that the lesson we learned is retained and applied. We failed in Iraq, but we can and will find a way to be a better nation because of it.

Live Pigeon Shoots: The Shame of Pennsylvania

More than two decades ago, when I first became active in animal protection, I went to protest what was then the nation’s largest pigeon shoot — in Hegins, Pennsylvania. The organizers trapped thousands of live pigeons from cities and other areas where the birds lived and then trucked them back to Hegins for the Fred Coleman Memorial Shoot, a Labor Day affair that had gone on unchallenged since the 1930s.

During the day, all day long, the organizers released the pigeons from boxes just yards away from a line of waiting shooters, who maimed and killed the birds as a target shooting exercise. Little boys dashed into the fields to twist off the heads of the wounded, flailing birds, compounding the cruelty with a clean-up process that just had to deaden the empathy of kids conscripted to participate in this perverted adult spectacle.

After some years, a state court ruled that humane society police officers could enforce the anti-cruelty laws of the state and that such laws did apply to pigeon shoots. That spelled the end of the Hegins shoot, but, amazingly, other live pigeon shoots persist, in more clandestine circumstances, in other parts of Pennsylvania, hiding in the shadows and obscured from public protests or scrutiny. Last week, the Senate Judiciary Committee considered a bill to ban the slaughter of dogs and cats for human consumption, and added to it the target shooting of dogs and cats and live pigeon shoots. They passed the bill, H.B. 1750, by a vote of 10 – 4.

Now the National Rifle Association is attempting to use its lobbying muscle to prevent the consideration of this bill on the Senate floor, threatening lawmakers with retribution, should they support H.B. 1750.

Can you imagine that there is still controversy anywhere about whether it’s right to ban these spectacles of cruelty? A spectacle that causes obvious pain and suffering to animals. A spectacle that cannot be called hunting because there is no licensing, hunting season, no bag limits, and no consumption of the animals shot. An activity that has superior substitutes such as clay, skeet or trap shooting, involving the use of inanimate objects – with many of these forms of target shooting recognized as an Olympic sport. A spectacle that has long fallen out of favor throughout the world.

Witnessing the cruelty of pigeon shoots changed the life of The HSUS’s current senior vice president of campaigns, Heidi Prescott. At the time, she was a volunteer and a wildlife rehabilitator. At her first shoot, it didn’t take her long to come across a wounded bird who had been suffering for hours and was gasping for breath. The bird’s injuries were so severe that she helped to humanely euthanize the animal. She says that after this experience, she made a pledge to campaign against pigeon shoots until they were ended for good. She’s been fighting for 20 years for the enactment of this policy, and she’s been joined by a strong group of responsible lawmakers, including State Representative John Maher, and State Senators Stewart Greenleaf, Dominic Pileggi, Pat Browne, and Richard Alloway, who are similarly committed to ending this cruelty.

Now, other state lawmakers must join them and demonstrate resolve, in the face of hollow threats from the NRA. No lawmakers have ever looked back, despite opposition at the time, and wondered whether they should have voted to outlaw dogfighting, or cockfighting, or malicious cruelty to animals. And the rest of us only look back and wonder why those legal protections for animals took so long.

Live pigeon shooting is a cruel and frivolous form of fleeting entertainment, with no larger social purpose or benefit. It is not hunting – it is a disgrace, and lawmakers who fail to stand tall on issues with this kind of moral clarity should feel only shame and embarrassment.

This post originally appeared on Wayne Pacelle’s blog, A Humane Nation

<em>A-Sides with Jon Chattman:</em> Ryan Shaw Shows Some "Real Love"; Animal Years Lift Some Spirits

You know it’s summer in New York City when rooftop concerts start taking place. That said, I am a bit curious if such gigs take place in the freezing cold months. If they do, it’s pretty messed up to have people get frost bite just to hear their favorite tunes. As I Google that or perhaps not (I waste time on the Interwebs but even I have to cross a line somewhere), let’s move from my irrelevant curiosity to the purpose of this post. Earlier this month, Round Hill Music held a private event (hat tip to Heineken) atop a Manhattan roof (how’s that for generalization and weird phrasing?) with two vastly different rising performers.

Ryan Shaw has worn many hats in recent years. Of course, I’m referring to the fact he’s mastered several mediums. That said, he may also literally wear a lot of hats. But, that’s not important right now. If you see him, ask him. If not, well, it’s a weird question to ask somebody anyway. Back to Shaw: the artist. The Atlanta native made his New York debut in Tyler Perry’s play I Know I’ve Been Changed., and performed with the group Fabulous Soul Shakers. His debut album, This Is Ryan Shaw earned him a 2008 Grammy nomination for “I Am Your Man.” But the accolades didn’t stop there – nor did the bucket list moments. First, he opened for Van Halen’s 2007-2008 North American tour and supported John Legend. In 2011, he received another Grammy nomination for “In Between,” and a third for “Yesterday” off Real Love. If you follow what I just told you, it should come as no surprise that the R&B talent is currently playing Stevie Wonder on Broadway in Motown: The Musical. Watch a rooftop performance from Shaw, and follow the Q&A below.

Did you ever give any thought to being known as Tyler Perry’s Ryan Shaw? Having his name, as you know, seems to bring instant asses to seats.
No. The thought never crossed my mind. I talk about my experience with Tyler often in interviews and how amazing it was, especially compared to the show I left to do his. I feel at this point, all these years later, it would feel like a gimmick– unless of course he wanted to be one of the executive producers on my next album or sponsor my next tour. Yes, those are awesome ideas. [Laughs]

You opened for Van Halen back in 2007. What was that experience like?
The Van Halen Tour was awesome. Playing in sold-out arenas every night was priceless. I call it the gig that eradicated my stage fright. It was cool, because when the lights go down in an arena of 20,000 or 30,000 people, and they come back up and on the stage is not Van Halen, it usually garners very loud booing. The Van Halen crowd can be very rowdy, but they appreciate good musicianship, obviously. So I made a bold move– my primary instrument is my voice– so I started the show “a cappella” with Sam Cooke’s “A Change Is Gonna Come.” Through the booing, I would start “I was born by the river, in a little tent…” There would be a moment of complete silence until “but I know, a change gone come…” and then a defining roar. That would happen each night, and it was very unnerving to sing through booing, but that’s what cured my stage fright.

Wow. That must’ve been amazing. How do you think the band’s respective livers are doing now?
I couldn’t really say– our interactions with the band were not many, but the few there were have been monumental for me.

Motown: The Musical was a gamechanger for you – describe the experience in only a handful of words.>
I had to cancel my European tour in order to do Motown, but I couldn’t pass up the opportunity to play Stevie Wonder on Broadway. Working with the man himself, Berry Gordy, and getting a blessing from Stevie Wonder to portray him has been a true honor.

I can only imagine, man! What can you cross off your bucket list that I can legitimately put on mine and have possibly happen?
To See Patti LaBelle live. This woman has such an incredible energy on stage that sometimes recordings cannot capture.

Brooklyn’s Animal Years (real name Mike McFadden) makes some pretty amazing roots rock for quite some time now. Have a listen to his three previous releases or his latest Sun Will Rise record, and you’ll feel good about the sweet melodies of his that really shine. See what I did there? I referenced “shine” after noting his record was called Sun Will Rise. My journalism professors would be proud. It’s a play on words, and it worked quite well there. Well, it worked somewhat. Anyway, watch a roof top performances below, but first here’s a Q&A I did with the talented musician.

Sun Will Rise has some summer feel good vibes. American Authors and Oh Honey to name a few are putting out some really uplifting stuff lately. Is it safe to say you don’t have to write about depressing shit to have a hit?
Yeah, I mean look at two of the biggest songs of the year: “Best Day Of My Life” by American Authors, and “Happy” by Pharrell– probably some of the happiest songs this year. I think a lot of people turn to music to lift their spirits and get motivated, so it’s easy to explain why they’re such big hits.

You go by Animal Years now and it works in music. Would this have flown had you changed your name to that in high school? Like “Animal Years – please report to the principal’s office?”
I don’t think so. I mean, in high school, I would have had to change my name legally and a lot of paperwork would have been involved. Luckily, bands change their names all the time, and they don’t have to get the government involved.

Good point. How is this latest album different than others in the past? I sense a difference but I want to hear it from you.
My first album was very pop/country. There’s still a lot of that on Sun Will Rise, but with a little grit and dirt added on. You can tell as I’ve gone through the years that life’s challenges have influenced my sound and lyrics. I think you can also tell that I went from mimicking my favorite artists to developing a sound that’s more my own.

I do sense that indeed. Last question, how is this question different than the other questions I just asked?
Well, this one has a “4” in front of it, and others, for example, have numbers like “3,” “2,” and “1.”

A-Sides “Delve Into Twelve” Countdown
Each week A-Sides unleashes its Top 12 tracks of the week AKA the “Delve Into Twelve”based on the following contributing factors: songs I’m playing out that particular week NO MATTER WHEN THEY WERE RELEASED (think overlooked songs, unreleased tracks, and old favorites), songs various publicists are trying to get me to listen to that I did and dug a bunch, posts and trends I’ve noticed on my friends’ Facebook walls, and – most importantly – the songs my two-year-old son gravitates toward by stomping his feet in approval. Yeah, you read that right. This weeks follows below (LW= last week’s rank).

12. “Snap Out of It” (debut) – Arctic Monkeys
11. “Seasons (Waiting On You) – (countdown reentry) – Future Islands
10. “Shadow” (debut) – Bleachers
9. “Peaches” (LW-9) – In the Valley Below
8. “Am I Wrong” (debut) – Nico & Vinz (coming soon to A-Sides!)
7. “Habits” (LW-7) – Tove Lo
6. “Now Hear In” (LW-6) – Cloud Nothings
5. “Let it Burn” (debut) – The Orwells
4. “Chandelier” (LW-2) – Sia
3. “Stolen Dance” (LW-5) – Milky Chance
2. “Would You Fight For My Love?” (LW-3) – Jack White
1.”Glory” (LW-1) – Wye Oak

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About A-Sides Music

Jon Chattman’s “A-Sides Music” series was established in August 2011 and usually features artists (established or not) from all genres performing a track, and discussing what it means to them. This informal series focuses on the artist making art in a low-threatening, extremely informal (sometimes humorous) way. No bells, no whistles — just the music performed in a random, low-key setting followed by an unrehearsed chat. In an industry where everything often gets overblown and over manufactured, I’m hoping this is refreshing. Artists have included: fun, Courtney Love, Air Supply, Birdy, Sharon Jones & The Dap Kings, Pharrell Williams, American Authors, Imagine Dragons, Gary Clark Jr., and more! A-Sides theme written and performed by Blondfire.

SCOTUS Ruling Doesn't Gut Public Unions, But Creates New Challenges for Care Workers

A huge sigh of relief mixed with curses. That’s my reaction to the Supreme Court’s decision today to block home care workers in Illinois from being required to pay union dues, while continuing to allow public employee unions to collect dues from all the workers they represent. The decision in Harris v. Quinn blocks the right-wing assault against one of the most important pillars of progressive infrastructure, public employee unions, but will add to the challenge of raising wages and benefits in the surging low-wage workforce.

First, some background on the case: As part of the right’s ongoing attack on working people, a right-wing legal group recruited a handful of home care workers in Illinois to challenge the state’s requirement that the workers pay union dues. The workers are employed by individual patients but are funded by Medicaid.

Having unions, in this case SEIU, represent home care workers is part of an admirable strategy to extend collective bargaining to workers who are publicly funded even if they do not work directly for the government. Since federal law does not provide collective bargaining rights to either public employees or domestic home care workers, using state law to organize these workers, who typically receive low pay with no benefits, is vitally important to their own well-being and to building a middle-class-driven economy.

The National Right to Work Foundation’s attorney argued, as Lyle Denniston explains at SCOTUSblog, that “anything a public employee union does is an attempt to shape matters of ‘public concern,’ and it should not be able to compel support — even for part of the monthly dues — from workers who oppose the union’s public policy ambitions.”

If the Court had followed that logic, it would have reversed its own precedent, set in the 1977 Abood v. Detroit Board of Education decision, which held that public employees could be required to pay dues for collective bargaining but not for purely political purposes. Fortunately, the Court didn’t go there today, which means that states and localities, which have the power to regulate public employee unions, will continue to be able to require that all employees who work directly for the government pay dues to the union that represents them. While this should have been a no-brainer given the Court’s precedent, it is a huge relief and enormously important to preserving the ability of public employees to organize together for decent wages and benefits. And it is clear defeat for the right’s campaign to eviscerate one of the most important progressive institutions.

Instead, the Court’s decision today focused on whether home care workers are fully public employees. In a 5-4 ruling written by Justice Samuel Alito, it decided that these workers are only partial-public employees and so cannot be required to pay dues to a union that represents them. The ruling will make it much more difficult to organize the growing number of low-wage workers who care for the elderly and disabled through home care and for young children through child care.

Home care and child care workers get paid very little, have few benefits, and make up a big chunk of the surge in low-wage jobs that defines today’s economy. But it is a huge challenge to organize workers who are directly employed by individuals. The answer has been to take advantage of the fact that the public is paying for a big chunk of their earnings by treating them as public employees, as Illinois Governor Pat Quinn did in the Harris v. Quinn case. The Court’s rejection of this approach creates new roadblocks to home care and child care workers who are attempting to organize unions capable of bargaining for better pay and higher quality jobs.

The solution may to be to have the public take over home care and child care. If public agencies employed these caregivers, financed as they are now by a combination of public funds and sliding-fee payments by the individuals who use their services, these workers would be full-fledged public employees. This strategy will require a major change in the organization of care, but should be tested where there are progressive local and state governments. Its success would be a deliciously ironic turn against the right’s campaign to shrink government, and a big step toward creating a good-jobs economy to power an America that works for all of us.

Cross-posted from Next New Deal

To Err Is Human, to Make Mistakes Is Divine

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“Congratulations! You’re now the leader of the new accounts team.” With these words ringing in my ears, I headed home. I was happy, but also terrified. What would the team think? What should I do? I stopped at the bookstore and bought a few books on leading people. With a cup of coffee and a gallon of determination, I stayed up until 2 a.m. reading and making notes. A few short hours of sleep later, I marched into the office, girded with my new found knowledge and good intentions. I often over-intellectualize my experiences and spend a little too much time wearing my virtual thinking cap, imagining just how perfectly things will be now that I know what usually amounts to just enough information to be dangerous.

Speaking of dangerous, even my clothes were sharp. I had on a striped blue, cream and grey shirt, with a cream-colored blouse and stockings and grey kitten heels. My earrings pinged against my neck making little clinking sounds like the sound of extra money in my pocket. I was all set, had a plan and was determined to do everything right to really earn the raise I had been given.

First, I had a team meeting, and then, individual meetings with all my team members. I explained what sort of leader I was and what they could expect. I asked questions, smiled until my cheeks ached and nodded so incessantly that they must have wondered where my string was hidden. As I transitioned back and forth from carefully curated speeches to active listening, my inbox was filling with the level of email that would become my new norm. Among those emails was an invite to an upper management meeting — my first one — with members of my division’s executive team. Wanting to know about my first day, no doubt. What would I say? My team was certainly polite, but their reaction to my leadership perfection was tepid and somewhat dubious. They’d have to come around eventually… wouldn’t they?

At the appropriate time, I began to traipse through the maze of desks and cubicles toward that glorious room of upper echelon leadership when someone called my name. I turned and one of my team members called out “I have a customer escalation I need your help with!” I had just spent the day iterating my “customers first” commitment, so I could hardly shirk from taking this call. I made a detour, pulled up a chair, grabbed the headset and started talking the customer out of their anger tree. Once the customer had climbed most of the way down, and we were nearly finished problem-solving, I reflexively leaned back in a split second of hubris and self satisfaction.

No sooner had I done so, than the broken chair I had grabbed in my hurry to demonstrate my amazing values decided to show its true colors and flew out from underneath my perfectly quaffed hair and accessories, unceremoniously dumping me on the floor. On my descent, my knees hit the keyboard tray under the desk and acquired long jagged scratches which decided to bleed an excessively dramatic amount of dark red blood into my nylons, turning them from a color reminiscent of “mildly foggy morning over the water” into “night you’d rather forget.” Apologizing to the customer for the strange sound I had just made, I finished the call laying on my back on the floor with my skirt scrunched embarrassingly high around my upper thighs. My team was by this time crowded around and after several of them had seen my underwear, they helped me to my feet. Smoothing my skirt over my battered legs, I took a little bow. Everyone clapped. Genuine smiles covered their faces for the first time that day. I had just lived the metaphor of literally falling down and picking myself up again. It was inevitable that this real life fable end in some kind of moral.

I limped into the boardroom and somehow explained my appearance and finished the meeting. That part is a blur. What I remember most is what happened to me and my team. We had really truly connected for the first time that day and the goodwill extended by that foible and the inevitable later ones that followed created a bond of true power. That day, I learned an important lesson. I’d be acknowledged, and I would achieve success at work, for what I did right. But I’d connect with people, prove my character and have meaningful conversations around what I did wrong. I make mistakes a lot, and not all of them are funny, but they are all incredible opportunities. My goal is to create a layer of transparency and openness about them with others, so we can bond, learn and grow together.

I’ve also learned that calling things what they are carries incredible power. I once worked at a software company where the word “bug” was verboten and we’d speak instead about “unintended product consequences”, even when those affected were insisting we speak with them plainly. Just owning who you are as a human being, a professional and a company, especially when you need to share that something isn’t going as planned, elevates your plain ‘ole ordinary mistakes to the level of magic. Enjoy being human. It’s divine!

12 Ways Teaching Is Like Baseball

1. Everyone has seen baseball, even played it, and thinks they could probably do pretty well on the field. In reality, it is incredibly hard. While many people have some ideas about teaching and opinions about teachers, they really have no idea how difficult it is.

2. In baseball, even if you are at the top of the league, you experience failure every day. You will experience tremendous joy, even elation, but also crushing disappointment. In fact, success only comes by having things go right some times within a project where failure often happens.

3. The richest teams, and the richest school districts, have everything better, from facilities to staffing to the personnel they can afford. When a scrappy poor team does well, commentators hold it up as evidence that money does not matter for success. But the exceptions prove, and sometimes simply reinforce, the dominant rule.

4. You have to keep a steady commitment, not get emotionally side-tracked, in order to perform every day. That is, you can and should get emotionally involved. But your emotions will get the better of you if you hold a grudge or you can’t let go of a conflict. You have to start each day fresh, believing it can be a positive day for you.

5. Baseball is deeply enriched by immigration from all over the world. So is teaching, so are our schools. Immigration is not a “problem,” it’s the coolest thing about our communities.

6. Baseball can only be evaluated by the accumulation of multiple measures, an explosion of data, and judgments are weak when it is evaluated by a single metric. Indeed, Sabermetrics, which has transformed baseball, is based on a careful evaluation of over 50 statistics. Those who rely on simply batting average or win records get a skewed idea of what is happening. Evaluating kids and teachers with a single test score is distorting reality and narrowing curriculum. Excellent schools like Central Park East use a wide range of narrative, performance, and qualitative evaluations.

7. Disgustingly selfish bosses don’t hesitate to take away pensions from ballpark employees if they can get away with it. Same with school and state bosses. Think Wisconsin’s Scott Walker.

8. People think you get three months off but really you are working hard all year. And you work ridiculous hours during the season. ‘Nuff said.

9. It ain’t over ’til it’s over. Never give up. We witness tragedy and heartbreak but we also witness miracles, every day!

10. You can talk about the baseball technique all you want but in the end it is an art, something that is only learned by doing, over and over and over. You can only learn by doing and paying close attention to what works and does not work. Then when you think you have it down, you have to improvise and change your plan because new circumstances arise. We even say, “That kid threw me a curve ball.”

11. While you feel that you are performing alone out there, ultimately it is a team sport and requires deep collegial engagement. Often teachers work behind closed doors, alone. But the colleagues are important to hold you up, back you up, and make that awesome diving catch.

12. Baseball is a long story, about a whole season, with smaller stories inside of it. Each game is an epic story, and there are smaller stories inside of that, the innings, and smaller stories inside of that, each at-bat. The layering on of incredibly complex encounters, of a thousand decisions and choices, is what makes the teaching life so rich and complex.

One way baseball is not like teaching: The salary.

Never Trust a Whisperer

Never trust anyone who claims they’re a “whisperer.” A child whisperer, a dog whisperer or a horse whisperer. It implies that there is one universal way to raise kids and train your dog. If they really knew *THE* way to “raise cooperative and respectful children,” then why would they whisper it? Shouldn’t they yell it from the rooftops?

This idea of a universal experience or a single truth is dangerous. It’s dangerous to parents and to kids. I remember going away to college and feeling like my first year away from home in Israel HAD to be amazing and life-changing. It just had to. Everyone loved their year in Israel. Everyone. It created this enormous pressure to make sure every experience was dripping with awesomeness. It made it seem inauthentic at times. There were days that I just wanted to go home. There were days that I slept through and were totally not awesome. And there were days that really were kick-a** good. So, the experience of that year and then of college afterwards was highly variable. Some days were good and would have made a great photo-op and some days sucked so bad that the idea of getting dressed and walking to class was too much to bear. Most of the days were somewhere in the middle.

I think the kindest thing we can do for our kids is to tell them that the experience they’re about to embark on — whether it be summer camp, school, college, a new relationship — may be great, may be mediocre or may suck hard. And all of those experiences will be right for them, at that time. It will teach them what they like and what absolutely doesn’t work for them. Honor their experience. Even if you had the best years of your life in summer camp, your kid may hate it. Honor that. You may find religion moving and life-affirming and your child doesn’t. Honor that. College may have been the greatest years of your life but you child may have no interest in going. As hard as that is to honor, do it.

When I see books by whisperers, I get highly suspicious. Maybe they whisper truths. Maybe they have great ideas that would work for some people in certain circumstances. But they need to keep whispering, because not everyone wants to hear them.

If I wrote a childrearing book (with a big fat disclaimer that I have no idea what I’m doing on a good day) it would be called “The Child Screamer.” I would go on a book tour and just yell at kids and parents. That seems like a universally great idea.

Simplicity: The Next Big Thing

I just completed a three month world tour meeting with business and Human Resources leaders, giving speeches and talking with HR and business leaders about Deloitte’s Global Human Capital Trends research. The meetings and feedback have been amazing, but over and over one big topic keeps coming up: the need to make work, business, and life more “simple.”

These were mostly large global organizations. Most are dealing with business growth and want to bring together their teams to be more aligned, move faster, become more innovative. They have gone through acquisitions and they have many remote locations and brands.

Business and Work Life is Complicated

Their challenge? Work, life, and their own infrastructure has become far too complicated. More than 70% of the companies we surveyed, for example, believe their performance management process is out of date. In fact only 4% think it’s worth the time people put in.

More than 2/3 of all the companies we surveyed (and all the ones I talked with) tell me that they believe their employees are “overwhelmed.” Do they know how to simplify the work environment and make things more efficient? In most cases, no. Following Arianna’s book Thrive, these companies are looking at new programs like “Mindfulness” and Yoga to try to bandaid the problem. But these programs are only a start.

How Do We Simplify Work and Life?

As most companies tell me, we have inadvertently become too enamored with technology, mobile phones, social networks, photos, video sharing tools, and all the various competency models, frameworks, process diagrams, and workflows we design in Human Resources. Companies design “processes” and “programs” by committee, and what usually comes out is a complex and time consuming way to do business. (Filling out expense accounts is often one of these.)

When we look at email communications, it’s usually too much and too often. One company I talked with told me they tried to ask managers not to send emails on weekends, but all they did was store them up and then send out dozens every Monday morning.

Another company told us that most of their meetings start late and tend to go over – wasting time and frustrating people in the office. And people continue to bring their phones and computers to meetings, making them less productive than ever.

How do we help manage our lives? How can businesses make our work life better?

Just Do Less

In most cases the answer is to do much much less.

One major manufacturer I met with is in the middle of a huge product transition from a legacy technology base to a new, electric technology. So they are building a whole new curriculum for their engineering and manufacturing teams focused on hundreds of detailed competencies.

They interviewed the senior engineers and manufacturers, identified all the competencies, and are now trying to figure out how to assess and develop people toward these competencies. The result is a dauntingly complicated project – one which they believe may take several years to complete.
Is this the right answer? It may well be … but I advised them to think more holistically, think about the day to day life of the engineers in the company, and look at ways they can empower their managers to train and facilitate advanced learning.

Simplicity: Not Simplistic

It turns out the mantra of “simplicity” applies everywhere. Let me give you some examples:

  • Do you need a nine step performance appraisal process? Of course not. Today’s modern solution involves only two or three steps: periodic checkins and end-of-year review and development planning. Take other steps and move them into another process at another time (ie. comp, HIPO assessment, leadership assessment, etc).

  • Do we need a massive annual engagement survey which takes 3 months and hundreds of thousands of dollars to complete? Probably not – what we need is a short, agile, periodic process to collect feedback at all levels online (and a whole barrage of vendors are building these new tools).

  • Do we need a course catalogue with 7,000 courses? Probably not – most companies tell us there are only 5% of the courses that matter and the rest are there “just in case.” That wastes people’s time and makes them feel even more “overwhelmed.”

  • Do we need HR software with hundreds of features and cascading menus? Probably not – we need simple “apps” that do one thing only (that’s the new trend) which are easy to use on mobile devices. Even modern tools like Workday and Salesforce have become very complex and feature laden.

  • Do we need 12 leadership competencies or can we strip it down to four or five? Do we need 10 company wide initiatives or can we boil it down to three?

  • Do we need 15 levels of management in the company or can we strip it down to 5 or 6?

Simplicity Does Not Mean Easy: It’s Hard

I”m not saying that our HR and internal corporate programs should be simplistic – in fact they have to be very profound and well designed. But we have to spend much more time figuring out what we “dont need” and focus on the few things we “do need.”

The best way to make things simple is to ask three simple questions: 1. What is the business problem or goal we’re trying to achieve? (ie. increase sales productivity). 2. What are the top 2-3 talent challenges holding us back (this is the hard work)? 3. What simple new process, tool, technology, steps can we add that will fix (2) and contribute to (1).

A very advanced healthcare company who is one of the world’s leaders in talent analytics told me earlier this year that they use analytics to focus on only one problem at a time. Their consultants go into the healthcare facilities and look for one single problem to work on. It may be nurse turnover, too much overtime, or maybe its poor patient ratings. They then spend 3-4 months studying that one problem – and they come back with no more than 2-3 recommendations for improvement. They do not develop a massive program with dozens of steps, pert charts, and long drawn out meetings. Why? Because they know that in their environment line managers will only have time to do one or two things new…. so they spend months and months figuring what those key, “simple” but very profound changes should be.

So my advice to you, and to all of us in HR and leadership, is to use this economic recovery to start to think “simple” again. We don’t need complex solutions – they are hard to build and they probably won’t stick. Take lots of time studying the problem, and then come up with a simple but profound solution. Hire a graphic artist to make your solution easy to understand, and just repeat it over and over until you see it stick.

Life has gotten very complicated over the last few years – now is the time to work harder than ever to make “simplicity” the mantra for HR, leadership, and management strategies in the year ahead.

Win or Go Home at World Cup and Coulter's Disingenuous Soccer Shot Skies Into Row Z

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The knockout Round kicked off with a tasty all-South American line-up on June 28: Brazil 1-1 Chile (Brazil won in a heart-stopping PK shootout); Colombia 2-0 Uruguay (Los Cafeteros’ new superstar Rodriguez with his 4th and 5th goals is a dazzling Golden Boot contender). This was followed by a second course on June 29: Netherlands 2-1 Mexico (El Tri’s tears as Oranje Power prevailed late); Costa Rica 1-1 Greece (the 10-man Ticos also won on a PK shootout).

The USA team plays Belgium on July 1 and as infectiously positive coach Jurgen Klinsmann puts it: “Now we really get started. We have a very clear picture in front of us. You got to win no matter how. And, it’s a good feeling, now we focus on one specific opponent to beat at a time.” Go USA!

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Captain America, Clint Dempsey walks off a broken nose – Getty Images

Now for Ann Coulter’s diatribe on soccer. I don’t read her, she’s a little shrill by half, and her ultra-bright smile is a little too dazzling. But her “shot” got the goat of many soccer-loving fans, including many whose great-grandfathers were born here. Maybe that’s what she wanted, choose an outrageous stance and throw it out there. Or, does Ms. Coulter do ironic? Or is she really just an “insult comedian” in disguise?

Actually with the joy and ‘jogo bonito’ of World Cup 2014 playing out before our eyes, Coulter’s post reads like it was written in the Jurassic Age, before the 1994 World Cup that was held in the USA and attracted record attendances. Back then, critics were lambasting the USA, predicting the organizing committee would blow it, but the opposite happened. MLS, a new domestic league, kicked off in 1995 and is still expanding. The USA Women’s soccer team won the 1999 World Cup right here in America. And, seven of the USA men’s starting 11 in last Thursday’s game against Germany compete in the MLS.

Let’s address some of Coulter’s naughty points. Rolfe Jones, whose great-grandfather was born here in the USA, is a super fan of football, and the co-founder of the LA Spurs supporters club. He suggests “this lady is smoking some wacky tobaccy” explaining:

Soccer’s history in the USA is well established and the Lamar Hunt trophy is one of the world’s oldest knockout tournament trophies. Ties in games are not necessarily bad games. Soccer’s dominant theme is that it is difficult to score and the whole game is about anticipation of when and how a goal will be scored. I bet Ms. Coulter doesn’t know there are more registered soccer players in the USA than in any other country. Perhaps Americans find the sport exciting after all and not just to watch. David Beckham’s input into the American MLS game was pivotal in so many ways, including consistent and growing attendance figures, and MLS’ continued expansion, witness Beckham’s new Miami franchise. Overall, Coulter’s claim that the appreciation of the ‘beautiful game’ is akin to ‘moral decay’ is unfathomable on so many levels. Maybe she could take some pride in the USA national team that now holds its own on the world scene. Haha, maybe Ms. Coulter is aiming for a career in comedy!

Mark Gabel, a San Francisco employment law attorney who’s a passionate member of the local SF Spurs supporters club, adds:

Coulter suggests that soccer is somehow wimpy because there’s not enough risk of injury. Setting aside the question of whether this is a relevant means of judging a sport (answer: no), soccer players are some of the toughest athletes around. USA team captain Clint Dempsey had his nose broken in the USA’s first game but stayed in the game, leading his team to victory. More generally, about half of everything that happens on the field, including sliding tackles, muscling opponents off the ball, or heading the ball or a clash of heads, hurts like hell. And, they only wear shin guards. Additionally, midfielders run an average of over seven miles a game!

Wimpy? You cannot be serious! As for viewership, Coulter cites the Super Bowl having “111.5 million viewers” — fair enough. Except, a global TV audience of more than 700 million is expected to watch the World Cup 2014 final. And, even UEFA’s Champions League soccer final now regularly surpasses Super Bowl ratings worldwide for most-watched annual sports event! Coulter also mischievously or ignorantly suggests soccer is not “catching on (with) African-Americans” — over a third of the USA squad have African-American heritage. And lastly, she suggests, “No American whose great-grandfather was born here is watching soccer” — is Coulter somehow dumping on immigration and decrying the fact that America’s white population will lose its majority by 2043? Or, is she just pulling our leg, again?

As Shakespeare wrote in Hamlet, “The lady doth protest too much, methinks…”

Follow Ashley Jude Collie’s World Cup coverage at MadeMan.

Olivia Palermo Is Married, And Her Dress Is A Must-See!

By Mary Gillen for Bridal Guide

Fashionista and former reality star, Olivia Palermo, wed her longtime beau Johannes Huebl in an intimate ceremony in Bedford, New York.

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Credit Johannes Huebl

Palermo, 28, and her German model fiancé really wanted to keep their special day very private. The low-key nuptials took place in a quiet park setting surrounded by a handful of family members and friends. “Bedford is such an amazing and romantic countryside,” Palermo posted on her website.

But don’t let the laid-back vibe of the wedding fool you — Palermo looked as polished as ever in a three-piece outfit designed by Carolina Herrera. The shabby-chic bridal ensemble consisted of a cream-colored cashmere sweater accented with ostrich feathers, white shorts and a full tulle skirt with floral detail and a high slit. Palermo finished off her wedding-day look with “something blue” Manolo Blahnik pumps.

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Credit Johannes Huebl

Her hair and makeup were also effortlessly beautiful. “I wanted the makeup to be light and fresh and more focused about the lashes while keeping the eyes clean. My hair was in an uncontrived Pony Tail, one of my favorite personal looks,” Palermo said. The handsome groom perfectly complemented his bride in a white Marc Anthony Hamburg suit with a navy Charvet tie and Etro pocket square.

Sources say that this won’t be the last we hear from the newlyweds. According to E! News, they are planning a larger, more extravagant celebration that will take place next year. Lucky for us, it sounds like there’s plenty more swoon-worthy fashion to come from this stylish duo.

Congratulations to the happy couple!

— Mary Gillen

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