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By Kim Fusaro for Glamour
Welcome to your wedding day! With the stress of planning behind you, you might think the big day will be easy-breezy, and it should be — as long as you can navigate these six potential stress bombs.
The “It’s-All-About-Me” Mom or Mother-In-Law
Weddings come with a host of heavy emotions, especially when your son or daughter is the star of the show. Some moms might be adept at handling stress, while others might teeter closer to meltdown territory. If you know your mom or future MIL might get a little testy, plan to keep your distance. (If you’ll be getting your hair and makeup done at 10am, schedule her appointment for noon.) Hang a sign that reads: “Stress-Free Zone: Bride and Bridesmaids Only Beyond This Point” on your hotel suite. If a manic mama busts in anyway, appoint a bridesmaid to run interference, steering her gently toward the door before she asks if she can quickly rearrange some tables on your seating chart.
The Badly Coiffed Bridesmaid
On a similar note, your closest friends might start acting a little funny on your wedding day too. I’ve seen several bridesmaids tear out their up-dos in disgust or take a wipe to a fresh face of makeup that’s “All wrong! Just ALL WRONG!” If your friends tend to be picky about their hair and makeup (and even if they don’t), leave plenty of room in the day’s schedule for stylist do-overs. It might be worth it to book an extra appointment at the tail end of your session, so you have pros to attend to any ‘maids who are feeling less than perfect.
The “Wedding Hotline” Callers
I’m always amazed by how often a bride’s cell phone rings on her wedding day. Some calls are from well-wishers (“Don’t forget to stop and take it all in!”) and others are from guests who want to update you on their schedule (“We just got to the hotel!” or “I think the GPS is on the fritz. Where, exactly, is the wedding?”) Rather than field all the calls yourself, put your phone on vibrate and turn it over to your maid of honor, who can gently let people know that you’re unavailable.
The Lost (or Just Late) Wedding Vendor
A week before your wedding, email a reminder to your vendors with the date, time, and location where they’re expected. If anyone’s responsible for “extras” (your florist said she’d bring an extra-tall ladder or your caterer volunteered a mic stand), remind them then. Type up a quick list with two contact numbers for each vendor ahead of time and you won’t have to dig through your wedding binder to track down your cake maker. Give the list to your day-of coordinator or a cool-headed family member — your super-chill aunt, for example — and ask her to touch base with any vendors who are running behind schedule.
The AWOL Guests and the Unexpected Plus-Ones
No matter how carefully you tallied your RSVPs, your head count will fluctuate until the very last minute, with some guests getting sick and others showing up with a surprise date. Assuming your seating plan stays mostly intact–there’s not one table that’s suddenly empty — inhale, exhale, and let your caterer know to adjust the number of chicken breasts accordingly. Sure, it’s not ideal that everyone at table 6 has to scootch over to make room for your college roommate’s new fling, but at the end of the day, a couple of extra bodies (or a few missing ones) aren’t worth stressing over.
The Long-Lost Relatives
The best thing about weddings is that they bring together far-flung friends and relatives. The worst part is, some of those guests might want to spend cocktail hour (the WHOLE hour) catching up or getting to know you better. A LOT better. Be prepared for when your mother-in-law’s cousin goes into a never-ending spiel about adding your relatives to the family tree (this happened to me) by practicing a few key phrases: “I’m excited to catch up with you, but my wedding planner seems to need me right now” or “I’m sorry, I need to run to the ladies’ room, but let’s chat more at brunch tomorrow!”
Are you anticipating wedding-day stress? Or do you think your guests will keep their cool?
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By Katie Parsons for GalTime.com
One of the greatest perks of getting married is the whole “till death do us part” clause. Having someone who’s always got your back, a partner who’s there to listen, and a friend and lover who will cherish you through sickness and in health — or so you had hoped.
Unfortunately, marriage isn’t that simple, and according to a recent study from the University of Wisconsin-Madison that was published in the Journal of Psychophysiology, marriage can be one of the largest sources of social stress. When expectations are not met within the union, it can lead to depression, resentment and loneliness.
The study found that feelings of isolation can even creep into marriages where the couples spend a lot of time together. But why?
How Marriages Become Lonely
“Sometimes marriages fall into an autopilot pattern,” explains Wendy Walsh, Ph.D., relationship expert and author of The 30-Day Love Detox. “Partners no longer court each other or exchange the care that they did in the early days and they become more concerned with selfish interests.”
Other times, one partner in the marriage may be unhappy but unable to communicate that effectively, which can lead to feelings of loneliness too, she said. Spouses who are also parents face an even greater risk of feelings of isolation or abandonment, especially when one parent is playing a role (worker or caregiver) that makes him or her unhappy.
“When children arrive, sometimes couples fall into traditional gender roles or battle about gender roles for the first time,” says Dr. Walsh. “One may feel a need to work more outside the home to provide for the family, another may feel a need to nurture more. This is definitely a time when the battle lines can be drawn. Children put a lot of stress onto a marriage.”
Tips to Address Feelings of Isolation In Your Marriage
For whatever reason you’re experiencing loneliness in your marriage, Dr. Walsh offers these 3 tips to help you start repairing your relationship.
1. Find the source.
Instead of automatically blaming the marriage or bottling up any negative feelings, take some time to figure out why you feel the way you do. Perhaps the real reason for the feelings of isolation stem from something internal that needs to be addressed.
Ask yourself whether it’s about something that’s actually happening in the marriage, recommends Dr. Walsh. “Are you being abandoned or are you perceiving that you’re being abandoned?”
2. Avoid blaming your partner (or yourself).
Wallowing in your own sadness or allowing it to morph into anger won’t solve anything — and it could actually make you feel worse. If your spouse is acting in a way that bothers you, confront him or her with a positive tone and try to express that. Blaming a spouse for working too much, or not paying enough attention to you, or doing anything else that you perceive as “wrong” will only cause him or her to be walled off from you. Approach issues in a constructive, open way.
“It’s never anyone’s fault,” says Dr. Walsh. “It’s better to ask someone to help you process your feelings than to blame them for your feelings.”
3. Don’t rely on your spouse for everything — spread your wings.
If you expect your spouse to fill all the roles of best friend, emotional confident, lover, domestic partner, co-parent and your primary intellectual stimulant, you might always feel a little disappointed. Instead of relying on your spouse to fulfill all these needs to the fullest, divide those tasks among a few platonic friends. “This is a way to take some of the pressure off of the marriage and improve self-confidence too,” says Dr. Walsh.
If you can start by identifying why you’re experiencing loneliness, you can move forward to the actions needed to feel better about yourself and your marriage.
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Katie Parsons is a journalist and editor who lives on the East Coast of Florida. She contributes Health & Wellness and Love & Relationships features regularly to Galtime.com and KnowMore.tv.
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“Oh crap, that song is soooo tired,” groaned one of the towel boys at the gym as the music changed on the sound system. “I mean, like, ewwwwww….that must be two years old already!” As I watched his little pity party, I couldn’t help but wonder: Where does that put the music of Beethoven, Bach, or Mozart on the list of the greatest musical hits of all time?
Some people fear the past, others have a peculiar talent for cherishing the passage of time. As Ko-Ko sings to Katisha in Gilbert & Sullivan’s 1885 comic opera, The Mikado:
“There is beauty in extreme old age.
Do you fancy you are elderly enough?
Information I’m requesting on a subject interesting
Is a maiden all the better when she’s tough?Are you old enough to marry, do you think?
Won’t you wait until you’re 80 in the shade?
There’s a fascination frantic in a ruin that’s romantic
Do you think you are sufficiently decayed?”
Politicians, warriors, and self-important fools frequently fail to learn anything from the past. But for creative types, the past offers a wondrous portal which invites them to explore science and history (as well as the history of comparative religion, costume design, distant cultures, and lots more).
Don’t believe me? Let’s take paleontology as an example. Lots of kids are introduced to dinosaurs when they are young. Their parents will often buy them plastic replicas of the giant lizards or model kits which allow them to build a dinosaur skeleton. Some feel that Barney the Dinosaur is their own special friend.
Thanks to advanced CGI animation, many families have learned tremendous amounts about prehistoric monsters from movies like Jurassic Park (1993) and television specials like Walking With Dinosaurs (1999). Visits to natural history museums allow children to see fossils of bizarre creatures like the Permian era’s Dimetrodon and the Cretaceous period’s Pachycephalosaurus (up to and including the fierce and fiercely popular Tyrannosaurus Rex). Touring stadium shows even offer state-of-the-art audio-animatronic dinosaurs as a form of family friendly entertainment.
But how did dinosaurs become such a popular form of entertainment?
Fast forward to 1925, when a silent film adaptation of The Lost World was released. Although the following clip contains the entire 90-minute film, if you start at the 45, 64, and 69-minute marks you’ll see some spectacular footage of early dinosaur models being put to work in cinema.
There can be no doubt that these artistic adventures were labors of love. New plays are often developed because a writer is so in love with a particular subject matter, style, or concept that his all-consuming nostalgia for a particular chapter in history spurs him to create his own tribute to something he dearly loves. Two recent Bay area productions practically glowed with that kind of nostalgia and adoration for history, style, and craft.
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Many would argue that Richard Wagner’s 19-hour tetralogy, Der Ring des Nibelungen, is the greatest piece of performance art to be created during the 19th century. Not only does the composer’s use of leitmotifs help to anchor and further the story, it adds an extra dimension to the Norse sagas which inspired this massive undertaking.
If one were looking for a narrative piece about social injustice and political revolution, one might point to Victor Hugo’s 1862 historical novel, Les Misérables, which received a new lease on life in September 1980 with the Paris premiere of an adaptation for the musical stage (with book and music by Alain Boublil and Claude-Michel Schonberg). But what if you were looking for something smaller and less operatic than Wagner’s Ring cycle but more intellectual and less showy than Les Miz?
Poster art for Tom Stoppard’s trilogy, The Coast of Utopia
You’d find yourself exploring Tom Stoppard’s 2002 trilogy, The Coast of Utopia (which consists of Voyage, Shipwreck, and Salvage). Over the past three seasons, the Shotgun Players has been building toward this spring’s chance to present marathon days in which audiences could be transfixed by the entire trilogy. As Patrick Dooley (the company’s artistic director who staged the trilogy) remarked in his program note:
“For the past three years, I’ve had the pleasure of absorbing the agony and ecstasy of the nearly seven-hour drama appearing before you. Over this time, the depth and breadth of this piece has continued to give me great consolation as I have navigated the pitching flotsam and jetsam of my own life. Like any great work, it reveals itself anew with each conversation, each reading, each rehearsal. The complexity of language and imagery is the closest to Shakespeare I’ve ever experienced and yet its ultimate message (as I see it today) is almost childlike in its simplicity: Do your best, while hurting the least. The genius of evolution (both political and personal) is only possible with the gifts of hardship and adversity. Yes, we continue to see certain tragedies circle back around, but they are usually just echoes of the past. The wheels of progress may turn slow, but they are sure.”
The Shotgun Players’ cast of Salvage (Photo by: Pak Han)
With its large cast, historic narrative, and epic sweep, The Coast of Utopia is much more about philosophy and personal relationships than about pomp and pageantry. The challenge for the Shotgun Players team was to find a way to produce this massive work with a tiny budget on a postage stamp-sized stage while still managing to “bring the magic.”
Kenny Toll as the Nihilist in Salvage (Photo by: Pak Han)
Much of this was accomplished by a creative team whose intense dedication and vivid imaginations had been focused with laser-like clarity on their singular artistic vision. Thanks to the production’s immensely talented set designer Nina Ball, costume designer Heidi Hanson, and director Patrick Dooley, I was pretty much gobsmacked by how superbly the mid-19th century was evoked, how meticulously scene changes were effected, how seductively the audience was introduced to the politics, neuroses, and physical ailments of certain characters — and how Stoppard’s drama unfolded within the confines of the tiny Ashby Stage with a heartbreaking sense of historical sweep and dramatic momentum.
Megan Trout (Natasha Tuchkov) and Patrick Kelly Jones
(Alexander Herzen) in Salvage (Photo by: Pak Han)
This doesn’t happen easily in most theatre companies (whatever their size), which is why the scope of Shotgun’s achievement should not be taken for granted. Staging Stoppard’s trilogy is a monumental undertaking (each installment by Shotgun’s talented ensemble has been given the utmost love and attention). The production of Salvage was anchored by the remarkably versatile Patrick Kelly Jones as Alexander Herzen with an impassioned performance by Megan Trout (doing some of her finest work in recent years) as Natasha Tuchkov.
Strong support came from John Mercer (Worcell), Sam Misner (Nicholay Ogarev), Richard Reinholdt (Ivan Turgenev), Dan Saski (Karl Marx), and Caitlyn Louchard (Malwida). Sachi Granich (Tata), Daniel Petzold (Nikolay Chernyshevsky), Joseph Salazar (Mikhail Bakunin), Kenny Toll (Nihilist) and Trish Mulholland (Mrs. Blainey) contributed finely-etched cameos in smaller roles.
Megan Trout (Natasha), Sam Misner (Nicholay Ogarev) and
Patrick Kelly Jones (Alexander Herzen) in Salvage
(Photo by: Pak Han)
This production is a powerful example of how good live theatre can be when done to perfection. Kudos to Dooley and his devoted community of talented artists.
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In 1966, a small and extremely savvy musical with music by Jim Wise (and book and lyrics by Robin Miller and George Haimsohn) started to attract attention while being performed at off-off-Broadway’s tiny Caffe Cino. By 1968, when Dames at Sea moved to the Bouwerie Lane Theatre (I saw it in 1969 after it had moved to the Theatre de Lys), the show had made a star out of a talented young actress named Bernadette Peters.
In addition to its adorable ingenue, what Dames at Sea had going for it was a solid grasp on all the twists, turns, and clichés of the Busby Berkeley-Ruby Keeler genre of movie musicals from the 1930s. In 1971, a made-for-television version of the show starred Ann-Margret, Ann Miller, Anne Meara, Fred Gwynne, Dick Shawn, and Harvey Evans.
Over the past four decades, Dames at Sea has enjoyed a long life in regional and community theatres I mention this because a delightful new musical that spoofs the same genre recently received its world premiere from San Francisco’s 42nd Street Moon. I can only hope that Painting the Clouds With Sunshine is every bit as successful as Dames at Sea.
Justin Gillman as Jake in Painting The Clouds With Sunshine
(Photo by: David Allen)
Both shows lovingly send up the unnaturally optimistic, corny, and romantic movie musicals of the 1930s which aimed to distract Americans from the grim realities of the Great Depression. Created by 42nd Street Moon’s co-founder, Greg MacKellan, and Mark Kaufmann (who directed the production), Painting the Clouds With Sunshine is a musical that obviously has “legs.” Requiring only a unit set and a cast of eight performers, I hope it brings its creators a steady stream of royalty payments for years to come. MacKellan explains the inspiration for Painting the Clouds With Sunshine as follows:
“This show had its genesis with Sing Before Breakfast: Songs from the Great Talking Picture Musicals, a CD I produced in 1990. Mark Kaufmann, my associate producer, and I had previously brought out two CDs of rare theatre songs. We were looking for a theme for a third album, and it was San Francisco’s Bob Grimes who supplied it. Bob, who was a source and an inspiration for singers worldwide, had collected sheet music since he was a teenager in the 1930s. His particular passion was the movie musicals of his youth.
Musical films of the 1930s — the ‘talking picture’ era — existed in a world unto themselves: sometimes kooky, sometimes sophisticated, sometimes bizarre, and almost always persistently upbeat. Once you entered this world, the harsh realities of the Depression were mocked (or more often, simply forgotten) by the happy-go-lucky denizens of the talkies. The songs from these films also had a sound all their own, quite apart from the sound of popular and even theatre music of the day. They both reflected and deflected the Depression — but if Depression themes were explored directly, it was usually at a remove, with the number being presented as a song from a show being produced in the movie.”
Iris Langston (Allison F. Rich) and Russell James
(Ryan Drummond) in Painting The Clouds With Sunshine
(Photo by: David Allen)
“Both Mark and I knew the two great musicals that more or less bracketed the era: 42nd Street and The Wizard of Oz. Through Bob, though, we were introduced to oddities like Moonlight and Pretzels, Love in the Rough, Sitting Pretty, Murder at the Vanities, and songs by Hollywood tunesmiths like Harry Revel and Mack Gordon, Richard Whiting, Ralph Rainger, Harry Warren, Al Dubin, Herman Hupfeld, Johnny Mercer, and Sam Coslow. Many of the films were pre-code, which meant some of the songs (like ‘Breakfast Table Love’) were rather risqué — and all the more because they were.”
George (Galen Murphy-Hoffman) and Alice (Kari Yancy) in
Painting The Clouds With Sunshine (Photo by: David Allen)
Painting the Clouds With Sunshine is populated with easily recognizable stereotypes from popular 1930s movie musicals:
Jake (Justin Gillman), Gil (John-Elliott Kirk), Rocco (Ryan Drummond),
and Willa (Cami Thompson) in Painting The Clouds With Sunshine
(Photo by: David Allen)
The show’s immensely appealing score includes some old standards (“You Oughta Be in Pictures,” “Jeepers Creepers,” “Marahuana”) as well as some enticing lost numbers like “Honolulu,” “Breakfast Table Love,” “Gather Lip Rouge While You May,” and “Are You Making Any Money?”
The bottom line is that Painting the Clouds With Sunshine has been meticulously crafted by a doting creative team that knows this genre upside down and inside out. The musical preparation by Dave Dobrusky was rock solid. With the help of Hector Zavala’s trim, Art Deco inspired unit set, Felicia Lilienthal’s stylish costumes, and Staci Arriaga’s choreography, the show was a total delight. Although they may never become as famous as Kaufman and Hart, it looks like Kaufmann and MacKellan have a surefire hit on their hands!
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