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Have You Ever Been Betrayed?

Have you ever felt betrayed? When I hear someone say, “I was betrayed,” I immediately think that person was stabbed in the back or lied to by someone they trusted. As I flash on my own past, I am reminded of my old college boyfriend who went out on me. That betrayal cut like a knife. Other memories surface, too, of old hurts by friends, a parent, a sibling or a spouse. Even in my past career in television, I felt betrayed at times.

As I’ve traveled this spiritual journey I’m on, I have a new sense of what real betrayal is and when it hurts most.

The deepest betrayal happens when you betray yourself. It’s not what someone else does to you. Betrayal happens with how you treat yourself. When you don’t stand up for you and what you deserve, you betray YOU!

Take the example of my old college boyfriend going out with other girls behind my back. My instincts told me that this was going on long before I found out. But did I listen to my gut? No. I made excuses for him and stayed with him because I didn’t want to lose his love.

By putting up with my old boyfriend’s crap, I betrayed myself. I didn’t realize this, however, way back then. At that time, when I finally discovered that my gut had been right all along, was I mad at myself? Nope. I went wacko for a bit and tried to beat up my boyfriend. (Remember, this was back in college!) I was furious with him! And this was not a one-time scenario. We broke up several times and got back together, only to experience the pain over and over again. I continually betrayed myself by staying in that abusive relationship.

I didn’t realize in college that I was betraying myself. All I knew was that I felt angry and hurt by my boyfriend. But my anger was really with myself. That’s because I ALLOWED this relationship to go on way too long. Why did I do this? Because I had a subconscious false belief that told me I had to give up myself to be loved.

I’m sure you’ve probably experienced or witnessed similar scenarios like mine. And you probably can see what I mean with how I betrayed myself. But have you ever asked how you’re betraying yourself?

If you’re feeling resentment, anger, or blame towards someone, the chances are you’re betraying yourself. Your negative feelings are red flags showing you how you’re letting yourself down.

Are you jealous of a coworker? Your jealousy is a sure sign that something is awry in your subconscious mind. You may think you’re doing everything right and working hard, but there is something blocking you from receiving whatever it is that you long for. Is it because you have a false belief that says, “Everyone else can have success, but I can’t?” Or maybe you feel, “I’m not good enough,” or “I have to work myself into the ground before I receive life’s rewards.” These are just a few examples of what may be limiting you and stoking the fires of jealousy.

Here’s another thought. Are you jealous because your coworker seems happy and you’re not? Is your real issue that you hate what you’re doing and feel stuck but are too afraid to follow your heart and do something else? Are you betraying yourself by making yourself suffer instead of leaving and finding a job you love?

Whatever you’re telling yourself and whatever makes you feel jealous is not the truth and is a self-betrayal. It’s time to go within and release the subconscious belief that creates your pain and suffering. No one is stopping you from having successes. It’s all up to you and how you treat yourself!

Are you struggling in your relationship with your significant other? Why? Do you feel as if you’re not being heard or valued? Do you feel as if you do more of the giving, but deep down are craving to be nurtured and supported? Do you feel as if your partner is betraying you by not loving you the way you want to be loved?

I see a lot of women suffer in their relationships because they need nurturing and support but tend to give rather than receive. When you don’t ask for what you need, you are betraying yourself. If you don’t take a stand for you, who will? It has to start with you! And here’s an interesting thought: When you betray yourself this way, you’re actually betraying your partner, too! That’s because you aren’t being fully authentic and loving to your relationship. For a relationship to thrive, you must be real and communicate your feelings.

I’m guessing at this point there will be some women who want to scream at me and say, “I ask and ask until I’m blue in the face and my partner STILL doesn’t hear me!” I get it, ladies! However, what I know for sure is that if you are not being loved and nurtured the way you crave, it’s because you are not taking a stand for this in your life.

Taking a stand may be as simple as speaking your needs or sharing your heart. It may mean taking action with something you want, rather than waiting on someone else to tell you it’s okay. Or, it may be a more drastic measure like walking away from a situation. And sometimes it’s just an inner knowingness that says, “No more!” That’s the coolest shift. When you get so clear with what you deserve and feel it at your core, your whole world transforms! It’s as if everything you’ve wanted falls into place because you are finally saying YES to yourself!

I want to invite you to take a close look at how you betray yourself. Go within and let go of the false beliefs that drive you to treat yourself this way. You deserve so much better! Ask yourself, “In what way can I stand up for myself?” By doing this, you will release your pain.

We think everyone else is to blame for our pain when, in truth, it is us who let ourselves down.

If you’re ready to stop letting yourself down, I invite you to shout it out to the world by sharing your story with us on my website: http://terribritt.com/put-god-first/ or Facebook page. By giving yourself a voice here and saying, ” NO MORE!” you are allowing us to send you love and support!

Need help? In the U.S., call 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) for the National Domestic Violence Hotline.

Opening Doors: Mondale, Ferraro and the Legacy of July 12

Thirty years ago on July 12 Walter Mondale did what had never been done before — he put someone other than a white male on a major party presidential ticket. The historic selection of Representative Geraldine Ferraro on that day culminated a process whereby Mondale transparently considered able members of groups historically excluded from leadership roles. In so doing, Mondale took an important step towards opening up leadership positions to qualified Americans regardless of gender, race, religion, or ethnicity.

Prior to 1984, only whites and, with one exception (Anne Armstrong, 1976), males had been seriously considered for the vice presidency. In constructing his vice-presidential search, Mondale considered conventional choices, but he also included a number of able women, black, Hispanic, and Jewish office-holders — Ferraro, San Francisco Mayor Diane Feinstein, Kentucky Governor Martha Collins, Los Angeles Mayor Tom Bradley, Pittsburgh Mayor Wilson Goode, and San Antonio Mayor Henry Cisneros. Whereas Gerald Ford’s consideration of Armstrong had been largely invisible, Mondale conducted publicized meetings with most under consideration and with all of those from traditionally excluded groups.

Many criticized Mondale’s approach. Ferraro and most of the other minorities he considered did not come from traditional vice-presidential feeder positions — senator, governor, high executive branch official — and some thought the public process made Mondale appear to be pandering to various Democratic interest groups.

Yet there was value in the process. It made a statement that it was time, actually long past time, America opened leadership positions to qualified people other than white males. Mondale did not have the luxury of finding such candidates in traditional feeder positions. The newly elected Collins was the only Democratic woman governor, there were no Democratic women or black senators, and no women or black former Cabinet members who were plausible vice-presidential picks. Mondale recognized that applying standard criteria to groups unfairly excluded from service would perpetuate the pattern of exclusion.

And he recognized that those he considered were impressive. Feinstein currently is in her fourth term as a senator from America’s largest state, a state Bradley narrowly missed becoming governor of. Cisneros became Secretary of Housing and Urban Development. And Ferraro, who had been emerging as a leader in the party, ran a credible vice-presidential campaign.

To be sure, political considerations affected Mondale’s choice. He was facing a difficult race against President Ronald Reagan and he needed to remake the electoral landscape. Yet Mondale’s selection of Ferraro on July 12 was quite different from Senator John McCain’s choice of Governor Sarah Palin a quarter century later. Whereas Mondale had made a point of publicly considering persons from excluded groups, McCain’s short-list consisted of white males until the 11th hour when he concluded that he needed a woman running mate to have a chance to win. Only then was Palin belatedly added to his short list. Whereas Ferraro was an able and serious public official, Palin has often made Spiro Agnew seem relatively thoughtful.

And whereas McCain’s selection was dictated entirely by political expediency, Mondale acted consistently with the commitment to opening doors which was a hallmark of his public service. Choosing a woman might conceivably have reshaped the electoral map but choosing a black or Hispanic in 1984 would not have. What was significant about Mondale’s search was not just the historic choice of Ferraro but the visible consideration of candidates from a range of traditionally excluded demographic groups.

No presidential candidate followed Mondale’s example. Colin Powell might have been selected had he been willing and Al Gore broke a religion barrier when he chose Senator Joe Lieberman in 2000 but prior to 2008 less than a handful of women or racial or ethnic minority group members even made short lists, and mostly for show.

But 2008 demonstrated America is changing. Barack Obama and Hillary Clinton ran a virtually even race for the Democratic presidential nomination and Palin was the Republican vice-presidential nominee. Obama was elected and re-elected four years later.

Women, and to a lesser extent, African-Americans have begun to move into positions of leadership in political life. From 1997 to 2013, four consecutive Secretaries of State were either women, African-American, or both. Three women now serve on the Supreme Court (compared to just Justice Sandra Day O’Connor in 1984). Twenty women currently serve in the United States Senate (compared to two Republican women in 1984) and 79 in the House of Representatives (22 in 1984). There are five women governors, down from nine a few years ago, but a number that is likely to grow this year. Women have held every Cabinet position except Secretary of Treasury, Defense and Veterans Affairs. Clinton is a leading presidential candidate, and if Vice President Joe Biden wins the nomination many others will be mentioned as his running mate. Some Republican women will probably be considered for the GOP ticket.

African-Americans and Hispanics have made less progress. There is one African American governor (Deval Patrick), two senators (Cory Booker and Tim Scott), 44 members of the House of Representatives (22 in 1984) and three in the Cabinet (although an African-American has held every Cabinet position except Treasury, Defense, Interior). There are three Hispanic senators, two Hispanic governors and about 30 Hispanic members of the House.

These numbers show progress during the last 30 years in opening leadership positions to minorities but also suggest that formidable barriers remain. Recent Supreme Court decisions limiting affirmative action and voting rights will impede the march towards political equality as will efforts afoot in many states to make voting more difficult.

The effort to open doors is not simply a matter of aesthetics, as some have suggested. It rather reflects a commitment to equality and to the idea that the American dream is not simply the province of white males, that as Ferraro said, “America is a land where dreams can come true for all of us.” And it recognizes that all benefit when national leaders come from America’s full talent pool.

That was a big part of the commitment behind Mondale’s selection of Ferraro July 12, 30 years ago, and the process that preceded it. That should be a commitment going forward.

NERF N-Strike Elite Rhino-Fire Blaster is Perfect for Backyard Warfare Domination

We have our fare share of NERF wars around my house. Our little chihuahua Buttercup particularly hates them; it probably has something to do with the target sweater she wears during the battles. If you have NERF wars going on around your place and feel the need to dominate the competition, NERF has a new weapon for you.

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The massive NERF gun is called the N-Strike Elite Rhino-Fire blaster and it has dual barrels. Each of the barrels has its own ammo drum that holds 50 darts. The beast of a NERF gun can shoot darts up to 90-feet giving you the range to aim for eye and groin, as is the way of NERF warfare. Power for the automated firing mechanism comes from six D-cell batteries.

The weapon will launch this fall for about $100(USD), exclusively at Walmart.

[via Blaster Labs via Gizmodo]

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The last time we wrote about the Nordstrom Tower, it was due to become one of the tallest buildings of the development boom in NYC’s most insufferable neighborhood, Midtown East. But new leaked drawings show that its developers are actually planning the tallest residential building in the world.

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