9 Common Things That Used To Be Totally Taboo

Many of the freedoms we take for granted today weren’t enjoyed by generations before us, believe it or not. And we’re not just talking about the big things here, like legal pot or same-sex marriage. For instance, ladies, if you like wearing pants, be glad you’re in the 2000s. Or guys, be grateful that it’s totally cool for a girl to give you a call if she’s interested.

We asked our Facebook fans to chime in on the things that were taboo when they were growing up. Here are nine things that used to be totally taboo — and not so long ago. My, how times have changed.

1. Visible bra straps.
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While we can all agree that nowadays, a visible panty line is a major fashion faux pas, it was considered inappropriate for your bra straps to peek out from underneath your shirt. Why? Because perhaps it just wasn’t ladylike for any Tom, Dick, or Harry to see your alluring underthings meant for your spouse’s eyes only.

Today, it’s not a big deal to see bra straps. Nor is it odd to see women in their bras — sports bras while out jogging, or bandeau bras under low cut tops, or heck, we’ve seen plenty a Hollywood starlet get caught under the lights going bra-less.

2. Girls making the first move.

Except for the Sadie Hawkins dance, guys who were shy, and the lades who loved them were out of luck when it came to asking for a date. Rumor has it that the dance or day — which all started with a comic strip, believe it or not — was declared so that unmarried women with little or no prospects could have a shot at avoiding a life of spinsterhood. Thankfully, despite many self-help books that will tell you otherwise, there’s nothing wrong with a confident woman nowadays making the first move or voicing her interest. Yes, women even propose to men these days. And it’s only gotten easier (for both sexes) thanks to social media and online dating. More power to ya.

3. Living together or having a child outside of marriage.
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“First comes love, then comes marriage, then comes the baby in the baby carriage….” err, not so much. OK, granted this is still shunned by some communities, religions, and families, you probably won’t see many pregnant unmarried women walking around with a scarlet letter emblazoned on their clothing.

With higher divorce rates and a high cost of living, many couples nowadays are happy living together without the formality of a marriage. In fact, according to a National Health Statistics report, around three in four women have lived with a male partner by the time they’re 30. That’s up more than 10 percentage points since 1995.

4. Keeping your maiden name.

Too bad if you married someone with an unfortunate last name. Years ago you had no choice but to happily take your new husband’s name, replacing your old identity, as a token of your new role and relationship. Avoiding the name change was considered taboo — perhaps because it was seen as a slap in the face to your newly beloved or a sign of resisting your new family. A 2013 survey revealed that as many as 65 percent of women marrying in their 20s and 30s follow this tradition still.

But it’s certainly more common today for a woman to hold on to her maiden name. Some Huffington Post readers revealed a variety of reasons for not following tradition, from the difficulty of changing something that’s been your identity since you were born, to the way their maiden names sound, to the professional hassle of a change. Whatever your choice, we think love is deeper than double-barreling your moniker.

5. Asking a lady’s age.
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We still think you should never look in a woman’s purse. That’s just downright disrespectful. But age? It’s just a number and nothing to hide or be ashamed of. We know that 50 is the new 30, or 40, or whatever you’d like to call it, and you should be proud of how many years young (not old) you are. Besides, with Facebook and Google, there’s no point in lying about your age.

6. Phone calls after 9 p.m.

We sometimes wish this one was still taboo. Thanks to telemarketers and the death of landlines, it’s no longer considered a huge no-no to call someone late. If you don’t want to be bothered or have gone to bed, just turn off your ringer. Simple as that. Thank God for voicemail.

7. Girls wearing pants.
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Some of our readers recalled how they weren’t even allowed to wear pants in high school in the 1960s! Just last year a 200-year-old law preventing women in Paris from wearing trousers was finally revoked. (It had been unenforced.)

Yes, skirts and dresses are pretty, but we’re quite certain you can still be unladylike while wearing one. Good riddance.

8. Tattoos.

People still have their opinions on getting inked, whether for religious or cultural reasons or whatnot, but the stigma associated with having tatts just isn’t what it used to be.

“Only drunken Navy/Army men would get them. My husband told me that back in the day (50-70s)…. when soldiers were “on-leave” and they got drunk…. their buddies would bring them into tattoo parlors and coerce them into getting a gross tattoo. When they woke up in the morning, they couldn’t remember getting the tattoo,” recalled reader Pinsey Christensen.

“I got mine in 1981 and although it’s hidden daily, on the beach you can see it. Well, I remember a woman GRABBING her child and drawing him near as if I was a danger… lol. It’s a small unicorn on my hip,” said reader Lorna Ann.

Clearly, people’s close-mindedness towards tattoos are the only thing scary about them.

9. Being anything other than heterosexual.
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Sure, this still is and probably will be for a very long time, a hot button issue. But with several states legalizing same-sex marriage , it seems the tides are changing in terms of attitudes and open-mindedness towards freedom of sexuality. Let’s not forget, even the “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” policy was repealed in recent years.

Plus, with so many successful people and household names talking openly about their sexuality, from professional sports, to music, to Hollywood, it’s clear that even if not everyone is accepting, we’re at least open to talking about it much more so than before.

5 Money Mistakes That Can Hurt Your Retirement

As the Hippocratic Oath is often (wrongly) credited with saying, “First do no harm.” With that philosophy in mind, here are five money mistakes you may be making that could be adversely impacting your retirement years.

You insure the wrong things.
My husband is the world’s biggest warranty buyer. He recently wanted to insure a digital camera we bought our 16-year-old daughter for her upcoming Outward Bound trip. The camera was on sale at Radio Shack for $74. The insurance they wanted to sell us cost $25 for a year of coverage. Vic was nodding his head in agreement as the salesman made his pitch: She could drop it off a mountain or into a rushing stream and as long as she retrieved the camera’s busted body, the insurance would “fully” pay for it. Simple math tells us that spending $25 to insure a $74 camera is a bad investment. Throw in the retrieving the camera in order to make a claim and it’s a double duh.

But what’s more foolish is that although my husband buys extended warranties for our car tires, our small appliances, and our cell phones, he never thought to take out long-term care insurance. The price of a replacement toaster may be a hard swallow, but it will be nothing like the choke of the vise grip that a nursing home stay will subject our family to.

You are penny wise and pound foolish.
Good for you for clipping coupons and remembering to bring your own grocery bags to avoid the 10-cent charge at the market. It probably fills you with pride when the cashier congratulates you when she hands over your receipt and announces to the world “you just saved $4.35” by buying the items on sale. Truth is, you merely avoided being overcharged by $4.35, but whatever.

What you are missing is that these little nibbles don’t amount to squat in the big picture of your finances. They are time sucks that take away attention from your bigger potential money savings. The three biggest purchases of your life will likely be houses, cars, and college educations. We don’t devote nearly enough time educating ourselves about the best deals for the big three.

For example: Are you still paying a 30-year-fixed rate mortgage with a 6 percent interest rate because refinancing just seems like too much paperwork? You could be saving hundreds of dollars a month and tens of thousands of dollars over the course of your mortgage loan by just refinancing your loan.

And let’s talk about your new car. Did you finance it through the car dealer? Next time, try saving up for the car and then just paying cash.

The old rule of thumb is: Buy what appreciates; lease what depreciates. Cars depreciate as soon as you drive them off the lot.

You have a pre-nup, but skipped the post-nup.
Pre-nups are terrific for two people who get together in midlife. It’s an agreement made by a couple before they marry concerning the ownership of their respective assets, should the marriage fail. In other words, if Joe is moving into the home that Susan owned before they met, Joe would agree to make no claim on that house should the marriage not work out.

But a post-nup goes beyond that. It details how the couple’s assets and property would be split in the event of the couple divorcing, separating or upon death. So if Joe and Susan bought a house after they married, who would get it upon Joe’s death: Susan, or Joe’s kids from his previous marriage? The post-nup spells it all out, right down to the last piece of Granny’s good china.

You don’t dot your i’s or cross your t’s.
This is a cliched way of saying you let small details slide that could come back to haunt you. For example, you make the effort to sign up for life insurance benefits and then forget to update your beneficiary form. Or you draw up a will but just can’t find the time to get it notarized or filed with an attorney. Or you don’t bother checking if your doctors are still network providers when you routinely sign up for the same health plan at the office that you had last year. If they aren’t and you want to keep seeing them, be braced for much higher out-of-pocket expenses.

You delay signing up for Medicare because you’re healthy and won’t likely need it until later.

By not enrolling when you are first eligible, you could wind up paying premiums that are 10 percent higher at a time when you can least afford it.

The Napwrap Is One Travel Gadget You'll Actually Use

We’ve seen some truly bizarre travel doohickies in our day, from two-story armrests to pocket-sized humidifiers to color-changing, mood-tracking happiness blankets.

But while it’s the most simplistic design of them all, the Napwrap is going to beat every strange gadget on the market.

Why? The fabulous invention holds your arms together while you nap, preventing that whole head-bobbing cycle where prop your arm on the armrest, fall asleep, then get a jarring wake-up call when your head slips off your hand.

To use the Napwrap, loop it over your bicep then place your other arm through the loop to secure them both in place. Your arms will stay comfortably strung together, even when you fall asleep. No more annoying unfolding when you lose consciousness!

The Napwrap also doubles as a non-dorky phone holder, eye mask and earmuff. Now this is a gizmo we will actually use.

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Travel innovator SITTINGBRIDGE has raised over $20,000 for their nap-tastic invention on Kickstarter, meaning we could see a lot more Napwraps on planes and trains soon.

You can purchase your own Napwrap on Amazon for $19.99 — they come in a variety of relaxing colors like “sky” and “carrot.”

Huzzah for naps on the road!

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Five-Acre 'Pearl Of Dubai' Set To Become The World's Largest, Greenest Underwater Theme Park

Who needs to stand in lines at theme parks when you could dive deep into an underwater theme park?

Developers have announced plans to create The Pearl of Dubai, a five-acre underwater wonderland inspired by the “Pirates of the Caribbean” and “Avatar” films. When finished, it’ll look similar to the legendary lost city of Atlantis.

Visitors to the park will have free reign of the massive underwater empire. They will swim, snorkel or, best of all, scuba to its depths and mimic the adrenaline rush of discovering a forgotten kingdom.

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The Pearl of Dubai is being called “the world’s largest underwater theme park” — but land-guzzling metropolis this is not. Reef Worlds, the California-based firm responsible for the project, is keenly interested in designing sustainable underwater playgrounds that give new life to degraded reefs.

“Reef Worlds is not just an ‘underwater attraction,'” a Reef Worlds developer told The Huffington Post in an email. “It is a unique way to create a regional habitat underwater.”

The Pearl of Dubai’s completion date remains undetermined, but renderings for the park look like it’ll totally be worth a trip to the United Arab Emirates. We plan to start our preparatory scuba certification ASAP.

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EasyJet Is Literally Texting Passengers When To Take Out Their Boarding Passes

We know travelers are glued to their phones, and we know there are tons of travel apps out there, but we’ve never seen an invention that caters to passenger laziness quite like THIS.

Budget airline easyJet rolled out an updated mobile app that will send messages to passengers in the airport, telling them when to get out their boarding passes and open their passports, the Daily Mail reports.

The technology, called iBeacon, uses Bluetooth technology to determine where passengers are in line and prompts them to take action at the precise right time, right on their phones.

It’s pretty much like your airline is sending you text messages so you never have to look up from your screen.

EasyJet will pilot the system at select European airports this summer and more fully integrate it later if things go well, the airline’s commercial director told the Daily Mail. The easyJet app — available worldwide — already lets travelers track their flights in realtime and swap seats from their phones.

What’s next… the airline that Tweets for you?

20 Stunning European Cities To Visit In Your 20s

From major metropolises to charming, overlooked locales, Europe is brimming with cities everyone should visit. But where does a penny-pinching, adventure-seeking twentysomething even begin when it comes to traveling Europe?

The big players — London, Paris, Amsterdam — are great. Those should be on everyone’s bucket list. For millennials, these 20 cities offer delicious street food, hip hostels, cozy cafes and many glimpses into new cultures.

And there’s a bonus — these beautiful cities are even worth visiting if you’re not exactly in your 20s anymore.

1. Berlin, Germany
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By day, Berlin is a cultural wonderland, with an impressive roster of museums, art galleries and historic neighborhoods to explore. By night, Berlin boasts some of the best nightlife Europe has to offer — whether you want to listen to some low-key live music or rave the night away, there’s a club for every style.

2. Riga, Latvia
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Riga was named a 2014 European Capital of Culture for good reason. There’s iconic architecture, museums, the historic center (which is also a UNESCO World Heritage Site) and lots of festivities to attend.

3. Stockholm, Sweden
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Hip, exciting and undeniably beautiful, Stockholm should be high on your bucket list. Summer is the ideal time to visit, when the skies are extra blue and you can spend the day wandering the cobblestone streets of Gamla Stan. Explorers can make an excursion to some of roughly 30,000 islands that make up the skärgård archipelago.

4. Copenhagen, Denmark
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The capital of Denmark is possibily one of the most charming, friendliest cities on Earth. Hop on a bicycle and explore the historic canals and squares while admiring the city’s eye-catching architecture. Be sure to pay a visit to Tivoli Gardens, the nearby amusement park that’s more than 170 years old. And, of course, get cozy at a bar or cafe and chat up those friendly locals.

5. Budapest, Hungary
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The “hipster capital of Europe” is also possibly the most beautiful spot on the continent. The “playground of twentysomethings” is, clearly, perfect for young travelers looking for cultural enrichment and some uber-cool nightlife. Check out District VII’s offbeat shops and cafes, pop into a “ruin pub,” visit a few museums and ogle the city’s gorgeous architecture.

6. Fira, Greece
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If you’re backpacking through cities, you’ll eventually need a place to slow down, relax and admire some gorgeous scenery. The island of Santorini is that place. From soaring cliffs to the Aegean Sea’s sapphire water, there’s no shortage of beautiful landscapes. From Fira, head to Ancient Thira or hop over to Oia and take in one of their famed sunsets. You can also sample delicious Greek cuisine and sunbathe on the island’s black sand beaches.

7. Oslo, Norway
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Norway is the greatest place on Earth. So its capital, Oslo, is pretty excellent. And yes, the country is expensive, but can be done on a budget. Set on a backdrop of forested hills and the Oslo Fjord, the city has no shortage of natural beauty. The city also offers some unique museums, like the Viking Ship Museum and the Nobel Peace Centre.

8. Český Krumlov, Czech Republic
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Most young travelers are all about Prague. And don’t get us wrong, Prague is really beautiful. But Český Krumlov is the greatest place you’ve never heard about. This stunning castle city is located in the Bohemia region of the Czech Republic (about two hours from Prague) and boasts an incredible maze-like old town (a UNESCO World Heritage Site). The Vltava River runs through Český Krumlov, meaning there are lots of riverfront cafes to frequent. The river is also a popular canoeing and rafting spot if you’re feeling outdoorsy!

9. Barcelona, Spain
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Barcelona’s energetic atmosphere makes it a must-visit metropolis. Set on the Mediterranean, there’s activity for everyone here. Check out Gaudi’s famous La Sagrada Familia, hang on the beach, sample tapas, browse La Boqueria market, and party until the sun rises.

10. Kraków, Poland
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Want to go somewhere with a never-ending supply of cultural and political history? Head to Kraków. The city is a “treasure trove” of historic architecture and boasts more historic buildings and monuments than any other city in Poland. Must-sees include Wawel Castle, Kraków’s Old Town, the former Jewish quarter (Kazimierz) and Rynek Glowny main square.

11. Lisbon, Portugal
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Overlooking the Rio Tejo, Lisbon has been described as “a mirror of a thousand colors,” which basically means it’s really pretty. In addition to hosting an array of Gothic cathedrals, gorgeous monasteries and quaint little streets, Lisbon is known for being culturally rich and always exciting. Experience village life in Alfama, revel until sunrise in Bairro Alto or pay a visit to the UNESCO World Heritage Site, Belém Tower.

12. Dublin, Ireland
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If you imagine Dublin as a place with cobblestone streets and pubs flowing with beer, you’re on the right track. But there’s more to Dublin beyond booze — like a history spanning more than 1,000 years. Get a hearty dose of culture at spots like Christ Church Cathedral and the National Gallery of Ireland, or indulge your inner literary nerd and visit the National Library and the Old Library at Trinity College. Of course, you must visit the Guinness Storehouse and drink as many pints of beer during your stay as possible.

13. Lviv, Ukraine
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One of the most mysterious and enchanting cities in Eastern Europe, Lviv is known for its beautiful historic center and “deep-rooted” coffeehouse culture. Admire an array of architectural styles in Ploshcha Rynok, or check out the Lviv History Museum and the National Museum. If you’re a drinker, pay a visit to the Lvivske Museum of Beer & Brewing, the oldest brewery that’s still functioning in Ukraine.

14. Glasgow, United Kingdom
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Scotland’s largest city is hedonistic, stylish and always abuzz. Glasgow has a vibrant arts culture and a stellar live music scene, plus renowned architecture, so you’ll have your pick of creative enrichment. Of course there are also museums and galleries, restaurants and pubs, and friendly locals.

15. Florence, Italy
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Ah, Firenze! Beautiful, historic and charming, Florence will steal your heart. Art history buffs will be in heaven after trips to the Uffizi, Duomo, Galleria dell’Accademia and the city’s many churches. Other musts: a romantic stroll across the Ponte Vecchio, a day of exploring the cobblestone streets and sampling Florentine street eats, and the breathtaking view from Piazzale Michelangelo.

16. Rotterdam, Netherlands
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Yes, Amsterdam is great. And you should visit there. But Rotterdam is often overlooked, and it’s just too cool for that to be the case. Rotterdam is a multicultural port city, with an ever-changing skyline, bumping nightlife and some great museums. Head to Museumpark and check out the Boijmans Van Beuningen and the Kunsthal Rotterdam. Stroll through the Delfshaven neighborhood. And yes, there are coffee shops in Rotterdam, just like the ones in that other Dutch city.

17. Brussels, Belgium
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Reasons to go to Brussels: chocolate, waffles, beer. Oh, and some really pretty architecture, historic sites and a cozy cafe culture. Sip a latte among welcoming locals, explore Matonge (the city’s African quarter), visit the “Bozar” cultural center, and, of course, eat all of the delicious things listed above.

18. Reykjavik, Iceland
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The world’s most northerly capital is quirky, beautiful and just a little wild. In the summer, the city is in near-perpetual daytime with about 22 hours of sunshine — so there’s plenty of time to explore. And in winter, visitors can chase down the northern lights and take in the view of a lifetime. In addition to natural wonders and outdoor adventures, Reykjavik offers a vibrant arts community, a legendary nightlife scene and geothermal waters.

19. Helsinki, Finland
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If you’re an urbanite with a love of the great outdoors, then Helsinki might just be your happy place. The seaside town is known for its coastal beauty, maritime history, parks and green spaces, Art Nouveau architecture and, of course, saunas and spas. Helsinki was also named one of Europe’s hottest “start-up capitals” in 2013, so its tech-friendly vibe is perfect for millennial travelers.

20. Dubrovnik, Croatia
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It’s hard not to fall in love with Dubrovnik. The sights alone — breathtaking views of the Adriatic Sea, ancient city walls, stunning Baroque buildings — will have you dazzled. Relax on a beach, explore the historic Old City, take an island excursion and immerse yourself in the laid-back Mediterranean lifestyle.

Cops Release Possible Motive For Texas Shooting

MICHAEL GRACZYK, Associated Press

SPRING, Texas (AP) — A father who authorities say fatally shot two adults and four of his children and critically wounded his 15-year-old daughter, sank to his knees in surrender after a three-hour standoff in suburban Houston, police said.

Investigators planned to charge the man Thursday, a day after the rampage in a usually quiet middle-class subdivision in Spring, Texas, said Harris County Sheriff’s Deputy Thomas Gilliland.

Police did not release the identities of the gunman or his victims. Gilliland described the dead as two boys, ages 4 and 14; two girls, ages 7 and 9; a 39-year-old man; and a 33-year-old woman. The gunman and his wife are estranged, and she lives out of state, he said. All of the children were theirs.

Gilliland said the wounded daughter identified her father as the gunman. After a brief chase, the man held deputies at bay for three hours before he surrendered.

The teenager was able to call 911 and later warned deputies that her father planned to go to her grandparents’ home to kill them, Gilliland said.

The sheriff’s department said precinct deputy constables were called to the house in the northern Houston suburb of Spring about 6 p.m. Wednesday and found two adults and three children dead. Another child later died at a hospital.

“It appears this stems from a domestic issue with a breakup in the family from what our witness has told us,” Assistant Chief Deputy Constable Mark Herman of the Harris County Precinct 4 Constable’s Office told reporters. He did not explain further.

Authorities also did not release the identities of the victims or the suspect, nor did they say whether the adults who were killed were related to the children or their father.

Gilliland said the teenager was in “very critical condition” at Memorial Hermann Hospital in Houston late Wednesday night.

After the 15-year-old survivor told deputies that her father was headed to her grandparents’ home, they were able to pass along the warning, he said.

Authorities said the teen’s information also helped them to intercept the suspect, who led nearly two dozen deputy constables’ patrol cars on a chase that ended in a cul-de-sac shortly before 7 p.m. There, the suspect’s boxed-in vehicle remained for hours. Finally, about 10 p.m., after hours of waiting and negotiations, the man emerged from his car, raised his hands and sank to his knees as deputies arrested him.

During that time, Gilliland said authorities constantly talked for two hours “with a man armed with a pistol to his head and who had just killed six people.”

Gilliland described the man as in his 30s with a beard “and cool as a cucumber.” He said that when he and other officers first approached, the man was “just sitting in his car looking out at us.”

“This concluded the way we wanted it to,” Gilliland said after the surrender.

Said Precinct 4 Constable Ron Hickman: “He was in the car for 3½ hours. He was worn down like the rest of us. He came out of the car without resistance.”

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Associated Press writers Emily Schmall in Fort Worth and Ramit Plushnick-Masti in Houston contributed to this report.

Apple Patents Stronger Sapphire Displays And Illuminated Sapphire Controls

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