Bitcoin Is the Perfect Crime for Scheming Divorcees, But Why?

While the digital currency Bitcoin may seem like something out of a sci-fi movie, it is very much a reality and can be the perfect way for devious divorcees to hide assets in an untraceable form.

For years now, soon-to-be ex-spouses have been using every method in the book to hide their assets, from putting them in safety deposit boxes to giving them to a friend or family member. Bitcoin offers the same result, but incorporates the magic of technology, something we have all come to know and love.

Bitcoin, only recently invented in 2009, has gained massive exposure over the past few years and is accepted by everyday companies like WordPress, Reddit, PayPal and OkCupid. Now, scheming sweethearts are starting to take advantage of this phenomenon. By hiding their funds in Bitcoin, their money becomes undetectable and they can conceal their wealth in an unregulated format. It provides anonymity for investors, as banks and shareholders do not regulate the currency. This makes it nearly impossible to trace back to a certain individual.

Volatility is the name of the game! The value of Bitcoin can encounter massive spikes from day to day, which can give divorcees a run for their money (no pun intended). This can be either a risk or a benefit for investors. Within as little as one day, the value of their investment can decrease to as much as half of the original amount.

That being said, if you suspect your unscrupulous ex-spouse of hiding assets in Bitcoin and you plan to apply for asset recovery, be sure to work with your lawyer to determine when you should go after it, and be sure to use the value at settlement rather than on the day of payment.

In this digital age, people are becoming more and more inventive with their asset-concealment methods. While it’s difficult to protect yourself entirely, be aware of a possible footprint that may form after your ex-spouse converts real assets into Bitcoin. However, when the transfers are actually made is when it becomes tricky.

We recently asked a few people what the plural form of Bitcoin was, and no one had any idea. Let us know if you do!

– Co-authored by Brendan Lyle and Rachel Reda

A Layered History Of 5 Pointz Currently On View

Peeling Back Layers of Paint Offers Inspiration of a Different Kind

Typically one needs to go down underground, over a fence, through a broken window, or behind rusty chained metal doors to be an urban explorer. A flashlight is also advised. However, at the moment you can explore in broad daylight from the sidewalk the urban archaeology of a subculture as the walls of 5 Pointz reveal the layering of pigment one over the other multiple times – a rich cortex of history encased in the stacked strata of sprayed and brushed paint.

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5 Pointz. Long Island City, NY. (photo © Jaime Rojo)

Much like a palimpsest, New York is again erasing history to make room for something new. As the ever-expanding cloud of affluence steamrolls across Gotham into the outer boroughs, this urban castle of effluence still stands as a record of the graffiti history that sparked a thousand aerosol aspirations by everyday New York youth – and many international ones as well. Your closer examination of the mottled walls of this former graffiti holy place reveals a peeling façade demarcated by the layers of colors and creative expression that once raced across these walls.

Perhaps by way of skirting the emotional outpouring that was sure to accompany a public act of white blight, the property owners of 5 Pointz in Queens chose to buff this massive complex under cover of night last fall, rather than letting it become a drawn-out public affair. But now it’s just standing here, waiting for demolition.

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5 Pointz. Long Island City, NY. (photo © Jaime Rojo)

And as long as this site persists, the burly former home of artist spaces, photo/video shoots, inventive industry and an all encompassing skin that proved to be a magnetic canvas is still fixed as a perpetual reminder of its former self.

Speak to some wistful visiting passersby or check out the scrawled angry missives newly appearing and you learn that this is tantamount to an open wound for some fans, artists, organizers who make up the eclectic mix of mark-making would-be congregants. They still make the pilgrimage to Long Island City if only to look once more, stopping to consider it. Possibly they are using x-ray eyes as they imagine under the surface buff membrane wrapping this hulking mass lie the burners, throwies, tags, murals, wheat-pastes, exhortations, rants, call-outs, poetries and affinities that were once visible. Now they are all just sitting quietly just under the layer of hastily applied patchy neutral tint.

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5 Pointz. Long Island City, NY. (photo © Jaime Rojo)

Looking for remnants of what was once there, you discover the layers of paint now chipping and fanning in a thinly striped crust of paint, bending back its jagged edge; hues and shades and tenors discordant. Sugar soda orange, shamrock green, forest moss, fire engine red, lemon yellow, cerulean blue – the primary layers here must reveal something to us, like the rings of a tree as read by a dendrochronologist examining the stump; each line of color marks a moment in time, giving us news about the calm or harshness of the climate in that era.

Presently appearing as a giant hunted pachyderm fallen in the urban jungle, the relevance of 5 Pointz once hinged on the evolving collection of freshly painted works going up day after day, year after year, by well known and lesser known artists who visited from all over the world. Some even called it Mecca, for lack of a better word, and painters and fans alike felt compelled to visit it. Yet, you may consider it to be still alive.

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5 Pointz. Long Island City, NY. (photo © Jaime Rojo)

So the murals on the surface are gone but in reality they are not – they are here in front of us, just covered by layers of paint. If you want to, you may see it as evidence of the tribute to collaborative public space that 5 Pointz embodied – the affirmation of a multi-membered community united in all it’s multi-colored splendor. Here is your visual forensic report: before you is a brief sampling of the thousands of hours of sweat, labor, inspiration – and thousands of gallons of paint, vividly represented, richly textured, and unquestioned proof of the success of 5 Pointz.

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5 Pointz. Long Island City, NY. (photo © Jaime Rojo)

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5 Pointz. Long Island City, NY. (photo © Jaime Rojo)

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5 Pointz. Long Island City, NY. (photo © Jaime Rojo)

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5 Pointz. Long Island City, NY. (photo © Jaime Rojo)

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5 Pointz. Long Island City, NY. (photo © Jaime Rojo)

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5 Pointz. Long Island City, NY. (photo © Jaime Rojo)

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5 Pointz. Long Island City, NY. (photo © Jaime Rojo)

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5 Pointz. Long Island City, NY. (photo © Jaime Rojo)

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5 Pointz. Long Island City, NY. (photo © Jaime Rojo)

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5 Pointz. Long Island City, NY. (photo © Jaime Rojo)

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5 Pointz. Long Island City, NY. (photo © Jaime Rojo)

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5 Pointz. Long Island City, NY. (photo © Jaime Rojo)

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5 Pointz. Long Island City, NY. (photo © Jaime Rojo)

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5 Pointz. Long Island City, NY. (photo © Jaime Rojo)

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5 Pointz. Long Island City, NY. (photo © Jaime Rojo)

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5 Pointz. Long Island City, NY. (photo © Jaime Rojo)

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5 Pointz. Long Island City, NY. (photo © Jaime Rojo)

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Russia's 100-Ruble Banknote With Naked Apollo Image Is Pornographic, Politician Argues

A Russian politician is referencing his country’s “gay propaganda” law in hopes of overhauling the design of a banknote he’s deemed pornographic.

Roman Khudyakov, a member of parliament for the nationalist LDPR party, wants to change Russia’s 100-ruble banknote (worth less than $3), which depicts an image of a statue of Apollo that appears atop the Bolshoi Theater, Reuters originally reported. Khudyakov said he opposes the design because “you can see clearly that Apollo is naked, you can see his genitalia.”

Take a look at an image of the “pornographic” banknote along with the original statue it depicts below, then scroll down to keep reading:
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He said he “submitted a parliamentary request,” which was forwarded to the head of Russia’s central bank, in hopes that the note would be “brought into line with the law protecting children” by removing the image of Apollo, according to the report.

Interestingly, as The Moscow Times pointed out, Khudyakov’s argument could carry legal weight.

“The 100-ruble bill with a picture of Apollo is essentially a print product and can in fact be considered as ‘information of a pornographic nature,'” lawyer Pavel Ivchenkov told Izvestia, via the Times. “That is, it can be regarded as ‘information containing a graphic depiction or description of human genitalia.'”

The real Bolshoi Theater statue seen on the banknote was created by Pyotr Klodt in 1853 but was actually censored in 2011, when Apollo’s privates were covered up with a fig leaf.

Why We Benefit From Eating Humble Pie

Everyone loves to talk about their strengths. From commercials to political speeches, from celebrities to job interviewees, people are much more comfortable talking about where they excel, rather than identifying any potential weaknesses. The prevailing logic is that hiding one’s shortcomings is the best way to put your “best face forward.”

Although this may seem like a reasonable assumption, both research and case studies highlighting the benefits of humility and vulnerability have emerged in recent years. One of my favorite real-life examples comes from Domino’s Pizza.

In the mid-2000s Domino’s Pizza was really struggling. The incoming Chief Marketing Officer (Russell Weiner) inherited flat sales cycles in the midst of a struggling economy. At the heart of Domino’s’ challenge was the quality of their pizzas, as various internal taste tests had highlighted. Domino’s then took the extra step of gathering feedback from its various stakeholders, including customers and franchisees, to better inform their future directions. Using this critical feedback, they committed to turning out higher quality pizza and revamped their entire recipe from crust to toppings.

Although the internal directive to change their recipe, which had been in existence for 50 years, represented a bold step, perhaps their most striking endeavor was the level of transparency they showed regarding this critical problem. Rather than try to sweep the issue under the rug or use ‘creative marketing’ to detract attention, Domino’s took a highly unusual step of tackling it head-on.

Perhaps the most forward-thinking aspect of their ‘re-launch’ was a series of commercials, which aired in 2009 and 2010. In these ads, customers were shown voicing their disgust at the quality of the “old recipe” pizza (e.g., “the crust tastes like cardboard”). These comments were then followed by Domino’s hitting the streets with their new product to re-engage with their harshest detractors to win them back.

The company also released a short-film, which provided the history of the pizza chain as well as showing the painstaking reactions from employees while hearing and reading these complaints.

As President Patrick Doyle noted in the short film, “You can either use negative comments to get you down or you can use them to excite you and energize your process and make it a better pizza. We did the latter.”

Early returns from the campaign indicated it was an incredible success, with a 14.3 percent increase in same-store Q1 sales from 2009 to 2010, with similar gains realized in Q3 (11.2 percent improvement when compared to Q3 in 2009).

This trend has continued, with the stock price climbing almost 20 percent over the past four years. The entire transformation is not yet complete, as Doyle is committed to providing complete transparency to Domino’s customers by 2017 by allowing them to see the entire pizza-making process.

What can we learn from Domino’s?
1) Do not be afraid to completely start over — Domino’s acknowledged their problem rested in a 50-year-old approach to making pizza and set out to change it. Despite the history of the company being built on this recipe, they committed to change. When the environment speaks, even when we may not like the message, we need to listen.
2) Use the harshest criticism to inspire next-level greatness — Domino’s could have easily dismissed this feedback or decided not to reach out to these individuals once they re-launched their product. Rather than take this approach, Domino’s included these individuals as part of their campaign with the primary aim of bring these customers back into the fold.
3) Vulnerability is a painful, yet powerful experience — It is not easy listening to scathing feedback. However, being open and accepting allows us to build even stronger relationships with the people around us, even when we may feel the opposite. Showing our vulnerability and empathizing with the customer experience goes a long way to building a better brand and stakeholder relationships.

Despite our widespread desire for transparency and authenticity, it is very often perceived as a risky endeavor. Domino’s has shown that embracing this fear and being open to learning can benefit ourselves as well as the people around us. The next time you are facing tough feedback, remember the storied franchise that faced these messages head-on. Eating some humble pie and using this experience to maximize our potential opens us up to all of the possibilities that life has to offer. By engaging our detractors with an open mind and a willingness to listen, we can turn our harshest critics into our staunchest supporters.

Do Republicans Hate Latinos?

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“Republicans hate Latinos.” Civil rights icon Dolores Huerta famously uttered these words in 2006 at a Tucson High School lecture.

8 years later, we may have the final proof that, as we suspected all along, she was right.

Arizona Superintendent of Instruction John Huppenthal, a Republican, admitted to posting racist comments on liberal blogs under the monikers Falcon9 and Thucydides. There were enough of them that the Phoenix Times even wrote a top 10 list.

The Faclon9 in Huppenthal wrote things such as Mexican American Studies is the KKK. He even advocates eliminating Spanish Media. These statements are disturbing because they reveal the hidden motives at work while he helped pass and then enforce Arizona House Bill 2281 (HB2281), the legal trigger prohibiting Mexican American Studies (MAS).

So we know for certain at least one Republican hates Latinos. The question is do all Republicans hate us? Are Arizona Republicans poisoning the way the GOP across the nation deals with us, especially in Texas-which is poised to become the next Arizona or turn blue?

Let’s go down the list.

Dolores Huerta and Cesar Chavez founded the United Farm Workers Party, one of the most important civil rights groups of our time. She might be a household name if Arizona had not banned Mexican American Studies and dismantled the MAS program that invited her to speak in Tucson in 2006.

Then-Superintendent of Instruction, Republican Tom Horne, took offense to Huerta’s words.

The Tucson Weekly chronicled some of the ensuing events:

“Horne reacted by dispatching his deputy superintendent, Margaret Dugan, to explain to students why Huerta was wrong. Horne wanted students to know that Republicans do not hate Latinos. However, many students–frustrated that they were not allowed to ask Dugan questions–stood up in unison with tape across their mouths. More than 200 walked out during her speech.”

Maybe because I’m a professor, maybe because I’m a parent, or maybe it’s just common sense, but the worst way to convince teens that you don’t hate them is to yell, I don’t hate you from a microphone and then tell them to shut up.

Horne and then-Senator Huppenthal (evidently to prove Republicans don’t hate Latinos) then embark on a 6-year mission to ban Mexican American Studies and destroy the MAS program at Tucson Unified School District (TUSD).

I’ve heard of tough love, but this is sick love.

Horne wanted the public to believe he targeted the MAS program because of Huerta’s statement and ensuing student insolence.

The sense that makes is nonsense.

However, Arizona Republican nonsense is spreading. “AZ Crazy” must be stopped.

Just as other states like Georgia, Alabama, Indiana, Utah and South Carolina used Arizona’s oppressive immigration law SB1070 (The “Show Me Your Papers” law) as a template, Republicans in Texas have tried to copy Arizona’s attack on Mexican American Studies.

Activists thwarted Texas HB1128 and SB1938 in 2012.

MAS Texas even gained state-wide support in April of 2014.

However, the far right won’t rest.

Conservative blog Breitbart ran a disinformation piece titled “‘Mexican American Studies’ and Radical Required Reading.”

They’re trying to introduce AZ disinformation tactics into Texas.

First of all, MAS Texas never wanted to make MAS mandatory. That ain’t the Texas way.

Worse, they’re testing the water to see if they can make Texans believe that MAS “promotes the overthrow of the government.” Here it is in their own words:

“Arizona’s law was crafted in response to Acosta’s curriculum. Today, all Arizona school districts and charters, which are public schools, cannot include any courses or classes that promote the overthrow of the United States government.”

Of course, MAS does not promote the overthrow of the government. A report that Arizona Republicans paid for proved that. That same report verified that MAS raised graduation rates to 98%.

AZ Crazy tactics scare people, so it takes years to sift through the stereotypes and racial profiling. It’s taken 8 years in the case of John Huppenthal but as Falcon9 and Thucydides, he gives us the real motives behind AZ HB2281-the most racist, the most un-American law of our time.

Republican Dream Team or GOP Nightmare?
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When Horne moved on to AZ Attorney General, he passed the anti-ethnic studies torch to Huppenthal, who took over as Superintendent of Instruction.

With Jan Brewer as governor of Arizona, history will show if the trio’s legacy will be as the Republican Dream Team or the GOP Nightmare.

But here’s a tip for the entire Republican Party: the downward spiral has begun.

Huppenthal’s recent media circus over his racist comments overshadowed the news that Horne is under investigation to determine if he and his staff violated campaign finance laws.

And Huppenthal’s blog posts help explain the mindset behind the outlandish language from the outlandish law that may haunt the Republican party for generations.

The AZ Crazy law AZ HB2281 prohibits courses that:

1. PROMOTE THE OVERTHROW OF THE UNITED STATES GOVERNMENT.

As chief of education, Huppenthal even ordered a $110,00 audit to prove that the Mexican American Studies program was guilty of sedition. The final report found . . .

“[] quite the opposite is true. Consider, if classes promoted resentment or ethnic solidarity, then evidence of an ineffective learning community would exist within each school aligned with the Mexican American Studies Department. That was not the case. Every school and every classroom visited by the auditors affirmed that these learning communities support a climate conducive to student achievement.”

So Arizona Superintendent of Instruction Huppenthal is told that MAS is good, but the Falcon9 in him wished the report he paid for would have instead backed up what he thought when he posted that MAS is the KKK. That must be why he ignored the findings.

Instead, Huppenthal acted to enforce this odd law.

You might imagine this would have called for a ban on classes covering The Civil War seeing as the Confederate South not only promoted the overthrow of the government, but actively engaged in it.

Civil War courses were not touched.

The only course that Huppenthal accused of promoting the overthrow of the government was–you guessed it– Mexican American Studies.

So in January of 2012, administrators were forced to walk into class rooms, during class time, and in front of our young, box up books by our most beloved authors.

Horne must have proudly toasted Huppenthal the night before.

This outraged us so much in Texas that we organized the Librotraficante Caravan to smuggle the banned books back into Arizona. We have since dedicated ourselves to thwarting similar legislation, especially in Texas.

And Huppenthal through Falcon9 has clearly revealed the racist motives we always suspected behind AZ HB2281.

These racist attacks on Latinos must stop.

Is this the same heart and mind behind the entire GOP?

Arizona is ground zero for the anti-immigration and anti-ethnic studies movements which the Arizona GOP spearheaded and other Republicans across the nation have attempted to copy as they also block immigration reform.

Huppenthal plans to run for office again. To do so, he’ll have to win a Republican primary. Does he truly represent the GOP?

Huppenthal owned up to the racist comments at a press conference, after which he apologized, cried, then walked off.

Crying is not good enough.

Huppenthal wasted $110,000 of tax payer funds on an audit he chose to ignore because the findings did not suit his racist agenda.

Two Chicana high school students are suing the state of Arizona to overturn AZHB2281. The case goes to the 9th District in San Francisco this fall. When the case hits the U.S. Supreme Court it will be poetic justice to watch the lone Latina Justice Sonia Sotomayor sign the opinion overturning this un-American law. This is still America. Arizona House Bill 2281 will be overturned. Why waste so much time, energy and money upholding a law that stifles Freedom of Speech, promotes censorship and which will be struck down?

Will the GOP stand on the sidelines as Falcon9 and other Arizona Republicans waste millions more in taxpayer money and gut the educational system, all the while offending, alienating and oppressing the largest growing segment of voters in the nation?

We in Texas are watching. California is watching The entire nation is watching for the Republican’s party true nature to be revealed.

The GOP must rebuke Huppenthal’s statements.

Huppenthal must resign.

And Arizona must drop the case defending AZHB2281.

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Make Art Not War: Portraits of Artists on the U.S.-Mexico Border

Photographer Stefan Falke‘s project La Frontera documents artists who live and work close to the Mexican border with the United States in what used to be some of the world’s most dangerous cities. He photographed 180 artists along both sides of the entire 2,000 mile long divide to show the vibrant cultural side of a region that is usually portrayed by the international media with a sole focus on violent crime.

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American photographer, peace activist and educator Raechel Running at the border crossing in Agua Prieta, Mexico, where she works with a local community.

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Artist Angel Cabrales takes border defense to the extreme with personal drones, home edition Patriot missile launchers and flan-tipped bombs in El Paso, Texas.

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Alonso Delgadillo has painted many murals in and around Tijuana. He likes them best when they age and get taken over by nature.

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Glassblowing artist Einar De La Torre in 2008 at his studio near Ensenada which he shares with his brother James de la Torre. The brothers live and work on both sides of the San Diego-Baja California border.

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Juan Amparano is the director of Museo De Arte de Nogales in Nogales, Mexico. Juan is a painter and an architect by profession. He was the principal architect for the renewal of the museum.

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Photographer Tochirock Gallegos on the roof of his studio in Reynosa, Mexico. His strong personal work reflects the often violent circumstances in border cities like Reynosa.

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The young artist Alfredo Gutierrez makes portraits of American homeless people who come to Tijuana because life in the street is cheaper here than in neighboring California.

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Ana Maria Cruz, aka Ana Formismo, in front of her mural in Ciudad Juarez, Chihuahua.

An exhibition will be on-view at Photoville in New York this September. It’s a 10-day, free photography event taking place in Brooklyn Bridge Park. The book La Frontera is out from German publisher Edition Faust. There are also limited edition prints and a boxed set (curated by me!) available for you collectors. See more at borderartists.com
All images © Stefan Falke

Can You Be A Political Mudslinger And Still Have A Soul?

WASHINGTON — Political campaigns are increasingly staffed by people whose sole job is to figure out how to destroy the opposition. They tend to be young, ambitious and partisan. But are they soulless?

The Huffington Post wanted to know whether amid all the political mudslinging, opposition researchers and campaign operatives ever stopped to question their life choices.

The answer, according to Eddie Vale, vice president of the Democratic opposition research firm American Bridge, and Tim Miller, executive director of the GOP opposition research firm America Rising, is no. Like everyone whose work is their passion, an opposition researcher enjoys doing it, even if it means sifting through C-SPAN footage on a Sunday night in hopes of catching a congressman picking his ear and eating the wax.

“I do get a high, because it is fun,” Miller said, recalling what it was like breaking ear wax-gate.

“It’s like your chosen field, the same way as why does a basketball player like to play basketball,” said Vale. “My basketball career peaked in like fifth grade when everyone else kept growing and I stopped.”

“I know how that is,” responded Amanda Terkel of The Huffington Post, who along with Margaret Talev of Bloomberg News, joined the panel, the latest installment of our series Drinking and Talking.

Watch the video above.

When Life Feels Overwhelming and Impossible

Someone I love has been going through a rough patch lately, and I want nothing more than to make it better for them. Being a coach and personal development writer, I noticed my desire to start coaching and “inspiring.” Instead, I paused and thought back to my experiences going through the quarter life crisis, struggling to build a business, never having enough money, being in relationships that didn’t serve me, and all the other fun stuff in between.

What I remember most about those times were that they felt impossible and overwhelming. I remember not wanting to be told things like “it gets better” or “stay positive” because it felt like the world was closing in on me, everything was happening to me, and I had absolutely nothing left to give.

Impossible and overwhelming.

I remember how hard I tried, again and again, to make changes in my life, build a thriving business doing work I loved, “find myself,” create real depth and connection, and just be happy, secure, and in love with life. I also remember how many times it seemed like every step forward was met with five crashing steps backwards, where I wouldn’t just move back, I’d take out the whole walkway, walls, and anything else that had been built up around it.

Impossible and overwhelming.

I remember the night I cried my eyes out in my car parked at an ocean lookout. I was in so much emotional pain it physically hurt to be in my body. I sobbed until I almost hyperventilated… and then I just stopped. That was the first, and most intense, divine moment I’ve ever experienced in my life. A moment where I felt like part of me had left my body and ventured out into the stars. I could feel, with every fiber in my being, my truth and essence. There was joy, inspiration, creativity, love, connection, peace, and depth. It was amazing.

But actually getting to that place?

Impossible.
Overwhelming.

And yet, here I am today, living a life I love, with amazing people, doing some of the work I was put here to do.

Not only that, I’ve met and gone beyond that feeling I conjured up one sad, lonely night at an overlook by the ocean.

So if you’re feeling like life is impossible and overwhelming, know that I hear you. I know. Our experiences and journeys are different, but I understand. I know you don’t want to hear “be positive” and “it will all work out.” I know you feel like you’re giving everything you’ve got and there’s nothing left. I know you’re tired, need a hug and a bubble bath, and just want to get there already.

I hear you, I love you, and I know.

I’ve thought a lot about what I can say to someone, like the person I know and love, about getting through the impossible and overwhelming, that wouldn’t have made me rage out when I was in my own dark and hard place. Because even though we know things like “be positive” and “it gets better” are wise truths, we don’t want to hear it. It’s quite possibly the most annoying thing anyone on this planet could ever say. We feel like the only person who’s ever had this difficult of a time trying to create a good life. We think that because someone is shiny and happy, they don’t get it. How could they? Their life is clearly awesome!

So here’s what I have to say (and yes, it’s all annoying and cliche… but also wise and true):

1) Take care of yourself.

When you do take a step forward only to take five crashing steps back, take a self-care timeout. This “change your life” stuff isn’t easy, so be good to yourself. Fall backwards into a bubble bath, a Sunday afternoon nap, a good fiction book, or a date with a great friend. Nurture yourself every step of the way, and you’ll build up more resilience at an incredible pace. Pretty soon, even 10 steps back will feel like a little misstep in a bouncy house and you’ll pop right back up ready to plow forward again. Promise.

2) Don’t stop trying.

Take timeouts when you need them, but don’t give up. Trying to make changes often requires things rewiring your brain, uprooting yourself from what’s known and comfortable, taking a sledgehammer to parts (or all) of your life, changing your ecology, and so much more. I’ll say it again, this “change your life” stuff isn’t easy. Not even a little bit! In theory, it’s all pretty simple. Be positive, speak your truth, love yourself, blah blah blah. Simple in theory, crazy hard in reality. Remember how you used to fall when you were first learning to walk? Probably not, but you know what I’m saying… practice, patience (or a total meltdown followed by a self care timeout, followed by trying again) and perseverance. I got to where I am because I kept trying, you will too.

3) Stop doing it all yourself.

Get the support you need, whether it’s crying to your best friend or hiring a coach, mentor, or counselor. Join a program or community, ask for help when you need it, read books written by people who’ve been where you are. You’re not the only person going through this, and there are people who’ve made it through and then wrote books about how you can do it too. Take advantage of the wealth of knowledge and experience that surrounds you and get some support. I know you can do this on your own, I know it. But wouldn’t you rather be “there” (happy, fulfilled, living your passion, loving your life, etc.) sooner rather than later? Books, mentors, coaches, counselors, programs, communities, etc. They’re all key, use them as much as you can.

4) Don’t get mad…

At me, because I’m going to say it: Stay positive. Again, I know how annoying that is to hear, I personally hated that statement! But if I can attribute changing my life to one thing, it’s changing my mindset. Click here to access my free training series with my top three mindset shifts. Again, these aren’t easy to implement, but they are hugely transformational! Don’t be stubborn. People say cliche things for a reason, because they’re true and they work. Roll your eyes if you want, but do the exercises!

Take action now!

If you’re feeling like creating what you desire, or just getting through the day, is impossible and overwhelming, I want you to choose one action item from the list above and do it. Share with me what you’ve done!

Stephenie Zamora is the founder of www.stepheniezamora.com, a full-service, life-purpose development, design and branding boutique and author of Awesome Life Tips book. Through her Mastery program, she merges the worlds of personal development and branding to help men and women build passion-based lives and businesses they love. Click here to access her free Foundations for Unshakable Joy™ video training series and learn the unexpected trick to transforming your life with one single question!

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9 Undeniable Warning Signs That Your Inner-Bitch Is Around

We’ve all had run-ins with the internal naysayers, the limiting beliefs, or those inner-critics that keep us from showing up as our best selves. It’s very common to have a Bitch or ten lingering around inside our headspace sabotaging our productivity, steering us off-track from our goals, or shrinking our self-image. Fortunately for us, simply having a new awareness of when they show up is enough to start influencing their impact on our day-to-day lives.

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Here are nine warning signs that there’s an inner-bitch around who needs to be ditched:

  1. You keep promises to others, but not to yourself. I pride myself in being trustworthy and dependable to my friends and loved ones, but when it comes to my own commitments, I often don’t hold the same standards. If you’re not keeping the promises or commitments you make to yourself (or you’re committing to things you don’t want to follow through on), chances are there’s a bitch around.
  2. You live in a world of shoulda, woulda, or coulda. Hindsight, wisdom, and experience will always reveal a better, faster, or easier road we could have taken. Living your life recalling all of these options though won’t make a difference to your right-now life, and are a surefire way to keep yourself living in the past.
  3. You’re always meticulously counting or tracking. Whether it’s dollars, reps, calories, pounds, days or any other metric, I grew up with the mindset that you need to track what you wish to change. But when these numbers consume you, blind you, or define you, those numbers can paint a crooked picture. Keeping track can be a valuable tool, but it’s important to keep tabs on what these numbers DO and DON’T mean.
  4. The mirror only reveals your “flaws” and imperfections. The mirror can lie on the way up and on the way down. If that reflection staring back at you tends to be your biggest critic rather than your biggest fan, there’s an inner-bitch hanging trying her hardest to keep you from seeing how beautiful you truly are.
  5. Your creativity is bottled up or hidden. As Brene Brown says: “Unused creativity is not benign.” If you’re a singer who never sings, an artist not showcasing your work, a poet but no one knows it, or a creative being that keeps your creations hidden from the world, that unused creativity that remains in the storage locker of your heart and your soul is not benign: It’s hurting you to keep it untapped.
  6. You live in a world of “someday” and “maybe”. If the fear that lives of inside you is keeping your dreams and desires hidden until you feel like it’s safe, the time may never come. Taking risks and putting yourself out there is hard. Exposing yourself to the opinions or judgment of a third party is hard. But not doing so could very well prove to be even harder in the long run.
  7. You create unrealistic, impractical goals. You wouldn’t move to a bigger house, take an entire week off work, and change your sleep schedule if you decided to buy a goldfish, right? Uprooting your entire life for a diet plan or committing to something that doesn’t fit in with your daily flow doesn’t make any sense either. Committing ourselves to plans that aren’t practical and aren’t sustainable is a recipe for disaster and a losing game.
  8. Your body limits you and your experience of life. For years I wouldn’t step foot in the ocean — let alone be caught dead in a bathing suit without a cover-up. But I didn’t just miss out on the crashing waves or a freestyle swim. I missed out on connection and experiences and fun. Not to mention all the other activities I watched from the sidelines because I was too ashamed of my body to participate. If your body is a limitation rather than a source of freedom, there’s an inner-bitch around keeping you on the sidelines as an onlooker of your own life.
  9. Stress, busyness, being overwhelmed and anxious are a “lifestyle”. Stress is natural. Getting overwhelmed is normal. But wearing your stress and anxiety like a tight sweater everywhere you go is not. There’s a big difference between having stress and being stress, being overwhelmed and living overwhelmed. The two do not have to go hand in hand.