From the Margins of Invisibility to the Forefront: Day Laborers to Hold National Convention at UCLA

“Day laborers refuse to be objectified by those who exploit them and their circumstances. Americans need to see day laborers standing on street corners not just as workers or as immigrants but also as parents, grandmothers, sons or daughters, as artists and songwriters, and most of all, as human beings.” — Pablo Alvarado, NDLON Executive Director

This week at UCLA, more than 200 day laborers from across the country will come together for the eighth national convention of the National Day Laborer Organizing Network (NDLON) (http://www.ndlon.org.). They will gather to share experiences and struggles, celebrate victories, and continue the development of national and local strategies. To understand the significance of this event, one needs to understand the how the fight for the day laborers’ rights has become a battleground in the national debate on immigration.

During the mid-1990s, the city of Agoura Hills in Southern California became the hallmark of the conditions day laborers faced throughout the country. The city enacted an ordinance, upheld in state court, prohibiting day laborers from soliciting work in public areas. Sheriff’s deputies engaged in a vicious campaign to drive day laborers and anyone profiled as a day laborer away from the city. They harassed, chased, arrested, and ticketed day laborers just for being present in the city — for waiting for buses, walking down the street, even visiting fast food places. These actions culminated in the local perception of day laborers as a burden and a public nuisance disrupting normal patterns of business, traffic, and pedestrian interchange. Day laborers became the target of state-sponsored repression, placing them at the forefront of the broader movement to criminalize immigrants.

From out of this repression, a movement emerged led mainly by day laborer leaders and organizers, mostly from Central America. Deeply rooted in the pedagogy of Brazilian popular educator Paulo Freire, these organizers worked to raise the consciousness of day laborers to become more aware of how their experiences were connected to broader sociopolitical forces. Through popular education, day laborers developed leadership skills to transform their reality.

In August 2001, after a year of strategy meetings, a group of day laborer organizers from around the country realized the potential of creating a national network that would forge an agenda to promote and protect the rights of day laborers. The first ever historic gathering of more than 200 day laborers and their allies resulted in the founding of NDLON. Priorities for the nascent network included protecting the labor and civil rights of day laborers, enhancing the organizing of day laborers, and calling for a humane and inclusive legalization program.

Dirigente popular (“popular leader”) is a popular education concept that has great meaning for NDLON member organizations. The term connotes an organic leadership, embodied both individually and collectively, that embraces democratic principles to enable participants to take control of their lives. A dirigente popular is committed to creating new leaders. This is the model of leadership promoted by NDLON over the years, and it has created a generation of day laborer leaders who continue to humanize the immigrant rights movement.

As the immigration debate has unfolded in recent years, NDLON has had to maintain a high profile in Washington, D.C., to fight anti-day-laborer provisions in immigration reform proposals. NDLON’s work with national immigrant rights organizations in D.C. and its historic 2006 partnership agreement with the AFL-CIO (http://www.aflcio.org.) have been instrumental in ensuring that the rights of day laborers will be included in any proposal for comprehensive immigration reform. NDLON took the leading role in taking on Joe Arpaio and Arizona’s SB 1070. They were a leading organization to challenge the President’s Secure Communities Program that connects immigration enforcement with local law enforcement. In California, NDLON was a leader in the coalition to pass the TRUST Act, which curtails the scope of the Secure Communities Program and provides restrictions on issuing ICE holds.

In the process of litigating for the First Amendment rights of day laborers, organizers and legal advocates created innovative legal and organizing strategies that created a strong synergy between lawyers and worker leaders. The maturity of day laborer organizing, and NDLON’s ability to combine grassroots efforts with policy advocacy to protect migrant and worker rights, enabled day laborers to work at the forefront with Dream activist groups and other grassroots organizations to spearhead the Not1More Campaign (http://www.notonemoredeportation.com). This campaign has resulted in a strong, nonviolent, grassroots movement to stop President Obama’s deportation machine that has resulted in over 2 million deportations and the tragic separation of countless families.

The courage to stand up to the powerful stakeholders opposing the immigrant rights agenda, and to become a nuisance to them, in order to win political equality has been the strength of the day laborer movement. NDLON members fight for day laborers to be citizens of their community, and NDLON has fought to have immigrant-led voices at the table for administrative relief. As President Obama decides on his historic decision regarding the future of deportations, NDLON members will be convening to decide their plans for the coming year. Tune in to see what comes next.

Chasing Fatherhood: What Infertility Feels Like to Me

By Kiran Ramchandaran, a contributor to the Seleni Institute, a nonprofit mental health and wellness center for women and mothers in New York City.

In my 20s and 30s, fatherhood was not something I thought much about. But whenever someone asked, I’d reflexively respond with pride that, of course, I wanted to be a father… someday.

There’s the rub. As many young men do, I took fatherhood as a given. Now I know it’s not. Now I know fatherhood is a gift. And you prepare by building the architecture of a love that can support it — and the possibility that the journey to it will be fiercely hard.

My first marriage ended in my mid-30s in a fire sale of my belief systems. When I came out the other side, I discovered an entirely new ability to hear myself.

And so I listened when I met MeiMei on a beach in Costa Rica. An effortless beauty with legs forever, she also shares the hard-won knowledge and openness of someone who started over in midlife. She is savage and fragile. Playful and profound. A beautiful mess of contradictions that match mine. Her presence inspires me to want to be more.

We married quickly and instantly leapt into the pursuit of family. It’s the obvious next step, and we are on the older side of fertility. I am 40, and she is 38. We know biology is not on our side. Still, I feel confident we will succeed.

But through the bathroom door, I hear her cursing ugly frustration as she pees on another stick that refuses to show us the result we want. Weeks turn into months, and MeiMei tells me we need to follow a schedule that requires temperature taking, ovulation calendars and brutish demands for sex. We have to do it… NOW! I’m a stud horse. I can handle the pressure. But that’s not what this is. This is a high stakes science project.

Home for the holidays, her family actually excuses us from the dinner table so we can go do it. Seriously? Yes, we have reached that point. It’s become normal to talk about our sex life with our parents, which freaks us both out.

Six months later, we are officially given the label “infertile.” Intrauterine insemination (IUI) is next. We are thrown into a mess of tests. I have the humiliating experience of masturbating into a cup. The first time I attempt it, I miss completely. Yes, that happens. I only have two hands.

But when I stick the landing, the IUI works. We are pregnant! And then, just like that, the joy is stolen from us. MeiMei miscarries. The disappointment knocks us to the ground, but we refuse to be beaten. My ever-prepared wife has an ace in the hole.

When she was 37, two years before she met me, MeiMei had her eggs frozen. We decide it’s time to cash in on her amazing forethought.

We make the arrangements and have those younger eggs shipped from San Francisco. But on the day of their arrival in LA, we get a phone call I never could have imagined. The lab tells us that all 18 eggs have been destroyed.

MeiMei detonates with devastation. Her heart breaks all over the world. I’m too concerned with picking up the pieces to examine my own condition. I want to throw up just seeing her in such misery.

I curse God. Everything turns the color of anger.

I remind myself that my job is to protect our love. I must steady her drop into hopelessness. I hold her as she sobs, saving the pep talk for another day. I tell her that we can remain in the ache of this disaster for however long it takes.

I tell her, over and over, that I love her. Eventually, she falls asleep in my arms. I peel myself out from under her, my shirt soaked with her snot and tears. I walk outside. Then I let myself cry.

Our doctor suggests that we try IVF with her older (but still intact) eggs — a process that will incur even more expense and intensity. More procedures. More drugs. I have to inject MeiMei daily. She has to go into the clinic almost every other day. The credit card keeps getting swiped. But I don’t care. I want this just as much as she does.

All her results are amazing, especially considering her age. We feel optimistic. But the implanted healthy embryos don’t take. The disappointment doesn’t feel as severe as I had anticipated. We’re getting numb to the pain. I realize this even more when IVF fails for the second time.

We start talking about a life that’s just the two of us. It will always have a deep pocket of sadness, an empty crawl space in our hearts. But we’ll be OK. And we still have options. We talk about adoption. We discuss one last round of IVF.

We go for it. Ten days later, MeiMei is off to the clinic for a blood test. Like the two unsuccessful times before, they will call us in the afternoon to confirm or deny this mad dream we are chasing.

As I await this news, soothing the sawtooth edge of my nerves, and once again summoning my strength, conviction and faith, I realize: This is the cornerstone of fatherhood.

It’s the love I have built with this woman, a love I cherish with all the holiness imaginable. We have carefully grown it together. And we keep growing it — larger, stronger, more powerful and more beautiful every day. It’s the love we will hope to grow even bigger, big enough to include another human soul someday.

This article was originally published on the Seleni Institute website. Seleni is a nonprofit mental health and wellness center providing clinical services, research funding, and online information and support for women and mothers. You can follow Kiran on Twitter @KIRANcreates.

5 Lessons About Parenting From the Movie <em>Boyhood</em>

It’s rare that I see a movie that brings me to tears. It even more rare for me to sit through a movie that is over two hours long and for me to remain riveted and on the edge of my chair. That’s why I was so surprised that the movie Boyhood had that effect on me. I’ve heard many, many stories of the struggles to raise happy and healthy kids in the most difficult of situations. I’ve known and worked with many resilient and gritty kids who describe having grown up in the most uncomfortable and wrong environments. So, why, I have had to ask myself, did this “coming of age” movie about Mason Jr., his sister Samantha, and their frequently single mother Olivia get to me at such a deep level?

I will tell you why. I know firsthand the pain of clawing my way out of a less than optimal childhood. I also know what it is like to raise a child as a single parent to the best of my ability despite feeling so scared and so tired. I know about the struggles of parents, children and teens from my work as a clinical psychologist and from my life as a child, teen and a mother. None of these roles are a cakewalk. And, they are particularly not a cakewalk when kids are moving frequently, getting new parents through marriage and divorce and when you are running the family show on your own.

The movie drove home some excellent points about good parenting and I’d like to underscore them for you. I would love, of course and as usual, for you to weigh in with your own unique perspectives.

Consider:

1. At every point in your parenting life it is more important to love your child than it is to let them know how dreadful and disappointing your ex is/was. Trust me when I tell you that they will learn about the positive and negative qualities of their other parent on their own. It is not your role to point out the shortcomings of their other parent. Use your energy to LOVE them instead of to berate your ex.

2. Take care of yourself as a parent. Your kids are watching you. They need to see that life is worth living as an adult. It’s hard for kids to be happy when their parents are sad. I remember going through my own divorce and my daughter asking me why I never smiled. I will remember that moment for the rest of my life. I smile a lot now. Life is good and there were many magical and bright moments during that period as well.

3. Be the biggest member of your child’s fan club. In the movie, the mother listened carefully when her kids spoke, even when it meant that she might have her feelings hurt or that she might have to consider making some life changes. Boy, did she know how to love. I could and can relate. I am very aware that most parents can. I know that. You tell me. You’ve been crying and laughing in my office for almost three decades.

4. Encourage the sibling bond rather than turning the kids against each other. In the movie, Samantha and Mason had each others’ backs. That is exactly what siblings should be doing for each other. Guard carefully against claiming one child for yourself and another for your ex. Please. Thank you.

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5. Don’t despair. Love your kids and stay attuned to them through all that life hurls in your direction. They will be grateful. They will more likely than not grow into young men and women who have developed lovely and heartwarming skills through observation and problem solving.

Keep on keeping on. It will be worth it. Trust me.

Is Pat Quinn's reelection in trouble?

As the Ilinois governor’s race marches ever closer to the November election, both candidates have nine weeks of hard campaigning ahead of them. But Democratic Gov. Pat Quinn’s road might have gotten just a bit harder, writes Madeleine Doubek.

A report from Executive Inspector General Ricardo Meza found that the Illinois Department of Transportation did not follow may not have followed proper anti-patronage rules for much of Quinn’s tenure as governor, plus the former transportation secretary said “neither I nor my staff were in a position to reject the recommended positions.”

Doubek writes:

“I can just imagine the (Republican candidate Bruce) Rauner ads to come, comparing Quinn to his predecessor and running mate, former Gov. Rod Blagojevich, who is serving time in a federal prison on corruption charges. Remember the ads Blagojevich used against his Republican opponent, Comptroller Judy Baar Topinka, dancing the polka with then-imprisoned former GOP Gov. George Ryan? Ah, all’s nasty fair game in Illinois politics.”

But is Rauner in the clear?

“Quinn’s camp suggests Rauner also is ethically challenged because of problems at nursing homes and other companies run by his private equity firm, but it remains to be seen whether that notion sticks. On the other hand, I’ve heard several Republicans say they still don’t feel like they know or trust Rauner or believe he understands and can run a government.”

Both candidates had campaign backup from national political leaders this week. Vice President Joe Biden made his way to Chicago to help drum up support for Quinn, while New Jersey Governor and Republican Governor’s Association Chairman Chris Christie made his way to Illinois to stump for Rauner. What does the presence of possible presidential candidates mean for the Illinois gubernatorial candidates?

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RPG Creator for iOS: RPG Dev Story

Kairosoft’s strategy sim Game Dev Story is one of my favorite iOS games. But if you really want to make a video game on the go, check out the iOS app RPG Creator. That is, if you can read Japanese.

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Like the popular RPG Maker, RPG Creator seems geared for making two-dimensional RPGs. It appears to have a lot of graphical assets in stock, but you can also import images from your iOS device’s Camera Roll. The app also has a cache of character and monster sprites, music and sound effects. The app’s latest update lets users export their creations and try the games that other users have made.

RPG Creator is a free iOS app (with an in-app purchase to unlock all its features), but it’s only in the Japanese iTunes Store and is of course in Japanese. Your best bet for now is to contact developer Ryohei Sato and let him know that you’re interested in his app.

[via Siliconera]

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