ALS, Ice Buckets, Cynics and Parents

OK, all of you out there who are soooooo sick of the Ice Bucket Challenge videos.

You know who you are.

And I get it. I do.

Everyone’s doing it. All your “friends,” on FB and IRL are doing it, celebs are doing it (to each other — EW!), your neighbors, your parents, everyone — and you are holding out.

Because it’s been done and done again. Over and over and YOU ARE OVER IT.

Because it doesn’t “cure” ALS. And it takes away from what “real” charity is or should be. And Lady Gaga doing it weirdly and Ben Affleck showing us his pool is all too gross for words, and none of this sh*t has anything to do with this horrible, debilitating disease.

GOT IT.

Here’s who LIKES the Ice Bucket Challenge.

People with kids.

You know us. We are the ones who use Facebook the most because our kids make us laugh. We are the ones who never hang out anymore because we are in bed at 9:45 every night. The ones who don’t text you back right away because we have most likely just dropped our phone in the toilet while wiping a kid’s ass in the bathroom at The Grove.

Yeah. We LOVED the ice bucket challenge.

And here’s why.

Our kids thought it was the GREATEST THING EVER. Because they saw us do it. And then they got to do it. And then they made their friends do it. And then they got to watch everyone else do it. And then people watched them do it. And it was just plain f*cking adorable.

But most importantly, I’m pretty sure most of these parents wound up explaining a couple of things to their kids.

Stuff that doesn’t always come up organically, but stuff parents SHOULD talk about with their kids and can’t always find the right way to do so.

Stuff like…

What is charity?

Well, it’s when you give to someone less fortunate than you. To someone in need.

What is ALS?

It’s a sickness. Like the flu. But much, much worse. And they want to raise money to help find a cure.

What does the Ice Bucket Challenge have to do with anything?

Well, this man Pete Frates who has ALS, started it to try and get people to help raise money. To pay attention to his sickness.

Is he going to be OK?

I don’t know. Probably not. But he’s a very good man who really did something wonderful.

If just one of those questions was asked or answered by a kid, then the ice bucket challenge was worth it. Not solely because of the money it helped raise and the attention it helped get for ALS, but because it opened up younger hearts to the spirit of collective responsibility. People helping people. People doing something silly, yes, but all in the interest of a good cause. I’m sure most of these conversations were less than three minutes long, but I feel like the activity around said conversations will help the sentiments stick in their little minds. I really do. We parents out there are super grateful to Pete Frates for starting this crazy thing. And for giving us a beautiful way to connect with our kids about something very important for even just a moment.

And let’s be honest, the Ice Bucket Challenge also helped us kill at LEAST an hour of time with the kids during the dregs of summer.

Time where they were thoroughly entertained while plotting, dousing, recording, sending, showing and then watching themselves, friends, families, politicians and rock stars get cold and wet.

And we really, REALLY appreciated it.

Burger King Dares Obama To Stop It From Fleeing To Canada

Burger King’s plan to scurry across the Canadian border to avoid U.S. taxes could be seen as the corporate equivalent of flipping President Barack Obama the bird.

The White House vowed earlier this month to use an executive order to curb tax inversions — deals in which U.S. companies buy smaller foreign firms in countries with lower taxes, then renounce their U.S. corporate citizenship and re-incorporate in that country.

Still, Burger King said late Sunday night that it was in talks to merge with Tim Hortons, Canada’s popular bakery and coffee chain. The new, combined company would be headquartered in Canada.

In a research note, Potomac Research Group political strategist Greg Valliere said Burger King’s move challenges regulators at the White House and Treasury to back up threats to crack down on inversions.

“So much for the theory that Treasury could chill future inversion deals by hinting of possible action,” Valliere wrote in the note. “We still don’t expect regulations to be finalized until early next year, after a deliberative comment period, but we think there’s a good chance that Treasury will get a phone call today from the White House, urging quicker action.”

Radina Russell, a Burger King spokeswoman, declined to comment. The White House and the Treasury Department did not immediately respond to requests for comment.

Though the timing of the deal suggests a disregard for the Obama administration’s ability limit tax inversions, some say the company could be heading north before political pressure to close the tax loophole gives way to tangible legal changes.

“My sense is this is Burger King trying to dodge paying its taxes. I don’t know that I’d attribute it to their making a move like this to directly challenge Obama,” Frank Clemente, executive director of the nonprofit Americans for Tax Fairness, told The Huffington Post. “I can’t say what’s on the company’s mind here, whether they’re trying to beat the clock on this and do something before Congress passes legislation or do something before Obama signs an executive order.”

The past few years have seen American companies practically stampede to the border in an effort take advantage of lower rates elsewhere. The top U.S. corporate rate is 35 percent. In Ireland, for example, it is just 12.5 percent.

At least 21 U.S. companies have announced plans to invert since the start of 2012, according to a tally kept Bloomberg News. Among the brands planning to pull up stakes are Chiquita, the banana giant, and Mylan, which makes generic drugs.

One company, the drugstore giant Walgreen, considered and then abandoned a planned inversion earlier this month as part of its takeover of the Swiss company Alliance Boots, after it faced significant public backlash.

The chief executive of Mylan recently told a New York Times columnist that she had no choice but to invert as part of a buyout of a company in the Netherlands. But this argument isn’t especially convincing. That’s because the U.S. tax code is so riddled with loopholes that very few companies pay anything near 35 percent. Companies like General Electric, Google and Apple have whiz-bang tax departments that have mastered the art of tax avoidance, often by routing income through low- or no-tax jurisdictions, like Bermuda.

In 2010, profitable U.S. corporations paid an effective rate of less than 13 percent, according to the Government Accountability Office, a nonpartisan arm of Congress.

But in the world of tax avoidance, as in life, there are haves and have-nots. Tech and drug companies have all sorts of ways to shift earnings abroad and make tax bills lower. Companies that sell a lot of physical things in the U.S. — such as hamburgers — typically pay a much higher rate, because it is harder to disguise those sales as foreign income. Inversions won’t solve this tax problem altogether, but they do give businesses a basket of new tax avoidance options.

The Walgreen inversion, for example, could have allowed the company to slash its tax rate by as much as 15 percent, equating to savings of billions of dollars. Burger King’s projected tax savings, according to initial news reports, would be smaller, though it is too early to say for sure how much.

In 2013 the company deposited $88 million in government coffers, at an effective tax rate of about 27 percent, according to filings. (That’s lower than the top rate because the company doesn’t pay domestic taxes on burgers sold abroad. Burger King is huge in Germany, as it turns out).

But even if Burger King’s tax savings add up to no more than a few million dollars a year, by corporate standards, it is easy money. Completing an inversion is primarily a function of filing the right paperwork. Company executives can stay put at headquarters in Miami. They can become Canadian without even buying a winter coat.

Born to Be Mild

I’ve been told that I am “overly-sensitive.” Is there really such a thing? In a world where people are frequently unkind to each other, is it really so bad to be sensitive to other people’s feelings?

I’ve been this way my whole life. For as long as I can remember, and even in stories my mom tells from before I could remember, I’ve always been the softie. If a new kid transferred to my school, I was always the first one to greet them, because I felt bad that they didn’t have any friends. When my friend Allen got teased in school for being overweight, I always stood up for him.

Over the years I’ve saved countless stray cats and stray dogs; I even rescued an abandoned baby squirrel! I can’t help it; it’s in my nature.

Compassion and empathy are not passing fads for me. It’s the way I live my life and always have. But I’ve questioned over the years whether I feel too much and too deeply.

When someone hurts, I hurt right along with them. It’s not just the empathy of being able to put myself in their shoes, it’s a real hurt when I see someone else in pain. There have been times when I wished I could turn off my feelings to protect myself from the hurt, but since that’s not an option, I just do my best not to have a meltdown.

I am a firm believer in the concept that no one “gets there” alone. I know that I have had a lot of help along the way, and I strive to help others as they go through life too. I know what it’s like to be alone, to struggle and to be the victim of an injustice or cruel act. I don’t want other people to go through the things I’ve gone through.

I know that I will never find the cure for cancer, solve world peace or find a solution to our national debt; but I do know that every day, I can do my part to leave my little corner of the world a little bit better than I found it.

Whenever there is a choice on how to behave in a situation, choose kindness. It’s not that difficult; just choose kindness. Think about how you would feel if the proverbial shoe was on the other foot. Think about what it would be like to be on the receiving end of the treatment you are about to dole out to someone else.

Being mild does not mean being weak. It doesn’t mean that you become a pushover and allow others to take advantage of you. Being mild means that you go through life treating others with respect and care. It means that you deal in compassion and kindness and always look for a way to make a situation better.

Imagine what the world would be like if everyone did that. Imagine what it would be like if we all approached one another in a spirit of kindness; if we all gave each other the benefit of the doubt. What would our world be like if we stopped intentionally hurting one another and instead of looking for the differences, looked for the similarities?

You can continue to call me overly-sensitive, but I’m going to continue to walk through the world in my mild way. I keep hoping that one day, others will follow; and what a wonderful world that would be!

Microplastics: New Threat to Our Aquatic Ecosystem

The use of plastics in our daily lives has grown drastically over the last several decades. It is difficult for us to function without using plastics in some form. Think about our annual use of nearly 300 million metric tons, with a significant percentage (up to 40 percent) used as packaging materials that are typically used once and discarded.

It might surprise some people that as much as 10 percent of the plastic that is not recycled winds up in our marine and fresh water environments. There are vast areas of our oceans where plastic debris is concentrated in gyres where the debris is broken down, by abrasive wave action and embrittlement caused by light in the UV range, into particles that measure less than 5 mm. In a recent article published in Science magazine, Professors Kara Lavender Law of the Sea Education Association and Richard C. Thompson of Plymouth University in the United Kingdom reported that they have measured plastic particles as small as 20 micrometers and have suggested that these particles concentrate toxic refractory organics on their surfaces that can be released upon digestion by fish and wildlife.

Another source of plastics in our water is microbeads, the tiny pieces of plastic that are used in consumer goods, in particular, as exfoliating agents in personal care products. Microbeads are generally polyethylene micrcospheres that are available in particle sizes from 0.01 to 1 mm. They are too small to be filtered out by wastewater treatment plants so they end up in our lakes and waterways. Microbeads account for almost 90 percent of the microplastics found in the Great Lakes. The Great Lakes, in turn, account for almost 20 percent of the world’s fresh water.

We should be pleased with the recommendation to the U.S. Environmental Protection Agency made by U.S. Senator Kirsten Gillibrand to add microbeads and microplastics to the list of Great Lakes contaminants. It is recognized that the tiny particle sizes associated with these contaminants result in passage through municipal wastewater treatment facilities, causing a significant threat to fish and bird populations. Clearly more research is required to determine the potential environmental and human health impacts of the microplastics.

But, what can you and I do to help reduce this threat? First, we can avoid the purchase of consumer products such as shampoos, facial washes and cosmetics that use microbeads. Second, we can be more diligent in recycling plastic products and more careful about what we discharge to our municipal wastewater treatment facilities.

New York state, along with California and Ohio, has already begun the debate as to whether legislation is required to mitigate the environmental threat being created by microplastics. The state of Illinois has already passed legislation banning the use of microbeads in consumer products by 2018.

Remember that without water, our Earth cannot sustain life. It’s worth the trouble to protect this precious resource.

Our Journey on Earth

This fall, Atria is publishing my new book of spiritual inquiry, The Endless Practice: Becoming Who You Were Born to Be. It’s a journey that explores the difficult and rewarding aspects of being human, which are often inter-related, including how to restore our trust in life, when suffering makes us lose our way; how to begin the work of saying yes to life, so it can enliven us; and how to make our inwardness a resource and not a refuge. For the next two months, I’ll be previewing excerpts from the book.

More than the hard-earned understandings we arrive at, more than the principles or beliefs we stitch together out of our experience, how we stay in relationship to the mysterious Whole of Life is what brings us alive and keeps us alive.

Our Journey on Earth

To learn how to ask for what we need,
only to practice accepting what we’re
given. This is our journey on earth.

These are two eternal practices that bring us in alignment with the Unity of Life. At first look, they seem to contradict each other, but they are two sides of one paradox. Together, they lead us into the way of being called saying yes, through which we are returned to meeting life rather than hiding from it, to receiving truth rather than inventing it, and to joining with other life rather than pushing off of everything different from us.

While we don’t always get what we need, the reward for asking for what we need is that this allows us to be who we are. And the reward for accepting what we’re given is that we get to participate in the living Universe. Asking for what we need is a practice in being present and visible that lets us become intimate with our own nature. Accepting what we’re given is a practice in being present to everything beyond us that lets us become intimate with the nature of life. As a way of being, saying yes is the ongoing dance of intimacy between our own nature and the nature of life. Through a life of asking for what we need and accepting what we’re given, we feed the fire of our soul, which glows its brightest the moment our aliveness is ignited.

A Question to Walk With: In conversation with a friend or loved one, describe a current situation in which you need to ask for what you need, as well as a current situation in which you need to accept what you are being given. What do you think each situation is asking you to learn?

For more poetry for the soul, click here.

For more by Mark Nepo, click here.

What Is Loving to You, Is Loving to Others

One of the questions I often hear from my clients is, “If I take care of myself and do what brings me joy, aren’t I being selfish?”

Let’s take a close look at this false belief.

Renee is a very bright and vital woman. She grew up in a family that valued women who stayed at home raising their children. Not wanting to be judged or rejected by her family, Renee followed in her mother’s footsteps, giving up her budding career in TV advertising to get married and have children. Renee became a “good” mother — driving her kids everywhere, going to PTA meetings, showing up at all her kid’s events and doing volunteer work. There was nothing wrong with any of this, except for the fact that Renee felt trapped, unhappy and angry much of the time. Renee really wanted to be expressing herself in the world in some way, but believed that it was her obligation to stay at home with her children.

The problem is that an unhappy, angry, irritated mother is not a good mother. And Renee is going to continue to feel irritated and angry as long as she is not doing what really brings her joy.

“But if I go back to school, which is what I really want to do, aren’t I being selfish? Since I chose to get married and have children, don’t I owe it to them to be here for them as much as I can?”

“No, not if it means giving yourself up and being miserable. Not if it means giving to them out of obligation. They will not benefit from this. They want you to be happy, and they need you to be a role model for taking personal responsibility for your own happiness. You will find that if you do what is really loving to you, they will benefit as well. They might not like it in the short run, because they are used to you being there all the time, but in the long run, they will turn out to be happier and healthier adults.”

David is a medical doctor who works long hours to support his family. He is not happy working so hard. He comes home exhausted, and then takes care of various household chores so his sons can have the time to play sports and do their homework. He has no time for himself. He is often short-tempered with his wife and children. He wants time to ride his bike and to pursue his love of writing.

“But if I work less and we have less money, aren’t I being selfish? Don’t I owe it to my family to keep up their standard of living? Aren’t I being selfish if I expect my kids to do the chores in addition to doing their sports and their homework?”

“No, you owe it to yourself and your family to be a happy, peaceful and fulfilled person. The very best thing you can give to your family is your happy and joyful presence.”

We are being self-responsible rather than selfish when we take loving care of ourselves. We are being selfish when:

  • We do not take care of ourselves and then expect others to give us what we are not giving to ourselves.
  • We expect others to give themselves up for us.
  • We are angry and demanding of others because we are not taking care of ourselves.
  • We impose our irritated, withdrawn, sullen, anxious and tense energy onto others instead of doing whatever we need to do to be peaceful and joyful.
  • We are “taking care of ourselves” from a wounded place and ignoring the needs of others or ignoring the effect our behavior has on others.

Whatever we do that is truly loving to ourselves — that is in the highest good of our soul’s journey on the planet — is also loving to others. It is never in our highest good to be mean to others, or to disregard other’s feelings and needs. But it is in our highest good follow our higher guidance and do what really brings us joy and fulfillment.

Our actions do not benefit anyone when our behavior comes from fear and obligation. Others feel the lack of love in our energy, even if the action itself looks loving. Our honest and authentic actions — actions which are loving to ourselves — are also loving to others. Our truth give others an opportunity to take care of themselves. If Renee goes back to school, her family will need to learn to rely more on themselves instead of turning to her for everything. If David takes time for himself, maybe his children will learn to take more responsibility around the house. By taking care of ourselves, we give others the chance to step up to the plate. Maybe they will and maybe they won’t, but our loving behavior toward ourselves always gives others an opportunity to grow in their personal responsibility and lovingness as well.

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. is a relationship expert, best-selling author, and co-creator of the powerful Inner Bonding® self-healing process, recommended by actress Lindsay Wagner and singer Alanis Morissette, and featured on Oprah. To begin learning how to love and connect with yourself so that you can connect with others, take advantage of our free Inner Bonding eCourse, and join Dr. Margaret Paul for her 30-Day at-home Course: “Love Yourself: An Inner Bonding Experience to Heal Anxiety, Depression, Shame, Addictions and Relationships.” Discover SelfQuest®, a transformational self-healing/conflict resolution computer program. Phone or Skype sessions with Dr. Margaret Paul.

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This Is Why Anime Just Doesn't Work In The Real World

Anime is known for over-the-top antics like melodramatic speeches, impossible physical feats and just general exaggerated, high-energy behavior. Basically, pretty far from real life. Which leads to the obvious question: What would happen if you did anime things in the real world?

The good people at Dorkly have answered that question, and you can probably guess how well everything goes.

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The Aftermath of the Ice Bucket Challenge

As a public health advocate, I was ecstatic to watch the “Ice Bucket Challenge” social media campaign raise for ALS. Over the past two and half weeks, the ALS Association earned over 13 million dollars in donations. Last year, during the same period, the ALS raised a paltry $1.7 million in comparison. The viral campaign, sparked by the heartfelt plea of a college baseball player, Pete Frates, grew funding exponentially.

At the risk of stating the obvious — money is essential for biological research. Even the most basic experiments require reagents, laboratory space, laboratory equipment and personnel. The more funding scientists have, the more work they can do. At certain junctures, greater funding allows for greater experimental risks that may lead to unexpected breakthroughs. There is no question that increasing funding for scientific research is an essential and useful step in finding cures to diseases such as ALS.

However, the way we raise money for scientific research is perhaps as important as the money we raise. Historically, successful fundraising campaigns have included celebrities afflicted with the disease (Michael J. Fox and Parkinson’s as an example) or the emotional pull of diseases that affect a large proportion of the population (Susan G. Komen and breast cancer as another example.) Fundraising rests heavily on tugging at someone’s heartstrings and causing empathy — yet the money is focused toward benefiting a scientific, rigorous process.

This dichotomy between the emotional nature of fundraising and the academic targets of donation was exceedingly clear during the Ice Bucket Challenge. Peer pressure to participate in a good cause increased as more celebrities and icons joined the challenge. Millions of people who participated all announced their support for finding a cure for ALS during their videos, and yet a substantial amount may not be able to accurately describe ALS and the symptoms of the disease. For the curious, there is wonderful curriculum on ALS available through NINDS (National Institutes of Neurological Disorders and Stroke).

The ALS social media movement will be analyzed, studied and debated for years to come as a precedent for successful fundraising. There will be lessons and questions for foundations, influencers and policy makers. For the scientific community the big question will be: is it enough for us to popularize our causes in a lighthearted way to raise funding? Or is this a wasted opportunity to educate the public in a way that might actually yield more than simply monetary crowd funding? What about intellectual crowd funding? What about awareness of clinical trials in ALS or genetic marker studies? The challenge may be that these kinds of educational things don’t have the widespread popularity of something easy to understand- like an ice bucket on your head to raise awareness. However, with some creativity, perhaps we can engage the public with more than just a fun stunt, and make the most of the tremendous platforms we have within social media.

It is critical to acknowledge that the awareness battle doesn’t end with research funding, it continues beyond into investment capital, FDA trials, drug production, and market strategy. A drug developed for ALS today could take up to twenty years to get to market. YouTube views, retweets and more ice won’t change that — but moving beyond general awareness to education and engagement will.

Butterup Knife Spreads Cold Butter Easily

I don’t know about you, but one of my biggest first world problems is that cold butter does not spread easily. The only solution is to either leave the butter out until it is soft or to grate it, which is a pain. Well, thankfully we now have a better solution.

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You don’t want to rip your bread apart trying to spread cold butter. The ButterUp Knife has a line of grating holes along the edge that turn that hard butter into easily spreadable ribbons. Just run the knife over your block of butter, then spread as you normally would. It’s amazing how simple solutions are often the best and most ingenius.

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The Butterup knife will cost you around $11(USD), but you’ll have to wait until March of 2015 since the Kickstarter was so popular that all the earlier batches were sold-out. You can see why.

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