Sorry Privileged White Ladies, But Emma Watson Isn't a 'Game Changer' for Feminism

This post originally appeared on xoJane.

By Amy McCarthy

When I woke up yesterday, my Facebook feed was buzzing with the news of Emma Watson’s “groundbreaking speech.” On September 20, Watson used an emotionally stirring speech at the United Nations to launch He For She, a new campaign that urges men to “speak out about the inequalities faced by women and girls.” People who never mention the words “feminism” or “women’s rights” were suddenly interested.

More specifically, the campaign centers around a website where men and boys can acknowledge that gender equality is a human rights issue and pledge to fight the inequality that women and girls face. On the “Take Action” page, the site encourages users to tweet and Instagram with the hashtag #HeForShe. Beyond that, there is little discussion of what the men who sign this pledge can actually do to improve the lives of women.

“I am so excited about #HeForShe,” one random girl from my sorority wrote, “because it finally shows that feminism isn’t about hating men. I love men!” “Emma Watson gives feminism new life,” read one CNN headline. Another blog noted that she completely changed the definition of feminism while dressed in Dior. Media outlets that had only previously used the word “feminist” to describe hairy-legged stereotypes were now salivating over a newer, hipper, prettier feminism based entirely on an 11-minute speech at the United Nations.

Most egregiously, Vanity Fair called Watson’s speech a “game changer” for feminism: “Watson is potentially in an even better position than many of her peers,” writes Joanna Robinson. “Her role as Hermione Granger, the universally adored heroine of the Harry Potter series, gives her an automatic in with male and female millennials. This is a rare case where an actor being conflated with their role might be a good thing. In this way, her widespread influence on young minds (still forming their opinions on gender roles and advocacy) is even stronger than other high-profile defenders of the F-word like Beyoncé.”

Despite the slight toward Beyonce’s feminist work, I thought for a moment that Robinson and others who were anointing Emma Watson as feminism’s brightest young mind might have actually been right. There is something uniquely brave about a young woman identifying as a feminist, especially when so many others, like Watson’s contemporaries Shailene Woodley and Taylor Swift, shy away from the label.

But at the same time, when I hear this speech being discussed as a defining moment in feminism, I worry about the message that the He For She campaign sends to people who still aren’t sure that feminism is looking out for their best interests. More specifically, will He For She leave behind many of the people who most need feminsm’s help?

To begin with, the name “He For She” is problematic, no matter how you slice it. Some may call these criticisms divisive and nitpicky, but there is nothing feminist about a campaign that reinforces a gender binary that is harmful to people whose gender identities don’t fit into such tidy boxes. When we reinforce the idea that only people who neatly fit the gender binary are worthy of being protected and supported, we erase and exclude the people who are at most risk of patriarchal violence and oppression.

Which is something that Emma Watson knows only a little bit about. It was encouraging that Watson acknowledged some of the privilege that led her to that United Nations stage, but she failed to mention the things that are most important. She noted that her parents and teachers didn’t expect less of her than male students, but failed to mention how the automatic advantages that being white, wealthy, able-bodied, and cisgender have colored her life experience. The state of affairs for women that Watson presents in this speech is a best case scenario. There was no discussion in this speech as to how He For She can improve the lives of women and nonbinary people who will experience intersectional oppressions, like racism, transphobia, and fatphobia.

This is not to suggest that what Emma Watson did wasn’t brave. Women face consequences when they speak up on feminism, as evidenced by the internet trolls who threatened to release nude photos of Watson shortly after her speech (luckily this turned out to be a hoax). Anyone who uses their platform to spread feminist ideas deserves respect, but we should probably be a little more careful in who we choose as our thought leaders. Especially when there are hundreds of women who are directly impacting the lives of women through their work and writing.

In reality, Emma Watson is the kind of woman that mainstream feminism — the feminism that gets a place on the United Nations’ stage — has worked the hardest for. When Watson speaks of equal pay, she’s talking about the white women who make 78% of their white male counterparts, not the 46% gap that Latina women face in the workplace. When we discuss sex work, we don’t talk about the transgender women who rely on the industry to survive. Put simply, the discussion that He For She and Emma Watson are having fails to invite the people whose voices need to be heard most to the table.

Of course, the most crucial component of the speech is Watson’s call to action for men that support equality. “Unintentional feminists,” she calls them. These, of course, are men who have been “turned off” by their own assumptions about what feminists are. Men are an important component of breaking down barriers for women, but after years of begging from feminists of all ideological backgrounds, they shouldn’t need a verbal engraved invitation from an actress to get involved. More importantly, there is little discussion of how the men who support He For She will actually stand in solidarity with women.

Many men who consider themselves vocal advocates for feminism have also had a real problem with talking over the women they’re supposed to be supporting. The space of male allies in feminism is a tenuous one, and one that is only successful when male allies use their platforms and privilege to amplify the voices of women, trans men, and nonbinary people. Instead of “He For She,” perhaps the campaign should have been branded “Stand With Women,” to imply that men would be standing beside women instead of standing up for them. Women don’t need to be rescued, whether it’s by men, Emma Watson, or the United Nations. Positioning men as the saviors of oppressed women isn’t productive, and devalues the work that feminists have been doing for decades.

Paying lip service to feminist ideas without actually doing any work to undo oppression isn’t feminist, and it certainly isn’t new. Every few months, it seems as if the media identifies an actress as the new young feminist darling, and Emma Watson is only the latest in the procession. Emma Watson may be making feminism more palatable for people who aren’t comfortable with in-your-face confrontations from less camera-friendly feminists, but she isn’t doing anything new or groundbreaking.

And it’s unfortunate that Emma Watson is selling the same boring, one-dimensional feminism that’s existed since the first hypothetical bra was burned instead of really changing it. She doesn’t deserve to have her privacy and body threatened by terrible internet trolls, but she also probably hasn’t earned her place as a defining feminist of her generation. If Emma Watson really wanted to be a “game changer,” she should have handed the microphone to Laverne Cox or Janet Mock to add some desperately needed diversity to the U.S.’s contingent of U.N. Goodwill Ambassadors.

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Obama Adopts a Reactive Approach Rather Than Showing Leadership

President Barack Obama has chosen, once again, an “in-between” approach to keep all his options open, no matter how contradictory they are. The anti-ISIS coalition operations started by imposing U.S. priorities on the members of the alliance, with the US insisting that that their concerns must wait because the US has priorities including the elimination of the Islamic State in Iraq and Syria (ISIS) and continuing the attempts for rapprochement and appeasement with the Islamic Republic of Iran.

The Arab countries that have taken part in the strikes against ISIS in Syria this week, underscored Barack Obama’s insistence on his priorities. They took part operationally in the raids in the hope that the partnership would practically prompt the US president to contain Iranian regional ambitions in Syria and Iraq – the main theater of the war on ISIS – to challenge them directly and in earnest. Will those hopes be shattered? The answer to this question remains ambiguous, given the conflicting information – if not conflicting US policies in the nuclear negotiations with Iran.

There are clear hints that the five Arab countries that took part in the air strikes in Syria had been coerced, countries that are linked to the US by bilateral security ties that supersede their priorities in Iraq and Syria equally. Yet there are gains that the five countries – Saudi Arabia, the UAE, Qatar, Jordan, and Bahrain – have made through their involvement in the operations in Syria: first, they proved their merit in assuming the responsibilities assigned to them in the coalition against ISIS, no matter where it is, regardless of differing views with the US leadership over this alliance.

Secondly, they precluded the kind of partnership that Syrian President Bashar al-Assad had sought to forge with the US in counterterrorism, as a way to rehabilitate himself and replace the key Arab countries in the alliance against ISIS wherever it may be.

Thirdly, the US entered – finally – as a direct party in Syria, after a long period of repudiation, hesitation, and pussyfooting that accompanied the positions of the President Obama, since the peaceful quest for reforms turned into a devastating conflict.

Fourthly, the Barack Obama administration, finally and after the death of 300,000 Syrians, showed its willingness to provide practical support to the moderate armed Syrian opposition by allowing its Arab allies to supply weapons, train fighters, and provide aid. This is a qualitative shift that could alter the balance of power on the ground, in order to make it possible to resume work toward political solutions.

Fifthly, they opened the door to the possibility of overcoming the Assad complex, along the lines of how the Nuri al-Maliki complex was resolved in Iraq by forcing him to step down from his post as prime minister.

Sixthly, more measures have been taken against foreign fighters in Syria, under a binding resolution of the UN Security Council, which includes Hezbollah fighters.

What the Arab states taking part in this alliance are using as their ammunition is the fact that they are indispensable in this alliance and this war, which the US president said will not end except after the goal of destroying ISIS and its ilk is achieved, no matter how long it takes. These countries are key partners in the war, and are the main influences on the fighters on the ground – or the boots on the ground – in Iraq and Syria. The US president, meanwhile, wants a war that he vowed would have no American troops fighting in it.

The cards that Saudi Arabia holds in particular are crucial, especially in Iraq, where Saudi can – if it wants – be the most important actor that influences the indispensable warriors in the war on ISIS and the like, namely, Sunni tribes in Iraq. Riyadh does not need Washington in this matter, as much as Washington needs Riyadh, which has the keys to those fighters on the ground.

On the Syrian arena, the indispensable warriors are the Free Syrian Army and other forces that are classed as part of the moderate armed Syrian opposition. The Arab countries that can provide weapons, ammunition, cash, and take part in air strikes – such as the UAE – are indispensable for the US as well.

In other words, the war that the US president declared from behind the rostrum at the UN General Assembly and the Security Council, cannot be fought without the Arab partners – including Arab states and the Syrian opposition.

Nevertheless, the key Arab partners in Obama’s war were drawn into his priorities, and agreed to begin military operations without prior guarantees for their priorities, namely: containing the ambitions for Iranian hegemony in Syria and Iraq, and removing Bashar al-Assad after convincing his regime to agree to a transitional governing body that would include representatives from the regime and the opposition until elections are held.

One of the reasons, perhaps, is their conviction that U.S. military operations in Syria would not stop with ISIS and al-Qaeda affiliates, when it becomes clear to President Obama that the actual result of these raids is shoring up the regime in Damascus and allowing it to defeat the moderate opposition, with the US having shunned the terrorist opposition This is an adventure that the Arab poles are engaging in, in the course of their alliance against ISIS. As to the reason for this, the answer lies in their priorities as well. These Arab powers see in turn that ISIS is a direct threat to them in their home soil, and an existential threat to their states.

So, actually, what will happen in Syria is the next step in the war of attrition, with direct US participation and direct Arab assistance. For this reason, the Syrian conflict could drag on.

The conflict in Syria could drag on and on, in the absence of political accords, especially between the US and Iran, and Washington and Moscow. The attrition would affect the Iranian Revolutionary Guards Corps (IRGC), which is deeply involved in Syria, as well as Hezbollah, which continues to fight all spectra of the Syrian opposition in Syria. Most likely, Lebanon will pay a price through ISIS’s retaliation against Obama’s war on the group in Syria and for the ongoing Hezbollah involvement in the Syrian war.

President Obama chose in his speech before the UN General Assembly to mention Lebanon only in one sentence, and he completely ignored Yemen, and mentioned Libya only in passing, while reducing the importance of the Palestinian-Israeli question. Instead, he lectured on the Sunni-Shiite conflict, devoting most of his speech for this topic.

The US president did not present a war strategy except though the standpoint of Arab responsibilities and Muslim duties. He did not address Iran’s regional role beyond its borders in the heart of the Arab world, despite leaked reports that had indicated the US was adamant about tackling the Iranian regional role in the course of nuclear negotiations, followed by other leaked reports that denied this. Obama did not declare a position regarding Bashar al-Assad as he had done before, from the same rostrum, stating that Assad had lost his legitimacy or that his days were numbered, as he once said. Nor did Obama mention the Palestinian state, which he mentioned when he first addressed the UN General Assembly, denying the centrality of the Palestinian cause and only saying that the situation in the West Bank and Gaza at present is not sustainable.

Barack Obama called on the leaderships and the popular bases in the Arab region to radically change their concepts, attitudes, and behavior, but forgot or ignored that their differences with him are primarily “personally political.”

This president has finally decided to engage in the Middle East after ISIS lured him into this involvement. He accepted ISIS’s invitation, and bypassed the demands and political censure from the popular base, deciding instead to dictate his terms to the leaders.

Barack Obama did not seize he opportunity to rework his personal and historical legacy, at the very least in his speech before the world. He declared an incomplete war on terror, just like he declared a futile war on Russia when he named it as one of three major challenges: The Ebola virus, Russia’s role in Ukraine, and the terrorism of ISIS and its sisters.

This is not a conscious leadership. This is a classically reactive policy. If only the US president would rise up to the level of challenges with a comprehensive strategy rather than tactics that keep him trapped in the “in-between” box.

Meanwhile, regarding the Arab participation in the airstrikes on ISIS in Syria, it is no simple matter that the UAE has tasked a woman to pilot an F-16 fighter jet and strike ISIS, which targets women in its barbaric wars through rape and various kinds of oppression and humiliation. There is a very important message behind this choice.

Translated from Arabic by Karim Traboulsi

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7 Small Islands That Should Be on Your Radar

When you think of island life, it’s likely that paradise-like destinations such as Jamaica, Hawaii or Aruba come to mind. But within North America there are many smaller, closer-to-home islands that are loaded with local charm without the high price tag (or long plane ride). Check out our list of small islands to have on your radar next time you need a getaway:

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Life of Professional Surf Photographer Chris Burkard

Written by Scott Bosco

Since he was a child, Chris Burkard had dreams of making the cover of Surfer Magazine as a photographer.
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Now at 28-years-old, the Central Coast raised adventurer has not only had several covers published on Surfer Magazine, but he has held many senior photographer positions, worked on countless projects leading him around the globe, and has established himself as one of the most well-known surf and travel photographers, with over ten sponsors.
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“That was always one of my goals as a kid,” Burkard said about making the cover of Surfer Magazine. “To be able to slowly climb the ranks, I felt like I finally made it.”

But every journey begins with a unique first step, and Burkard’s journey began in a 1976 Volkswagen Bus.

At the age of 19, Chris enrolled at Cuesta College where he was first introduced to photography. At that time, he was barely scraping by and mostly shooting for fun, until he published his first book. The photo-journal of Burkard and professional surfer and friend, Eric Soderquist’s six-month surfing trip in a 1976 Volkswagen Bus along the California coast, was published as ‘The California Surf Project‘ in 2009.
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“Right when I got my first book deal with Chronicle Books on The California Surf Project, things really started taking off,” Burkard said. “The momentum that was created for me was a real testament that this [photography] is what I need to do.”

Since then, his career in photography has continued to evolve, winning several awards with photos of larger-than-life landscapes composed with elements of solitude and danger.

Each photo screams adventure that’s as sharp as a cracking whip, then lingers with a haunting sensation of inspiration that you can’t escape.
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You can see Burkard’s work and more of his story in The Surf Channel‘s original series titled, “Exposure,” featuring the world’s most talented surf photographers:

Islamic State Reportedly Destroys 7th Century Green Church In Tikrit, Iraq. One Of Middle East's Oldest Christian Sites

Islamic State continues to destroy sacred sites across Iraq.

The militant group reportedly blew up a 7th century Christian site known as the Green Church in Tikrit, Iraq on Wednesday. The site belonged to the Assyrian Church of the East and was restored by the Saddam Hussein regime in 2000, according to RT News.

A source on the ground told Iraqi news that the militants used “improvised explosive devices” planted in the surrounding area. The entire church was reportedly destroyed in the blast.

The Christian church was not the only holy site destroyed by the Islamic State on Wednesday. The group appears to have also targeted a historic Muslim site, the mosque Al Arbain in the center of Tikrit.

Since its escalation over the summer the militant group also known as ISIS has wrought destruction on all in its path, regardless of faith. In July militants razed a site in Mosul, Iraq thought to be the tomb of the biblical prophet Jonah, sacred in Islam, Christianity and Judaism.

And although ISIS has targeted Christians and Yazidis, one alleged member of the group in July revealed a plot to destroy the Kaaba in Mecca, Saudi Arabia — Islam’s most holy site.

Mass Dog Vaccination Could Eliminate Rabies Globally

By Rachael Rettner, Senior Writer
Published: 09/25/2014 02:20 PM EDT on LiveScience

It is possible to eliminate cases of the deadly rabies virus in people worldwide through mass vaccinations of dogs, some researchers argue.

Rabies cases are extremely rare in developed countries — in the United States, there was just one rabies case in 2013, and the patient acquired the disease while in Guatemala, according to researchers from Washington State University. Effective rabies vaccines have been available for years, but the virus still kills more than 69,000 people yearly worldwide, most of them children in Africa and Asia.

The rabies vaccine can be given to people after a possible exposure to the virus, and is extremely effective in preventing the disease from taking hold. But once a person begins to show symptoms of rabies — which can include delirium, abnormal behavior, hallucinations and partial paralysis — the disease is almost always fatal.

“The irony is that rabies is 100 percent preventable. People shouldn’t be dying at all,” said Dr. Guy Palmer, a veterinary infectious disease expert at Washington State University’s Allen School for Global Animal Health. [5 Viruses That Are Scarier Than Ebola]

In an article published today (Sept. 25) in the journal Science, Palmer and his colleagues argue that eliminating rabies cases is possible if doctors, veterinarians and public health professionals work together to establish mass vaccination programs for dogs.

Although rabies can infect many different animals, studies show that domestic dogs, rather than wildlife, are the main source of rabies infections in people, the researchers said.

In his article, Palmer pointed to a 2009 study that found that vaccinating 70 percent of dogs in villages in the East African country of Tanzania was enough to break the chain of rabies transmission from dogs to people, and eventually eliminate the disease in those areas.

Since a mass dog vaccination program began in Tanzania in 2003, the number of deaths from rabies droped from 50 a year to almost zero, the researchers said.

Studies also show that vaccinating 70 percent of dogs in an area is cost-effective, and less expensive over the long term than providing vaccinations to bite victims, the researchers said.

In many countries, progress toward eliminating rabies is “hampered by lack of political commitment and financing,” the researchers wrote. Support from international human and animal health organizations could play an important role in scaling up pilot dog vaccination programs to the national level, they said.

“Caine rabies elimination meets all the criteria for a global health priority: It is epidemiologically and logistically feasible, cost effective, and socially equitable,” they wrote.

The vision of Louis Pasteur, who invented the first rabies vaccination in 1885 and wanted to rid the world of the disease, “is within our reach,” the researchers said.

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Get Through Cancer: Check?

I grew up with goal setting as a key component to our family life. Literally — my sisters, Mom, Dad and I would meet at my father’s office at least once a year and assess our dynamics as a family unit. We would whiteboard a traditional SWOT exercise (Strengths, Weaknesses, Opportunities, Threats) and together create goals as to how we could each better engage in our family dynamics. I was 7 years old. In hindsight, perhaps a bit daunting for a girl of my age, but I have no doubt it was those sessions that helped ingrain the critical thinking skills that cultivated much of my entrepreneurial spirit.

In my late 20s and early 30s, I turned goal agnostic. I was resentful of always being in planning mode. I had started to explore and embrace so many facets of spirituality and feeling truly connected to the concept of trusting the universe and a genuine belief that things ALWAYS work out exactly as the should. Easy to believe when you are giving other people advise.

And then I got cancer and I realized that I am in fact a pretty disciplined person who likes to check things off a good to do list while simultaneously honoring the ability to be present. I appreciated that for better or worse, it was those early years of goal setting that became ingrained in my spirit.

My journey with cancer provided an entire year and a half of goal setting that I wasn’t even aware was keeping me going. My mentality was if I could just get to the next goal, then I could focus on whatever was next.

If I could just get through understanding the diagnosis and a team I trust — check!
If I could just get through communicating to my friends, family and colleagues — check!
If I could just be open to the emotional and spiritual guidance and support — check!
If I could just get through the double mastectomy and gain my strength — check!
If I could just understand the next course of treatment — check!
If I could just get through the 16 sessions of chemo –each, god damn session — check!
If I could just get my strength back — pending
If my hair, eyebrows and eyelashes would just grow back — pending
If I could just get through the reconstruction and start to feel whole again — pending
If I could just get through the awkwardness of accepting my new body — pending
If I could just go back in for additional reconstruction and accept my new body — pending

As I just completed the last official phase of my reconstruction, which I will spare the details, I found myself sitting in the airport on my way home from MD Anderson. I was at the exact same gate at the very start of this crazy journey where I sent the email to all my friends and family announcing that I had breast cancer. And I lost it. Like really lost it — like heaving, needing to put on sunglasses and asking the gate agent if I could pre-board lost it.

I’m not sure if it was the fact that I had been sitting in a procedure room getting tattooed needles poked in me for four hours, or the finality of everything and reaching a point which my doctors recognize as the true “completion” phase and simply not feeling complete. Or perhaps it was simply the recognition that I have been down a road filled with physical, emotional and spiritual challenge that at times seemed unfair and too much to bear. Perhaps this was my first moment of being on the other side without any tangible next “TO DO,” and I didn’t need to be strong for anyone else, especially myself.

In many ways, perhaps the real journey is now just beginning where living my life with intention, creating goals, embracing present moment awareness and trusting universal guidance can all blend uniquely together to create this place called a new normal. A new normal that is filled with happiness, love, creativity and joy which are things I (and we all ) deserve. A place where I realize nothing is ever really complete or checked off the list, but rather intended to remind me who I am, what I am capable of, and to always honor the moment at hand.

You can read more about Paige’s musings as an entrepreneur, mindfulness + meditation teacher, and recent breast cancer survivor at her website Soul Sparks.

Ted Cruz: Democrats Are An 'Extreme, Radical Party'

WASHINGTON — In front of a highly supportive crowd at the Values Voter Summit, Sen. Ted Cruz (R-Texas) accused Democrats on Friday of being an “extreme, radical party” intent on taking away the rights of Americans.

“These are dangerous, radical times,” Cruz said at the conservative conference, where he received multiple standing ovations during a 30-minute speech that touched on everything from gun rights, Obamacare and abortion to the persecution of Christians around the globe.

Cruz said the U.S. is fundamentally a center-right nation and that he expects the GOP to take back the Senate this year, and the White House in 2016.

Among other things, the senator criticized Democrats for the so-called birth control mandate in Obamacare, and for fighting groups who have sought exemptions because they say it goes against their values. He said former Secretary of State Hillary Clinton, a potential 2016 presidential candidate, should be forced to spend a day debating the group of nuns from Little Sisters of the Poor Home for the Aged who are going against the mandate.

“As for me, I’ll stand with the nuns,” he said.

UPDATE: 11:25 a.m. — The Democratic National Committee responded to Cruz in a statement, saying they’re happy to debate him on whether Democrats are truly “radical.”

“If Senator Cruz thinks that fighting for opportunity for all, like paying women as much as men, raising the minimum wage or fixing our broken immigration system is extreme and radical — that’s a debate we’re thrilled to have,” DNC spokesman Michael Czin said. “Exactly a year ago, Ted Cruz was busy orchestrating the government shutdown that ultimately cost our economy $24 billion. Today he’s promoting a fringe agenda that does nothing to help grow our economy and expand opportunity. The choice for voters in November couldn’t be clearer.”

Only Half Of Gay And Bisexual Men With HIV Are Getting The Care They Need

We’ve got some of the most powerful antiretroviral HIV drugs at our disposal, capable of preventing AIDS and prolonging life to near-normal expectancy, but they’re only reaching a fraction of the people who need it.

A disturbing report released Thursday by the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention finds that only about half of HIV-positive gay and bisexual men in the United States are receiving treatment. And only 42 percent had achieved viral suppression, or the point at which there are such low levels of the virus in the blood that the chance of passing it on to others is greatly reduced. Only 77.5 percent of HIV-positive gay and bisexual men were linked to some kind of HIV health care within three months of diagnosis.

“The most powerful tool for protecting the health of people living with HIV and preventing new HIV infections is really only reaching a fraction of the men who need it,” said Richard Wolitski, Ph.D., an expert on HIV among gay and bisexual men, as well as a senior advisor in the CDC’s Division of HIV/AIDS Prevention. “The goal of HIV treatment is for everyone to achieve viral suppression.”

The report was compiled from 2010 data and will serve as a baseline for future surveys, explained Wolitski. So while it can’t tell us whether these rates are an improvement or a regression from years past, the number of people getting treatment is still too low — especially considering that almost everyone with HIV who takes antiretroviral drugs can achieve suppression.

“The treatments that we have available today are so much more effective and so much easier to take than the medications that were available early in the HIV epidemic,” Wolitski told The Hufington Post. “HIV has really become a health condition that can be treated and monitored effectively if the right care is given and started early.”

The rates are especially troubling for young people and for men of color. When the data is split up by race, only 37 percent of black gay and bisexual men have achieved viral suppression, as opposed to 44 percent of white and 42 percent of Latino gay and bisexual men.

Analyzed by age, 25.9 percent of gay and bisexual men ages 18 to 24 achieved viral suppression, as opposed to 42 percent of the overall population.

There are a lot of obstacles that can block men from their medicine, including lack of experience with the health care system, no family support and stigma that could make men afraid to reveal their HIV status to their support networks. All these factors make it more difficult to keep up with the demands of biannual check-ups and daily medication (usually pills). Mental health issues and substance abuse problems could also prevent men from accessing the drugs they need.

But the primary barriers are poverty and lack of insurance, despite the fact that HIV drugs are covered by Medicaid and federal funds are available through the Ryan White HIV/AIDS program, which fills in funding gaps that aren’t covered by Medicaid or private health insurance.

The Affordable Care Act could also end up making a significant dent in these numbers. In a report released last January, the Kaiser Family Foundation estimated that of the 407,000 people with HIV who are already linked to health care, 70,000 are estimated to be uninsured. But because of the health care act, 23,000 would gain coverage through the insurance marketplace, while 46,910 more would become eligible for expanded Medicaid — provided that all states sign up for expanded Medicaid. As of September, only 27 states and the District of Columbia plan to participate.

As for the estimated 700,000 people with HIV who aren’t linked to care yet, the Kaiser Family Foundation estimates that ACA changes could mean health coverage for an additional 124,000 more people.

In Chicago, rates of HIV infection have jumped among gay and bisexual men under 30, mostly among black men. To close the HIV treatment gap and prevent more infections, advocacy groups and governmental organizations have to work together, said Simone Koehlinger, senior vice president of programming at AIDS Foundation of Chicago.

“For states like Illinois where Medicaid has expanded, you want to make sure that the Medicaid managed care plans continue to cover services that are needed, that formularies are covering the effective HIV drugs and that people who were perhaps not covered for many years … understand [how to navigate] the health care system,” said Koehlinger in a phone interview with HuffPost.

As important as funding, though, are programs that continue to provide cross-cultural education about HIV/AIDS to decrease stigma around the disease, something that the AIDS Foundation of Chicago has done since its founding in 1985. Among its other priorities are advocating on behalf of patients to keep medications affordable, educating HIV/AIDS clients about their medication options, and training health care providers on how to bridge cultural divides about the disease.

Or Else

“Well, my child won’t be like that.”

Are there any more hilarious words to come out of the mouths of not-quite-yet parents? Many an actual parent has enjoyed the spectacle of non-parents making pronouncements about a child they haven’t even met yet, combined with criticism of the parenting skills of people whose children are actually here.

“Well, I would never let my child get away with that. My child will eat exactly what I put in front of him.”

“My child will certainly not still be wearing diapers at that age.”

“My child will never, ever behave like that.”

“With what we now know about cognitive development, I will have my child ready to read and analyze 19th century Russian novels in their original language by age three.”

As all actual parents know, this kind of predicting is hilarious because, as it turns out, children are less like programmable toaster-ovens and more like actual independently-functioning live human beings.And for real live human beings, developmental milestones come when they come. You may have your heart set on recording Junior’s first steps before his first birthday, but he’s going to walk when he’s ready to walk.

These developmental milestones are not really negotiable. Your thirteen-month-old child is not sitting there on his butt because he has decided to Fight the Power and Stick It To the Man. You can certainly help his development either by providing the positives of help and support and a loving, safe environment. But in the end, he’s going to walk when he’s ready and able to walk.

You know what won’t help him walk? Threats.

We’ve seen those parents. They’re so invested in being right, so frustrated that this child who is making them look foolish and ineffectual by not delivering on their “Not my kid” pronouncement, so angry that their will is being thwarted by this child. So they go to threats.

You are going to do this, they say, Or Else.

Or Else doesn’t work, not really. It never has. History is filled with proof. You will switch to being right-handed instead of left-handed, or else. You will convert to the True Faith, or else. You will stop falling in love with the Wrong People, or else. The most you can hope for is compliance. Or Else never gets you real change.

Or Else can only get you compliance if it’s possible. Grow a foot taller, or else, is a waste of energy.When compliance is not possible, we can expect to foster anger or resentment or a deep sense of personal failure or a complete loss of respect for us, and for our stupid, impossible demands.

So where do you think it gets us to turn to the eight-year-olds of America and say, “You must be able to read as well as we say by the date we pick in the spring. Or else.”

What do the state legislators who passed “reading guarantee” laws imagine was going on — that a great pack of third graders were out there perfectly capable of reading, but just refusing to learn out of laziness and spite, waiting for someone to kick their little tushies and get them in gear? Did they imagine we are awash in a nation of elementary teachers whose attitude is, “I don’t really care if my kids learn anything. I’m just in this for the money and the recess.”

Why not a height guarantee law? Let’s guarantee every parent that their child will be forty-five inches tall or we will keep flunking the kid till he grows properly. Let’s flunk any child is over or under weight according to the growth charts. Let’s flunk any left-handed kid until he finally switches to the proper hand.

Or Else is a terrible way to raise children. Having expectations that are so rigid that you have already mapped out the child’s life before you meet the child — that’s no way to parent, and it’s certainly no way to run a school system.

Cross-posted from Curmudgucation.