Woman's Day Magazine Features Groundbreaking Article About Transgender Family

Woman’s Day broke ground recently with an article featuring a Christian mother and her transgender son.

The story, titled “The Son God Gave Me,” was published in the October 2014 issue of the lifestyle magazine and focused on Gina Kentopp and her transgender son, Kyle.

Kentopp told Women’s Day she reconciled her traditional Christian faith with acceptance of her child after reading the memoir of a gay Christian.

“Instead of asking God to change your child, the author suggested, why don’t you ask Him to change your heart?” she said. “It was a revelation: I had never even considered that idea.”

Kentopp says she ultimately formed a strong, supportive bond with her son built on a foundation of trust and found an accepting church for her family to attend.

Now that Kyle is in college and thriving, she decided to share her story with the magazine in order to help other families and challenge stereotypes about religion, she told The Huffington Post. While there were some negative comments in response to the article, Kentopp said the majority of the feedback she has received has been “beautiful” and positive.

Woman’s Day seconded that response.

“We’ve wanted to touch on this subject for some time, and when we found Gina, we were so moved by her story that we knew the time was right,” Editor-in-Chief Susan Spencer told HuffPost. “A devout Christian, Gina came to believe that loving your child and putting him or her first is the most important thing, regardless of one’s preconceived notions or personal beliefs.”

“While we did receive some negative comments online and through letters, we were thrilled to have received mostly positive reader reaction,” she added, “which reaffirmed our hope that by telling a story through the eyes of someone with whom they have much in common, our readers would be able to embrace a point of view that may not be prevalent in their communities.”

Family Circle made a similar move when it featured a gay family in its September 2014 issue, the first time a same-sex couple was ever featured since the publication launched in 1932. The magazine received backlash from its readers, but Linda Fears, vice president and editor-in-chief, defended the decision as an honest depiction of the “American family life today.”

The No-Makeup Fix For Puffy Eyes

By Corrie Pikul

We ask the experts for some DIY ways to deflate (plus, one last-resort procedure).

The De-Puffing Diet

What’s happening: Eating sugar causes inflammation all over the body; you’re noticing it under the eyes because the skin is especially thin and prone to swelling.

What to try: “Whenever we ask patients to give up sugar for any health issue, the first thing they notice is that under-eye swelling immediately improves,” says Patricia K. Farris, MD, a clinical associate professor of dermatology at Tulane University.

What not to try: Maybe you’ve heard the beauty pageant trick of dabbing Preparation H under the eyes. Although it might decrease swelling slightly, Farris cautions that it’s not worth risking irritation or even an allergic reaction that could occur in delicate under eye skin. Also avoid witch hazel and other astringents — they won’t eliminate the puffiness, Farris says, but they will probably cause dryness and irritation.

The New Beauty Habit That Could Save Your Eyes

What’s happening: Tiny aerosol particles are notorious for landing on eyelids and irritating the skin in the area, says Brooke Jackson, MD, an associate professor of dermatology at UNC at Chapel Hill. Hairspray tends to be the worst offender.

What to try: If you can’t give up your hairspray, Jackson says that washing your face after you spritz your hair will rinse away most of the potentially irritating particles.

What not to try: Don’t underestimate the other sprays in your bathroom: Body mist, deodorant spray and room fresheners can also be irritants, especially for those who are sensitive to allergy triggers like dust, pollen and pets.

The Spot Fixes in Your Kitchen

What’s happening: Drinking alcohol causes blood vessels to dilate, and the extra blood under the eyes is contributing to puffiness as well as dark circles.

What to try: Farris suggests a cool compress with green-tea bags, which have antioxidants that also act as anti-inflammatories. As a bonus, the caffeine constricts blood vessels, counteracting the effect of alcohol. Other good options: Bags of frozen peas (they’re better than cucumbers at conforming to the area, says Farris); cotton balls soaked in cool water or skim milk.

What not to try: Farris has heard of patients putting warm tea bags on their eyes, which may feel comforting but actually makes puffiness worse.

The Best Sleep Position for Your Face

What’s happening: It’s true what you’ve heard about salt: It makes you retain fluid, and that causes bloating everywhere but especially under the eyes, where there isn’t much room for the fluid to be dispersed.

What to try: Sleeping with your head elevated—it must be above your heart, says Farris — increases circulation, preventing the fluid from pooling in your head and face.

What not to try: Sleeping while sitting up (don’t laugh — Farris says some patients have done this) isn’t comfortable, and few people can stay in that position for long. If you’re restless or not sleeping well, that can contribute to dark circles, which make puffy eyes more noticeable. (Exercising after you wake up also boosts circulation, but Farris says it may still take about an hour for your eyes to look normal.)

The Pills That Can Treat Under-Eye Bags

What’s happening: Your allergies and sinus issues are affecting your face.

What to try: Take your 24-hour antihistamine pills before bed. This medication blocks the actions of symptom-triggering histamines throughout the body but can often take a few hours to kick in. If you take them at night, they’ll start fighting puffiness even before you wake up.

What not to try: Patients often wait to address allergies until they’re sniffling and sneezing, says Jackson, but that’s when swollen eyes are hardest to treat.

The Dermatologist’s Solution

What’s happening: As we age, the muscles and other support structures around the eyes weaken. This may result in sagging of the eyelid skin, as well as migration of the fat pads around the eye to the spot just below, causing those dreaded bags, says Jackson.

What to try: If you’ve changed your diet, your routine and your beauty products and nothing has worked, a dermatologist can inject fillers into the tear trough to smooth out the area, says Jackson.

What not to try: Sadly, Jackson says, there isn’t any cream than has been proven to shrink the fat pads under the eyes.

As a reminder, always consult your doctor for medical advice and treatment before starting any program.

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5 Ways to Love Someone With Mental Illness

The stigma and shame surrounding mental illness takes a toll on family members, making it difficult to find support when someone you love has mental illness. It’s important for family members to break the silence about mental illness because as caregivers we can feel isolated and alone. Time, resources, and energy are often focused on our loved one’s mental health needs, leaving us wondering how to maintain a loving relationship. Here are five ways we can love someone with mental illness (and still love ourselves):

1. Educate yourself about your loved one’s diagnosis. Search NAMI (National Alliance on Mental Illness) for the most up-to-date information about mental illness. For resources on teens and mental health, click KidsHealth.

2. Encourage and model self-care and wellness. To function at our best we all need to exercise, eat healthy, and get enough sleep. This is especially true for people with a mental illness. You can help by inviting your loved one to join you in healthy lifestyle choices. Try to avoid binge eating or drinking. Prevention, treatment and recovery from mental illness is possible with quality mental health care.

3. Be a safe person. Your loved one needs a safe person to talk to and trust. As a safe person, you affirm that the person is not defined by the illness. As a safe person you do what you need to do to ensure the safety of yourself and loved one. This means that you have a wellness plan in case of emergencies and will call 911 if you are concerned that your loved one is at risk for self-injury, suicide or harming others. (People with mental illness are more likely to be a victim of violence than to commit violence.) Help your loved one develop a Wellness Recovery Action Plan.

4. Do not love alone. Loving someone with a mental illness can be the most thrilling and terrifying rollercoaster ride of your life. Don’t ride it alone. Find other people to offer you support, encouragement, and guidance. You might benefit from professional counseling yourself or participating in a support group, or a prayer group. NAMI offers a Family-to-Family support network.

5. Know when to take a break. There are times when we cannot be that person. Caregivers need to take breaks before they burn out from emotional exhaustion. If you are feeling overwhelmed, isolated, and scared about your loved one’s mental illness and its impact on you, then it is time to re-evaluate the dynamics of the relationship. This is hard. Taking a break does not mean that you don’t love the person. It means you are taking a break. Getting some space and time away is healthy, creating time for self-reflection and exploration of the sacrifices you are willing to make for the sake of the relationship. Sometimes taking a break or time apart can help you gain perspective.

Blessed are the Crazy: Breaking the Silence about Mental Illness, Family, and Church is a raw story of my journey to love myself and family members with mental illness. Like me, you might discover after taking time apart for some soul searching that loving a person with a mental illness is a blessing.

Microsoft Band Fitness Tracker for $199

Microsoft Band Fitness TrackerMicrosoft announced on Wednesday the planned release of its own wearable fitness tracker, the Microsoft Band. The device is available for purchase on Thursday from Microsoft for $199, and will work with Android, iOS and of course Windows Phone 8.1.

Among the features targeting fitness, the Microsoft Band tracks your exercise reps, calories burned, heart rate around the clock and your sleep. It also has a UV monitor built in with real-time UX information to make educated decisions on sun protection when you go out.

The wearable tech from Microsoft helps with more than just fitness, though and throws its hat into the ring against other popular wearable devices for Android and Apple. The Band will display a small snippet of your incoming emails, syncs with a calender to provide reminders and will let the user voice interact with Cortana to set reminders, ask directions, etc. It will also pick up text messages and incoming calls and let you send a canned response from your wrist.

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