10 Things No One Tells You About Wedding Dress Shopping

By Lauren Kay for TheKnot.com

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There are some things you just don’t find out until you try on a wedding dress yourself.

1. Breakfast actually is the most important meal of the day.
Starting out “hangry” is like shopping suicide. You probably don’t need to wolf down a burger and fries moments before you step into that slinky gown, but make sure you have something to eat before getting started. Trying on gowns is emotionally and physically draining (some dresses weigh twice as much as a puppy!). You may even sweat a little, so fuel up!

2. Choose your companions wisely.
Most bridal salons are happy to welcome you and a few guests (not your entire entourage). This is actually a good thing! There’s only room for a couple extra bodies and all that tulle anyway, and you’ll have fewer people weighing in on your decision. Its great to have trusted opinions, but too many and you’ll be paralyzed with fear of making the wrong choice.

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3. Wear a touch more make up than usual.
Buying a fancy dress is not an everyday occurrence — it’s going to be a tricky decision no matter what. Not to mention the unflattering florescent lighting typical of most fitting rooms. Do yourself a favor and wear a touch more makeup than your usual look (we’re talking some blush and black eyeliner) to your appointment. You’ll look more like you will on your wedding day, which will ultimately make it easier to pull the trigger on a gown.

4. Be prepared to strip down.
Truth: A veritable stranger may catch glimpses of you naked. Most consultants will give you some privacy, but because dresses can be unwieldy or delicate they’ll want to help you in and out of them. Wear undergarments that you don’t mind seeing the light of day (we recommend light-color boy shorts and a strapless bra). If you’re a modest-kind of girl, speak up from the start.

5. Trust your consultant.
She may be older than your Mom or still single, but she wouldn’t be doing this if she wasn’t totally qualified. Your consultant knows the dresses and sees hundreds of brides with varying body shapes try them on every day. Make sure you share your wants (lace, a-line, sleeves) but be open to her suggestions–you may end up with one of her picks when its all said and done.

6. A bridal 8 is not a J.Crew 8.
Don’t panic. You do not need to enroll in Bridal Boot Camp — wedding gown sizes are not the same as “street” clothes. If you wear an 8 in your favorite summer dress, there’s a good chance you’ll be wearing a 12 or 14 down the aisle. Focus on how great you feel in the dress, not the number on the tag.

7. Try on styles that aren’t “you.”
Even if you have your heart set on a mermaid lace gown, or think you can’t wear silk, try on a variety of gowns. You’re only going to do this once and you may surprise yourself by choosing something completely different than the pins on your inspiration board. And try the dress that your mother (or grandmother or mother-in-law-to-be) is just sure is “the one” — she’s been looking forward to this day too. She’ll either see that you were right about the skirt swallowing you whole, or you may shock yourself by actually liking the dress — it’s a win-win.

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8. Some “other” bride might be wearing “your” dress.
Let’s get real: you’re not the only bride planning a June wedding, so its entirely possible someone else will be trying on “your” dream dress. Or, you may see someone wearing an illusion back gown that you hadn’t considered and want to try it on RIGHT. THIS. MINUTE. Play nice — share the mirrors, pedestals and even the gowns.

9. Don’t just stand there, move around!
Sure, there will be moments when you’re standing still at your wedding (like when you say I do). But you’ll also be sitting and mingling and getting down on the dance floor. If you think the dress is a serious contender, take a walk around the salon, sit down, practice your “SHOUT!” technique. You may feel foolish in the moment, but you’ll be glad you gave the gown a test drive when you’re comfortable all day and night.

10. You may not cry.
Maybe emotion will overcome you. Maybe your Mom will get choked up too. But it’s totally okay if no one cries. It doesn’t mean you picked the wrong gown (even if you’re the first to tear at a sappy commercial). Every bride is different so don’t put pressure on yourself to react a certain way. Also, your consultant may not pop a bottle of champagne (some can’t due to liquor laws) like you see on TV. Take your shopping companions out for a celebratory drink instead — you all deserve it!

Bonus: When you’ve found the dress, most salons require you to sign a contract and put down a deposit on the spot. You may have to commit to things like a size and any customizations (adding sleeves, dropping the waist) you and your consultant discussed. Ask about alteration costs, which can add up. And ask if any discounts are available — you’re not going to get half off, but there may be an upcoming trunk show or a special rate for purchasing your bridesmaids dresses at the same salon. Sometimes you’ll get lucky and they’ll throw in a veil — it never hurts to ask!

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How An Impoverished Nation Became The Most Generous Country In The World

HLAING THARYAR, Myanmar (AP) — “The food cart is coming!” the hungry little boy shouts, his face lighting up.

More than 100 people sitting in the grass and beneath the dark midday shadows of giant trees turn to look at the nearby Buddhist monastery. As a monk moves through the gates with a huge pot of rice and curry, orphans, homeless children and jobless men and women line up with crumpled plastic bags.

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The monks ladle up food that was offered to them just hours earlier during their dawn collection of alms. That cycle of giving is part of what earned this impoverished Southeast Asian nation a seemingly unlikely title: the world’s most generous nation.

The Charities Aid Foundation looked at wide-ranging giving patterns by respondents globally over a month-long period. It ranked countries based on the percentage of people who said they had donated money, volunteered or helped strangers in the month before they were surveyed.

In its latest World Giving Index, released Tuesday, the U.K.-based group said that Myanmar — turned into one of the world’s poorest nations during a half-century of dictatorial rule, corruption and mismanagement — shared the top spot with the United States.

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The index ranked 135 countries based on data from the Gallup World Poll, which last year surveyed 500 to 2,000 people in each of the countries involved. Most surveys, including the one conducted in Myanmar Sept. 24-Oct. 13, 2013, were of about 1,000 people. Myanmar’s survey had a margin of error of plus or minus 3.4 percentage points, and three states representing less than 5 percent of the population were not included in the face-to-face interviews.

The report said that in Myanmar, 91 percent of those surveyed said they had recently donated money, No. 1 in the world. It tied with the U.S. under the survey when volunteerism and helping strangers were also considered.

The foundations attributed Myanmar’s giving to the deeply rooted charitable traditions of Theravada Buddhism, the country’s dominant religion.

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There are half a million Buddhist monks in Myanmar, making up about 1 percent of the country’s population of about 50 million — a higher percentage than any other country.

Giving monks money and food is a way for followers to earn merit. It enables monks, who cannot work, to spend their days meditating and reciting Buddhist prayers.

But in Hlaing Tharyar, a massive industrial zone outside the commercial capital, orange-robed men of faith are surrounded by suffering, and have given much of the food they receive to those in greater need.

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Myanmar hoped that after its military rulers handed over power in 2011, the lifting of Western sanctions would help speed development. But the infusion of billions of dollars in foreign aid and investment has in many cases increased the gap between the rich and the poor.

Many of those in Hlaing Tharya were victims of Cyclone Nargis, which in 2008 swept away hundreds of thousands of people and their homes in the nearby delta region. Some migrated to Yangon and surrounding townships, hoping to find work at one of the many factories now popping up.

With more people than jobs, and no safety nets, large numbers ended up in the streets instead.

Every morning, just before dawn and then again just after, more than 50 monks and novices from Mahar Aung Myae monastery wind through the dark, uneven streets of their neighborhood to collect food from residents who stand in front of their small wooden shacks holding out offerings.

When the barefooted monks return to the monastery, they combine most of what they have gathered into a giant pot and bring it to those waiting outside their gates.

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Those who donate are better off than those who receive, but there is poverty on both sides. And while other monasteries sometimes give food they don’t need to the poor, is it rare for one in an impoverished neighborhood to do so on a regular basis.

The child who first spots the food truck this sunny afternoon is around 6. A garbage picker, he survives on what others throw away.

Through his dark smudged face, his wide eyes sparkle as he watches his bag being filled with food. Moments later he disappears, eager to fill his stomach.

'Kourtney And Khloe (Hardly) Take The Hamptons' Episode 4 Recap

It’s always a strange and eerie episode of “Kardashians” when Princess Kim K is the voice of reason. On last night’s epsiode of “Kourtney and Khloe Take The Hamptons” (still using the word “take” very lightly), Kim dropped some really powerful knowledge bombs on all of us.

On Scott wanting to leave rehab: “He’s just being … an addict.”
On turning 30: “Jesus only lived to 33.”
On aging: “You get like one tiny wrinkle the day you turn 30 at midnight.”

The episode opened with Scott coming to terms with the fact that he needs to go to rehab. It was actually a very sweet and introspective moment for him and I truly hope that he stays there and continues to heal. According to the previews for next week’s episode though, he does not. And according to his Instagram, he is still hosting parties, so that does not bode well for his future sobriety.

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Also, was it just me or did your heart sink and melt into a puddle of goo when Scott left all the toys and candy for Kourtney and the kids at the Gansevoort? That was a lovely moment. It almost made up for all the sucky moments between them that we’ve been watching for the past three episodes (slash 9 years). Almost.

Khloe turned 30 and she was not down. They had a boat party and French Montana slurred some things into a microphone. Business as usual. Khloe looked smoking hot but she wasn’t feeling it. We’ve all been there.

French also threw Khloe a surprise party, which was very sweet, and bought her a new tricked out ride, which was very generous. I would have thought more of the Khloe/French developments if shortly thereafter Khloe hadn’t dropped the line we’ve all been anticipating/dreading:

“If I had my way I would still be married to Lamar. Even right now today I wish I was still married to him.”

Sigh. We love you Khloe, and we’re rooting for you. You deserve every happiness, and take it from Kim, turning 30 will be amazing!

She also hit us with this piece of wisdom, which was very apt.

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Kris, Kendall and Kylie also came out to the Hamptons last night. Kris was her usual Kris Jenner self — making anything and everything about her and acting too young for her age. But what else would you expect? At least she is consistent.

Kendall and Kylie straight up slayed in every scene they were in. They are so chic it hurts. You know what else hurts though? When they open their mouths. They are so bratty, I can’t. Kylie thinking about texting Scott in rehab so she can take his “Lambo”? Like no. Just stop. You are 16 (in this episode) and a terror on the road. Calm down.

Still though, so chic.

Speaking of chic, all the ladies looked absolutely beautiful on last night’s episode. They might not be taking the Hamptons per se, but the Hamptons sure look good on them!

Do We Need Human Rights?

“If we equate freedom with choice, then we lose our ability to recognise that which actually enslaves us, and our choice-making both confirms and deepens our bondage, regardless of what we choose.” – Jean Baudrillard

For many Maslow’s hierarchy of needs is an important distinction in what makes up a human right. As long as most have a roof over their head, food, and water and etc. then their basic human rights are fulfilled. However, my claim in this post is that Maslow was a bit shortsighted in his sociological assessment, he was too universal, and forgot another element in the human story — the element of evolutionary desire. What about those who don’t want to live in some typical brick-and-mortar house? What about those who desire a baser existence? This post will explore the hidden ideology behind the current state of human rights and why we might need an alternative framework as we move into a post-human era. Let’s be honest, if rights-based thinking was as good as it promised, would we be where we are today?

These statistics demonstrate the failure of an ideology that purports to make the world better:

At least 80 percent of humanity lives on less than $10 a day. According to UNICEF, 22,000 children die each day due to poverty. And they “die quietly in some of the poorest villages on earth, far removed from the scrutiny and the conscience of the world”. Nearly a billion people entered the 21st century unable to read a book or sign their names. Less than one percent of what the world spent every year on weapons was needed to put every child into school by the year 2000 and yet it didn’t happen. The arms trade is a major cause of human rights abuses. Some governments spend more on military expenditure than on social development, communications infrastructure and health combined.

What the idea of human rights does is setup a barrier between those who have rights, and those who don’t. One group is privileged and the other is not. To put this in a clearer context, let’s talk about the most ubiquitous object that defines how we all live — capital. If it is my right to have money, than without even intending to, we have already set up a dichotomy, where there will be people who don’t have money or don’t have the right to have money. Whether it be down to their lifestyle choice, whether they are in prison where their money is limited, or the homeless or those in underdeveloped countries.

Even the phrase “underdeveloped countries” implies that there is a lack that exists ‘there’, but not ‘here’. We then put ourselves in the privileged position of defining what underdeveloped even means. Since we are exploring the idea of money and how it relates to rights-based thinking, this also leads to the right to protect that money from others, from governments, from family, from taxing and so on. If someone were to come into your house and steal your money and you were able to stop them, would you? So now, we have an ethical dimension to protecting our right to have that money — at all costs.

Isn’t rights-based thinking not only naive, but also based on consumerist thinking? Meaning, that we want that commodity (the right to bear arms, for example) over there because we have been made to desire it, so we do all we can to acquire it. We want that new Iron Man T-shirt because it projects a sort of image that we ourselves either agree with or desire to project to others. How is this not the same with the current notion of human rights? I want my right to free speech because it’s over there, and when I have it, then I can acquire the image of what I think it means to be human, or how I want to present myself to others? So we picket, shout, and form organizations around these subjects.

But if we are already in the territory of defining what it means to be human, are we even human at all? That’s the irony we are investigating here. Human rights themselves set up an image of what it looks to be human, an image that goes before us, and that we chase, like a form of consumerism. It’s not that we have them, it’s that we must fight for them, even at the risk of someone else losing their lives for my rights. Hence why war is such an important necessity in this way of thinking, because, we must fight to maintain the boundaries we create around us.

The very fact that we need human rights is itself indicative of the times we live. We have to protect ourselves from one another. Rape victims. Racism. Bigotry. Homophobia. Religious Extremism. What if these have emerged because how we have come to address the notion of human rights? We now identify ourselves with what we own, which essentially owns us. We have privatized everything, from justice (i.e. courtrooms and prisons) to entertainment (i.e., television, Netflix, pornography), from relationships (i.e., family, marriage, friendships) to politics (i.e., local, regional, national, partisan). This is not to demonize these things, but to show how, if taken too far, rights-based thinking cares more about the individual (on a personal/self and corporate level — local society and nationalism — than the whole/humanity). Doh! We are already there. We need to change things.

If we address the world issues (including non-human entities) through a different perspective, such as the notion of responsibility, mutual reciprocity, and compassion than why would human rights even need to exist? If I take care of you, and you take care of the next person, and so on, then we reduce the need to fight for our rights, but stand in opposition of the privatization of the self, and embrace a new way to be human. We see this very practice in our human origins. In tribal communities. Where power was horizontal. Where identity wasn’t equated with property like it is today (i.e., I have a right to have what I work for). But as author Brent James Schmidt: “The ideal of contributing all personal property to the community formed the essential criterion for membership in each ancient community.”

There is this greek notion of love referred to as agape, the underlying implication is that we all come to the end of ourselves, the end of our egos, and in doing so, we find that our ego is found in the other. Is this not what responsibility implies? That each care for the other in the name of a more global community.

Grand Jury Expected To Resume Ferguson Police Shooting Deliberations

FERGUSON, Mo., Nov 24 (Reuters) – A St. Louis-area grand jury was expected on Monday to resume deliberations over whether to bring charges against a white policeman who shot and killed a black teenager in a case that has triggered months of demonstrations and set the city on edge.

With no one knowing how long that process might yet run, residents are anxious and shop fronts are boarded up in fear of unrest, while students in one school district began an extended early Thanksgiving break.

The Aug. 9 killing in Ferguson, Missouri, of 18-year-old Michael Brown by officer Darren Wilson was the latest flashpoint in often-troubled U.S. race relations.

Lawyers for Brown’s family have said the teen was trying to surrender when he was shot, while Wilson’s supporters say he feared for his life and only opened fire in self-defense.

More than 100 demonstrators marched in the rain in another St. Louis suburb late on Sunday, waving placards reading “Where Do You Stand?” and “Black Lives Matter.”

The protesters blocked traffic at an intersection for more than four minutes in a symbolic gesture to the more than four hours that Brown’s body lay in the street after he was shot.

Some media reports suggested a grand jury decision was coming this past weekend, fueled by the erection of barriers around the court where the panel meets and word from prosecutors that they would hold a news conference to make the announcement.

But the date, time and location of that event are yet to be determined and the St. Louis County prosecutors’ office, which has repeatedly said it cannot comment on grand jury proceedings, did not respond to requests for any updates on Sunday.

The Wall Street Journal, citing an unidentified county official, said the 12-member panel had not reached a decision and would reconvene behind closed doors on Monday. Reuters could not independently verify the report.

Missouri Governor Jay Nixon has declared a state of emergency in anticipation of the grand jury’s verdict and called in the National Guard. One school district canceled classes on Monday and Tuesday, although others plan to stay open.

Ferguson, a predominantly black suburb of 21,000 people, has seen nightly, peaceful protests since last week by demonstrators demanding Wilson be indicted. Police have arrested a handful, almost all for failure to disperse after blocking traffic.

Brown’s parents have urged sympathizers to remain peaceful, whatever the outcome.

Some protesters, who complain they are painted as violent by the mass media, were angered by a CNN report on Sunday that said two of its journalists, as well anchors from other major networks, had held off-the-record meetings with Wilson in the hope of securing his first broadcast interview.

One activist said the only interview of Wilson he wanted to see would be conducted by Oprah Winfrey, from prison. (Editing by Chris Michaud and Paul Tait)

'19 Kids And Counting' Fans Start Counter-Petition In Aftermath Of Anti-Gay Controversy

Fans of TLC’s hit reality show “19 Kids And Counting” are coming to the Duggar family’s aid following a viral petition calling for the show’s cancellation.

The initial Change.org petition, which asked TLC to cancel the show due to the family’s anti-LGBT activism and statements, has already surpassed the intended goal of 100,000 signatures, having cracked 163,000 at the time of publication of this story. The new iPetition counter-response claims that “the Duggar Family is under attack from anti-marriage advocates for standing for traditional marriage,” and has just over 56,000 signatures at the time of this post.

The controversy is a long-time coming, as the Duggar family has exhibited anti-LGBT sentiment at different points throughout the course of their time in the spotlight. In August, Michelle Duggar was taped a robocall against an Arkansas anti-discrimination housing law that specifically affected the transgender community. The reality star was quoted as saying that transgender individuals are “males with past child predator convictions that claim they are female” and opposed letting transgender people use the bathroom that corresponds with their gender identity.

More recently, the Duggars enraged the lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender (LGBT) community when the couple posted a photo of themselves kissing and encouraged other married couples to follow suit. When John Becker of LGBT blog The Bilerico Project posted a photo of him kissing his husband — accompanied with a message about marriage equality — the photo was reportedly taken down and Becker was banned from the Duggar’s page.

TLC has not responded to requests from The Huffington Post for comment about the petitions.

Nintendo Power Glove with LEDs: It’s so Bright

If you bought the Power Glove-inspired oven mitts just so you could wear them, you might be happy to know that you can get a light up version of the real thing courtesy of Etsy shop Glove Power. Glove Power – where child’s play is everything else.

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Glove Power removes the controller’s circuit boards and replaces it with its own, which I assume is used only to control the 24 LEDs that the shop installs. You can pick from red, blue or green LEDs. It appears the shop can also give the glove itself a new paint job.

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Browse with power and head to Etsy to order the light up Power Glove for $150 (USD) each.

[via Boing Boing]

Galaxy S6 details: turning Samsung’s mobile fortunes

stacker-1If today’s report on the sales of the Galaxy S5 are true, Samsung’s next release will need to be a doozy. We previously had a chat on what Samsung was potentially getting into with the Galaxy S6 – how they may be working on a “Project Zero”, a reboot of the entire series, a re-imagining of the smartphone monster they’ve … Continue reading

T-Mobile makes Google Music free to stream with 26 other services

googleThis week T-Mobile is bringing the heat with an extension on their Music Freedom service which allows users to stream music without added data costs. That means that the music service you use to stream music – the app that probably uses the MOST data on your device – will no longer be counted against your data costs for the … Continue reading

Politicians Who Regulate Big Cable Invest in AT&T, Comcast, and Verizon

Politicians Who Regulate Big Cable Invest in AT&T, Comcast, and Verizon

Ever wonder why big cable companies can do whatever they want ? It’s partly because the FCC keeps its revolving door spinning . But it’s also worth knowing that the politicians in charge of regulating the telecom industry not only receive campaign funds from them ; some of them directly invest in companies like AT&T and Comcast.

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