James Snyder's 'I Shouldn't Be Here' Showcases Actor's 'Goofball' Side At New York's 54 Below

James Snyder has been wowing the masses as the hunky love interest of Idina Menzel in “If/Then” on Broadway since March, but the actor hopes audiences come away from his latest act with a sense of his “off-the-cuff, goofball” side.

The California native says “I Shouldn’t Be Here” explores his multifaceted stage and screen career as a series of firsts, specifically his first holiday season in New York and his first time dealing with winter weather. The show fittingly hits Manhattan’s 54 Below on Dec. 1.

“It’s a grab bag from my whole life,” Snyder, who recently named one of Broadway’s 10 sexiest men, says. Stylistically, the set is “all over the place,” featuring songs from Snyder’s 2008 alt-rock album “L.A. Curse,” as well as tunes from his roles in “Cry-Baby” on Broadway, “Carousel” at Connecticut’s Goodspeed Opera House and the City Center Encores! production of “Fanny.”

Also featured in “I Shouldn’t Be Here” will be “Cry-Baby” star Elizabeth Stanley and Matt Doyle (“Spring Awakening,” “The Book of Mormon”), who sang with Snyder on the 2007 recording of “bare: A Pop Opera.”

Check out Snyder performing with Idina Menzel, then scroll down to keep reading:

No doubt the show will venture into personal territory, too. At a press preview of the show in late November, Snyder crooned a Hanukkah-tinged rendition of the holiday classic, “Please Come Home For Christmas (Bells Will Be Ringing).” The song choice was a nod to Snyder’s embrace of “Chrismukkah” after he tied the knot with wife Jacqueline Dadon, who is Jewish. These days, the couple celebrates both Christmas and Hanukkah with two-year-old son, Oliver, and Snyder has tapped Broadway stalwart Seth Rudetsky to join him for a number or two during the show teach him “a little bit more about being Jewish.”

For all of his work on Broadway, Snyder seems most proud of his “legit” 2012 turn in “Carousel,” which prompted the producers of “If/Then” to encourage him to audition for their show. If the actor has his way, his next stage or screen role will be in the same vein as that Rodgers and Hammerstein classic.

“Not a lot of people my age and my type have really found their legit voice,” he says. “I don’t know what’s next, and of course I’m not going to say no to something contemporary, but I hope I get the chance to do something of that grandeur again, something of that size and scope. I grew up watching ‘The Music Man’ and ‘Oklahoma,’ and now that I’m here and I feel like I’m gaining some footing, I would love to go back to those roots.”

James Snyder’s “I Shouldn’t Be Here” plays New York’s 54 Below on Dec. 1. Head here for more information.

Personal Growth Doesn't Tickle: 10 Tips to Make It Easier

If you’re going to make your life brilliant, you’re going to have to grow and change, and that means facing opposition — sometimes fierce opposition. But don’t let that stop you or derail you. If anything, let it sharpen your vision and fuel your resolve.

A few examples of personal growth: Changing jobs — or careers. Pursuing a promotion. Going back to school. Starting a business. Writing your memoirs (if you don’t write them, who will?). Taking up a challenging hobby. Doing volunteer work that takes you out of your comfort zone. Being the first in your family to do any of these things.

10 Tips to Smooth Your Path

  1. Embrace the difficulties. My friend and former boss Shawn used to say, “If it were easy, everyone would do it.” Sometimes what holds us back is not others’ opposition, but our own.
  2. Remind yourself, “This is just a stage.” As an example, when I moved from Michigan to southern California to start graduate school, I could not have been more in love. What’s not to love about year-round great weather, a campus that overlooks the ocean, and fish tacos?

    Without knowing it, I was in Stage One(the honeymoon phase) of Oberg’s Stages of Assimilation. Here’s a tip I learned the hard way: The honeymoon doesn’t last — but fortunately, neither does the crisis stage. Best not to take either one too terribly seriously.

  3. Get selective about whom you share your news with. Some folks have it in them to share your hopes and fears, and some just don’t. More precisely, some encounters will leave you nourished, and others will leave you chronically depleted — or annoyed. Accept it, even if you don’t like it, and keep going. Which leads us to our next point:
  4. Take nothing personally. When you change, the people around you have to shift–mentally, emotionally, or in some other way. This isn’t always fun. Sometimes it’s not even possible. After all, other people have their own agendas, their own timetable, and their own limitations. Allowing for these differences, without trying to change or refute them, makes life easier for everyone. For more information on this topic, check out Bruce Van Horn’s post, “Do Not Take Anything Personally.”
  5. Lovingly hold your ground. For example, when you’re asked some version of, “What if your plan doesn’t work?” you can explain, if you would like. But if it’s just too much — or you suspect the other party is seeking not clarity but consternation — you can simply smile and say warmly, “Let me worry about that.” Repeat as necessary. In reality, though, you’re not worrying (or, with any luck, you’re not consumed by worry). You’re doing what needs to be done and letting the rest go.
  6. Surround yourself with positivity. Which isn’t to say put blinders on. Only that when you’re taking noble risks and moving forward, you need and deserve all the allies you can get: positive thoughts, positive words, positive music, positive people; that is, those who can bring out your best and challenge you when necessary.
  7. Celebrate your new direction, even when you don’t have it all figured out. As my friend Rick said when we were both starting grad school, “I’ve never been more clueless about where I’m going to be two years from now, or more excited about where I’m headed.” Why not tape that to your wall?
  8. Talk to people who are further down the path. For example, if you’re starting a business, seek out and meet with those who took a similar risk and are now thriving. The world is filled with courageous people who are willing to share their stories.
  9. Be willing to let some relationships drift. This is easier said than done, and I am not advocating for divorce. But as you grow and change, some relationships are naturally going to diminish or disappear, while others grow stronger. New relationships will be formed on your new and higher plateau. I have never met anyone who allowed this process to unfold and later regretted it.
  10. Trust that growth and change benefit everyone — including the naysayers. I have seen this with my (graduate) students and in my own family. You’ve probably seen it in your own life. The first one in the family to go to college, start a business, or otherwise break new ground ends up inspiring other family members, up and down the generations.

Personal growth takes constant courage. Trusting that the results are worth it, even when you can’t yet see them, makes present difficulties that much easier to endure and overcome, especially in the face of fierce opposition.

44 Pro-LGBT Companies You Could Support This Holiday Season

The holiday season is officially here and with it comes one of America’s favorite pastimes: engaging in unbridled consumerism. But what are the values of the companies that you’ll be financially supporting while shopping for your friends and family (and possibly yourself) this year?

If you’re a member or an ally of the lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender (LGBT) community, where you spend your money matters. Companies have agendas and they may or may not be working towards full rights and equality for the queer community.

So where should you be spending your hard earned money this holiday season? HuffPost Gay Voices is here to help you out with a handy list of companies who have shown their support for queers and queer causes in the past. Check out the list below and learn more about 44 different companies who have expressed support for the LGBT community over the years.

7 Foods That Will Settle Your Stomach After A Night Of Overeating

It was the night of Thanksgiving and you overate. You are not alone. According to the Calorie Control Council, Americans eat, on average, nearly 3,000 calories and 229 grams of fat during this festive meal.

First things first, take a deep breath. You did no wrong by overeating, and it’s important to let yourself off the hook. For however many slices of pie you ingested last night, you probably let out a lot of laughs, shared a lot of love and enjoyed the company of family and friends. Do your best to stop beating yourself up over one night of extra calories.

If you’re experiencing the physical consequences of sampling all seven stuffings, there are foods you can eat to help soothe your stomach and make digestion a little easier. Here’s what to do:

9 Bedtime Habits That Will Improve Your Life Dramatically

The things you do right before bed can have a big impact on your life. It’s a great time to start a daily ritual, because the day is winding down and you’re not rushing around to get things done.

These Simple Solutions Will Help You Lead A Happier Life

By Julia Holmes for Men’s Journal

When men hit their 40s, their happiness hits the skids. That’s just one of the insights that Paul Dolan, a professor of behavioral science at the London School of Economics, has found in his 10 years of studying what makes us happy. In his new book, Happiness by Design: Change What You Do, Not How You Think, Dolan lays out simple solutions for increasing life satisfaction: Structure your days around the things you enjoy, stop toiling away toward goals you may not even want to meet and balance your life with purpose and pleasure.

You slam positive thinking. Why?
Self-help books tell you, “Be positive.” No shit! But there’s only so much you can do to think yourself happier. You make anywhere from 2,000 to 10,000 decisions every day. If you had to make them all consciously, thinking about how each would boost happiness, your head would explode. It’s much easier to design the environment around you, and have that cue automatic decisions that boost your happiness. Take what you enjoy most — a midday run, trying a new dinner recipe, reading a book — then design around those things. Make it clear to co-workers that you go for a run at lunch so they won’t schedule meetings; subscribe to a delivery service that sends fresh produce that you can use in recipes; set the home page of your computer to a literary site that recommends novels. You’re priming your surroundings to help you make unconscious decisions that make you happier. This is how you “plan” for happiness.

Middle-aged guys sound like the unhappiest. What’s going on?
We know there’s a problem. Look at suicides in America and you see the biggest jump in men in midlife — up 50 percent in the past 15 years — but there isn’t hard scientific data to show why. Explanations that make sense: Men may have imagined that their lives would be sorted out by this point — marriage, children, the ideal career. Or they could be fixating on what’s making them the unhappiest, and shunning new experiences — something that happier people are open to and that people have less of as they age. It’s this idea of expectation; how happy we expect to be. And this is a problem everyone faces, not just men. When people believe they will have higher life satisfaction in the future compared with what they have now, their happiness drops — a pattern that occurs until the fifties.

It almost seems like the advice is, “Set a low bar for happiness, and you’ll hit it.”
Just don’t put too much emphasis on an “ideal self,” someone with the perfect job, the perfect family, whatever it may be. Too much of what we do is driven by these things that we think will make us happy. You sacrifice current happiness for those future, imaginary gains. You don’t think about that price. And once you reach your goal, it often doesn’t make you happy after all.

In the book, you talk about redirecting attention to enjoy life more. How have you done this?
My best example is my stammer. I’ve always told myself how much happier I’d be if I didn’t have it. A few years ago, I decided to reorient my attention from stumbling on words and what others thought about it (which was never as bad as I imagined) to how effectively I was communicating — how well a speaking engagement would go, the positive feedback I would get. I became happier, and stammered less, too.

So switch your focus.
Just stop paying attention to the things that get under your skin and make you feel inadequate, or the things that suck away your day — like constantly checking your phone. Direct your attention to what has proven, time and again, to make you feel good.

Big picture, what makes us happiest?
Creating goals that have a balance of pleasure and purpose. So don’t take a job that seems like it will make you happy, because it’s prestigious or high-paying, if you know that your day-to-day work will be stressful, relentless and happiness-draining. Do consider tackling projects that may seem daunting, such as writing a book, if you know that the process of doing it will make you feel constantly rewarded and satisfied. This is especially important for competitive people, alpha men, and those driven by end points. It’s so important that the journey toward the achievement also makes you happy. Because lost happiness is lost forever.

More from Men’s Journal:
Are Positive People Really Healthier?
3 Good Reasons to Sit Down, Shut Your Eyes, and Meditate
The Mental Health Benefits of Meditation

After Dark: Meet Ladyfag, Party Curator And Nightlife Icon

This is the twenty-ninth installment in HuffPost Gay Voices Associate Editor James Nichols‘ ongoing series “After Dark: NYC Nightlife Today And Days Past” that examines the state of New York nightlife in the modern day, as well as the development and production of nightlife over the past several decades. Each featured individual in this series currently serves as a prominent person in the New York nightlife community or has made important contributions in the past that have sustained long-lasting impacts.

HuffPost Gay Voices believes that it is important and valuable to elevate the work, both today and in the past, of those engaged in the New York nightlife community, especially in an age where queer history seems to be increasingly forgotten. Nightlife not only creates spaces for queers and other marginalized groups to be artistically and authentically celebrated, but the work of those involved in nightlife creates and shapes the future of our culture as a whole. Visit Gay Voices regularly to learn not only about individuals currently making an impact in nightlife, but those whose legacy has previously contributed to the ways we understand queerness, art, identity and human experience today.

Over the past several years you and your parties have become iconic in the NYC nightlife scene. What did your journey to becoming such a fixture in nightlife entail?
Ladyfag: I came to New York from Canada over eight years ago. Previously, I sold vintage clothing and antiques for nearly a decade and was about to open my own store so I came here for three months as my last hurrah… and never left! I didn’t know anyone in the city, so I used to go by myself to all of the parties of the moment: Hiro, APT, Happy Valley. I started doing an impromptu show in the middle of the dance floor at one of these parties and Kenny Kenny came up and asked me to dance for him at Happy Valley. When I got out of the cage he said, “You’re hired! Now come downstairs everyone wants to meet you!” It snowballed from there and I started hosting parties four or five nights a week… and it’s been an ever-changing journey since.

You came up right after nightlife began to experience a resurgence following years of policing and regulation in New York City. How have you seen it grow, evolve and change over the past eight years?
Nightlife always goes in waves. I had just arrived and I remember thinking Happy Valley was so incredible — I was new to the city and just mesmerized by all of these amazing characters dressed up week after week. The club itself was designed by Jeremy Scott and it was so over the top… now, sadly, it’s condos. There’s been so many moments where suddenly a new party really takes off and it creates a ripple effect because it gets people excited, and then they want to go out even more, and then new parties start to pop up and suddenly New York is having a moment again… and again… and again…

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Many have claimed that you are reviving the “golden days” of nightlife through your massive parties SHADE and Holy Mountain. What does your vision for these events entail?
There will always be “golden days” of nightlife. I didn’t invent the wheel, and promoters who talk about themselves as though they’re some type of gods make me laugh. Bringing people together to share an experience is what I love to do. For me it’s about throwing parties that I would want to go to myself. New York apartments are generally small by nature and people need a space to connect and hang out. My weekly 11:11 party is very much that — my home where everyone is invited.

Holy Mountain is my new monthly [event], and truly is mountain of a party! It’s a huge labyrinth where there are so many different rooms with different vibes you can explore. The venue is the old Mr. Black space that I used to work at. They only used two rooms, and I thought how amazing would it be to have four different styles of music and energies — pretty much like having four parties under one roof. We were inspired by Holy Mountain, visually, but it turned out that even putting the visual themes in motion set it off in people’s imaginations — and the energy that fuels the party is pretty magical.

I throw SHADE with my partner Seva Granik. We basically convert raw warehouse spaces into full-blown nightclubs for just one night, so it’s sort of a beast that takes a few months to plan out and build. There were lots of DIY warehouse parties, but there was never the mix of a full-blown club experiences with amazing sound systems and over the top light shows. They’re highly produced but still have a raw, anything-goes feel. Every SHADE has a visual and musical theme, usually tied to club culture. We did an homage to Detroit called Detropia, which was a dystopian vision of Detroit complete with smashed car sculptures and Detroit techno. We’ve done a coast to coast and brought in DJs from our L.A. nightlife family. There aren’t really any people in our scene doing warehouse parties on this scale, and it’s probably because if you even tried to do it once you wouldn’t do it again [laughs]. We max out our credit cards and we have a team of about a dozen people who work around the clock. My production manager actually moves in with me the week before because we take turns sleeping!

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I couldn’t do it without my partner Seva. He comes from a production background and he’s been doing DIY shows in Brooklyn for over a decade. We both play our roles; we split things up and divide and conquer the beast to make it happen. But they say if you build it they will come… and thousands of kids come out. It’s kind of crazy because we change the location almost every time, and people have no idea where it will be until the day of. We feel a certain responsibility at this point to live up to the SHADE reputation, so we’re always trying to outdo the last one. If these kids are going to come out to the middle of industrial nowhere because it’s SHADE, then we sure as hell better give them an experience!

Several people featured in “After Dark” have discussed how they wish nightlife would become more mixed and less segregated. Your parties seem to embody this philosophy by bringing together different scenes to create one massive fantasy. Why is this important to you?
It’s a common complaint, and understandably so. It’s actually quite hard to find the right balance and, unfortunately, there is no exact formula to make it happen. Obviously the best parties are mixed and have a variety of people, but there has to be enough of every sub-group so that everyone can comfortably call it their own. My parties generally tend to be quite mixed — not only in terms of gender and sexuality, but in age, professions, size, colors — it’s a serious melting pot. In a way, that’s a reflection of my life and my friends. I believe in the “everyone is welcome” philosophy. Well, maybe not everyone… young squealing girls need not apply [laughs]. But in my defense, if that seems rude, those girls usually end up puking in the club.

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You’re involved in the fashion world. I’d like to hear your perspective surrounding nightlife as an intersection of fashion, music, art — how does it operate as a source of cultural production for these communities?
Nightlife is a breeding ground for creativity, and a source for so much inspiration to designers. When you think of some of the most esteemed designers like Galliano, Mugler, Riccardo Tisci and McQueen — they were all “club kids.” That’s where it all starts!

As far as fashion, a nightclub is the real runway. It’s like this big stage where kids can express themselves through fashion. I mean, when was the last time you got inspired walking around Bloomingdale’s? [laughs]

A number of young creatives coming up through nightlife referenced you as someone who recognized their potential and helped shape their place in the scene, including gage of the boone, La’Fem Ladosha and Domonique Echeverria. Why is it important to you to elevate the work of up-and-coming artists through your parties?
That’s really sweet to hear. I’d love to take credit for my parties, but the truth is I can’t do it alone. It really is a collective of people I work with that make the parties what they are.

I have so much love for Domonique, gage and La’fem Ladosha. I’m a big fan of theirs and so many of these young kids that are such creative creatures. They bring so much to New York already and have only just started. After awhile you fall into patterns, but I remember how everything was so exciting when I first started and these kids have so much energy and fresh desires and ambitions to bring their passions to the city. The city can be welcoming, but it’s still tough when you start out. They don’t need my help to shine — they were already stars waiting to be discovered.

They just need people to believe in them and create platforms for them to shine on.

What are your current parties and gigs? What does the future hold for Ladyfag?
This past weekend was pretty special for 11:11 as it was our two year anniversary! Which is longer then a lot of people’s relationships in NYC [laughs]. The next Holy Mountain is Dec. 20 so we’re going to get into the holiday spirit.

Then I guess I’ll announce it here first… SHADE is back for New Years Eve! Except we’re not celebrating 2015 — we’re celebrating 2084… you asked me what the futures hold for me, but we’re about to bring the future to nightlife right now.

As an iconic nightlife figure who brings people together and curates other-worldly experiences for the public — at it’s foundation, what is nightlife for you? What makes it so special and worthwhile?
People are always hoping that one day they’ll die peacefully in their sleep… I’d be pretty happy dying of old age while still up in a nightclub. I live for nightlife; there are so many times where things go wrong and sometimes the city puts so many obstacles in your way and you ask yourself, “why the hell am I doing this?! I could make my life so much easier by doing something else.” But there are those moments where you look out at the dance floor and everything is just right. There’s this inexplicable wave of energy and joy going through the room and you look out and all the problems disappear… it’s those magic moments that keep you going. Sometimes I look through all of the old photos from my parties and see so many friends and New York characters having the time of their lives and think: I make people happy for a living. What more could I possibly want to be doing in life?

Missed the previous installments in this series? Check out the slideshow below.

Obama and the Gordian Knot of Politics

With the exception of a spike immediately after September 11, Americans don’t trust their government.

Take a look at a graph of public trust from 1958 to 2014, and you’ll see the rate drop from around 70 percent half a century ago to the dismal 20-something depths of today. The government shutdown in 2013–the supreme expression of political gridlock–even further reduced that trust. With approval ratings in the low teens, Congress has been the focus of voter dissatisfaction, particularly among those who follow politics closely.

Given this state of affairs, you’d think that someone who could cut through the Gordian knot of Washington politics would receive the same accolades that Alexander the Great did when he solved the legendary problem of the Phrygians.

But last week, when President Obama issued an executive order on immigration, he received little praise outside his own party and the community most affected by deportations.

In Congress, House Speaker John Boehner (R-OH) criticized Obama for being an “emperor”–a description that doesn’t have quite the cachet it once had in Alexander’s day–and promised to fight “tooth and nail” to undo the order. The American public, although supporting the content of the order 57 percent to 40 percent, opposed the order itself 48 percent to 38 percent. Even Saturday Night Live chimed in with a Schoolhouse Rock-style skit showing the president throwing an earnest Bill down the Capitol steps in favor of a cigarette-smoking thug of an Executive Order.

By this time, you’ve heard all the explanations in support of the latest executive order, which allows as many as 5 million undocumented immigrants to stay in the United States as long as they meet certain conditions. As the president has explained, the House failed to vote on thecomprehensive, bipartisan immigration reform bill the Senate already passed in 2013. Moreover, Obama hasn’t used executive orders nearly as much as his predecessors (33 per year versus 36 by George W. Bush, 45 by Bill Clinton, or 62 by Richard Nixon). And it’s not as if Obama has been “soft” on immigration given the huge number of deportations that have taken place on his watch.

So, if the order is well within the realm of legitimate presidential action, most Americans support its intent, and there is a generally low regard for gridlock in Washington, why the backlash? Clearly we want our presidents to be decisive, but not too decisive. Clearly the Republicans are more adept at spin. And clearly we have to dig a little deeper to understand the travails of American politics, and how they’re connected to a more systemic disease affecting democracy across the globe.

Gridlock Pays

The U.S. political system was designed in some sense to be inefficient. By distributing power among three branches and instituting other “checks and balances” into the system, American democracy was supposed to harmonize competing interests in such a way as to prevent both tyranny and anarchy.

Gridlock, in other words, is the occasional price we pay to avoid kings and chaos.

It hasn’t all been harmony, of course, as the Civil War grimly demonstrated. But American democracy survived that challenge and even, through constitutional amendment and incremental policy change, managed to improve itself.

Until we seemed to hit a wall at some point in the 1970s. As economist Mancur Olson and others have pointed out, the rise of interest group politics effectively strangled the political process. A failure to overcome entrenched interests translated into a failure to innovate, ultimately producing what Jonathan Rauch has termed “demosclerosis.” We have become too pluralist for our own good: our pluribus has overwhelmed our unum.

Let me introduce a caveat here that will reveal my bias. Public interest groups have served to expand democracy (think: the civil rights movement, women’s movement) while private interest groups have served to concentrate wealth (think: business lobbies).

The intersection of public and private–middle-class entitlement programs–have tended to support economic democracy, namely more equitable distribution of the wealth. We still benefit from lobbying in the public interest (think: environmental regulations). But private interests have metastasized (behold: an official figure of about 12,000 lobbyists and anunofficial figure of 100,000, most of whom represent industries like pharmaceuticals, insurance, and energy). And middle-class entitlement programs are going the way of the middle class itself–squeezed between the super-rich and the working poor. The Affordable Care Act, which qualifies as a middle-class entitlement through its tax credits and expansion of Medicaid, may well be the last gasp of the quaint old welfare state.

Francis Fukuyama, in a recent Foreign Affairs piece, argues that two trends have made matters worse. We are an overly litigious society, which means public policy is increasingly decided in the courts (and thus outside the realm of the voters). And, through the effect of money on politics, wealthy interest groups effectively control Congress. These are not new ideas: lawyers and lobbyists have long had us by the short hairs. As Thomas Friedman wrote a couple years back, “Our deformed political system–with a Congress that’s become a forum for legalized bribery–is now truly holding us back.”

Well, it all depends on who the “us” is.

What if you don’t particularly like government or, following Margaret Thatcher, think there’s no such thing as “society”? The Reagan/Thatcher “revolution” was designed to trim the government’s role in the economy–reducing taxes, privatizing state enterprises, opening up public lands to private interests. Only the military sector escaped the knife. Many of these neoliberal approaches found their way into subsequent Democratic administrations (such as Clinton’s welfare reform and Obama’s market-based health care reform).

So, when liberals largely accept neoliberal assumptions, the next step is to throw so much sand into the machinery of government that the engine practically grinds to a halt. A gridlocked government effectively allows private interests–the market, the wealthy–to operate unfettered. “By fostering gridlock, the U.S. Constitution increases the likelihood that policies will reflect broad, unorganized interests instead of the interests of narrow, organized groups,” writes Marcus Ethridge for the Cato Institute. By “unorganized interests,” he means those rich enough not to need to act collectively.

The sad part of the story is that the polarization of politics–which proceeded lockstep with the polarization of the economy–largely takes place at the elite level. The electorate, whether in Blue states or Red states, has very similar attitudes–as measured in a study that found divergence in only 4 percent of the polling answers across nearly 400 policy questions.

In other words, American gridlock is a largely manufactured phenomenon.

So, if Congress no longer reflects the will of the people, is it then permissible for the president to bypass the legislative branch to ensure a more perfect union? When it comes to immigration and a number of other issues, I would say yes.

Overcoming Checks and Balances

But ultimately, presidential fiat is no solution to the problems of America’s democracy. Let’s look at two other countries that face similar conundrums.

The first is Japan, a country that values consensus above all. There’s even a word in Japanese–nemawashi–that means “laying the groundwork” for consensus before the parties arrive at the negotiating table. Japan has enjoyed a strong consensus for more than 50 years in favor of the constitutional provisions that restrict the country’s military to self-defense. But the current government of Shinzo Abe is eager to upend these provisions and transform Japan into a “normal” country with a capacity to mount military offensives. His party doesn’t have sufficient votes to amend the constitution.

So, back in July, Abe issued a “Cabinet decision”–essentially an executive order–that commits Japan to “collective self-defense.” In other words, the country will go to war in defense of an ally even if Japan itself has not been attacked–and even though most Japaneseoppose this constitutional interpretation and want to retain the “Peace Constitution.”

In Hungary, meanwhile, the government of Viktor Orban and his Fidesz party has a parliamentary super-majority. When the Constitutional Court has ruled that a new law violates the Hungarian constitution, the Fidesz-led parliament has simply amended the constitution. The EU has protested against the new media law. The European Court of Human Rights has ruled that the Hungarian constitution violates “freedom of religion.” The U.S. government is unhappy with the energy deals that Budapest has made with Moscow. Most disturbing, Fidesz has used its newfound powers to establish a patronage system that rewards the elite clustered in and around the party.

“It never before happened in the EU that a country suddenly made a U-turn back from democracy toward some kind of half-democracy,” Hungarian sociologist Andras Bozoki told me. “When Austrians elected the Haider party, there was a huge protest in the EU. There was also a marginalization of [former Italian Prime Minister Silvio] Berlusconi. But none of these people had a two-thirds majority in the parliament, so they couldn’t change the constitution.”

Here we have the tyranny of the majority (Fidesz and its parliamentary dominance) and the tyranny of the minority (Japan and the program of the hawks). But in both cases, the Hungarian and Japanese governments identified ways to overcome checks and balances: Abe found a way around both the constitution and public opinion, while Orban simply changed the constitution to suit his needs.  The elite in both cases advanced its agenda in undemocratic ways. When democratic rules produce undemocratic outcomes, faith in the system ebbs accordingly. In both countries, voter turnout has declined over the last decade, and many citizens are simply disgusted with politics.

At first glance, Obama’s executive order resembles Abe’s Cabinet decision and the actions of Fidesz to rewrite the constitution. But the president’s action on immigration was democracy-enhancing rather than democracy-reducing because it reflected majority opinion on behalf of a powerless minority. It distributed benefits more broadly rather than concentrate them in fewer hands.

Dealing with Democratic Deficits

Still, all three cases reflect a common problem.

People do not feel that their governments are building consensus through popular participation in order to move their respective countries forward. The systemic disease afflicting democracy across the globe is its increasing formalism. Democracy has become more about bureaucratic procedure and less about demos, the people. We have a democratic deficit: our views are no longer represented faithfully by our elected officials. For better or worse, we’ve experienced tremendous economic, social, and technological change over the 50 years, but our democratic institutions have yet to receive an upgrade.

Some countries have tried to address this problem of the democratic deficit by setting up different institutional mechanisms to involve citizens in policy making. Denmark, for instance, introduced “consensus conferences” that bring citizens together to discuss technology issues, a model that has been adapted in other countries to address plant biotechnology, GMOs, and climate change. The EU has experimented with deliberative democracy to involve people from all the member states to help chart Europe’s future. I wrote a few weeks ago about how the mayor of Seoul is expanding participation in policymaking at the municipal level on energy issues.

And here in the United States, an organization called Voice of the People is setting up Citizen Cabinets in which people serve six-month terms, get briefings from experts, and weigh in on key policy issues every three weeks through on-line questionnaires. The results then go to lawmakers, who will ignore such a super poll at their own peril. The first cabinets are being set up now in Maryland, Virginia, and Oklahoma. In this way, our democracy regains its legitimacy by strengthening the link between the people and the institutions of government.

It might sound counter-intuitive to break political gridlock by bringing more people into policymaking. After all, the tendency is to assume that smaller groups are more efficient, with one person being the most efficient of all. But that’s where we fail to appreciate the roots of political dissatisfaction. We want to believe that our voices count for something, and not just in the isolation of the voting booth or the cacophony of social media.

In the 4th century BC, Alexander the Great proved his imperial pedigree by cutting the Gordian knot. But we live in a democratic age, and we are suspicious of individuals or political parties that promise such solutions. The world is more complicated. The knots are somehow knottier. Bringing in a council of concerned citizens to patiently untie the Gordian knot of politics may take longer. But, in the end, consent is mightier than the sword.

Crossposted with Foreign Policy In Focus

EU Extends Sanctions Over Ukraine To 13 New People

BRUSSELS (AP) — The European Union is extending economic and travel sanctions to 13 people and five entities it accuses of involvement with pro-Russian separatists in eastern Ukraine.

The EU’s 28 member countries agreed to the action Friday, the bloc announced in a news release. The EU said the names of the people, organizations and businesses affected will be made public Saturday.

The decision brings the total number of people subject to an EU-wide travel ban and asset freeze for allegedly undermining Ukraine’s territorial integrity to 132, and the number of entities whose assets have been ordered frozen to 28.

Earlier this month, EU foreign affairs chief Federica Mogherini said more sanctions alone will not end the crisis in eastern Ukraine, and that there is a need to relaunch a dialogue with Russia.

Thanksgiving: It's Not Just About the Food!

Although Thanksgiving is supposed to be a happy day filled with delicious food and loved ones, it has over the years garnered a reputation of the most anxiety-provoking holiday. For a person in the midst of a struggle with an eating disorder, it is a pure living hell. People joke about loosening belts after the big meal and going on diets before the big day, but for victims of the disease, these jokes can be life-threatening.

If food is your largest cause of anxiety, having an entire day focused entirely upon that subject feels like entering a bad dream. Some scenarios that I remember — people constantly prodding me to try their appetizers and dishes in order to get me to eat, family members that I have not seen for awhile commenting on my change in weight, pushing food around on my plate or hiding it in napkins, giving in to the peer pressure of a holiday binge and then later purging as a result of the discomfort, and many more. The best Thanksgiving memory I had in the past decade was, believe it or not, in an eating disorder treatment center. At this treatment center, everything we ate was portioned out so we had no choice in the matter, and this loss of choice actually relieved the stress because we could then just devote our entire brainpower on each other’s good company and conversation. Today, I am determined to have my first good Thanksgiving in 10 years — out of a treatment center and surrounded by family and friends using the tips that I have created.

1) Refocus the holiday upon its original meaning — giving thanks. Make a list of the things in your life that you are thankful for, and when anxiety clouds your mind, pull out the list.

2) Treat the meal as any other meal. Put a reasonable amount of food on your plate, and when you are full, stop eating. Do not feel obligated to make yourself sick to your stomach just because that is what our society has characterized it to be.

3) Redirect the conversation to things other than body image. When people have not seen each other for awhile, it is a common conversation starter to talk about appearances, such as “You look great! Did you lose some weight?” These conversations are very triggering during recovery. When you hear this, try to stop and refocus the conversation with a simple, “Thank you, I have been focusing on my health.” Then redirect the conversation to something else, such as ,”How has your new job been?”

4) The aftermath — don’t try and fix things the next day. Even if the day did not go as planned, do not punish yourself the next day by trying to go on a Thanksgiving day diet or begin a strenuous workout plan. Every day is a fresh start.

I hope this helps. Happy Thanksgiving!