5 Ways You're Blowing Your Wedding Budget Without Even Realizing It

by Carolyn Hsu, BRIDES

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The wedding budget: Most wedding planners would say that it’s the most important thing to have when planning your wedding (aside from the groom of course!), but it can certainly be one of the most anxiety inducing. While you may know the basics to sticking within your budget — not overdoing it with over-the-top florals or spending 40 percent of your total budget on a dress, for example — there are some less obvious ways that you may be racking up costs without even realizing it. Suffering severe sticker shock is no way to end the best day of your life, so we turned to wedding planner Claudia Hoste, owner of Hoste Events, to advise on five things you need to be aware of to keep your budget in check.

1. Buying things before you have a budget and a plan.
“You have to have a budget tracker,” says Hoste. “There is no way you can keep track of things in your head. Don’t buy anything for the wedding until you make your budget guidelines. It’s so easy to get caught up in the excitement of starting to buy things, that money can get spent on little fun details (Pinterest inspiration anyone?!) that in the end will not mean as much as you originally thought. You could end up spending way more on something that turns out to be not important and then have to skimp on things that are.”

2. Getting carried away with the guest list.
Of course you want to invite everyone to celebrate this major life moment, but not being careful with the guest list is the easiest way to blow up your budget. “Keep in mind that every guest touches every part of the budget. In addition to the cost of food and beverages for each additional guest, you’ll also have to factor in costs of rentals, transportation, and favors,” explains Hoste. “If you add more than a table’s worth of guests, you’ll need to add more linens and centerpieces as well.”

3. Not being clear on what the site fee includes.
“Every venue is different. Some might require you to rent everything from the napkins to the tables to the lights and bathrooms, which adds up very quickly,” says Hoste. “Make sure you call a rental company and get quotes for anything that is not included with the site so that you’ll know what the total cost is for that venue before you book. What seems like a good deal in the beginning can in the end make you go over budget.”

4. Not sticking to your timeline.
“Usually you contract vendors for a specific number of hours. If you don’t stick to your timeline, you run the risk of things running late,” says Hoste. “This means that you’ll end up incurring expensive overtime fees that were not budgeted.”

5. Opting for a consumption bar instead of a per head package.
It can be tempting to opt for a pay-per-drink bar because you think some guests won’t drink that much, but that usually ends up being a risky choice. “Generally people will drink more at weddings that they would do normally in other social situations,” says Hoste. “Plus they will want to raise multiple glasses to celebrate the big day!”

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Five Reasons Why Everybody Should Write a Book

“Everyone should write at least one book in their lifetime,” my nephew Jason once declared with great conviction. I remember pondering the thought at the time, struck by the maturity of the remark coming from a teenage boy.

Fast forward 15 years and a novel under my belt, I can now vouch for the wisdom and insightfulness of my nephew’s observation. We should all write a book, one that reflects our individuality and gives substance to our ideas, a book to be shared with the world.

Here are my five reasons for doing it:

1: It’s Like Therapy
Through the process of writing a book, you will learn about yourself. Pick a story that matters to you and ask yourself, why this story? What compels you to create these characters and events? You will find that as you write, you will draw from your own experiences and people you have met, and this will force you to reflect on your own life path. Then because “writing is rewriting,” you will keep digging deep inside yourself to discover new facets of your story and hidden corners of your personal experience.

In my case, I started writing City of the Sun because I was curious to learn about my Egyptian Jewish roots and the circumstances surrounding my family’s expulsion from the country when I was three years old. Initially the endeavor was intellectual, but as I immersed myself in my parents’ bygone world, I began to feel a nostalgic longing for it. As I read about the vibrant and thriving Jewish community in Cairo, I grew proud to have come from there and my alienation from my cultural Arabic roots softened as I began to embrace them. I also have grown to realize how the trauma of my family’s expulsion during the Suez Crisis must have shaped my psychology and personality when our stable world was replaced by years of chaos.

How many opportunities does one get for this level of self reflection?

2: It Will Make You Smarter
No matter what you choose to write about, at some point you will have to do some research. You may need to learn about a particular period of time — for me it was 1941 in Egypt — or just refresh your memory of a place, object or activity. Pulling on that thread of discovery will unravel a wealth of related information, and before long you will be educating yourself on all aspects of the world you are creating.

My own quest to understand wartime Cairo revealed a world I never knew existed, a cosmopolitan city of refugees, spies and soldiers ten times more exotic than Casablanca. Many world leaders and historical figures also inhabited that world and I must admit being overwhelmed at times by the amount of research, but it was enthralling to uncover so many of the roots of today’s problems in the Middle East.

3: You’ll Learn How Much Pain You Can Take

Writing a book is not a sprint, it is a marathon — one that can take you months if not years. It took 13 years for me! Unlike shorter forms of writing, a book is an exercise in discipline and time management that will test your endurance. It isn’t easy to sit in front of a blank page or computer screen and fill it with words that tell a story in a cohesive and entertaining way day after day, especially when one has to juggle other obligations. Let’s face it, most of us do not have the luxury to spend all day writing.

When I first started my book, I had a busy law practice, a young daughter and a stream of obligations. But I got creative and came up with a ritual that worked for me. I wrote a bit every morning no matter what I had scheduled for that day and kept a motivational phrase close at hand: “Where there is a will, there is a way.”

4: Yes, You Matter
Whether you realize it or not, your life experiences, personality and worldview give you a voice that is entirely unique. When you share that voice with the world, you may be surprised by the power of your written word and who it will reach.

One of the most satisfying parts of having written a novel is receiving messages from people all over the world telling me the various ways my words touched them. Isn’t this ultimately what it’s all about? Touching another human being?

Now think about the consequences of not writing your book. If you do not tell your story, no one else will. No one else can. It will be the world’s loss. Which brings us to…

5: You Will Live Forever!

In City of the Sun, one of the main characters lost her mother in the war and laments that she has nothing to remember her by but the memories themselves. “Is that what one is reduced to after death?” she wonders. “A memory? A picture on a piano?”

Memories really are all that are left of us when we leave this earth. Even a photo on the piano may only be preserved for a couple of generations, if you are lucky. Your book, though, will live forever, especially in the digital age. There is no telling where it will end up and who it will continue to inspire through the ages.

My nephew Jason, now a grown man, has accomplished many wonderful things in the last 15 years. He has yet to write a book, but I know one day he will. What about you? What is holding you back? Maybe that is where your story should begin.

Electoral Laws Should Strengthen, Not Restrict, Voter Participation

Among the results of an election-eve poll conducted by Latino Decisions last month, one finding in particular stands out: of registered Latino voters who did not vote on Election Day, 14% reported that they did not currently possess an unexpired form of identification.

While not all states require an ID to vote, there are currently 30 states with voter ID laws that do. In these 30 states, then, eligible Latinos may very well be sitting out elections, uncertain whether they would be able to vote if they made the trip to the polling booths. Research suggests that voter ID laws negatively impact black and Latino turnout, since many eligible voters lack whatever form of identification these state laws mandate. Others, in turn, may sit out elections simply because they fear their identification won’t be accepted.

The Hispanic electorate is expanding rapidly and has become increasingly influential in recent electoral cycles. Is it merely a coincidence that states are passing voter identification laws that disproportionately impact Latino voter turnout, at precisely the moment at which the Latino vote is growing more influential? Experts agree that voter-fraud is extremely rare, and that voter identification laws are a solution in need of a problem. Yet rather than woo a rapidly growing Hispanic electorate by embracing Latino policy priorities, some politicians have instead opted to suppress the Hispanic electorate through measures such as voter I.D. laws. These policies are bad for our democracy, and over the long-term they represent bad politics, given that the Hispanic electorate will only continue to grow.

Efforts to restrict voter participation don’t stop at requiring valid identification from registered voters. Some states have gone even further than requiring identification at the polling booth, in several instances by passing laws that require individuals to provide proof of citizenship before registering to vote. In the 2006 elections, 16% of all voter registration applications in Maricopa County, Arizona were rejected because the prospective voters did not provide sufficient proof of their citizenship as mandated by a state law passed in 2004. The American Civil Liberties Union of Arizona noted at the time that many of these would-be voters, particularly the poor and elderly, would likely have lacked the documents they needed to prove their citizenship and the transportation and resources to get adequate documents. In Kansas, a proof-of-citizenship law designed by Kris Kobach (architect of Arizona’s notorious “show me your papers” immigration enforcement law) had suspended the voting powers of around 21,000 registered Kansas voters as of Nov. 7, 2014.

The good news is that both of these proof-of-citizenship laws have since been partially struck down in federal courts. Earlier this month, the 10th Circuit Court of Appeals ruled that neither Arizona nor Kansas would be allowed to require individuals registering to vote to show proof of citizenship if those individuals applied used a federal voter-registration form. Nevertheless, voter ID laws remain in effect in both states.

When we see that too few Latino voters came out to the polls in these latest elections, our legislators should be working to increase the participation of all eligible voters by passing laws that enable voting by all eligible citizens – regardless of income, age, or race. Consider the case of Colorado, where the 2014 elections were conducted entirely through mail. The numbers show that Colorado’s electoral modernization measures resulted in impressive levels of voter participation. It’s simple: if electoral law facilitates rather than restricts the voting process for eligible voters, turnout will increase significantly.

The numbers don’t lie. Voter fraud is largely nonexistent, while Hispanic voter participation continues to lag behind other groups. Given this state of affairs, laws that restrict the ability of eligible citizens to vote make absolutely no sense. To safeguard a strong representative government, we ought to resist and repeal voter ID measures that disproportionately impact the poor, young, and elderly; onerous proof-of-citizenship requirements that disenfranchise already-registered voters; and any other laws that serve only to weaken democratic participation in the name of a false problem.

DC's 'Mayor For Life' Marion Barry Mourned At Funeral

WASHINGTON (AP) — Mourners are paying their final respects to Marion Barry at the Washington Convention Center.

The politician known as “Mayor for Life” died last month at age 78. He served four terms as mayor and was the most beloved and divisive local leader in four decades of District of Columbia self-rule. The Rev. Jesse Jackson will deliver the eulogy at Saturday’s funeral. Other speakers include the Rev. Louis Farrakhan and former House Speaker Newt Gingrich, who will appear on video. Barry’s widow and son will also speak.

Barry served as mayor for 16 years and was credited with expanding economic opportunity for the city’s black majority.

He also had well-documented personal struggles, culminating in a 1990 arrest for smoking crack cocaine. He served six months in prison but was later elected to his fourth term, capping a remarkable comeback.

Some mourners arrived at Barry’s memorial wearing their Sunday best, while others sported T-shirts with Barry’s likeness. Charles Wilson of northwest Washington says he got his first summer job as a 13-year-old from Barry’s youth employment program and owes his career as a city social worker to Barry. He says Barry is justly beloved by many city residents and people who have negative associations “don’t understand at all.”

iPhone 6/6 Plus & Samsung Galaxy Note 4 80x Telescope Lens: Closer than Closer

We’ve seen a microscope add-on for iOS devices that has 80x magnification. The Super Spy telescope lens for the iPhone 6, iPhone 6 Plus and Samsung Galaxy Note 4 on the other hand has 80x optical zoom. Apparently that’s enough to see people’s faces clearly from up to 100m (approx. 330ft) away.

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The telescope comes with a tripod and a compatible lens mount that doubles as a protective case for the phones.

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That definitely won’t fit in your pocket. You can order the Super Spy telescope lens from Brando for $220 (USD) each. The store also has more affordable telescopes that have 50x and below optical zoom.

Budsies Turns Drawings into Plush Toys

When they’re at a particular age, kids love to draw. Whether it’s stick figures or colored drawings, the sky’s the limit when it comes to kids’ imaginations. Wouldn’t it be awesome if you could give them a present that’s truly their own?

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Budsies is a service that turns children’s artwork into actual plush toys. All you have to do is scan the drawing, place your order, and wait. Your child’s one-of-a-kind, handmade 16″ plush toy will then be delivered in a few weeks (but the waiting time is currently nine weeks since it’s the holiday season.)

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Having a customized plush made by Budsies costs $69(USD). If you can’t wait or don’t want to spend that much, then you can always go the DIY route. Now that would make the resulting toy even more meaningful.

[via Incredible Things]

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Breaking Bad’s Aaron Paul releases YB messaging app based on catchphrase

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