Heartfelt December Wishes From a Trail Runner

If for a moment, can you imagine what a fuel-injected foot might look and feel like? Well, here to tell you that nearly a year of foot demise has led to nearly 10 top specialists opining on the matter, only to come to one today that got it. You know your day of deliverance when it arrives. I trained on the infamous Double Dipsea trail the day before Thanksgiving and wounded my right foot — it a place of certain misgivings, truth be told, were not fully revealed until a later day upon dawn’s arrival. In the best of world’s, a trail-running athlete’s nightmare.

Some say the case with athletes is a mad one, and as one, I might consent. Ice, heat, new shoes, active release, rest – common folk modalities to arrive at some amount of healing only to be yourself forlorn.

December 4 was a marker for reasons of true importance – good and bad. I picked up my North Face trail run kit in Marin County knowing that once finally in hand, there was no going back per usual. This race has been the race – the one for my life, the one for those I loved. By 4:30 p.m. it came time to tell a seasoned doctor why it was compelling yet again. One glance from me and he knew he’d be wise to not have that discussion. 4 ballistic injections to the foot, madman-taping befitting only of a concubine, and honest words – tape, rest, suck it up, untape Saturday evening, and run like the wind. My God, finally someone gets it. Back in my office on Monday, you need surgery soon.

That brings me to the evening’s proceedings of why run this race? One that’s been of such importance for so many years. True to form, I listed the reasons I normally made a practice to keep in my pocket on race day:

  • to transcend pain
  • for nobody but myself – how selfish for once! (thinking that’s a good thing!)

That’s pretty mundane, so let’s go further, shall we? If finishing this race accomplishes something in the greater scheme, let’s say it had magic powers, then what?

  • it would heal the earth
  • it would heal wounds
  • it would help those that live in pain
  • it would demonstrate that worth is not a monetary endeavor
  • it would be a sign of solidarity for all that hurt or suffer in any way
  • it would give hope that by faith in what we hold dear, we’ll get there together

This December, I can’t think of a better holiday wish than this one for all of you and for the planet. It is simply amazing, dazzling really, how nature and sport can bring us to our knees in a way that we can understand what is of the upmost importance, and will always ring true. If my running wishes come true, what a world it would be.

How to Meditate Standing Up

There are two modes of Son Buddhist meditation: “Son in the midst of stillness” and “Son in the midst of commotion.” I like to refer to them as simply the “quiet” and “active” modes of meditation. Quiet meditation commonly refers to traditional seated meditation but includes any meditative form where you’re not moving. Active meditation refers to meditating while in motion in the midst of daily life.

Active meditation is considered more advanced and confers the advantage of not having to set aside a special time and place to meditate. Another great benefit is that once you have mastered being able to meditate wherever you are, you can begin to use meditation as a therapeutic coping mechanism to recover from unexpected surprises right on the spot and as a method of improving your way of communicating and behaving. In a word, active meditation is both healing and empowering.

Practically speaking, however, in order to get to this level we first have to learn how to meditate in a variety of physical postures. So today I’ll share with you the method of meditating in a standing position.

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Correct Standing Posture: Practice with bare feet first.

(Please read and practice the instructions in my earlier blog posts, “How to Meditate Sitting in a Chair, Part 1 and Part 2,” before attempting the meditation described below.)

1. Stand straight with your feet shoulder width apart and parallel to one another.

2. Pay close attention to the bottoms of your feet. You should feel that with the exception of your arches every part of the bottoms of your feet is making good sticky contact with the floor. Imagine that the bottom of each foot is a rectangle divided into four quadrants: northwest, northeast, southeast, and southwest. Make sure that your weight is evenly distributed across the four quadrants — again, allowing only your arches to stay up. You’re not standing on the sides of your feet or on the inner edges. You’re also not tipping forward onto the balls of your feet or backing away onto your heels. Your weight is evenly spread across the bottoms of your feet to create that physical and mental sensation that people call “centered.”

3. Lift up and spread your toes as much as you can. Then, set them down again and feel the contact that your toe pads make with the floor. Imagine that the bottoms of your feet are stretched to their maximum width and length to create the largest possible planes of contact with the earth.

4. You are now more than centered. You are grounded.

5. Straighten your spine to its maximum length. Many people, when they try to do this, tend to flex their chest forward, which creates an unnatural arch in their upper spine. Instead, focus on the imaginary lines on the left and right sides of your rib cage that extend from the upper tip of your hip bone to the armpit. Imagine that these lines are getting longer. Imagine that someone has glued your feet to the floor and two hooks beneath your armpits are lifting and stretching your upper torso to the ceiling. Stand tall like a tree and feel your mind shift into a more expansive, peaceful and confident mindset.

6. Bending your knees slightly, tuck in your butt gently so that your tailbone seems to curl under you. Imagine that your pelvis is a large bowl filled to the brim with water. If you tend to stick your butt out backward, the front rim of your pelvic bowl will tip forward and spill water. On the other hand, if you tend to push your belly forward, the back rim of the bowl will spill over. Keep your pelvis as level as possible.

7. Now tuck your chin in slightly so that the crown of your head rises even higher.

8. Look forward with comfortably open eyes and gently place the tip of your tongue against the roof of your mouth.

9. Hold your left hand in your right hand as shown in the photo and place both hands on your abdomen. When you engage diaphragmatic breathing, your hands will feel your belly moving and you’ll be able to concentrate on your breath much more effectively.

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MEDITATION TIP: Your nose should be directly above your navel and your ears above your shoulders. If you’re sensitive enough, try to align the crown of your head directly above your perineum. If you do it very precisely, you’ll feel that your back and neck click into place. Then, your spine will seem to rise up toward the sky effortlessly and as your mood brightens and your mind becomes more lucid, you will feel the tingling electric flow of energy in your body that the ancient Chinese called qi.

Preparation Breathing: Detoxifies and cleanses your mind and body

1. Inhale through your nose and completely fill your chest. Hold your breath until it feels mildly uncomfortable. Then, exhale completely through your mouth

2. Repeat three times. Then, engage diaphragmatic breathing.

Diaphragmatic Breathing: The primary breathing method of Son meditation

1. Inhale softly and slowly through your nose as you push out your belly as if it’s filling up with air. Inhalation time should be about 2-3 seconds.

2. Pause when your belly feels 80 percent full for about 2-3 seconds.

3. Exhale even more slowly through your nose as you draw your belly in toward your spine as if you’re squeezing the air out. Exhalation time should be about 3-4 seconds.

Thought Regulation: “Yi-mwot-go?” and the Great Doubt

1. Continue to perform diaphragmatic breathing, but when you exhale, in your mind intone, “Yi-mwot-go?” and generate the Great Doubt.

2. “Yi-mwot-go?” means “This. What is this?” What is this that directs my body when I move? What is this that generates the thoughts that I think? What is this that feels the emotions that rise up in me? When someone calls my name, what is it within me that recognizes the sound of my own name and looks to see who called? What is this that is asking, “What is this?”

3. By repeatedly asking ourselves this question in coordination with our breathing, we create, maintain, and increase the state of Doubt. Mentally, this is a condition of urgent questioning, the state of attempting to know the unknowable and see the invisible. Emotionally and physically, it is a sensation of feeling stuck — the way you feel when you can’t remember where you put a set of missing keys. Ultimately, we are attempting to direct our attention back at its own source.

4. Then, the Great Doubt acts as a cleansing flame in our bodies and minds, purging us of tension, worry, hostility, fear and sorrow. We feel consoled and unburdened, luminous and at peace with ourselves, and in the end, free.

As you practice standing meditation, you develop a greater kinesthetic awareness of your body — a clear sense of your orientation in space and among people. You take a step away from the habit of always passively staring at whatever’s going on in your head and you begin to notice the sensations of living more. Colors, sounds, textures, and odors assume greater depth and immediacy. Physical stimuli and emotions feel somehow fresher, more real — even as you notice how fleeting and evanescent the so-called “real world” is. And this is just the beginning. Each person takes her own path through meditation and gains her own unique insights which nonetheless can be shared with the world and added to our treasury of knowledge.

Mastering the standing posture is the first step in being able to incorporate meditation into our daily lives. Like everything worthwhile in life, it requires practice, but once we get used to it, we can do it almost anywhere — standing on line, at the crosswalk, and in elevators. When you’re about to give a speech, before you go on stage or out in front of people, stand in meditation for a few breaths and clear your mind of everything but your powerful intention to get this done right. When you’re about to meet someone, meditate and clear your mind so you can give them your complete calm and undivided attention. When you meditate before you engage in something, you’ll be surprised at how confident, expansive, and generous you feel.

And when something catches us off-guard, we can stand in meditation for a few moments — or even for the space of one breath — and let the Great Doubt of “Yi-mwot-go?” restore us. We refrain from a knee-jerk reaction. Instead, we coolly, quickly evaluate the situation and come to a decision about what to do next.

As meditators, we now have the ability to come literally to a standstill when we need to. Standing meditation endows us with the capacity to inject moments of clarity and sanity, common sense and love into the never-ending blur of activity that modern life can so often be. We wake up from that weird dream of doing one thing while thinking another that so many of us mistake for living. And what we experience, at the very least, when we wake up, is the beauty and gratitude of living in this strange and wondrous universe.

In order to gain these benefits, it’s important for beginners to practice seated meditation everyday. Remember that meditation requires a discrete set of skills in achieving relaxed posture, natural diaphragmatic breathing, and sustained direction of attention. It takes practice to master these skills. So make a daily habit of meditating at home. Then, it will become easy to enter a meditative state instantly from a standing position in daily life. I hope you come back next time as we continue to learn how to meditate in daily life. Take care!

Palms together,

Hwansan Sunim

To see a demonstration of both seated meditation in a chair and standing meditation, view “A Meditation to Address Workplace Unhappiness” in The Huffington Post by searching my name. This is Episode #6 of our TV program “Son Meditation in English with Hwansan Sunim” also available on Youtube. For more information, visit https://www.facebook.com/seonbuddhism.

Lend Me a Breath

The grand jury decision regarding Eric Garner’s death reminds me of a man I met briefly a few years ago. The last thing I wanted to do was talk to him. Admittedly, he was the only one who had offered to drive me to the airport an hour away, with a fierce snowstorm en route. But three nights of almost no sleep had sucked away all the courtesy out of the air around me.

However, almost immediately he had me drawn into an animated conversation. From the freak snowstorm, the tsunami in Japan and the earthquake in Haiti, our discussion veered into how we kill our own neighbors in the name of religion, caste and skin color. I brought up the example of James Byrd, Jr., an African-American man who had been tied behind a pick up truck and dragged along a road for three miles by Lawrence Brewer and his two associates. When I lamented that such horrifying incidents occur despite the fact that we are all children of the same God and are all born equal, my friend went silent — stone silent.

After several seconds of inconvenient silence, he posed a question. If Mr. Brewer were undergoing surgery, would he refuse to be saved if the only available blood needed to save him came from Mr. Byrd — the same blood that Mr. Brewer had so mercilessly shed?

It would be disingenuous of me to compare what was done to Mr. Byrd to what we saw in New York City or in Ferguson. However, the issue is still larger than Mr. Eric Garner and Mr. Michael Brown. What we saw in New York City and Ferguson are just symptoms of a cancer that has metastasized all over humanity.

Our main issue is that we do not see all humans as equal. In a sense, we are not humans at all. We are either black or white, high caste or low caste, Hispanic or non-Hispanic, and men or women. We are not humans, but Christians, Muslims, Jews, Hindus, Buddhists or Sikhs. Whatever aspect of human relationship and interaction we look at, it is the same underlying affliction with only slight variations among symptoms, depending on the particular aspect of life we focus on.

For centuries, we have divided the human race into segments that we label “superior” and those that we label “inferior,” whether that division is based on skin color, gender, caste or religion. The “superior” segments of our society are often blinded by the gun power they wield against the “inferior” segments, whether it is individual incidents that we see routinely, or large-scale ethnic cleansing, or the widespread violence against women. It is ironic that the fiercest proponents of such indefensible divisions defend their “superiority” in the name of a God, who they claim to be compassionate and all loving.

While in the light of gunshots and chokeholds we need to take decisive actions at the legal, political, educational and societal levels, those actions can succeed only if we realize the intrinsic oneness of all humanity. Along with these forenamed sections of our society, religious leaders must also play a critical role in delivering this message emphatically, for it does not matter to our Creator (if we believe in one), or to the laws of physics, chemistry, mathematics and biology, what someone’s religion, race, caste, skin color, nationality, or gender is.

We must accept, with firm and inviolable conviction, the oneness of the Divine Light that dwells in all of us, and thus the oneness of our blood. Let each and every one of us ask ourselves a question: If I were on a surgeon’s table, would I accept blood donated by Eric Garner to save my life?

We cannot be saved from tearing ourselves apart, unless we understand that today we are not dealing with the individual cases of Mr. Garner and Mr. Brown, but with a phenomenon of our own creating.

What part of “I can’t breathe, I can’t breathe, I can’t breathe, I can’t breathe, I can’t breathe, I can’t breathe, I can’t breathe, I can’t breathe, I can’t breathe” do we not understand?

How to Season Pork Shoulder Like You Mean It

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Can I interest you in some pork shoulder? The exterior crusty and spicy. The meat moist and tender enough to pull apart with your fingers. I thought so. Pork shoulder is the ultimate cut of meat for smoking and grilling, and barbecue cultures as varied as Mexican (cochinita pibil, anyone?), German (spiessbraten), and Balinese (babi guling) back me up on this.

In a previous blog post, I gave you marching orders on how to buy pork shoulder, a.k.a. pork butt (even though it has nothing to do with a hog’s hindquarters). Now you’ll learn how to coax the maximum flavor from this indispensable hunk of meat.

When it comes to seasoning pork shoulder, remember that a faint heart never won a poker–err, porker–game. You have options:

Rub: We Americans use rubs with greater imagination and with a freer hand than anywhere else on Planet Barbecue. And nothing is more amenable to a good rub than pork shoulder. Make your own–I’m partial to Raichlen’s Rub, a primal blend of salt, pepper, paprika, brown sugar, and other seasonings you probably have on hand in your kitchen. Or to make life easy, order a can of my All-Purpose Barbecue Rub. Apply it liberally to all sides of the pork shoulder and rub it into the meat just before cooking.

Brine: A brine is a liquid seasoning containing water and salt, and sometimes, a sweetener (like sugar, molasses, honey, etc.), herbs or spices, and/or aromatics. A brine is a sort of marinade (but not all marinades are brines). Without getting too scientific, a brine not only adds flavor, but penetrates the meat and relaxes the coiled proteins in the muscles, making the meat moister and more tender. A reliable formula is 1 cup kosher salt (and an optional 1/2 to 1 cup of brown sugar) to 1 gallon of water. If desired, substitute apple juice or cider for half the water. Brine the pork for at least 8 hours, and up to 24. Note: If you brine your pork before cooking, ignore my advice above and go easy on the rub to avoid over-salting the meat. Or use a low-sodium rub.

Find two more indispensible techniques–injecting and mopping–and a lot more pork shoulder advice and recipes at BarbecueBible.com.

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Steven Raichlen is the author of the Barbecue! Bible cookbook series and the host of Primal Grill on PBS. His web site is BarbecueBible.com.

Grand Jury In Eric Garner Case Wasn't Asked To Consider 'Reckless Endangerment' Charge: Report

The Staten Island District Attorney did not ask the Eric Garner grand jury to consider reckless endangerment charges against NYPD officer Daniel Pantaleo, NBC New York reports.

An unnamed source familiar with the case told the station that District Attorney Daniel Donovan only asked jurors to consider charges of manslaughter or criminally negligent homicide as they heard evidence.

Under New York law, reckless endangerment entails conduct that causes a substantial risk of serious physical injury or death to another person. Garner, a 43-year-old asthmatic, died after Pantaleo put him in a chokehold in July.

The jury determined that there was no probable cause to indict Pantaleo in Garner’s death Wednesday, a decision that has been met with criticism from people across the political spectrum and sparked nationwide protests.

Although grand jury proceedings are typically sealed by law, Donovan petitioned a judge to release limited information about them, according to ABC New York. None of the evidence presented was included in the release, only the following:

  • Jurors sat for nine weeks
  • Testimony was heard from 50 witnesses
  • Those witnesses included 22 civilians and 28 cops, EMTs or doctors
  • There were 60 exhibits, including videos, records and photos
  • The grand jury was instructed in law regarding physical use of force

In New York, indictment by grand jury requires at least 12 jurors to agree that there is sufficient evidence and reasonable cause to believe a crime was committed. The D.A.’s role is to present evidence and instruct the jury in the principles of relevant law.

Legal experts told SILive.com that Pantaleo’s testimony was likely a huge factor in the decision not to indict. The 29-year-old officer, who has received resounding support from the NYPD union, testified before the jury for two hours before Thanksgiving, his lawyers said.

At least one expert who talked to the site was unconvinced by the ruling.

“I’m disappointed in the result. I believe the officer’s actions were not necessary to effectuate the arrest of Eric Garner,” Mark J. Fonte, a criminal defense lawyer and former prosecutor, said. “It seems to me there was a better way to handle the situation with Eric Garner. No person should lose their life for selling loose cigarettes.”

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Pregnant Blake Lively Looks Effortlessly Chic In NYC

Leave it to Blake Lively to look totally fabulous doing something as simple as leaving her hotel.

The gorgeous actress, who is pregnant with her first child with husband Ryan Reynolds, was photographed leaving a hotel in New York City Thursday. She wore a bright blue coat, striped shirt, jeans and stiletto booties.

Lively has been in NYC with Reynolds. On Tuesday, however, she attended the L’Oreal Paris’ Women of Worth Celebration with honoree Brittany Wenger as her date.

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Holiday Stress-Less

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December can reach both sides of the spectrum by being the most exciting and fun month, or the most depressing and lonely. It’s the month that people gain the most weight.

For four consecutive weeks, we are faced with stressful situations and stressful people. We attend gatherings and office parties and celebrate holidays. Each occasion offers excess food and drink. Your body reacts to good and bad stress, and this month can offer both. Either way, the way you treat yourself in December will help you handle the season more effectively.

You might have time restraints and much to accomplish. Financial burdens always seem worse during the holidays. You may feel apprehensive about seeing certain family members or missing loved ones, and those who are sick or hospitalized during the holiday season cause everyone heartache.

“Do not deal with a temporary situation using permanent behavior,” I always say.

December and the holidays will only last a month, and if you eat or drink to excess to deal with stress, the effects will be long term. It seems this time of year I have this conversation with many clients.

Alcohol is a depressant and can disguise any joy that you might experience. It can affect your ability to sleep soundly, which can influence your mood and health. Alcohol can slow the rate of or completely stop a weight loss.

“The main problem with holiday drinking is that people are often drinking for longer periods of time than they normally do, and they’re staying up later than they normally do. They may not have a good frame of reference for how the alcohol will affect them,” says Dr. Dennis Twombly, a scientist at NIH‘s National Institute on Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism.

“For holiday revelers, or anyone who drinks to excess in a single evening, the next day is likely to bring great discomfort in the form of a hangover.” Drinking coffee won’t help, Twombly explains. “It might help with drowsiness, but it will have no effect whatsoever on how intoxicated you are or how rapidly the alcohol is absorbed or eliminated from the body.”

My theory is your first thought is impulse, but your second thought is common sense. Think twice before deciding how much to drink or eat. Give it a few minutes and let your common sense enter to calm your impulse.

Common sense encourages us to be wise in our food and alcohol choices, and to have a plan for parties, shopping, and people who cause stress. Be prepared for situations that in the past have lead to impulse or binge eating and drinking, and always expect the unexpected.

Think of your outcome first. Ask yourself, if I overindulge, where will it lead me, or how will I feel after? Your outcome is more important than any beverage or food item.

Search out and spend your holidays with people whose company you enjoy, sit with them at gatherings, and keep others who cause you stress at an arm’s length. Again, remember your outcome.

Find other ways to release stress. I believe the spirit of giving is the strongest during the last month of the year. Think about how you can help others. You may be surprised that helping others is a powerful stress release. Keep your holidays joyous by spreading love to yourself and others.

Here’s wishing you a happy, healthy, and stress-less holiday season, full of love and joy!

Intercept Names Betsy Reed New Editor-In-Chief

We are ecstatic that Betsy Reed, the Executive Editor of the Nation since 2006, will be our new editor-in-chief, beginning January 5.

When, several weeks ago, we sat down to create a list of potential new editors, we placed only one name on it: Reed’s. That’s because we knew she is the ideal editor to lead us into our next phase of development. That she was so excited about the prospect of coming to the Intercept was great news, and the fact that we were all able to make this happen so quickly is even better news.

My Very Personal Happy Christmas Story

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For me, as a child in the mission, Christmas meant feeling guilty because Mom did so much and we mere mortals did so little. My childhood Yuletide question was: “Mom, who’s going to be in our house for Christmas?” The answer never varied: “The guests God brought to us this year, my dear.”

Mom stayed up all night wrapping gifts and making everything wonderfully and terrifyingly perfect. That’s why every Christmas morning I found the four-foot-long bulging wool stocking stuffed with individually wrapped gifts on the foot of my bed. The horror was that all the strangers my parents invited to stay in our house in order to save their souls also found stockings on their beds, cots, and assorted sleeping bags. It took Mom all night to wrap the presents, a dozen or more for each stocking, not to mention the bigger gifts for under the tree.

There was also the decorating and cooking to be done before The Day. Mom’s masterpiece involved spooning homemade tangerine sorbet into the tangerine shells that she had spent hours laboriously scooping out through an opening made by slicing a one inch cap off the top. Her “never too sweet,” exquisitely tart, creamily textured sorbet was served as the first course presented inside the hollowed-out, then refilled and solidly frozen tangerines. Each one was garnished with a carefully hand-cut dainty tinfoil leaf. Mom took the tangerines out of the freezer ten minutes before serving, “So each frozen leaf frosts in the warm air.”

The guests always exclaimed that the frosted leaves looked lovely. Sometimes they enthused, “They’re sparkling like diamonds, Mrs. Schaeffer!” But what Mom was really waiting for was someone to gush, “This is the best Christmas of my life and the first time I’ve understood the real meaning of Christmas!” If a guest said that, she would earn Mom’s most radiant, heart-stopping smile, the triumphant smile reserved for those few chosen of the “elect” whose “discerning hearts” were “really open to the things of the Lord.”

Whether a guest was spiritually discerning or not, Mom laid out a meal that would soften any atheist’s heart and put him or her into a mellow mood. If Mom had been raised by secular parents instead of a pietistic missionary mother and father who indoctrinated her into copying their religious zeal, Mom’s sorbet tangerines might have earned her a job offer from someone like Ferran Adrià, founder of el Bulli, the Michelin three-star Spanish restaurant. Then Mom could have become the artist she was born to be and used gold leaf to garnish her tangerines.

Each year the stocking had a different literary theme: Alice in Wonderland one year, the Flower Fairies the next, and the Pinocchio saga after that. “The original story by Carlo Collodi, darling, not some awful ‘adaptation’ by that terrible man Walt Disney.” Mom being Mom, of course everything was as authentic as could be. That year little Italian wooden Pinocchios that Mom had bought in Milan peeked over the top of the stockings. Mom bought the Pinocchios when she traveled to Italy with Dad by train from our home in Switzerland to teach a monthly Bible study. The Alice year we Schaeffers and the guests alike found the book or a White Rabbit doll or a Red Queen doll affixed to each stocking top. Mom bought these at Blackwell’s in Oxford, her favorite bookstore, on Dad’s and her most recent speaking trip. That’s when I was given the copy of Alice in Wonderland that I read to you, Lucy. Mom inscribed it to me and drew the little picture of mountains on the title page that you always asked to see. On the Alice Christmas morning, Mom read your favorite poem out loud that begins:

 

“You are old, Father William,” the young man said,

“And your hair has become very white;

And yet you incessantly stand on your head–

Do you think, at your age, it is right?”

 

and ends with…

 

“I have answered three questions, and that is enough,”

Said his father; “don’t give yourself airs!

Do you think I can listen all day to such stuff?

Be off, or I’ll kick you down stairs!”

 

Mom never simplified any part of our ritual as our family Christmas grew each year along with the size of The Work, as my parents called L’Abri. My mother interpreted the growing flood of guests as “evidence of God’s blessing” and just stayed up later and later until finally she was staying up for seventy-two hours straight and had turned the entire Christmas season into a cheerful martyrdom. By the time I was seven or eight, our Christmas guests included fifteen or so people besides my family. The stocking opening ritual in my parents’ small chalet bedroom, with everyone in their pajamas since this was a “family time,” evolved into a crowded and awkward marathon. As the number of guests grew, we nevertheless kept our family tradition and took turns opening our gifts one at a time.

The wonderful yet toxic combination of Mom’s evangelical goodness, Jesus’ inevitable birthday, and my rage at having to share The Day with strangers is probably why, even these many decades later, I have to force myself to string lights and hang decorations while threatening to “not have Christmas at all this year!” Yet perversely, I have always insisted on carrying on Mom’s complex Schaeffer Advent rituals so that our Christmases would be “just like they used to be.” Nostalgia and horror seem to combine in an oddly appealing mix

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My Very Personal Happy Christmas Story: The wonderful yet toxic combination of Mom’s evangelical goodness, Jesus’ inevitable birthday

 

Women in Business Q&A: Stina Wahlqvist, Penclic

Swedish company Penclic started their journey of computer reinterpretation in 2011. PC mice have existed for more than 30 years with little to no advancement. Penclic flips traditional mouse design on its head to bring a completely new shape to the market that not only looks attractive but also brings substantial ergonomic benefits. Penclic combines the smart, clean Scandinavian design and the latest technology with sleek, ergonomic design to make computer work more functional, comfortable and efficient. Their Bluetooth Mouse B2 was a 2014 CES Innovations Award Honoree.

How has your life experience made you the leader you are today?
Growing up in an entrepreneur family has given me the opportunity to see from a very early age what it means to run a business and what it takes to be a great leader. I have been fortunate to have traveled and lived in different countries. Understanding people from all over the world has given me great insights into multinational cultures and how to best do business all over the world.

How has your previous employment experience aided your position at Penclic?
Working in the family business gave me a sneak peek into what lies ahead when you begin a new venture- such as an exciting new start up like Penclic. You know what processes have to be put in place and the effort it takes to build something from scratch. Prior to Penclic, I independently set up a sales and marketing office in Australia. It was a great challenge, and a fantastic opportunity for professional and personal growth.

What have the highlights and challenges been during your tenure at Penclic?
There are a lot of highlights and challenges. The first couple of products that come out of production truly excite you! To go from seeing the business potential to actually providing the products that you really believe in is an indescribable feeling and accomplishment. When you get feedback from your customers that they love Penclic products and cannot live without them, it makes all the challenges worthwhile. It makes me happy to know that our products are helping people. With people spending so many hours in front of the computer, we want to make sure they’re doing it comfortably.

Any product development company knows that getting the products right, at the right price point, is a big challenge. When you set out to provide high quality at the same time, there can be some headaches. For Penclic, we started creating a new standard, Design and Ergonomics, that fit into the consumer market. It goes without saying you know you are in for a big challenge. Traditionally, ergonomic products are not praised for their “beautiful” design-just for the purpose they serve. We wanted to change that. We saw huge potential to help people and still provide fantastic looking products that are functional. We wanted to find that balance. To me this vision is clear.

What advice can you offer women who are looking to start their own business?
Admit your own potential and use your great drive and DO IT.

How do you maintain a work/life balance?
Turn your computer off J. Find peace of mind knowing that certain things can wait until tomorrow. Delegate. Collaborate. Don’t forget to have fun, both at work and outside work. Get a “brain wash” to clear your head. For me, I did this recently by going to France and attempting to kite-surf.

What do you think is the biggest issue for women in the workplace?
Probably the tradition of a male dominated work environment, but it’s changing. There is also the challenge to find the balance between family and career.

How has mentorship made a difference in your professional and personal life?
Listen to experienced executives! I have had the opportunity to do that. Learning from their experience, I have made up my own mind and taken action. I believe that this is one of the most important things in life: listen.

Which other female leaders do you admire and why?
Fredrika Bremen, a Swedish writer from 1800 that was one of the driving forces for women’s human rights and the right to vote. To challenge the norm and fight for women’s rights is, to me, very admirable and has to be acknowledged.

What do you want Penclic to accomplish in the next year?
We want the growing Tech market to accept ergonomic and beautifully designed products for both end-consumers and businesses. To help alleviate the people who suffer from RSI, through more attention to sustainable products that do good for the growing number of people in front of the computers all day, is another huge goal. We want the number of suffering people to continuously shrink! We also wish for pro-activeness.