U.S. Is Deporting People Who Could Legally Stay Here: Report

When Border Patrol officers kicked Maria out of the country, they didn’t have to go before a judge or allow her to see a lawyer. They only had to file an expedited removal order to deport her. She was a U.S. citizen, but U.S. officials didn’t believe her because the only language she spoke was Spanish. It took her years of legal wrangling to return.

Two other women, deported in a similarly speedy fashion, were gang-raped and shot after they were deported to Guatemala.

These and other cases are detailed in a report published Thursday by the American Civil Liberties Union, which says the U.S. government routinely deports people with legitimate legal claims to stay in the country.

The report only gives the first names of the interviewees.

Based on a review of 136 cases, the ACLU report says the transition toward summary removal procedures since the 1990s has made it common for authorities to wrongly deport asylum seekers, people with strong U.S. ties and, in at least one case, a U.S. citizen.

Prior to a 1996 law called the Illegal Immigration Reform and Immigrant Responsibility Act, the vast majority of those issued a deportation order faced a hearing with a judge, the report says. Now, some 83 percent of deportation orders are issued through rapid-fire removal processes that don’t involve a judge.

The report says the trend means that the details of individual cases can get ignored.

For example, the ACLU report says that border officials commonly fail to screen asylum seekers who have what authorities refer to as a “credible fear” of returning to their country of origin. Those who pass a credible fear screening are allowed to enter the United States while their asylum cases move forward.

Some 55 percent of the 89 interviewees deported summarily at the border said U.S. officials never asked if they feared returning to their home countries, or that they didn’t understand the questions because of language difficulties. Of those who were asked, some 40 percent say they weren’t referred to an asylum officer and were instead immediately deported.

“These summary procedures invite, and guarantee, error. And yet erroneous — even illegal — summary removal orders are difficult to challenge because of the speed of the process, the limited “evidence” required, and the absence of a complete record of the proceeding… Asylum seekers, longtime residents, and others with rights to be in the United States can be deported without a hearing in a matter of minutes.”

The Department of Homeland Security did not immediately respond to a request for comment.

The report recommends immigration enforcement officials to adopt a policy of offering full hearings before immigration judges to those who have strong claims to remain in the country, including asylum seekers, people with U.S.-citizen family and those who have lived here for long periods of time.

The report also recommends training immigration enforcement officers not to use coercion or threats to prod people to accept deportation voluntarily, when in fact they may have the right to see a judge.

The ACLU also asks federal officials to reduce criminal prosecutions for illegal entry and illegal re-entry in order to avoid prosecuting people before they have a chance to present claims to stay in the country.

Immigration offenses are currently the most commonly prosecuted crimes on the federal docket.

Read the full ACLU report here.

Spike Lee: 'I Don't Know What The Grand Jury Was Looking At'

Earlier this year Spike Lee revisited a scene from his film “Do the Right Thing” by creating a mashup clip featuring character Radio Raheem choked to death by police and footage from Eric Garner’s officer-involved death. Lee’s scene, which was inspired by the 1983 death of New York graffiti artist Michael Stewart, not only caused the filmmaker to draw parallels between art imitating life, but also prompting him to protest for justice.

Last night following a grand jury’s decision not to indict police Daniel Pantaleo in Staten Island, New York for the homicide of Garner, Lee appeared on CNN’s Anderson Cooper 360 where he shared his thoughts on losing hope for police relations in America.

“I keep hoping, but hope’s not working. It doesn’t look like hope has been a part of the grand jury in the last nine days in Ferguson and Staten Island,” Lee admitted to Cooper. “I have faith in [Attorney General] Eric Holder, and I think justice, in this case at least…because there’s evidence. There’s a 14-minute tape by Eric Garner’s friend, who spent a lot of that day with him. And I don’t know what the grand jury was looking at that they cannot bring a charge and the guy walks.”

The 57-year-old went on to reveal his experience joining a peaceful New York City protest following last week’s Ferguson, Missouri grand jury decision.

“It was diverse New Yorkers. Black, white, brown, Asian all chanting ‘black lives matter,’” he recalled. “And a lot of young people…You know, young people in this generation gets a bad rap. They’re the ones that are leading this. So watching you inspired me to get out there with these young women and men and be a part of this.”

Check out more of Spike Lee’s Anderson Cooper 360 interview in the clip above.

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Soon You'll Be Able To Order And Pay For A Latte Before You Even Get To Starbucks

First wireless charging stations, now mobile ordering? Yep, Starbucks is all about technology these days, and you’ll soon be able to place your coffee order by phone before you even arrive at a store.

On Wednesday the coffee chain introduced Mobile Order & Pay for stores in Portland, Oregon — and has plans to take the feature nationwide in 2015.

“When a customer’s order is placed using mobile ordering, it is immediately sent to their selected store and our world-class Starbucks partners, or baristas, will begin preparing the customer’s ordered items,” Starbucks spokeswoman Linda Mills told The Huffington Post. “The mobile ordering feature will provide the customer with an approximate wait time at their selected store prior to purchase.”

Mobile Order & Pay is only compatible with the Starbucks app for iPhone, as of now. Mills said customers in Portland can tap the “Menu” tab and tap “yes,” which will turn on GPS location services and the option to place an order.

The feature will be available for Android sometime in 2015, according to the website, and Mills says she expects mobile ordering will improve both customer and employee experience.

“The ease of use, both for customers and [baristas], is expected to increase speed of service, drive incremental transactions and increase throughput across Starbucks stores. We’re continually focused on offering convenience to customers by providing increased accessibility, speed and a stellar finished product.”

3 Bad Assumptions About Networking for Your Job Search

Many job seekers have told me how much they hate networking for their job search. They don’t like meeting strangers, particularly when they (and the strangers) have “an agenda.”

They’d rather spend (waste?) time endlessly clicking on the “Apply” button on job boards than venture out into the scary world of “NETWORKING”!

My favorite networking story:

I witnessed three people connect with new jobs based on one conversation. And the conversation happened at the viewing/wake before the funeral of a former colleague. Not your typical networking venue! Just a few people, waiting in line to pay their respects to a deceased former co-worker, and catching up with what they were doing. Bingo! Three job offers! In less than a week!

3 Wrong Assumptions About Networking

1. Networking is hard work.

No. Networking is not “hard work.” If it is hard work for you, change your approach and/or your mindset.

Networking should be seeing people you like, often connecting with people from your past as well as your current life. Catch up on the news — new friends, new interests, new jobs, new opportunities…

Network with people you have something in common with: a current or former employer, a school, a hobby or some other interest, a town or even a neighborhood, a cause, a religion, etc.

Perhaps “socializing” is a more appropriate term for it than “networking.” Meet friends for coffee, lunch, a drink, movies, jogging, running, dancing, singing, joining, working, or just talking.

Socialize with the mindset of catching up with old friends. What’s happening: What are they doing?

How are they doing? What’s new with them? Anything you can help them with — and vice versa?

2. Networking means large rooms full of strangers.

This assumption is true only if you choose to attend the kind of events that are in large rooms full of strangers.

If you prefer — and most of us do — networking can be done one-on-one or in smaller groups, often with people you already know or with a mix of strangers and people you know.

As someone who is basically shy, I prefer the smaller groups with a mix of “new” and “old” people as both more comfortable and more interesting since I can catch up with friends and colleagues as well as meeting new people, too. The networking that can be accomplished in those situations is amazing!

3. Networking is “using” people.

I wish I had a nickel for every job seeker who said this to me, and it is SO wrong!

If you view networking as “using” people, you are networking the wrong way. Networking shouldn’t be focused on WIIFM (“What’s in it for me!).

To be genuine and effective, networking needs to be focused on being helpful to others, rather than using them. Make that introduction (if appropriate). Share information. Ask for opinions. And ask for help, too.

Yes, hopefully, people will help you but not because you have tricked them or coerced them to do it. That would be “using” them. Resist “keeping score” but do notice if someone is all “take” and no “give.” That IS “using” — using you!

Done correctly, networking is mutual support, and the people who help you are helping you voluntarily, perhaps in response to something you have helped them accomplish. Perhaps they have offered you their support without you even asking for it. Or, maybe you reached out and asked for help.

But, networking isn’t — and it shouldn’t feel like — “using” others.

Your Most Powerful Network.

Your strongest network is those people you already know. Perhaps you worked with them in the past. Or perhaps you grew up with them or met them at an event at your child’s school. Maybe you belong/belonged to an organization together.

People who are over 40 or 50 have a big advantage in the job market. That’s why unemployment is higher for new grads than for Boomers. “Mature” people have an easier time job hunting now because of the size of their networks, particularly their former co-workers and bosses — when they pay attention to them. Yes, you should continue to expand your network, but it shouldn’t be unpleasant to do.

Follow me on GooglePlus and Twitter (@JobHuntOrg) for more job search tips. Join the Job-Hunt Help LinkedIn Group for more help with your job search. This article was original posted on WorkCoachCafe.com.

Susan P. Joyce is president of NETability, Inc. and the editor and chief technology writer for Job-Hunt.org and WorkCoachCafe.com. A veteran of the United States Marine Corps, Susan is also a Visiting Scholar at the MIT Sloan School of Management. In addition to HuffingtonPost.com, Susan also contributes to AOL Jobs, LinkedIn, YouTern.com, NextAvenue.org, and BrazenCareerist.

Here's How Little We Get To Know About The Eric Garner Grand Jury

NEW YORK — The public may never see what evidence was presented to the grand jury that chose not to indict the New York City police officer who put the fatal chokehold on Eric Garner.

On Thursday, a judge approved the release of an extremely limited set of details about the proceedings. Those details are as follows: The grand jury met for nine weeks and heard from a total of 50 witnesses. Sixty exhibits were admitted into evidence. The grand jury was instructed in the law regarding the use of force by police officers.

Scroll down to read the judge’s full decision.

Daniel Donovan Jr., the Richmond County district attorney who prosecuted the case, said in a statement Thursday that he “respected the Court’s exercise of its discretion, and will abide by the Court’s Order.”

“As such,” Donovan continued, “I will have no further comment in connection with the grand jury proceedings relating to the matter of The Investigation into the Death of Eric Garner.”

After the grand jury voted not to indict Officer Daniel Pantaleo on Wednesday, Donovan had applied for a court order “seeking authorization to publicly release specific information.”

“Regarding comments that I can or cannot make, unlike other jurisdictions that have statutes that permit a district attorney to disclose specific details regarding what took place during a grand jury proceeding, New York law does not permit a district attorney to engage in such disclosure,” he said in his statement.

Garner, a 43-year-old father of six, died on July 17 after Pantaleo put him in a chokehold during an arrest for selling untaxed cigarettes. A viral video showed Garner screaming, “I can’t breathe,” 11 times until his body goes limp. Chokeholds are banned by New York City Police Department guidelines.

Ramsey Orta, the young man who filmed Garner’s arrest, told The Daily News on Thursday that when he testified, “nobody in the grand jury was even paying attention to what I had to say. People were on their phones, people were talking. I feel like they didn’t give [Garner] a fair grand jury.”

Orta, who said he testified for just 10 minutes, told the paper that he feels “like it wasn’t fair at all” and that “it wasn’t fair from the start.”

The scant details made public about the Garner grand jury pale in comparison to the complete set of documents released about the grand jury decision not to indict Officer Darren Wilson for the shooting death of Michael Brown in Ferguson, Missouri. The release of those documents last week raised serious questions about how St. Louis County Prosecuting Attorney Robert McCulloch conducted those proceedings.

On Thursday morning, Rev. Al Sharpton announced that the families of both Garner and Brown would join a march on Washington next Saturday, Dec. 13.

In a press conference, Sharpton and other civil rights leaders called for state and local prosecutors to be removed from all criminal cases with police as defendants. Because those prosecutors work so closely with police on other cases, the civil rights advocates argued, it’s a fundamental conflict of interest to have them prosecute police in court. Sharpton suggested the U.S. Department of Justice open an office specifically to handle such cases.

The planned march, Sharpton said, is the beginning of a “series of efforts that will lead to how we redo the grand jury review of policing in this country.”

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10 Ways to Get Your Kitchen Ready for the Holidays

Vanessa Brunner, Houzz Contributor

It’s now December, which means it’s officially holiday party time. Christmas cookie parties, holiday potlucks and extravagant dinner parties start to fill every blank spot on the calendar. It’s also a time that can get pretty stressful if you’ve decided to host a festive get-together.

Instead of getting stressed, get organized! Your kitchen will likely be the hub of activity and the spot where guests are going to want to spend time, so it’s important to clean every nook and cranny. Make sure your kitchen is ready to take on guests and food to prevent damage and major cleanup later.

10 Tips for Stress-Free Holiday Hosting

1. Clean clutter from countertops. Get rid of mail and bills lying around, and put important papers away. You don’t want to have any type of paperwork lying around while your kitchen is a flurry of activity. Make sure all your surfaces — backsplash, counters and floors — are sparkling clean.

2. Clean the microwave. This is often forgotten, but it can be pretty embarrassing to have someone offer to help warm up food and see a gross, food-splattered microwave.

3. Prep your oven. Avoid running the self-clean cycle on the oven right before a big party — it’s actually really stressful on the oven and can cause it to fail right when you’re about to put your turkey in. Instead, do a quick cleaning with a wet rag around the top burners, and leave the rest until after the new year.

4. Clean out the refrigerator. The refrigerator is bound to be used a lot during a big meal — opened and closed constantly and filled to the brim with heavy dishes. Make sure the door handles and gaskets are tight, clean the cold air vents and replace any burned-out lights. Make sure the vents aren’t blocked by food or condiments so that the fridge stays nice and cool throughout the evening.

Remove your refrigerator shelving and wash it in the sink with dish soap. Dry the shelves with a dish towel, and make sure they’re secure when putting them back in the fridge.

5. Disinfect trash cans. No matter how careful you are, food and gunk manages to collect at the bottom of a trash can. Use a holiday party as an excuse to clean trash cans. Take them outside and wash them with a garden hose and dish soap. Disinfect them with a cleaning spray. Make sure you have extra trash bags, too.

6. Check out your dishwasher. Make sure your dishwasher will run efficiently with a large number of dishes in it. Check the drain and clean off any residue, and make sure there’s no broken glass or lost utensils in the bottom. Wipe off the rim of the door and the door gasket, using white vinegar and a sponge to remove any gunk.

7. Get your serveware ready. Have your knives sharpened so you don’t end up hacking away at your honey-baked ham. Or sharpen them yourself if you know how — be careful.

Take inventory of any basic supplies that you’re missing, and purchase or borrow them before the party. Check your utensils, cookware, serveware, spice cabinet, cooking oils, canned goods and other pantry necessities.

If you’re serving your meal on nice serving plates, clean them up and get them ready to go. Polish silver, wash plates and wash and iron cloth napkins.

8. Double-check safety mechanisms. If small children are going to be around, make sure everything is childproof. Set aside a special area outside of the kitchen for children to hang out. But make sure that plugs in the kitchen are covered, lamps and other glass items are away from table edges, and stairways and other dangerous areas are blocked off.

Check your smoke detector and CO2 detector batteries, and replace them if needed. Make sure you have a fire extinguisher on hand, too.

Take a look at your first-aid kit, and replace any missing materials. You never know when someone is going to cut themselves, get burned, or slip and fall.

9. Stock your kitchen properly. Do any of your guests have allergies? Is anyone vegetarian, vegan or gluten-free? Take these into account and prepare accordingly. Make sure there are plenty of non-alcoholic drink options available, too.

10. Create a cooking schedule. Prep what you can ahead of time. Most casseroles and potato dishes can be put in a baking pan ahead of time, and vegetables can be chopped and stored, too. Having a schedule of when everything needs to be made and put into the oven will not only help you keep things organized, but it will help your guests know when and how to help.

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The Future of Marriage

The definition of marriage has changed dramatically over the past ten years. In the way we think of and define “marriage,” there has never been a more intrinsic and foundational change happening than right now. Our structural definition of the legal, emotional, and sexual act of committed partnership is on the cusp of something totally new.

There is such a major shift in how we define marriage that it can be compared to the 1960’s and 1970’s sexual revolution, where we saw all boundaries and mores and values challenged and struck down at their cultural roots. Now, in this century, we see a new era, the 2010’s and 2020’s are witnessing a revolution in marriage that has never been experienced before.

And there is more to come.

Marriage, up until now, has been defined by five things:

One, being married to one person,
Two, marriage is between a man and a woman,
Three, marriage meant that you were partners for a lifetime,
Four, marriage was a promise based on integrity as well as a legal contract and,
Five, marriage meant sexual fidelity to one person; forever.

Now, marriage is defined differently. And not just by liberals or democrats in the blue states.

One, Marriage is still defined by being married to one person, unless of course, you are a Mormon. But you can also stretch the definition to include things like polyamory. Polyamory means “poly, many” and “amorous, love” which translates to being in a relationship where you can love more than one person at the same time. More polyamorous couples are living in openly agreed to multiple partner relationships in this country than can fill the island of Manhattan. And that is only the people that openly identify as ‘poly.’ Some have this arrangement but do not care to call themselves ‘poly’ or check off the box when researchers come around to ask who the other partner is that’s sleeping in the guest room. Although polygamy is not legal in the U.S. (polygamy means to marry more than one person at the same time), polyamory is a lifestyle where couples choose to be in loving and committed relationships with more than one person, sometimes living all together in one home.

Two, marriage is no longer defined as purely an agreement between a man and a woman. The DOMA, or Defense of Marriage Act has been struck down in much of the U.S. and gay marriage is legal in 35 states, as of the writing of this article. Which means that it is legal for two men or two women to marry; or two transsexuals or two gender diverse people of any identification to marry legally. Marriage is no longer defined by gender, but by love and the desire to commit, regardless of sexual identity.

Three, when we marry, we no longer assume we will marry for a lifetime. Divorce in this country is so prevalent, that it would be unusual to think that it never occurs to a bride or groom when they say their vows,

“Hey, if this doesn’t work out, I can always get divorced.”

Most couples don’t want to think about divorce at the altar. In fact, most couples think they are different and special, and that divorce will never happen to them. While, in fact, the rates of divorce still hover at about fifty percent of all married couples.

The divorce rate was lower around 2009 and 2010, when the recession forced couples to stay together out of financial need, and because of the housing market they stayed together in houses they couldn’t sell. But in 2011, the market improved, and a surge of couples put their homes up for sale and went to divorce court. The divorce rates rose back to their previously high numbers.

Four, marriage has always been a legal contract as well as a vow. Divorce compromises what we may have honestly thought at the time was a sincere desire to do right by our spouse. Divorce can be heartbreaking, for both partners. In this country, since the sixties, when it became legal for women to divorce and sue for custody and child support, the process has become available to everyone. But it is expensive, and legal fees can run as high as hundreds of thousands of dollars. The emotional frustration of the legal system is caused many times by couples seeking revenge and trying to gain financial remuneration for their heartache. Both children and families suffer. Until recently, we have not had many alternatives.

Now, we have a new system of divorce developing in our country. The sharp rise in divorce mediation, collaborative divorce, and divorce counseling has helped couples to divorce with integrity and with respect. It helps to keep the children in caring shared custody arrangements. Step family relationships are smoother. Things like ‘conscious uncoupling,’ or ‘divorcing with integrity‘ are a possibility for any couple looking to end their marital contract with dignity and respect for their partner. It is not necessary to rewrite the whole history of your marriage to justify a divorce.

More couples are creating rituals to end their marriage, with love and respect for the lives they have shared. While divorce is still hard, we are becoming more culturally aware that there has to be a better, less expensive and less painful way to do it, if so many of us are going to experience it at some point in our lives.

And five, marriage is no longer a guarantee of sexual fidelity. Monogamy is defined as ‘being married to one person.’ It is a legal term, pledging your love at the time of your wedding is not the same thing as making a legal vow against cheating. With the ease of access to online cheating, and the use of internet pornography, it is easier than ever for infidelity to interfere with a marriage. And with smart phones in hand, this is the first time in history where couples can cheat on their partner lying in bed next to them.

Studies show that 45 to 55% of people will stray at some point in their marriage. Some marriages may appear monogamous on the surface, but have secret affairs. Some have affairs and recover, moving on to a more committed type of marriage. Some partners negotiate a more fluid type of monogamy with outside partners or sexual agreements that do not threaten their emotional monogamy. The integrity of the relationship is maintained through emotional commitment, not sexual exclusivity.

These changes are happening now. But what will happen in the future? Fifty years from now?

Right now it takes two to marry but only one to end the marriage. The end of a marriage is usually defined by the decline of emotional feelings toward one partner, who then makes a unilateral decision that leads to a legal decision to end the contract.

In the future, in order to avoid this, marriage will be defined by shorter, more renewable contracts, in five year increments, or smaller two year contracts with options to renew. These agreements will be revisited at the end of their lease, and either renewed or ended, depending on how the requirements and expectations of the contract are being fulfilled. Both partners will make the decision to stay and renew or both will agree to move on. We renew our license every four years, why not renew our marriage contract?

In the future, gay marriage will have been legal for decades. More arrangements between couples will include open marriages with sexual agreements, polyamory will be more common and perhaps even polygamy will be visited in the legal system.

More of us will be bisexual, transexual and even more sexually androgonous than ever before. More babies will be born without clear gender identity and will not have surgery to assign a sex. We will judge less on sexual identity and more on how we treat one another.

More families will live in village like arrangements where expanded child care covers our offspring’s needs and more of us contribute to the workplace based on our skills, interests and aptitudes. We will share resources, and work toward the reclaiming of our planet.

Even now, couples are waiting till later than ever before to marry, and some are freezing their eggs, hoping to put off child bearing. This will continue, with fertility treatment moving into egg donorship and surrogate parenting with less IVF and hormone treatment.

In the future, couples will have monogamy agreements that are defined early in their relationship and revisited often, in open, honest conversations that include their desires and fantasies, and are renewed with new visions of their relationship on a regular basis. Sex will be seen not as a threat to the relationship but as a way to maintain the individual’s health and well being, and will not become compulsive or split off outside the marriage, since shame around it will have decreased. Sex will be integrated into a full, healthy, partnership, in any way the couple agrees to.

Right now, about 40% of Americans think marriage is obsolete as a concept. They are not sure it is even necessary. As a result, less couples than ever before are married, and marriage rates will continue to decline into the future. There is no longer motivation to marry. Couples no longer need to marry to have children, to pass on their property or to have sex. In one hundred years, marriage may not even exist.

But we will always want a primary partner. It is a basic human propensity to fall in love, to have a special person, an “other, ” someone with whom we feel a deeper, more spiritual connection.

But could we have this connection with many partners, not just one? How many soulmates could we have in one lifetime? Right now we are practicing serial monogamy, moving from one marriage to a second and even a third, not really staying with the same mate till death do we part. Is it possible we are starting to recognize that we are living longer, and we may have the time for more than one important relationship within our lifetime?

But perhaps this makes sense. Perhaps as we evolve as humans we will understand that we do not have just one soulmate. This idea is lovely, but limiting. Perhaps we have many soulmates, perhaps a whole tribe of them that travel with us throughout our time on earth, those we have met and those we haven’t met yet.

Or maybe, if we advance enough, we will learn that not only is our spouse our soulmate, but everyone we meet and everyone we see, throughout our whole lives, including strangers on the street, people on the news, those in other countries we will never know, those we hate, and those we love, all of them – they are all our soul mates.

Dr. Tammy Nelson is a sex and relationship expert and the author of The New Monogamy. She speaks internationally on global relational change.

The Flips and Flops of Summer Pregnancy

If you are thinking about getting pregnant this time of year… keep in mind what a summer pregnancy looks like!

As a teacher’s aid, having the summer off last year before my due date was great… for the first few weeks. I got soooo much accomplished, but once all the errands were finished and everyone else was working, several months off by myself got a little mundane. Add on the fact that being 8 months pregnant hindered the amount of physical work or activity I could take on in a day as well. So for those of you curious to what being unemployed and pregnant in the summer looked like for me… read on.

7:30 am: First, I wake up… or maybe I just blinked… did I even sleep? I spent all night trying to get comfortable amongst a never-ending mass of pregnancy pillows that were propped and squeezed underneath curves and bumps I didn’t even know I had. In the wee hours of the night I finally managed to get comfortable enough to start drifting into a sleepy abyss… and then… yup….I just threw up in my mouth. We meet again acid reflex. So, after dining on a moonlit snack of orange, berry and grape-flavored Tums, I managed to fall into sleep… AKA into pregnancy dreams. No one warned me how random these would be! Wrestling alligators in Madonna’s backyard, oversea voyages on Robin William’s personal yacht, being a backup dancer for Prince’s come-back tour or the time I kept forgetting my child in the checkout line. So, after sleeping in 45 minutes increments all night, I am out of bed by 8:00 a.m. and in serious need of a nap already. I make myself a peanut butter-laden bagel and corrupt my innocence watching Desperate Housewives in some faraway land.

9:00 a.m.: I start cleaning. Whatever I can find to clean, that is. Because I have already cleaned my house… like REALLY cleaned my house, like borderline OCD cleaned my house. I’ve already vacuumed out all my cupboards, cleaned the fridge and freezer, dusted the baseboards, organized my pantry, color-coordinated my closet, refolded my linens, purged and donated household items, labelled electric cords, sorted through all of my cosmetic items, organized my craft room, polished the wood furniture and tidied my shoe closet. So, my big clean of the day is putting away last night’s dishes and sweeping the kitchen. Woop de doo…. Now what…

9:45 a.m.: Gym time! I complete an Olympic-style dive into my workout pants and manually squash myself into my workout top and I’m already sweating. I arrive at the gym and spend the first 10 minutes strategically positioning myself on the stationary bike. I start pedaling and knock the wind out of myself. Apparently, my knees now encounter my stomach. Well… I guess my body is no longer ergonomically correct to ride the bike. So, up to the weight room to start my workout. After breaking a sweat from merely stretching, I grab my weights. I start grunting like a wild animal and every time I switch from a standing to seated position, I need to put my head between my knees so I don’t pass out. Finally, an hour later, my workout is done, but I still have to get back off my yoga mat. (Ever see a beetle stuck on it’s back? Yeah, that’s a pretty accurate description)

11:00 a.m.: I have some time to kill before lunch, so I decide to go shopping…. for nothing specific that I need, everything I want and nothing that I have money to buy. Ever went clothes shopping while 8 months pregnant!? It’s like trying to fit a watermelon in a gum wrapper. I was determined that I wasn’t going to waste money on overpriced prego clothes. I don’t need a $55 undershirt that will sit in my closet collecting dust after only wearing it for a couple months. So, no maternity stores for me. Which leaves me shopping in my favorite stores where my body fits… well, nothing…. and how do you shop for a body that seems to change overnight anyways? You don’t. But I on the other hand, naively take a bunch of trendy clothes into the change room that I assume still fit, only to realize that I can’t even come close to buttoning up those cute skinny jeans. Partially because they are five sizes too small, and secondly because I can’t see over my belly to figure out where the buttons are, anyways. So I put the clothes back and waddle out of the mall.

12:00 p.m.: I’m home, so I make myself what I feel constitutes as lunch (soda crackers and cheese, a banana, a couple cookies and a popsicle) and yet again sit on the couch for 20 minutes convincing myself that I need a robotic mop from the shopping channel. Now what?! Nothing to do around the house. I’ve already cleaned, exercised and went shopping. Hmmmm, It’s summer time, so I guess I’ll go to the beach?! I slather up my belly with sunscreen, and hope that I can bend over far enough to get some sunscreen on my legs. I can only reach my knees… screw it… good enough. Then I slap on my bathing suit and moo-moo cover-up, pack my beach bag and floaty mattress, drive to the beach and set up my towel.

1:00 p.m. Now, time to relax… not so fast. I’m pregnant, so the assumed tanning position of lying on my back is out of the question. Ooohh, I’ll lie on my stomach… oh wait! I have three new mounds to accommodate for. I could dig out a small burrow in the sand underneath me?! Oh, who am I kidding?! I’d be digging a hole comparable to a WWII trench before I’d be comfortable enough to lie face down. I guess I lie on my side?! That’s uncomfortable, awkward and makes for poor tan lines. I guess it’s time to float on the water. I pump up my air mattress, which leaves me panting and sweaty and head into the water. Once I’m waist deep, I decide to get on my floaty. I forget that my greased up sunscreen body has absolutely no friction when trying to beach myself up onto a slippery wet plastic floaty. After I elegantly shoot across the top of my mattress headfirst into the water, I realize this isn’t as easy as it looks. I finally manage to get onto my air mattress (with a mild case of indecent exposure to nearby boaters) and I relax. Twenty minutes later my back hurts, my neck is sore, I’m hungry and my calves are sun burnt. I head back to shore, have a snack (sitting cross-legged with my belly resting on my thighs is a far cry from an attractive view) and repeat the process of getting on the floaty all over again. Two hours later I’m bored, frustrated and physically exhausted.

3:00 p.m.: After a cold shower and donning comfy clothes, I guess I’ll relax and read. I grab my novel, set my favorite zero-gravity chair in the shade and read my book. An hour into my book, my back is buckling under the weight of my belly… zero gravity, my ass…. maybe if I was submerged underwater or on a space craft that would be more accurate. I’m fighting to keep my eyes open, so back in the house for a nap.

4:00 p.m. I’m finally nestled into the seemingly shrinking narrow couch…. with every decorative pillow propped around me. After battling to find a comfy position, I finally head into my room and try to get comfortable there.

5:00 p.0.m I’m in bed and I think I might be able to actually get some sleep. It’s probably only 3 in the afternoon, so I have lots of time.

5:15 p.m.: Hubby walked in the door after my brief 14-minute nap and says “Hi baby! You look like you’ve had a relaxing day… what are we doing for dinner?”

Awwwww, crap… I guess we’re eating macaroni and cheese.

So, for those of you that envy pregnant unemployed life… it’s not as glamorous as it sounds. Sure, in an ideal world it would be. If I wasn’t pregnant, I’d be sipping wine and eating soft cheeses on a patio with a girlfriend after a long and successful day of shopping for beautiful clothes that fit my lean body, then head home relaxed and energized to prepare a beautiful dinner. But no… I’m 8 months pregnant sipping water and eating Tums by myself after a long and exhausting day of trying to fit into skinny jeans, followed by practically drowning myself at the lake only to come home too exhausted to even think of dinner and too prego to be able to get comfortable enough for a nap.

Just another day in the life of a stay-at-home pregnant wife… but hey. It’s not that bad. After all, if for the next seven weeks I accomplish nothing else, I’m still doing the best thing ever…. creating a new life. Id say that’s a pretty big accomplishment.

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“I see all those moms who can do everything and then I think… I should have them do some stuff for me.” ~ Author Unknown

In Setback For U.S. Efforts, Consensus Grows That ISIS Launched Attack From Turkey

WASHINGTON — Any day now, the U.S. and Turkey may finally reach an agreement on jointly combating the Islamic State. But in the meantime, Turkey appears less helpful to the U.S. mission than ever: There is growing evidence that Islamic State militants conducted a battle on Turkish soil this past weekend.

The reports, if confirmed, would illustrate that Turkey’s ongoing reluctance to escalate pressure against the Islamic State has had real costs — and that, even if the country does become more involved in the fight, skepticism about its true intentions will linger.

According to reports by moderate Syrian rebels, a United Kingdom-based monitoring group and outside analysts, the Islamic State was able to use Turkish territory in an advance on the Syrian border town of Kobani on Saturday, Nov. 29. At least 30 people were killed around Kobani during the Islamic State’s attacks on the town.

The Turkish government has denied the allegations that the incident took place on its territory.

Kurdish groups, who have historic grievances against the Turkish state, have previously made similar claims. But the strong consensus surrounding this latest incident is perhaps the clearest example to date of how Turkey’s failure to more actively target the Islamic State is aiding the militant group.

If accurate, the reports of this battle would be problematic for both Turkey and the U.S.

Turkey is a well-armed NATO member whose government has stated it opposes the Islamic State, which is also known as ISIS or ISIL. For Turkish territory to serve as a tactical asset to the militant group would be, in the words of a pro-Kurdish political party in Turkey, a “scandal.”

For the U.S., the reports are embarrassing because they show the limits of what can be done to combat the Islamic State without more direct Turkish cooperation. The U.S. has invested deeply in the Kobani battle, focusing a vast number of airstrikes on Islamic State forces there. But through it all, the militants may have retained a key advantage: the ability to operate on Turkish soil.

The first claims about the Islamic State launching an attack from Turkey emerged on Saturday from Syrian Kurdish sources and the Syrian Observatory for Human Rights, a conflict monitoring group based in the UK.

The Observatory posted a video of the alleged battle the same day.

A representative of the PYD, the political group that controls Kobani, told Kurdish affairs analyst Mutlu Civiroglu she believed the claims, according to a tweet posted Saturday by Civiroglu.

The following day, Aaron Stein, a widely published analyst of Turkish policy and an associate fellow at the Royal United Services Institute, published his own open source analysis of the claims. Using satellite map imagery, sightings of Turkish tanks in Islamic State videos and a border delineation by the State Department, Stein argued that the ISIS fighters took advantage of a “sort of ‘no-mans-land’ between where [Turkey] has set-up its defenses and the border” to attack Kobani from the north. His analysis corroborated previous reports that Turkish forces have left a swath of border territory undefended, making it possible for the militants to operate there.

Stein concluded that the Islamic State and the YPG, the fighting force defending Kobani, had indeed conducted a battle on Turkish soil. He said that an Islamic State suicide car bomb entered the Kobani area from Turkish territory, followed by Islamic State fighters. Kurdish forces then pushed the ISIS militants back and continued fighting on Turkish soil.

Other observers weighed in with their own support for the reports.

“I find Aaron Stein’s analysis quite convincing,” Aymenn Jawad Al-Tammimi, a researcher at the Interdisciplinary Center in Israel and a contributor to the Syria Comment blog, told The Huffington Post by email on Sunday.

Tammimi added that a member of the U.S.-backed Free Syrian Army who is currently in Kobani told him that the FSA had battled the Islamic State on Turkish land.

ISIS supporters hailed news of the battle as a triumph.

But Turkey maintains that the reports are untrue. “Claims that the vehicle reached the border gate by crossing through Turkish soil are a lie,” a statement from the government read.

Many remain skeptical about Turkey’s commitment to combating the extremist militant group. Kurds within Turkey continue to clash with the authorities over the Islamic State issue, most recently in a Tuesday incident in which Kurdish demonstrators threw Molotov cocktails at the police and faced down tear gas.

Since the weekend, Kurdish sources have made further claims that a new round of Islamic State attacks was launched from Turkish territory, though others have yet to corroborate these assertions. The sources also said that Turkish soldiers were targeting Kurdish refugees from Kobani who had crossed the border to seek shelter.

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Even as multiple accusations of Turkish complicity were being made, news reports suggested on Monday that the U.S. may be close to securing a Turkish commitment to fighting the Islamic State.

The two countries have been in intense discussions over the idea of establishing a no-fly zone along the Syrian-Turkish border. Turkey sees such a zone as essential. Without it, Turkish policymakers believe, the moderate U.S.-backed Syrian rebel forces will be unable to rebuild their strength and emerge as an effective fighting force against the Islamic State, while civilian suffering will continue to rise. Reports indicate that if the U.S. agreed to support a no-fly zone with air cover, Turkey would send forces of its own into Syria and, crucially, meet a U.S. demand by granting American jets access to its strategically important Incirlik air base.

But U.S. policymakers have long expressed reservations about setting up the zone, primarily because it would risk boosting tensions with Syrian President Bashar Assad. The dispute exemplifies the two allies’ differing priorities: Turkey is intent on more directly undermining the Assad regime, but he is not the target of the U.S. involvement in Syria.

U.S.-Turkish ties have been notably strained since the Obama administration decided to enter Syria exclusively to fight the Islamic State, even as Turkey continued to urge it to confront Assad as well.

In addition to the Assad issue, Turkey has also been disappointed by the Obama administration’s support for the Syrian Kurds. The YPG, the Kurdish fighting force defending Kobani, is linked to the PKK, a group that has battled the Turkish state and that features on the U.S. list of terrorist organizations. Even so, the PKK has for weeks been sharing coordinates with U.S. bombers.

Turkish Prime Minister Recep Tayyip Erdogan received authority from Parliament in October to employ Turkish forces against the Islamic State. But he has yet to use that power.

Other factors behind the Turkish delay, analysts say, include fears that the Islamic State could whip up support within the country and launch attacks on Turkish soil. Turkey may also be concerned that without a promise of expanded U.S. involvement, it will have to bear the burden of an expanding international war in northern Syria — including more refugees and increased violence — on its own.

Joshua Walker, an analyst at the German Marshall Fund and a former senior State Department advisor, told HuffPost in a Monday email that Turkey is unlikely to change its stance unless the U.S. alters its strategy in Syria.

“Presently there is a cold peace between Ankara and ISIS given that neither side sees it in their interest to provoke the other,” Walker wrote.

He noted that high-level U.S. outreach to Turkey — including visits by Vice President Joe Biden and Gen. John Allen, the envoy for the U.S.-led coalition against the Islamic State — had yet to bear fruit, even as the militant group “made its ambitions clear.”

Walker added that even though he believed Turkey should be taking the Islamic State more seriously, “there has been little evidence of a changed Turkish position.”

We Can't Breathe, But We Can Get Organized In The Name Of Eric Garner And Racial Disparity

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“I Can’t Breathe” signs and chants blanketed the streets of New York City Wednesday evening–emblematic of the outrage the public is feeling after a New York grand jury declined to indict a white police officer for chokeholding and killing a black, asthmatic Staten Island man. The announcement triggered thousands of citizens to take to the streets in Manhattan and in cities across the U.S. to protest. Captured on video in July, the deadly incident unfolded when officer Daniel Pantaleo, 29, grabbed the neck of 43-year-old Eric Garner for allegedly selling loose cigarettes. Though chokeholding is illegal in New York, and Garner’s death was officially ruled as a homocide, no explanations for the grand jury’s decision have surfaced. Could we see a transcript of Pantaleo’s testimony, please?

While most of the protests were peaceful, at least 83 arrests took place, according to the New York Daily News. Traffic was halted briefly along the West Side Highway, Columbus Circle, and at the Lincoln Tunnel, but no major violence or injuries have been reported. Protests are expected to resume tonight in Foley Square in lower Manhattan.

This turn of events is transpiring hot on the heels of a Missouri grand jury concluding last week that no crime was committed when Darren Wilson, a white police officer, shot and killed Michael Brown, an 18-year-old unarmed black man, who was followed for robbing a convenience store in Ferguson.

While the two cases differ in circumstance and cause of death, the undeniable, unavoidable common thread that the nation is in an uproar over is clear. If you are a black man in America, you are paying a penance for any crime that has ever been committed by a black person in America. In the killing of Michael Brown, conflicting witness reports and forensics have led to heated debate about Wilson not going to trial. But in Eric Garner’s case, the proof is in the video. And any scientific testing to examine the cause of his death is moot. He had asthma. He was swarmed by multiple police officers. He was choked. And he died on July 17, 2014 after being forced to the ground and saying repeatedly, “I can’t breathe.”

Last week, President Obama announced he would be allocating $50,000 in funding for police body cameras. Are cameras intended to monitor the actions of police officers who are supposed to be protecting and serving the public the answer? It won’t hurt, but it’s not targeting the root of the problem, which is racial disparity, racial profiling and police brutality.

Esaw Garner, Eric Garner’s widow and the mother of their six kids, called her husband’s death a “modern day lynching.” Some disagree. While being interviewed by CNN, Republican Congressman, Peter King, said Garner is dead he was obese and unhealthy. King’s comments alone are enough to ignite a protest.

The news of the non-indictment has set Twitter aflame with chatter, as well. Last night, the social media platform saw a massive outpouring of people sharing personal experiences and opinions about the differences between how white people and black people are treated by the law when the hashtag #CrimingWhileWhite spread like wildfire. Here are a few tweets that caught our eyes.

Whatever your opinion of Brown’s and Garner’s death is, and whatever you think should happen to officers Wilson and Pantaleo, I encourage you all to talk about your views openly. Get into uncomfortable, awkward dialogue. Use your voice, and be thoughtful and organized in your execution. This is how real social change occurs. Cameras may not have been the solution where the grand jury was concerned in Pantaleo’s case. But all citizen journalism efforts help keep the public informed. And fueling animosity in a nation that is already divided in its politics is never the answer.

For people wanting to take action, there are tools and resources to help you. From July to October, multiple petitions initiated in response to Garner’s death and to end police brutality begin sprouting up on Change.org. The conversation is just beginning. Don’t stop now.

Attorney General Eric Holder announced last night that the Justice Department will launch a civil rights investigation of Garner’s death. Know now your civil rights! They are the same rights as every individual in this country, irrespective of race.

Stay peaceful. Listen. Stay educated. If you’re protesting and doing your part to document what’s happening in the streets, check out The Toolbox’s roundup of tools and articles for protesters and citizen journalists here.