Street Symphony: Showing Up for Underserved Communities

I recently had the opportunity to interview Vijay Gupta, the artistic director and founder of Street Symphony, a non-profit organization dedicated to creating live, free, on-site musical experiences of the highest artistic quality for people experiencing incarceration and homelessness in Los Angeles County. Street Symphony ensembles perform at LA County Jails and homeless shelters in downtown Los Angeles, as well as at public events for the community-at-large with the goal to raise awareness for issues of mental health, incarceration, and homelessness.

Julie Ingram: What gave you the idea to start Street Symphony?
Vijay Gupta: My colleague, Mitch Newman at the LA Phil, had done a concert series in Long Beach at a mental health association called The Village, an organization with a leading restorative justice type model to homelessness. Just amazing social workers. Mitch played a fundraising concert there once a year, and I noticed very quickly that although these concerts were highly beneficial, the musicians weren’t playing for any of the actual homeless people. So I thought, What if there is a way to connect with them. I wanted to fully realize the benefit of what this music could do, not only in terms of enlivening the organization, but for the people that it’s a custodian of. We started in a basement conference room on Skid Row with four LA Phil members. The social workers there even reached out of their own pockets to pay for sandwiches, cookies, and sodas. That was the beginning. There was no idea to start a non-profit. Around this time I was a TED Fellow speaker and had told the story of my experience teaching Nathaniel Ayers, thinking it was the end. But my mentors at TED told me this was just the beginning. They encouraged me to keep practicing my speaking, and the next year I came back to TED and got some funding. A private donor said, “Here’s $10,000. Do what you can do.”

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(Photo by Cooper Bates Photography)

JI: What is your emotional connection to the work?
VG: The main question is, What are we actually doing as musicians? It’s the most terrifying question to ask. Why are we spending tens of thousands of hours behind closed doors, by ourselves in a room, trying to nail one passage in tune before we can even set foot on a stage to play an audition behind a screen? That’s what our lives are. We are so disconnected from our power of expression – the power that is the invitation to connect. So if the power and invitation is to connect, then who is the most disconnected? There’s a mirror of consciously going into places of homelessness or incarceration where society says, that you are ‘other’. You are not us. And maybe it’s not only my experience of feeling that, as a classical musician, I am very much ‘other’ – because in our craft, when we make a mistake, we’re seen as a mistake. There’s so much guilt and so much shame that can be a part of making music, so literally our audiences, in creating that safe space along with us, remind us that this is all about connection.

JI: Which groups and people contribute to the well-being of Street Symphony?
VG: Midnight Mission, PATH (People Assisting the Homeless), and The Department of Mental Health Skid Row Clinic. I’ve worked with Judge Rubin and the LA County Sheriff’s Department to facilitate concerts at Men’s Central Jail, Twin Towers, Wayside Facility in Valencia, and the Lynwood Facility for Women. We’ve also performed in VAs and hospitals. We’ve done 160 free concerts since 2011, 58 of those at the jail. Street Symphony has been fortunate enough to have string performers from the LA Phil, as well as a gypsy band called “Trio Dinicu”, and a jazz ensemble lead by guitarist Brandon Bernstein that includes musicians like Putter Smith and Ramon Banda. Recently, The Olive Trio, a wonderful chamber group from the Colburn Conservatory, performed for Men’s Central Jail in downtown Los Angeles.

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(Photo by Cooper Bates Photography)

JI: How does living in LA shape your advocacy towards Street Symphony?
VG: The reality of homelessness is that in this city, there are 80,000 homeless people on any given night. LA is also home to Twin Towers Jail, the largest psychiatric facility in the country. There’s a very clear revolving door between being homeless and mentally ill on Skid Row…which I mean, if you made any one of us homeless for 6 hours, we’d go out of our mind. But being homeless, having drugs pushed on you by the drug sharks, and then having a run-in with a cop on Skid Row, can have you end up in county jail. It happens. And our de facto treatment of homelessness is incarceration. I’m not an activist. I didn’t come into this wanting to be an activist, but now I don’t have a choice because you know – you see it in front of you. And I can’t understand why after a concert I can have a conversation with an incarcerated man about Beethoven – and he’s in love with the music as much as I am – and that night I get to order a pizza, and he’s in Twin Towers Jail. I don’t understand it. But this is one of the reasons I started Street Symphony.

JI: What is your personal mission statement for Street Symphony after having been involved in it for three years?
VG: The call for Street Symphony is to say look, just look at what’s happening. The goal is not religious, it’s not political, it’s not to shift policy. It’s just to show up for people.

If you wish to attend a concert, Street Symphony will be playing at the Midnight Mission (601 S. San Pedro St, Los Angeles, CA 90014) on Jan. 29th, March 26th, May 28th, July 30th, Sept. 24th and Nov. 5th.

As a new and growing non-profit organization, Street Symphony relies on the generous support of donors to deliver the healing power of music. To contribute, please go to this link: https://donatenow.networkforgood.org/streetsymphony

How to Survive the Holidays When You Feel Like a Grinch

Whether you’ve experienced a recent loss or you’re strapped for cash or short on time or you’re sick or feeling especially lonely or sad or anxious this year, the holidays can make you feel worse than you already do. It can be hard to muster enthusiasm for the parties and celebrations and the endless obligations when all you want to do is pull a blanket over your head and sleep through the whole month of December — and maybe January and February, too, while you’re at it. But you can’t sleep through it, and while you don’t have to embrace the season if your heart’s not in it, there are a few things you can do to make it not so terrible. Keep reading for a few tips to survive the holidays when you feel like a grinch.

1. Embrace your Grinch-ness.
Don’t feel like getting in the holiday spirit? Then don’t! Get into the anti-holiday spirit! Throw an anti-holiday party for your fellow Scrooges where you promise there will be nary a decoration seen or Christmas tune heard. Set Grinch-y house rules stating that anyone heard uttering anything holiday-related will have to stand outside in the cold for three minutes with only a coat and a flask of whiskey to keep warm. But be warned: the ridiculousness of it all might just make you smile despite yourself.

2. Don’t spend money you don’t have.
Tell friends and loved ones not to expect store-bought gifts from you this year because you’re on a tight budget and can’t afford to shop. Instead, write a handwritten letter to the people on your holiday list telling them what they mean to you. I promise it will mean more than a sweater bought on sale at the Gap. If you still want to do something more, think about what you have to offer in the way of personal skills or expertise that might bring them joy or convenience. Baking, cooking, home organization, babysitting, house sitting, yard work/snow removal, dog walking, car washing, knitting, photography, and house cleaning are just some of the gifts of time and skills you can offer people in your life if you’re short on funds. As someone who has to pay $15 an hour for a babysitter to watch my son, I can’t tell you how appreciative I am any time we get free sitting! That is definitely a meaningful gift.

3. Do something nice for a stranger(s).
Feeling jaded about the meaning of the holidays? Be the change you’d like to see! Send a card or care package to a deployed service member. Drop off some cookies at your local fire house or with your local school’s crossing guards who stand in the cold all morning and afternoon. Buy some $5 Dunkin’ Donut gift cards and pass them out to homeless people. Write your kids’ teacher or caregiver a thank you note for the hard work he or she does.

4. Just say “no.”
Don’t feel like going home for the holidays? Don’t. Not up for attending all the various parties and social functions? Blow them off… or make a quick appearance and leave or just choose one to go to instead of dragging yourself to all of them. What’s the worst that will happen? People will think you’re anti-social? That you don’t love them? If they give you grief, tell them you can’t get time off from work or you don’t have the money to travel or you aren’t feeling well or you already have other plans or you’ve decided to sit the holidays out this year and you hope they understand. There will be other opportunities to show up, and once you relieve yourself of the pressure to be present for the holidays, you may just find some moments during the month that are actually enjoyable.

5. Find one outfit you’re excited to wear.
Maybe you can’t get out of your social obligations, but that doesn’t mean you have to be miserable. One of the best ways to make a social obligation a little more fun is to look great going out. So pull out a favorite outfit you haven’t had the opportunity to wear in a long time or take advantage of all the sales and buy yourself something new that looks awesome on you. Or, if you’re broke and hate everything in your closet, do a clothing swap with a friend who’s the same size as you or ask to borrow something or spend a little time mixing and matching stuff you already own or adding a “statement” piece, like patterned tights or a big necklace, and see if you can create a new outfit pairing items you hadn’t thought to wear together.

6. Focus on one holiday-related thing or activity you like (or at least don’t hate).
Maybe it’s the holiday drinks at Starbucks or sales at your favorite store or the way your city empties out the week of Christmas when everyone goes to the suburbs to visit their families (I love that!). There must be one little thing that happens this time of year that brings you even the tiniest bit of joy (time off from work, at least?), so focus on that and make a point to enjoy it even while actively disliking everything else about the holidays.

7. Don’t try to lose weight.
There are so many temptations this time of year that make losing weight a losing battle, sabotaging your self-esteem and making you even grumpier. Instead, enjoy a few select treats and try to focus on just maintaining your weight or keeping your weight gain to under three pounds, which you can lose in a weekend come the new year.

8. Connect with people you like and/or miss.
Even if you can’t afford to travel to all your loved ones, you can at least make some phone calls or enjoy some Skype sessions with people who fill you up instead of depleting your energy. If possible, squeeze in some time with your local friends you don’t see nearly enough, using the holidays as an excuse to get together. Sure, no one looks forward to social obligations with people they don’t necessarily want to see, but when it’s people who lift you up, a quick brunch or snowy walk through the park or meet-up for coffee can renew your chapped spirit.

9. Schedule an extra therapy appointment.
I’m serious on this one. If you know the holidays — or at least this particular holiday season — is a trigger for you — talk it out. If you’re in therapy, schedule an extra session to help you cope. If you’re in a 12-step program, attend more meetings. If you don’t have a therapist and you aren’t in any programs, consider calling a hotline that specializes in your particular form of hardship, or vent on an internet message board, or talk to a clergy person if you’re religious, or see a campus counselor if you’re in school, or talk to a trusted friend or loved one who’s proven to be a good listener. Unload your burden a little so the weight isn’t as heavy.

10. Take care of your physical self.
Exercise! Get fresh air! Schedule a massage! Build a snowman or go ice skating or throw snowballs at a group of carolers, you old scrooge. Physical activity releases endorphins, which help fight the blues and makes things like dysfunctional family get-togethers and socializing with annoying co-workers a little more bearable.

11. Start new traditions.
Maybe the holidays are no fun for you because you don’t enjoy any of the traditions you’ve always begrudgingly participated in. But you’re an adult now and part of the beauty of that is that you can start your own traditions. And they can be totally silly or ironic (how do you think ugly christmas sweater parties began?) or irreverent or have very little to eve do with the holidays at all except they take place every year in December. The point of traditions is to mark the passing of time with people you love and care about so as long as you’re doing that, a tradition can be anything you damn want it to be. Just think of something to do, invite a few favorite people to join you, call it the “First annual holiday (or anti-holiday) such-and-such” and Boom! you’ve got a new tradition — one you can actually look forward to.

12. And whatever you do: avoid the mall!
Enough said.

Wendy Atterberry writes the relationship advice blog, Dear Wendy. You can follow her on Facebook.

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Are You Living in New Age Professional Hell?

Do you love what you do or are you living in new-age professional hell? This may be the seminal question of our age.

In yesterday’s world, people worked 40 hours a week and took four weeks of vacation. This question was practically moot. If you didn’t like your job it was pretty much part-time anyway, the benefits were glorious, and it just wasn’t that bad.

I remember visiting the corporate headquarters of one of the world’s most successful companies at 5 p.m. sometime in the early 80s. There was almost no one there! You could fire a cannonball down the hall and not hit anyone. Those days are gone. It was much easier to find meaning and satisfaction in activities outside of work when we were under a lot less pressure and worked far fewer hours. Not only did people have more time, they weren’t as tired.

Today’s professional has much different experience. Almost all of the professionals I work with are busier today than they ever have been in their lives, working 60 to 80 hours a week. They feel under more pressure than ever. Cell phones, tablets, and laptops tether us to our work wherever we are whether we like it or not. Put it all together and you quickly realize – if you don’t love what you do, you are in the new-age of professional hell where you spend your days waiting for a pause in the steady flow of work so that you can take a break. Let me tell you, that day never comes!

Making the Move to Loving What You Do
Life is too short. It’s not worth it. In the new world, we don’t have to love everything that we do, but we need to find happiness and meaning in most of our professional work. One of my coaching clients, Vicky, has a mind that races at about 1,000 miles an hour. She’s extremely creative and entrepreneurial. Vicky was working as a division president in a large, somewhat conservative company. The people who hired her believed that they wanted someone who would “rock the boat” and “make waves.” Once they began to experience “waves” and “boat rocking,” though, they decided that this might not be such a great idea after all!

Although I was hired to help her fit in with the existing culture, it was just a bad match. She was becoming frustrated with her life and was frustrating many of the executives who were running the firm. Summing it up in one sentence, she groaned, “I feel like a racy Ferrari that’s being asked to act like a Ford pickup!”

As her coach, my advice was simple: “Leave.” She had beaten me to the punch, replying, “I just did!”

There was nothing wrong with Vicky. There was nothing wrong with her company. She just didn’t belong there. When she asked herself, “Do I love what I do?” her answer was a clear, “No, I am living in new-age professional hell!”

Vicky’s time off for reflection after leaving her job didn’t last long. She’s playing a key role in an entrepreneurial startup, she’s on two boards of nonprofits doing a lot of good things for her community, and most important, she’s having a lot of fun. She has successful made the move from new-age professional hell to loving what she does. And, you can too!

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Please view the Marshall Goldsmith Thinkers50 Video Blog. The short video in the series Personal Advice; Do You Love What You Do? accompanies this article. I’ll post these blogs once a week for the next 50 weeks. The series will incorporate learnings from my 38 years of experience with top executives, as well as material from my previous research, articles and books, including What Got You Here Won’t Get You There, MOJO, Coaching for Leadership, and Succession: Are You Ready? The blogs will also include material from my exciting new research on engagement and my upcoming book Triggers (to be published by Crown in 2015).

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