The New Nutrition Secret

“Tell me the new nutrition secret that will blow my mind.”

After nearly 15 years of being asked this question, I guess it’s time to provide an answer. But I’ll be honest, I dread when people make this specific request.

It’s not because breaking discoveries in fitness and nutrition aren’t real or happening — but rather because it represents a disturbing trend.

Every new nutrition approach is drenched in fear tactics and instant gratification promises that stretch reality.

You can build muscle. You can burn fat. And heck, you can do both at the same time while eating wheat… although some might make you believe it’ll automatically blow up your gut no matter who you are.

An easier question is identifying what you shouldn’t do, like making up a “miracle diet” that demonizes foods and claims all that stands between you and the body you desire is dropping that glass of milk from breakfast.

The line between what works and what doesn’t has been erased, and now it’s nearly impossible to see what is real, what is anecdotal, and what has no place in the fitness industry whatsoever.

What’s Real?
Want great results: Eat real food and work hard. This should go without saying, but these are rarely the answers that anyone wants but they are the only solutions that have survived the test of time.

Want to build muscle? Work hard. Eat more. Train consistently. And stay healthy.

Have trouble losing weight? Eat a majority of your foods from proteins, vegetables, fruits, and healthy fat sources. And yes, I said majority because there is always room for dessert.

I’ve had the honor of interviewing many of the fittest people in the world, and you know what? Everyone eats dessert, and not just on cheat days.

You can have your cake and see your abs too — as long as the cake isn’t a daily indulgence.

What’s Anecdotal
I’m told that carbs will make me fat by skyrocketing insulin. That bread and milk can’t be handled by my body. Gluten was created by Satan. Soy protein will give me man boobs. Late night eating stories all calories as fat. And eating too much protein will give me kidney problems.

The list goes on and on and on. Are there instances where someone might eat soy and end up with higher estrogen levels? Sure. Does that mean soy causes your testosterone levels to drop? Not if you read the research that shows it’s clearly not the case.

The same can be said about dairy (which is shown to help weight loss, especially people that need to drop pounds), carbs at night (which has research alluding to how they might reduce body fat), and higher protein diets (which don’t harm healthy kidneys).

Most of what makes nutrition and fitness feel like a burden is more hype than help.

Don’t misunderstand the message: Food allergies are real — but only on an individual level. If you’re allergic to lactose, drinking milk is going to be a bad idea. And your stomach will remind you of this over and over again.

Same goes for gluten, eggs, soy, and a variety of other foods trigger reactions in your body in the same way that pollen crushes my sinuses each summer.

But this is where reality ends. We are not suffering a global epidemic of gluten-sensitive, lactose-fearing, kidney-damaged people.

Less than 2 percent of the population has gluten issues. Dairy and milk have been shown — multiple times — to build muscle and help with fat loss. Research at Stanford even suggests that not all organic foods are necessarily more nutritious than non-organic.

We walk a fine line between what we see works in the gym and in the kitchen and what we can prove is actually the truth.

Draw The Line

Remember the ’80s when we said fat was making people fat? Guess what? We started eating less dietary fat — significantly less, in fact — and the obesity rates skyrocketed. Research even went as far as showing that eating fat wasn’t making us fat , and yet the fear still remains today

It happened again when we “identified” high fructose corn syrup as the root of all evil. Only HFCS intake didn’t end up being linked to eating more foods or greater weight gain, and yet we all became fatter.

We need to stop trying to bury individual foods. They are not the problem.

Dogmatic approaches that lead to restrictive diets that make your life miserable is the problem.

There’s something special to “do what works for your body.” Just make sure you’re reasoning starts and ends with, “It works for me.”

There’s something dangerous to making over-generalized claims that cause a domino effect of eating behaviors of which we’ll only see the potential dangers of down the line. Or even worse — the fear of food and restrictive nature will make people feel like good nutrition is limited to a select food.

Use new research to question your approach, not define it. And let the basics lead the way.

Most diets share about 80 percent of ideas in common. The other 20 percent cause unnecessary battles.

Instead of fighting about what is “best,” don’t buy into the hype and instead give the diet that sounds good a try.

There are many ways to eat your way to a badass body. The best one for you might not be the ideal fit for your buddy. And guess what? Both approaches might be right.

Maybe that’s the only “new” message that really needs to spread.

Adam Bornstein is the founder of Born Fitness and a New York Times best selling author. For more information about how to eliminate confusion with the health and fitness industry click here.

Israeli Airstrikes Hit Near Damascus, Syria Says

DAMASCUS, Syria (AP) — Israeli warplanes carried out two airstrikes Sunday near Damascus, one near the city’s international airport and a second outside a town close to the Lebanese border, Syria’s state news agency said.

SANA called the attack “an aggression against Syria” and said there were no reports of casualties. The Israeli military said it does not comment on “foreign reports.” Syria’s state news agency did not provide any details on what was hit near the Damascus airport or in the town of Dimas, which is located along the main highway from the Syrian capital to the Lebanese frontier crossing.

The Syrian Observatory for Human Rights, a Britain-based group that monitors the country’s civil war through a network of activists on the ground, said the strike near the Damascus airport hit a warehouse, although it was unclear what was in the building.

The Observatory also said that around 10 explosions could be heard outside a military area near Dimas. It had no word on casualties in either strike.

Israel has carried out several airstrikes in Syria since the revolt against President Bashar Assad began in March 2011. Most of the strikes have targeted sophisticated weapons systems, including Russian-made anti-aircraft missiles and Iranian-made missiles, believed to be destined for Lebanon’s militant Hezbollah group.

Israel has never confirmed the airstrikes.

While Israel has tried to stay out of the war in neighboring Syria, Prime Minister Benjamin Netanyahu has repeatedly threatened to take military action to prevent Syria from transferring sophisticated weapons to its ally Hezbollah. Israel and Hezbollah are bitter enemies and fought an intense monthlong war in 2006.

Mark Zuckerberg Takes A Whack At Apple In New Interview

If Apple were truly looking out for its customers’ best interests, it would charge a lot less for its gadgets, Mark Zuckerberg said in a recent interview with Time magazine.

“A frustration I have is that a lot of people increasingly seem to equate an advertising business model with somehow being out of alignment with your customers,” the Facebook CEO told Time in an interview that will be in the magazine’s Dec. 15 issue. “I think it’s the most ridiculous concept. What, you think because you’re paying Apple that you’re somehow in alignment with them? If you were in alignment with them, then they’d make their products a lot cheaper!”

Zuckerberg’s comments come about three months after Apple CEO Tim Cook slammed free online services in an open letter he wrote in the wake of the iCloud privacy and security scandal. At the time, Apple was under fire for a hack that exposed nude photos of celebrities.

Cook attempted to play up Apple’s dedication to its customers by saying that some of its rivals who offer free services turn their customers into products by using them to sell ads.

“When an online service is free, you’re not the customer. You’re the product,” Cook wrote. And while he didn’t call out any companies by name, many interpreted the comments to be directed at tech giants such as Google and Facebook.

“Our business model is very straightforward: We sell great products,” he continued. “We don’t build a profile based on your email content or web browsing habits to sell to advertisers. We don’t ‘monetize’ the information you store on your iPhone or in iCloud. And we don’t read your email or your messages to get information to market to you.”

Apple did not respond to The Huffington Post’s requests for comment Sunday morning.

This concept of the customer being the product is one that upstarts like Ello have tried to capitalize on. In its mission statement, the ad-free social network that bills itself as the anti-Facebook tells users that on Ello, “You are not a product.”

Zuckerberg isn’t too concerned about the competition. As Wired noted back in September, Ello will eventually have to find a way to make money, whether that’s by charging users or collecting donations.

“Our mission is to connect every person in the world. You don’t do that by having a service people pay for,” Zuckerberg said.

I Rebelled Against My Parents' Frugal Ways — and Paid For It

In our Money Mic series, we hand over the podium to people with controversial views about money. These are their views, not ours, but we welcome your responses.

Today, one woman shares how her parents’ once-embarrassing frugal tendencies are the very habits that she’s now trying to emulate — only after overspending and digging herself into debt.

Right before I graduated from Ohio University in the spring of 2005, I landed an interview for my dream job at a major magazine in New York City.

Obviously, I needed to look really good to impress the editors at such a prestigious publication, so I drove home from college the weekend before the interview and asked my mom to take me to the mall. Not the normal, small-town one by our house — but the big, fancy mall in Cleveland.

So we drove there together… and after dropping me off at Saks, she left to go to the T.J. Maxx in the strip mall down the road.

My mom never shopped retail, and if she ever was in such a store, she’d send salespeople away. “They’ll try to make me say yes,” she’d say. “And my default is always no.”

I, on the other hand, didn’t mind when I was approached in Saks by a saleswoman, who immediately led me to the Theory section after I told her I needed a snazzy interview look. Feeling excited about the new blouse we picked out, I then said I wanted a new purse, so, naturally, we headed over to check out the Gucci tote bags.

My damage for the day? $750.

But I didn’t bat a lash. I thought if I showed up to my interview without these things, the editors would see right through to the Midwestern hick I really was. So I opened up a store card to pay for it — and, you know, do the responsible thing and save 10 percent.

I now think of that moment as one of my first grown-up financial decisions. It was thrilling to know I didn’t have to say no anymore, like my mom always did. I could finally say yes.

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My Embarrassingly Frugal Family Life

My parents — an engineer and a psychotherapist — always made practical, safe choices when it came to our family’s finances. They were careful with their money, making sure to live within their means no matter what — and taught my brother, Nat, and me to do the same.

Come to think of it, many of my memories as a kid involved a money lesson of some sort. I can remember my dad offering me a dollar if I ordered water at a restaurant instead of a soda — a financial incentive to be both healthy and mindful of our spending.

But I was always torn: I loved money, but my 6-year-old self also loved soda! I often chose the dollar, but I usually wished I hadn’t.

And my parents weren’t the only family members who were careful with their money. In fact, I come from a long line of frugal people. When I was 8, I went to the mall food court with my grandfather, who marched up to the Cinnabon counter and demanded, “What do you have for 50 percent off?”

Yes, I was mortified.

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But aside from the occasional cringeworthy moment like that one — or when my parents refused to buy me a new instrument for the school band, opting for a used trumpet with peeling plating — I didn’t much notice the difference between how my family and others lived.

That is, until I got to high school. While my friends’ parents spent Saturday nights going to TGI Friday’s and the newest film at the multiplex, my parents would have dinner at home and see an older movie at the second-run theater, where tickets cost only $1 each.

And then there was my parents’ refusal to buy anything new. They bought refurbished electronics, and fixed items themselves that broke instead of replacing them.

My father particularly loves to talk about his convictions regarding new cars. In a nutshell: He doesn’t believe in them, and even took night classes on auto repair to avoid paying a mechanic.

You’d think watching my parents’ frugal habits would have instilled in me a sense of practicality and appreciation for how hard they worked to afford what they bought — but, in reality, it confused me.

We lived in a very nice house in a desirable neighborhood, and yet my parents hemmed and hawed over financial decisions, such as whether I really needed to take tap dancing classes. I didn’t understand why my parents didn’t spend money — and why they never let themselves live a little or take a break from the never-ending quest to save that last dollar.

By the time I left for college, I was tired of feeling embarrassed about money, and vowed that I’d finally live the life I thought I deserved as an adult.

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The Lifestyle That Nearly Tanked My Finances

Despite a humble upbringing in Ohio, I’d always been fascinated by New York City. And like all of my friends, I religiously watched Sex and the City in college, which only reinforced my love for the Big Apple. Carrie and company made the fabulous lifestyle look so effortless –they had great apartments, beautiful shoes and always had time for brunch.

Unfortunately — despite that fancy $750 outfit — I didn’t land that dream job. But I did find another gig working in magazines, making about $30,000. Little did I know that to really afford the lifestyle I was about to embark on, I should have been making over $50,000.

After moving into my first apartment — a pre-war elevator building on the Upper East Side with exposed brick, new appliances and the largest bedroom I’ve ever had before or since — I went to a bank to sign up for a checking account. While I was there, I also got approved for a credit card with a $5,000 limit.

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Growing up, my parents had tried to teach me the tenets of personal finance, and why they lived the way they did, but it never really sank in. They’d even started a savings account in my name when I was very young, explaining the necessity of having a safety net.

And I recalled these very lessons when I told the teller “no thanks” in response to her credit card offer, recalling how my parents hated the idea of owing money.

But the woman at the bank persisted, assuring me that it was a special deal, that someday I’d be really happy that I had that card. “We don’t offer this high a credit limit often,” she said.

So I got the card, along with two others that I proceeded to swipe to the tune of $10,000 over the next two years. I loved the buzz I got from buying something brand-new and at full retail price — something my parents would have never done.

I took myself to nice dinners. I purchased clothes I shouldn’t have. When I needed furniture for my apartment, I walked over to a local store and purchased several things, barely looking at the prices and never asking about a delivery charge.

Of course, I knew I couldn’t keep up this pace forever on a $30,000 salary. But I guess I thought that I’d eventually catch up financially to support the lifestyle I was leading — although I didn’t put a lot of thought into how that would happen.

Throughout this time, my parents didn’t have much of an idea about how I was doing moneywise. I’m sure they assumed I was being just as responsible as they’d always been. Plus, I hid it pretty well. I didn’t show them the new clothes I was buying or the receipts from my expensive haircuts.

It finally took bouncing a rent check for me to realize all this “adult behavior” wasn’t doing me any favors. So I reached out to my parents and came clean. Needless to say, they were shocked… and confirmed what I already knew.

At 25, it was time for a money makeover.

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Mom and Dad Really Did Know Best

It’s been nine years since I moved to New York City, and although I’m now making $50,000 as a communications manager at a nonprofit, I’m still struggling to find a balance when it comes to saving versus splurging on something I really want.

But I am consciously trying to make a change.

My biggest priority is to cut down on that $10,000 of debt I racked up. I’ve taken a second, part-time job as a weekend receptionist at a real estate office, and I’m freelance writing to bring in more cash. And I’ve since traded in that luxury apartment for a $730 bedroom in an apartment that I share with roommates in a residential (read: un-hip) part of Brooklyn.

I’ve managed to take my lifestyle down a few notches, too, and have stopped going over the top in every area of my budget. I don’t eat out all of the time, and rarely indulge my former shopping habit. Plus, I’ve vowed to take the subway home each night — even if I’m exhausted and tempted to hop in a cab.

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I’m also attempting to approach my finances from a more long-term point of view. While I have insurance, I don’t have enough savings to cover, say, an unexpected surgery — or an expected one, for that matter. It’s a scary thought that’s encouraged me to make a plan to start saving for the first time in my life.

After I finish paying off my debt — which I’m hoping to do within the next year — I’ll funnel the extra money I make from my second job into an emergency fund, a move I know will make my parents proud. The fact that I even have this plan in place puts me light years ahead of where I was — mentally and financially — before my money wake-up call.

I’d also love to eventually save up for a trip to Italy, but I’m consciously putting these other, more important financial goals ahead of that want.

All this just goes to show that I finally understand what my parents tried to teach me as a child — that the long-term goal is more important than the immediate need.

And I’ve seen firsthand the rewards they’re reaped from delaying gratification: My parents can freely spend money now because they were so careful for years. They recently renovated their kitchen and travel frequently, and my dad plays golf every day. They’re truly living the life they want as retirees.

As a part of my money transformation, I’ve started to regularly ask them questions about finances now. In a recent conversation with my dad, he said, “Financial success is the true freedom to live as you want — and where you want — every day.”

That really stuck with me. And I’ve decided that if it takes scouting 50 percent off deals and buying a refurbished gadget or two to accomplish what they have, maybe that wouldn’t be such a bad thing.

I think I’ll start by ordering that water.

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This post originally appeared on LearnVest.

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The 6 Most Common Enemies of Intimacy

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In the beginning of an intimate relationship, new partners strive to give it all they can. They want to love deeply, give from their hearts, and to be treasured similarly in return. They are very careful to practice those behaviors that keep their lovers close and wanting more. Sadly, as their relationship matures, emerging ways of behaving can too often erode the love they’ve created. As more time goes by, two people who once felt loved and treasured have become unsafe to each other. And very often, they have not realized how they’ve gotten that way.

There are six common behaviors that can damage any loving relationship if they are allowed to continue. The struggling partners I work with have often slipped into these destructive patterns without even realizing it. Had they been able to see them earlier, they could have stopped the damage they had wreaked.

Identifying and recognizing their presence is the first step to healing, but it is only the beginning. It takes commitment and hard work on the part of both partners to stop these enemies of intimacy from undermining their positive feelings towards each other along with a mutually sacred promise to keep them from happening again in the future.

The following examples illustrate what a partner senses when each of these behaviors happen. Either partner may be the first to notice them, so I’ve alternated between male and female genders.

Enemy Number One: Disconnection

Remember that man who couldn’t get enough of you? He dropped everything when you needed him and turned his attention to you immediately. There was never anything he needed to do that took precedence over your desires, no matter how small. He kept a list in his mind of anything that was important to you and made sure it was available even before you remembered yourself.

But, over time, things have changed. Now he’s often preoccupied with matters that clearly come before the relationship. Yes, you can still get his attention, but it takes work, justification, and presenting your needs at just the right time. He tells you that he feels terrible when he forgets an important date, and you want to be supportive. Yet, those times you don’t feel central to his life anymore seem to be increasing. You don’t want to seem needy, but you’re feeling more and more neglected and sometimes ignored completely.

Where is that guy who put you first no matter what? He tells you that he still loves you, but he’s just not at all available the way he used to be. You can’t pretend anymore. He is definitely more disconnected.

Enemy Number Two: Dissing

There was this amazing, compassionate woman you fell in love with that seems to be inhabited by someone you can’t please anymore. You try to talk to her about things that you’re upset about, and she responds with telling you that you’re being too reactive or preaches about what you could have done differently. When you try to get her to be present, to care, and to listen, she flips it and tells you that you’re in the wrong by wanting what you want.

It seems that you can’t do anything right anymore. She finds fault where she used to give support and challenges your responses by telling you that you’re being oversensitive. When you ask for something you need, she tells you that you’re in arrears because you’re not giving her what she needs.

When you ask her what’s wrong, she says it’s nothing and you’re being overly concerned. When she wants you, she can be very seductive and engaging, but it’s less and less often and you definitely do not like the direction this is taking.

Enemy Number Three: Domination

He was so exciting when you first connected — a really take-charge guy who could handle anything that came his way. He was protective of you and so confident. The best of testosterone in abundance, he swept you off your feet.

You, of course, completely adored and supported the way he felt and acted. Yes, he probably didn’t take any prisoners when he was challenged, but you saw that as a plus. No one could defeat him or get in his way, and he did it all with a charming edge. If ever a woman wanted a knight in shining armor, it was him.

Until he made you his opponent.

After the honeymoon waned a bit, you realized that you didn’t always agree with him and sometimes wanted or thought something that he didn’t like. If anything didn’t work the way it was supposed to, there was only one good guy, and it wasn’t likely to be you. It was great when you were on the same team, but as an enemy, he’s merciless. On top of everything else, he sees nothing wrong with his behavior and fully expects that you’ll still love him the same way when it’s time for sex.

Enemy Number Four: Mistrust

She had a lot of relationships before she decided you were the one, and she was very convincing when she agreed to be yours forever. Lately, though, she’s telling you some half-truths that don’t always add up. Where she was so transparent and offering of herself before, now she seems to be avoiding some of your questions and giving you answers that leave you wondering.

She’s still very warm and sexually available so you don’t want to be unnecessarily concerned, but there’s this nagging voice in you that wonders if you’re missing something. You keep trying to put the pieces together in a way that feels more secure and put your doubts out of your mind, but you also don’t want to be a fool. She adamantly denies any wrong doing, but you’re wary. Maybe people can change.

When you gently ask her if she’s bored with you or is disappointed in the relationship, she adamantly swears that nothing has changed. It’s the intensity of her voice that seems a little defensive.

Enemy Number Five: Same old, same old

At the beginning of your relationship, you couldn’t say anything that he didn’t find fascinating. You were pretty hyped at his great sense of humor, his innovative ways of looking at things, and his amazing intuition. You stayed up all night, talking endlessly when you weren’t making love. There was never a moment in which you weren’t transfixed by his way of looking at the world and it seemed as if it would last forever. You lived in a mutual world of constant discovery.

You remember the first night he told you the same joke. It seemed a little odd that he didn’t notice that your laugh was a little strained. As time went by, he did and said so much you’d heard before. As the repeated stories became increasingly stale, you tried hard to find reasons to excuse them. Maybe it was just career battle fatigue or the seduction of secure familiarity that made him stop trying to keep you interested and challenged. You even playfully tried to help him see that he was getting a little too predictable. It didn’t seem to help.

Then you find yourself more interested in what other people are saying, particularly when they are in the process of challenge and new experiences. Armed with new motivation, you start bringing in your own excitement about transformation and attempt to get him to join you in looking differently at the world. He acknowledges that you are happier exploring new options, but says he’s really fine the way he is.

Enemy Number Six: Diminishing Nostalgia

When times were a little hard in your past, she would always remind you how important it was to hold on to the things you loved about each other and the great memories from the past. She would make you focus on the delicious moment when you first chose each other, and share those feelings as if they were happening in the moment. Once, when there wasn’t enough money in your mutual bank account, she found that special book you loved as a child. You’ll never forget her funny, squeaky laugh when she found the puppy in the middle of the bed that you’d seen at the pound.

She knew that you didn’t have a mom to nurse you when you were sick as a kid. At the slightest mention that something was not quite right, she’d immediately take care of you no matter what she had to let go of to do so. She just always made you feel that everything would be okay, even when the situation seemed irresolvable.

Now she doesn’t seem to want to go there anymore. She’s only focused on what’s missing and why the future isn’t brighter. No matter what you do to lighten the moment, or to bring back nostalgia, she is all about practical and how to just fix what’s wrong and get on with it. You often find yourself alone in your sweet memories and unable to get her to experience them with you anymore. You still love each other enough, but wonder how you’ll keep regenerating when things don’t go as planned if you can’t hold on to what was once sacred.

Even one of these warning signs can signal a relationship that is in trouble. Intensity, frequency, and duration are further dimensions. You can be experiencing several of these behaviors simultaneously, but they happen rarely, last a short time, and are far apart. In between, your relationship is filled with commitment, love, and regeneration. If that is so, you have no reason to be concerned. If, however, even one of them is happening over and over and increasing in intensity and duration, it can be a stronger indication of an underlying problem.

The earlier you are able to identify a partner who is disconnecting more often, finding fault with many of your behaviors, increasing his or her need to control, acting in suspicious ways, living in old rituals and patterns, or forgetting what is sacred, you owe it to each other to bring those behaviors to light, and ask your partner for help.

When you can be courageous enough to face these warning signs of diminishing intimacy before they get out of hand, it will be easier for you and your partner to turn things around. Intimacy is the act of living in the heart of your beloved. When relationships move from intertwined to parallel, that bond is weakened. But it doesn’t have to break. If you and your partner become aware that you are losing the intimacy that once fed that bond, you can change your behavior and bring back the closeness you once treasured.

Dr. Randi’s free advice e-newsletter, Heroic Love, shows you how to avoid the common pitfalls that keep people from finding and keeping romantic love. Based on over 100,000 face-to-face hours counseling singles and couples over her 40-year career, you’ll learn how to zero in on the right partner, avoid the dreaded “honeymoon is over” phenomenon, and make sure your relationship never gets boring.   www.heroiclove.com

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The Art of Breathing Bravely

There is an art that exists within every one of us. It creates depth, mood, and meaning. It paints the very existence of life. It is the art of breathing.

The past week has left me short of breath, words, and understanding, but with a wealth of tears, and the love and support of so many people. I could not begin to navigate this difficult time, or the difficult decisions ahead without so much love and support. I have been cared for so greatly, by so many. For each person, the depth of my gratitude is so very deep and endless.

The Life of Cystic Fibrosis
In the last week, cystic fibrosis has confronted me with some painstakingly harsh realities. Realities I was not prepared to deal with, nor do I honestly want to deal with. I want to go home to MY life: to teaching, to grad school, to my students, to my “boys,” to singing, and to planning a future with no limitations. I want to go home to the life where I run from sun up to sun down knowing no moment was wasted. I want to naively think of cystic fibrosis as something that I control mentally and can merely outrun with my will and adrenaline. This past week has shown me a different course of life, and the realities in which I must face sooner rather than later — conversations I’ve only abstractly thought through, lung function numbers I’ve only imagined were possible, and a body that is betraying every dream for the future I’ve made.

The problem with CF? It doesn’t play fair, it doesn’t make deals, and it doesn’t care about the life you want or have. It’s an ugly disease that hurts a lot of people in its wake. A disease I’ve tried to protect so many people from, to protect myself from. A week ago, I was forced to come to terms with what I had suspected was happening to my body: It was betraying me, and quickly. For those of you who know me, I am all about making deals with CF, constantly trying to hold it at arms reach while I live my life built upon adrenaline. Finally, I had no choice but to succumb to what was happening.

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Something wasn’t right and I knew it. I knew there was no merely “outwilling” what was happening this time. So, with my pride tucked away and fresh tears ready to be shed, I approached what lay ahead of me. Little did I know exactly what this last week would hold and just how difficult it would be mentally and physically. The problem is my mind is still running at 150 mph, but my body is running at 25 mph. My mind and body are not communicating. I am filled with so many questions of disbelief. I have not had time to mentally adjust to the devastation CF has caused so very quickly. I had prepared myself for the future, but the future being when I had set it to be — many years from now. But today when I look in the mirror, or walk across the room, my mind does not recognize its own body. Who is this person? It can’t possibly be me. How can I not catch my breath? How can I possibly need oxygen? How can I only walk a couple of minutes and be forced to stop because my oxygen drops to an unsafe level? My mind and soul don’t understand how this simply can be. Will it ever understand? I don’t think so.

Preparing for the Future
In the last week I’ve shed a lot of tears, to the point of hysteria at times. I’ve always been relatively good at keeping my emotions in check and being strong, but this week has proven to be stronger than I. The emails and words I’ve had to write this week were composed of some of my worst fears and disappointments. I feel I’ve let myself down, but most of all let everyone else down. I am being forced to look at the future and faced with making difficult decisions that could have a huge impact on the definition of what has always been my life: forcing me to reevaluate life and mourn the life I so truly want.

How do I prepare my heart and mind for this? How do I keep from shedding endless tears? I know whatever happens and whatever my future may look like, the art of every breath I take is utterly beautiful. There is beauty in whatever life has to give me. I must cling to every beautiful moment I am given and bathe in its greatness, regardless of what that looks like. Regardless of what the future may hold for me, I will embrace it breathing bravely and loving every minute.

The Simpsons Mr. Sparkle T-Shirt Is Disrespectful of Dirt

Any fan of The Simpsons should recognize this image immediately. Mr. Sparkle is a Japanese dishwashing detergent mascot who looks a lot like a certain Homer Simpson. Now you can wear this Mr. Sparkle shirt and be a walking advertisement for the dish detergent – and tick Homer off in the process.

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“Oh, hello, American investor. I see you are interested in distributing Mr. Sparkle in you home prefecture. You have chosen wisely. But please — don’t believe me. Observe this commercial.”

This t-shirt would make a great gift for your fellow Simpsons fans this Christmas. It’s only $29.99(USD) from ThreadNerds.

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Stan Lee hints massive Marvel cross-over considered by movie studios

Stan Lee hints massive Marvel cross-over considered by movie studiosStan Lee, former editor-in-chief and president of Marvel Comics, seems to have just hinted that the higher-ups at several of the world’s largest movie studios are at least considering a giant cross-over feature with some of the most popular comic book properties. At a special interview and Q&A session this weekend to celebrate Marvel’s 75th anniversary, a fan asked if … Continue reading

You Can Now 3D Print Star Wars' New Lightsaber

Soon Disney will begin lining its commercial Star Wars coffers with plastic action figures, T-shirts, and collapsible lightsabers. But one French 3D printing outfit took more of a “screw it, I’ll do it myself” approach by creating a 3D-printed version of the new Star Wars lightsaber.

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Cortana For Windows 10 Previewed On Video

Before Microsoft formally unveiled Windows 10 there had been rumors that the company will integrate Cortana into the OS. This was confirmed when the official announcement was made. Even though the Windows 10 Technical Preview was released soon after we never got to see Cortana integration, until now. A video has been posted online which shows Cortana running on an unreleased build of Windows 10.

The folks at WinBeta got access to the unreleased build and put up a video preview for all to see. It merits mentioning here that the state in which we see Cortana here is pre-release, which means that this probably won’t be what the final product looks like, there is a huge possibility that the end user implementation of Cortana might be different from what we see here.

It is mentioned in the accompanying report that Cortana’s user interface has not been finished in this build so expect the virtual assistant to look different when the final version hits with the consumer release of Windows 10.

Functionality appears to be at par with that of the Windows Phone version. Cortana on Windows 10 can pull up maps and location, call people through Skype, set reminders, launch applications, play or pause music, check the weather and much more.

According to various reports Microsoft is testing different methods of surfacing Cortana, including but not limited to a dedicated icon on the taskbar where one would expect to find the search button.

Cortana For Windows 10 Previewed On Video

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