The Rise Of 'Mostly Straight' Dudes–why Men's Sex Lives Are More Complicated Than You Think

Warning: This article contains sexually explicit material.

A straight guy licked my face once. It was in high school between classes and I was at my locker, running late as always. One of the guys from our school’s soccer team walked up to me, which I thought was unusual. We weren’t friends exactly, friendly enough to say hello in the hallway but not make time for conversation, and definitely not friends enough for a full stop. I turned from my books, and before I knew it, his saliva was smeared all across my cheek. Startled and more than a little freaked out, I quickly yelped, “No, I can’t,” and scuttled the other direction. We barely talked for the rest of high school.

Italy's Lawmakers Elect Sergio Mattarella As President

ROME (AP) — Italian lawmakers elected Sergio Mattarella, a Constitutional Court justice widely considered to be above the political fray, as the nation’s new president on the third day of voting Saturday.

Mattarella’s election as head of state was clinched when he amassed 505 votes — a simple majority. The 73-year-old former minister with center-left political roots went on to garner 665 votes from the 1,009 eligible electors. Known as a man of few words, Mattarella cemented that reputation with his first remarks to the nation.

“My thoughts go, above all, to the difficulties and hopes of our fellow citizens. That’s enough,” he said, referring to the grim economic situation, in comments made at his court office just down the street from the presidential palace.

Italy is mired in recession and unemployment has hovered about 13 percent nationally. Young Italians are increasingly seeking work abroad.

Renzi pushed hard for Mattarella’s election, and some of Renzi’s rebellious Democrats resented the premier’s imposing his choice on them. So Mattarella’s victory signals that Renzi for now succeeded in closing fractious ranks, including former Communists, in the governing coalition’s main party.

“Thanks for being serious,” Renzi and some loyalists wrote in a text message to Democrats during the balloting, the Italian news agency ANSA reported.

Former Premier Silvio Berlusconi’s center-right opposition vowed to cast blank ballots. While acknowledging Mattarella’s credentials to be guarantor of the Constitution and arbiter in political crises, they complained Renzi didn’t decide to reach agreement first with Berlusconi on the candidate.

Mattarella raised conflict-of-interest concerns when media mogul Berlusconi jumped into politics two decades ago. He also resigned as education minister in 1990 to protest legislation that helped Berlusconi transform several local TV channels into a business empire including Italy’s three main private TV networks.

Mattarella, a Sicilian, was first elected to Parliament in 1983. His Christian Democrat party collapsed in corruption probes of the 1990s, but Mattarella was unscathed. His older brother, Piersanti Mattarella, governor of Sicily, was killed in 1980 by the Mafia.

The silver-haired Mattarella, a widower with three grown children, lives in the modest quarters of Constitutional Court justices in Rome. He was expected to start the seven-year term next week.

A year ago, Berlusconi pledged his support for the electoral reform agenda of Renzi, who had just assumed the Democratic Party leadership. Buoyed by the deal, Renzi quickly pushed fellow Democrat Enrico Letta out of the premiership. Berlusconi lost his Senate seat because of a tax fraud conviction but is keen on keeping political influence.

Reforms include changing Italy’s electoral law to make governments more stable. Whether Berlusconi, irked over Renzi’s picking the presidential candidate, will renege on the reforms deal is unclear. A pro-Berlusconi lawmaker, Maurizio Gasparri, predicted the media mogul’s center-right lawmakers might be “less generous” with support.

Former Berlusconi allies now in Renzi’s coalition chafed at the unilateral choice of the Mattarella candidacy. But the government’s short-term survival seemed little threatened. Politicians are generally uneager to provoke a crisis that could bring early elections, with voters exasperated over their leaders’ failure so revive the economy.

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Follow Frances D’Emilio at www.twitter.com/fdemilio

7 Things You Should Never Say To A Woman Who Loves Football

This post originally appeared on Bustle.

By Rosanne Salvatore

Hey world, are you sitting down? I need to talk to you about something, and some of you probably won’t like it, but I’m just going to come out and say it. There are millions of real female football fans out there, and I am one of them. Holy shit, did some of you just faint? If you’ve regained consciousness, please quickly run through all your stages of shock (it usually goes something like denial, anger, acceptance) so we can get on with this conversation. As Super Bowl Sunday approaches (aka my favorite religious holiday of the year), I find it absolutely mind boggling how confused people are by female sports fans. I’m not sure when females liking football became some rare disease that afflicts only remote sections of our population, but I’ve actually lost count of how many men, and yes women, are mystified by me. And I’m not even talking about my hidden talent to spill my beer, pick it back up, and spill it again, repeatedly. I’m talking about my sincere love for the game of football.

Like all great love stories, me and football have had our ups and downs. I am well aware that the NFL is not having the ~best~ year. It’s my hope that the more we talk about issues like domestic abuse in the NFL, the closer we are to tackling these issues in society too. I wish I could say that I get most pushback because of the stigma of violence in the NFL, but actually the most ignorant things that’ve been said to me as a fan are simply because I have a vagina (which means my brain is smaller, right? #eyeroll). So while we all gear up for Super Bowl Sunday, I’m going to run down a few things you should never, ever say to a female football fan. Or go ahead and say them if being a giant, ignorant asshole is your thing.

1. Name me five people on the team playing right now. Oh you can’t? You’re not a football fan.

I didn’t realize we’d be having a pop quiz this weekend. Also, not sure how knowing random asinine trivia facts qualifies me as a fan. So yeah, I’m not going to whip out my junk to compare sizes. Sorry, not sorry.

2. Do you even understand what’s happening right now?

Nope. No clue. I usually just stare at the TV for hours at a time without registering what’s going on, because that’s highly entertaining.

3. You like beer?

Do yourself a favor and just stop right now, because I can already anticipate the next five sexist things you’re going to say about my drinking.

4. Which player do you think is the cutest?

I just cannot with this one.

5. I bet you can’t wait for the Super Bowl Halftime Show, right?

Literally don’t even know who’s performing. Also, don’t really care. Halftime = time to heat up more CHEESE dip.

6. What do you think about the Ray Rice scandal?

Well let’s see. I am a human. I don’t condone violence and strongly stand behind that life motto for all other humans. So, just like the rest of all football fans who may be male, female, green, gay, white, black, I think it’s a bad look for everyone.

7. You’re just like one of the guys!

I know, can you believe someone let me out of the kitchen so I could hang out with all you dudes? Me neither!

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Germany's Merkel Says She Doesn't See Another Greek Debt Cut

BERLIN (AP) — German Chancellor Angela Merkel has underlined the refusal of Greece’s European creditors to consider forgiving part of the debt-ridden country’s rescue loans, though she stressed in an interview published Saturday that Berlin’s aim is to keep Greece in the eurozone.

Greece’s new government insists it will honor pre-election promises to seek a cut on the country’s rescue debt and scrap painful budget measures that were demanded in exchange for the loans. Merkel said in an interview with the daily Berliner Morgenpost that Europe will continue showing solidarity with Greece and other nations hit by Europe’s debt crisis “if these countries undertake their own reform and saving efforts,” and fended off a question about the new Greek government’s moves to reverse reforms and rehire suspended workers.

“We — Germany and the other European partners — will now wait and see what concept the new Greek government comes to us with,” she was quoted as saying. She was clear, however, about prospects of a debt cut.

Athens already was forgiven billions of euros by private creditors, Merkel said. “I don’t see a further debt haircut.”

As for demands that have surfaced in Greece for Germany to pay more compensation for Nazi crimes during World War II, Merkel said that “this question doesn’t arise.”

Merkel said she wants Greece to be successful and acknowledged that “many people there have hard times behind them.”

“The aim of our policies was and is for Greece to remain a part of the euro community permanently,” she said.

Argentinian Prosecutor Feared Pro-Government Fanatics, Says Employee

The Argentinian prosecutor who was found dead after accusing the country’s president of conspiring to cover up the country’s deadliest terror attack was more afraid of fanatical government sympathisers than foreign terrorists, according to the last person known to have spoken to him before his death.

Civilians Flee East Ukraine Town Debaltseve As Fighting Intensifies

DEBALTSEVE, Ukraine (AP) — Outgoing heavy-caliber fire boomed incessantly, shaking the ground and rattling windows around the besieged town. Residents of Debaltseve, seemingly inured to the racket, listened impassively as they mustered at the town hall on Saturday to be evacuated with as many belongings as they could carry.

The government-held town has been without power, water and gas for at least 10 days, prompting many to flee from an intense artillery duel between government and Russian-backed separatist forces. Almost every one of the largely deserted streets in the center showed signs of having been struck by projectiles.

A month of relative quiet in eastern Ukraine was shattered in early January by full-blown fighting as the separatists attempted to claw back additional territory from government hands. Rebel leaders accused Ukraine of mobilizing its forces in advance of an imminent offensive.

Ukraine’s emergency services said Saturday that almost a thousand residents have been evacuated in the past three days from Debaltseve. But the number of crammed civilian vehicles seen speeding out of the town’s rutted, icy roads over the past few days suggests official figures may be on the conservative side.

“City police officers cannot go out to the scenes of destruction because of the ceaseless artillery strikes,” Vyacheslav Abroskin, head of police for the Donetsk region, said in a statement Saturday afternoon.

“Volunteers and police are traveling under fire to evacuate entire families.”

Abroskin said 12 people had been killed by shelling in Debaltseve, which hosts a strategic railway hub. He did not specify over what period the deaths had taken place.

With the government apparently unable to handle all the people wishing to leave, volunteer groups are trying to fill the gap.

“We are evacuating people from this hotspot, so they don’t have to deal with what is going on, because this is not their war after all. This has nothing to do with them,” said Andrei Vasilyev, a worker with a charitable organization based in the eastern city of Kharkiv.

As Vasilyev’s minibus was being loaded, a small child held in her mother’s arms cried and pleaded plaintively to leave as soon as possible. Infirm and elderly passengers needed to be lifted into the tightly packed transport.

Leaving Debaltseve carries its own risks because of the encroachment of separatist forces on all sides. Roads running west and east are controlled by rebels, leaving the northbound road the only remaining corridor of relative safety. But fresh, scorched shell craters alongside that road testify that it is dangerous too.

Fighting inched toward Debaltseve this week when separatists burst through government lines to occupy part of the town of Vuhlehirsk.

The towns are separated by 13 kilometers (eight miles) of road and railroad. When Ukrainian troops were overrun by formidably armed rebel attackers Thursday, some soldiers were forced to retreat to their positions in Debaltseve on foot.

Despite claiming to rely solely on military equipment poached from the Ukrainian army, separatist forces have consistently deployed vast quantities of powerful weapons, some of which military experts say is not even known to be in Ukraine’s possession.

Since the conflict started in April, it has claimed more than 5,100 lives and displaced more than 900,000 people across the country, according to U.N. estimates.

Ukraine’s Defense Minister Stepan Poltorak said on Saturday that 15 soldiers had died and that another 30 were injured over the previous day’s fighting.

“This happened along the entire line of conflict, starting from the Luhansk region and ending in Mariupol,” he said.

The United Nations on Friday voiced concern about the deteriorating situation in Debaltseve and other densely populated areas where intense fighting is going on. Neal Walker, the U.N. Humanitarian Coordinator in Ukraine, has called for an immediate humanitarian truce to allow humanitarian assistance and evacuation of civilians.

Efforts to hold talks on halting the escalating violence have to date been unsuccessful.

Rebel representatives arrived in Minsk, Belarus, on Friday but left shortly thereafter because of what they said was the failure of Kiev’s negotiators to turn up. Ukrainian Foreign Ministry spokesman Yevhen Perebiynis reiterated his government’s consistent line, which is that Ukraine will send its envoy to talks only if the rebel leaders are there.

By early Saturday afternoon, representatives for the rebels, Russia, Ukraine and the Organization for Security and Cooperation in Europe had all met in Minsk for talks, but no details were immediately available.

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Associated Press journalists Yuras Karmanau in Kiev, Ukraine, and Sergei Grits in Minsk, Belarus, contributed to this report.

NYC To Pay $5M To Kin Of Man Mistaken For Mobster, Killed By Detectives Moonlighting As Hitmen

NEW YORK (AP) — Nicholas Guido was showing off his new car outside his mother’s home on Christmas Day 1986 when he was gunned down because he’d been mistaken for a mobster with the same name. The bad information, prosecutors said, came from two decorated police detectives who would later be convicted of moonlighting as hit men for the mob.

Twenty-nine years later, the city has reached a $5 million settlement with Guido’s family in part of the fallout from one of the most stunning police corruption cases in New York history. “This tragic matter involves the murder of an innocent man. After evaluating all the facts, it was determined that settling the case was in the city’s best interest,” the Law Department said in a statement. The family’s lawyer didn’t immediately return a call Friday night seeking comment.

Guido’s mother, Pauline Pipitone, was washing dishes after Christmas dinner when gunfire erupted outside her Brooklyn home.

She ran over to the car and found her 26-year-old son sitting up at the wheel, she testified at the ex-detectives’ 2006 racketeering trial. “I went to touch his hand, and he must have just died,” she said. “His fingertips were cold.”

Guido’s killers had him confused with an enemy of a mob underboss who paid then-detectives Louis Eppolito and Stephen Caracappa to be his criminal “crystal ball,” a source of help killing eight of their patron’s foes between 1986 and about 1990, Brooklyn federal prosecutors said.

The detectives were accused of carrying out two of those killings themselves. In others, they made traffic stops that ended with the driver killed; another time, they kidnapped a target and turned him over to the underboss, prosecutors said.

The detectives got $4,000 a month for inside information on law enforcement investigations, and they got $65,000 for carrying out one killing, prosecutors said.

“This is probably the most heinous series of crimes ever tried in this courthouse,” a judge said at one point.

Eppolito and Caracappa, who insisted they were innocent, are serving life in prison.

Caracappa helped establish the police department’s office for Mafia homicide probes. Eppolito wrote an autobiography, “Mafia Cop,” about his life as a police officer who grew up in a mob family. He also played a bit part in the classic 1990 mob movie “GoodFellas.”

By the time of their 2005 arrests, Eppolito and Caracappa had retired to Las Vegas.

In 2010, New York City agreed to pay $9.9 million to an innocent man who spent 19 years behind bars after being framed by Eppolito, whose arrest prompted a re-examination of the man’s case.

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Reach Jennifer Peltz on Twitter @ jennpeltz.

Portugal Approves Citizenship Plan For Sephardic Jews

LISBON, Portugal (AP) — Five centuries after burning thousands of Jews at the stake, forcing them to convert to Christianity or expelling them, Portugal is granting citizenship rights to their descendants as part of an attempt to make amends.

The Portuguese Cabinet on Thursday approved a law offering dual citizenship to the descendants of those Sephardic Jews — the term commonly used for those who once lived in the Iberian peninsula. The effective date of the law will be made public soon and similar legislation in Spain is awaiting final legislative approval.

The Portuguese rights will apply to those who can demonstrate “a traditional connection” to Portuguese Sephardic Jews, such as through “family names, family language, and direct or collateral ancestry.”

Like Spain, Portugal says its sole reason for granting citizenship is to redress a historic wrong.

“There is no possibility to amend what was done,” Portuguese Justice Minister Paula Teixeira da Cruz said. “I would say it is the attribution of a right.”

The measure is the latest step in Portugal’s modern efforts to atone for its past harsh treatment of Jews, whose ranks once numbered in the tens of thousands, but have been reduced to only about 1,000 today.

In 1988, then-president Mario Soares met with members of Portugal’s Jewish community and formally apologized for the Inquisition. In 2000, the leader of Portugal’s Roman Catholics publicly apologized for the suffering imposed on Jews by the Catholic Church, and in 2008 a monument to the dead was erected outside the Sao Domingos church where the massacre of thousands of Jews began at Easter in 1506.

Jose Ribeiro e Castro, a lawmaker who was involved in drafting the legislation, sees the persecution of Sephardic Jews as a “stain” on Portuguese history.

He said he was contacted on social media by Sephardic Jews abroad who suggested granting citizenship rights to descendants of their persecuted ancestors.

“We wish it had never happened,” Ribeiro e Castro said. “Given that it did happen, and that it can be put right, we thought we ought to do so.”

Applicants will be vetted by Portuguese Jewish community institutions, as well as by government agencies. They will have to say whether they have a criminal record. Jewish community leaders say they expect the application procedure to take four months.

“We regard it as an act of justice,” Michael Rothwell, a delegate of the Committee of the Jewish Community of Oporto, which is one of the vetting organizations, said of the new law. He described it as “another important step toward reconciliation with the past.”

Rothwell said the Portuguese legislation appears simpler than Spain’s plan, which would require testing of candidates for their knowledge about Spain.

The Jewish Community of Oporto has received about 100 requests from all over the world for certificates attesting ties to a Sephardic Jewish Community of Portuguese origin and say they expect to receive many more.

There is no accepted figure for the global Sephardic population.

James Harlow, a descendant of Sephardic Jews who lives in San Jose, California, intends to apply for Portuguese citizenship because his Silicon Valley business is looking to expand abroad. Portugal, a member of the 28-nation European Union, offers an entry into a huge market.

“Citizenship makes travel, talent recruitment and operations easier,” the 52-year-old said in emailed replies to AP questions.

Harlow says his ancestors were advisers to the royal family when Portugal established an empire that would stretch from Brazil to Africa and India. His ancestors refused to convert and left Portugal in 1496.

Spain expelled the Jews in 1492, and historians that some 80,000 of them crossed the border into Portugal.

In 1496, King Manuel I, eager to find favor with Spain’s powerful Catholic rulers, Ferdinand and Isabella, and marry their daughter Isabella of Aragon, gave the Jews 10 months to convert or leave. When they opted to leave, Manuel issued a new decree prohibiting their departure and forcing them to embrace Roman Catholicism as “New Christians.”

Many converted, but kept their true beliefs and Jewish religious practices hidden.

The “New Christians” adopted new names, inter-married and even ate pork in public to prove their devotion to Catholicism. Some Jews, though, kept their traditions alive, secretly observing the sabbath at home then going to church on Sunday. They circumcised their sons and quietly observed Yom Kippur, calling it in Portuguese the “dia puro,” or pure day.

The New Christians were at the mercy of popular prejudice. In the Easter massacre of Jewish converts in 1506 in Lisbon, more than 2,000 Jews are believed to have been murdered.

The Portuguese Inquisition, established in 1536, could be more cruel than its Spanish counterpart. It persecuted, tortured and burned at the stake tens of thousands of Jews.

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Associated Press writers Helena Alves in Lisbon and Alan Clendenning in Madrid contributed to this report.

This Week In Pictures: Faith In Practice Around The World, January 25 to 31

Humans express their faith in a multitude of ways. These photos capture the incredible diversity within faith practices that happen in our world in the span of just one week.

January 25: St. Peter’s Square, Vatican City
religion
Balloons, not doves, were released as a gesture of peace Sunday in St. Peter’s Square, a year after an attack by a seagull and a crow on the symbolic birds sparked protests by animal protection groups.

January 27: Salt Lake City, Utah
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Sister Neill F. Marriott of the Church’s Young Women general presidency speaks during a news conference at the Conference Center, Tuesday, Jan. 27, 2015, in Salt Lake City. Mormon church leaders are making a national appeal for a “balanced approach” in the clash between gay rights and religious freedom. The church is promising to support some housing and job protections for gays and lesbians in exchange for legal protections for believers who object to the behavior of others. But the move drew mixed responses from LGBT Mormons.

January 27: New Orleans, Louisiana
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Emily Ford, a restoration consultant for the organization Save Our Cemeteries, works to remove graffiti from the tomb of Marie Laveau inside St. Louis Cemetery No. 1 in New Orleans, Tuesday, Jan. 27, 2015. The historic New Orleans cemetery that may have started the city’s tradition of above-ground crypts will soon be off-limits to tourists on their own because of repeated vandalism among the tombs, the Roman Catholic archdiocese that owns the property has announced. Starting in March, entry to St. Louis Cemetery No. 1 and its labyrinth of mausoleums will be restricted to the relatives of the dead buried there and to tourists whose guide is registered with the Archdiocese of New Orleans.

January 30: Tehran, Iran
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Iranian Zoroastrians carry vases of coal in order to set firewood ablaze during the annual Zoroastrian Sadeh festival on January 30, 2015. Sadeh, is an ancient Persian festival that is celebrated by setting a huge bonfire to honour fire and to defeat the forces of darkness, frost, and cold. Sadeh means ‘hundred’ and refers to one hundred days and nights past the end of summer.

January 30: Paris, France
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A picture taken on January 30, 2015 shows the ceiling and stained-glass windows of Notre Dame de la Bonne Nouvelle, a neo-Gothic Basilica of the 19th century, in Rennes.

January 30: Tokyo, Japan
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Hundreds of Muslims residents in Japan gather for a Friday service at Japan’s largest Tokyo Camii (mosque) in Tokyo on January 30, 2015. They pray for the safety release of Japanese hostage Kenji Goto who has been kidnapped by the Islamic State group.

January 30: Lalitpur, Nepal
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n this photograph taken on January 30, 2015 a young Nepalese priest looks on at the Golden Temple near Patan Durbar square in Lalitpur. The Golden Temple was founded in the 12th century near Patan Durbar Square, a UNESCO World Heritage site famous for its history and architecture.

January 30: Washington, D.C.
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A statue of Father Junipero Serra, the founder of Californias missions and a controversial figure for his role in a process that began the decimation of the Native American population, stands in Statuary Hall in the US Capitol in Washington, DC, January 30, 2015. Pope Francis announced January 29, 2015, his plans to canonize Serra in September 2015 when hes scheduled to visit the East Coast.

House Bill Could Give Amish A Religious Exemption From Photos On State IDs

INDIANAPOLIS (AP) — Some Indiana residents could get a religious exemption from having their photographs on state identification cards under legislation passed Wednesday in a House committee.

If the measure passes, the Bureau of Motor Vehicles could issue a photo-less ID to applicants who have sincere religious objections to having their pictures taken.

Bill sponsor Rep. Robert Morris, R-Fort Wayne, said it was created to give Indiana’s Amish population — which is the third largest in the country behind Ohio and Pennsylvania — more access to outside businesses like banks and pharmacies that require a state-issued ID.

Other states have passed similar legislation, including Pennsylvania, Arkansas, Missouri and Illinois, although many laws indicate that the department of motor vehicles has discretion on whether or not to issue the IDs.

Supporters of the bill said the current photo requirement conflicts with the Biblical prohibition against the making of “graven images.” The bill would allow those with religious objections to instead have a digital image using facial recognition technology kept on file at the BMV.

Some Roads and Transportation Committee members expressed concerns it would increase the use of false or fake IDs and businesses would have no way of determining the ID’s authenticity.

Committee chairman Rep. Ed Soliday, R-Valparaiso, said businesses would still have the same discretion they have now when deciding whether to accept an ID. Soliday also said he doubts the exemption will attract other applicants besides those with strict religious beliefs because it’s so restrictive.

The photo-less ID would list the same details as a real ID, including height, weight, gender, birth date, address and a unique number. However, those with this kind of ID cannot fly commercially, enter a federal building, legally drive or vote.

“If you choose this over a driver’s license, you are choosing a very restrictive lifestyle,” Soliday said.

The bill will now go to the House floor.