How to Thrive in 2015: Take Your Cue From These 7 Resilience All-Stars

By Jan Bruce

At the end of year I took a good hard look at who had exhibited considerable resilience in 2014, and made a list of my favorites. Not only do they serve as great examples of great empathy, optimism, self-efficacy, hope and initiative; they also are the most likely to flourish in the next year. Why? Because resilience is a skill that you build, and that, like any skill, gets better with practice. These folks leaned hard into the qualities and practices that allowed them to survive or rise above a tough time. Learn from what they did in 2014, and let them inspire your efforts to thrive in 2015.

1. Tim Cook came out.
How many openly gay CEOs of globally important, culturally significant, multibillion dollar companies can you think of? That’s right. One. When Tim Cook publicly acknowledged his sexual orientation on October 30, he did so not only for himself, but to use his position and power to help others in the struggle for self-acceptance and equality. He laid his privacy on the line to stand up for his beliefs and pave the way for others. That’s purpose, meaning, and connection at its finest.

2. Emma Watson announced a new movement for gender equality.
In our work with stress management, we see that people connecting to a high level of purpose — something that reflects their deepest values — improves their ability to weather tough times, helps make the world a better place and can inspire a legacy. Emma Watson displayed that connection when she took the floor at the United Nations and called for a new feminist movement, HeForShe, that specifically challenges and invites men to join the work of gender equality.

3. Medical workers and professionals fought against Ebola.
The doctors and nurses, aid workers and organizers who offered to care for those infected with the Ebola virus — knowing full well the risks they faced — showed core resilience traits of empathy, compassion, and optimism. Yes, optimism that the lives of the sick people mattered; that lives could be saved; that their efforts could make a difference. It’s no wonder TIME magazine chose them as their Person of the Year.

4. Malala Yousafzai was awarded the Nobel Peace Prize.
Malala Yousafzai’s believes that she has a right to an education. She believes that all girls have a right to education, despite an attempt on her life and a continued death threat from the Taliban. The depth of her commitment is matched only by the breadth of her influence. This year, the Nobel Committee recognized the profound resilience that helps her to advocate on behalf of girls worldwide whose right to an education is at risk or denied.

5. Three teens responded to police violence — by creating an app.
Teenage siblings Caleb, Ima, and Asha Christian of Decatur, GA, were deeply disturbed by what they saw as a pattern of undocumented police violence. So they applied their talents, creativity, and optimism to the problem and created an app, Five-0, that allows citizens to enter the details of every interaction, positive or negative, with a police officer. This data can be used to understand which areas of the United States suffer police violence and which have positive police-citizen interactions, providing an evidence-based foundation for improving the health and resilience of communities across the country.

6. Bill Belichick kept (and keeps) his cool.
The head coach of the New England Patriots gets a lot of flak for appearing unemotional, even cold. But there’s a flip side: Belichick doesn’t let his emotions drive his thinking and judgement. He calmly cuts to the bottom line, taking into account the factors that matter, and adjusts his strategy as needed. He doesn’t react impulsively to the pressure of the crowd.

7. SIRI helped a boy with autism connect with the world.
Gus has autism. He is bright and outgoing, but he doesn’t understand social cues; he has obsessive interests; and he doesn’t interact with the world typically. His mother, Judith Newman, wrote in the New York Times that “of all the worries the parent of an autistic child has, the uppermost is: Will he find love? Or even companionship?” Gus found it with SIRI, the Apple iPhone’s intelligent voice-activated personal assistant. By interacting with SIRI, he’s learning skills of companionship and love and bringing them to his family and community. Gus is building the emotional connections that make a life more resilient. And this situation suggests that SIRI, and other smart tech tools, can offer parents and communities a way to build on an autistic person’s strengths rather than ostracize them for their weaknesses. This in turn makes our whole society more resilient in response to Autism Spectrum Disorders and other intellectual disabilities. But really, and best of all, a child found his best friend.

Third Person Dies In Nebraska House Party Shooting

OMAHA, Neb. (AP) — Gunfire erupted during a crowded party in a vacant house in Omaha early Saturday, leaving three people dead and five wounded, and most witnesses refusing to help investigators, according to police.

As many as 50 people were in and around the small home when shots were fired “by multiple shooters” around 2 a.m., Omaha Police Chief Todd Schmaderer said. No arrests have been made, and police said they were confident the shootings were gang-related.

The vast majority of people at the scene refused to help police, the chief said during a news conference Saturday evening. He said he understood witnesses’ fear but pleaded for them to come forward.

“Now that you are away from that scene and have opportunity to be away from any intimidation, I’m asking you for the sake of the community to contact law enforcement,” Schmaderer said.

Police said 19-year-old JaKela Foster and 24-year-old Latecia Fox were declared dead at the scene, while 26-year-old Cameron Harris died several hours later. Schmaderer said it’s unclear if the victims were intended targets or bystanders.

Foster’s mother, Kristina Young, waited for hours outside the small, tan house in the city’s northeast side while investigators gathered evidence. She said she wasn’t going to leave until the body of her daughter was taken away.

Young said her boyfriend got a call from an aunt shortly before 2 a.m. telling him there was a shooting that may have involved Foster, who had a 1-year-old son. She said a friend later called to say Foster had been shot.

Young said her daughter knew the person throwing the party. She said she asked her daughter not to go, knowing there would be drinking and worried there could be violence.

“I’ve been in Omaha long enough to know generally what happens at these parties,” she said.

She said her daughter agreed and told her she was going elsewhere Friday night, but that she apparently went to the party anyway.

“To the person who pulled the trigger, I want to say it’s just senseless. It just needs to stop. I now have a 1-year-old grandson that has no mother,” Young said while fighting back tears.

The five people who were wounded were identified as Adrelet Bush, 25; Treveon Lillard, 20; Trenelle Miller, 21; Johnny Tiller, 21; and Jordyn Zyla, 20. Schmaderer said they were in stable condition late Saturday afternoon, though other details about their conditions weren’t released.

Police were investigating whether the shooting was related to another shooting that happened just blocks away about four hours earlier that injured a man and a woman. Schmaderer said that shooting was also gang-related.

Douglas County property records list the home as belonging to Alonzetta Stevenson. A phone number for Stevenson at the Parker Street address was disconnected.

Dorothy Wayne, who lives across the street from the home, said she and her husband were asleep when a shot passed through the wall of their front bedroom and lodged in the far wall. Neither was hurt.

“I just immediately hit the floor,” Wayne said. “I’m just glad we weren’t hurt.”

Much of Omaha’s violent crime happens in the area, but Wayne said she was surprised by the shootings because it’s always been a quiet street.

“There are mostly old people on our block,” she said.

Police arrested two people on suspicion of disorderly conduct at the hospital following the shooting, police said. Officers were called to the hospital after a disturbance among victims’ relatives who had gathered at the hospital erupted.

Texas Dog Who Disappeared 8 Months Ago Turns Up In Indiana

GALVESTON, Texas (AP) — A dog who vanished from his Texas yard last year has been returned home after turning up in a central Indiana city some 1,100 miles away.

Sixty-nine-year-old JoeAnn Navarro of Galveston says her two pit bulls apparently were stolen from her backyard in May. Navarro thought she’d never see either dog again, but the Kokomo Humane Society called her a week ago to say a stranger had dropped her year-old pit bull Blue off at its shelter about 40 miles north of Indianapolis.

A microchip implanted in Blue led to Navarro. Three men, including two retired Galveston County sheriff’s deputies, drove to Indiana. On Saturday, the Galveston County Daily News (http://bit.ly/1JBby0E) reported the three arrived at the Navarro house and, for the first time in eight months, Blue was home.

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Information from: The Galveston County Daily News, http://www.galvnews.com

Snooki Of 'Jersey Shore' Will Officiate A Gay Wedding

Same-sex couples who are planning to tie the knot with an unorthodox (but nonetheless well-known) officiant need look no further than the Garden State, as Nicole “Snooki” Polizzi is now officially an ordained minister.

The “Jersey Shore” veteran, 27, revealed on Twitter that she’ll officiating the forthcoming wedding of her hairstylist pals, Bradley Moreland and Luis Miller.

Meanwhile, Moreland, who works at New York’s Vidov Salon, tweeted a snapshot of himself posing with Miller (of the J. Christopher Salon and the Vidov Salon team) and Snooki earlier this month.

Miller (left), Snooki and Moreland.

Snooki, who tied the knot with Jionni LaValle in November 2014, has long been an outspoken advocate for the lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender (LGBT) community.

“I’m praying I have a gay little boy one day,” she revealed at a Trevor Project event in 2013.

In 2012, she told HuffPost Gay Voices, “I feel like I get along more with gay guys than I do.[women].

Congrats, gentlemen!

H/T Towleroad

8 Chicken Dinners That Are Anything But Boring

1. Thai Minced Chicken Lettuce Cups

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If you like Thai food, you’ll love these minced chicken lettuce cups boldly flavored with fresh ginger, lime, chili pepper, fish sauce and brown sugar. The recipe is easy to make with ingredients found at your regular supermarket. GET THE RECIPE

2. Middle Eastern Chicken Kebobs

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In this recipe, chicken thighs are marinated in a tangy blend of Greek yogurt, lemon and spices, then grilled on skewers until golden brown. Everyone seems to love it — in fact, the first time I made it for a crowd, I actually ran out of food. Lesson learned: make extra! GET THE RECIPE

3. Peruvian-Style Roast Chicken

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This is my take on Pollo a la Brasa, the delicious spit-roasted chicken made popular by so many Peruvian restaurants. The chicken is first marinated in olive oil, lime juice, garlic and spices, and then oven-roasted until tender, juicy and crisp-skinned. The accompanying green sauce, which gets it’s color from cilantro and jalapeño peppers, is spicy, creamy and downright addictive. You can put it on virtually everything, and it even makes a fabulous dip or salad dressing. GET THE RECIPE

4. Tandoori Chicken

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Tandoori chicken is simply chicken marinated in yogurt, citrus and spices, then grilled or broiled. The name comes from the cylindrical clay oven — or tandoor — in which the dish is traditionally prepared. This is my favorite version: the chicken is deliciously spiced with super-crispy skin, and the mango chutney served alongside adds fruity, tangy flavor. GET THE RECIPE

5. Chipotle Chicken Quesadillas

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Crisp flour tortillas filled with gooey melted cheddar and shredded chicken in a smoky chipotle-tomato sauce — these are truly the ultimate quesadillas. The recipe is adapted from the website of Curtis Stone, one of my favorite chefs and cookbook authors. GET THE RECIPE

6. Grilled Thai Curry Chicken Skewers with Coconut Peanut Sauce

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This crowd-pleasing recipe originally comes from food writer Alice Currah of the blog and book, Savory Sweet Life. The curry-flavored chicken is delicious in its own right but it’s the rich coconut-peanut sauce that takes it over the top. GET THE RECIPE

7. Chicken Enchiladas

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My whole family loves these enchiladas. They take a bit of time to make, but you can make the sauce and filling ahead of time, then assemble and bake the enchiladas another time for a quick and easy weeknight meal. GET THE RECIPE

8. Asian BBQ Chicken

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Think of this dish as Chicken Teriyaki with a South Asian flair, or India meets the other flavors of Asia. It sounds exotic but it’s actually kid-friendly and easy to make. GET THE RECIPE

Police And Protesters Clash In Egypt On Anniversary Of Uprising

CAIRO (AP) — Egypt tightened security in Cairo and other cities Sunday as police moved to break up scattered protests marking the anniversary of the 2011 uprising that toppled autocrat Hosni Mubarak, killing three protesters, injuring at least 21 and arresting dozens.

The deaths — two in the Cairo district of Matariyah and one in the Mediterranean port city of Alexandria — occurred when police clashed with supporters of the outlawed Muslim Brotherhood group in both cities, security officials said. Earlier, a firebombing set a city tram ablaze in Alexandria and a gas pipeline blew up in a Nile Delta province, they said. In Beheira, also in the Delta, two suspected Islamists were killed when a bomb they were placing under a high voltage tower exploded, officials said.

Two police officers were injured by shrapnel when a roadside bomb exploded in an eastern Cairo district and six more were wounded in the Matariyah clashes, according to the security officials, who spoke on condition of anonymity as they weren’t authorized to talk to journalists.

Cairo, a city of some 18 million people, appeared mostly deserted Sunday, with many residents staying home to avoid being caught up in any turmoil. However, the officials and activists said police arrested several dozen protesters, mostly suspected Islamists, across much of Cairo — including areas close to the city’s Tahrir square, birthplace of the 2011 uprising.

The protests and the stepped-up security came as activists mourned the death of a female protester shot Saturday in downtown Cairo while taking part in a gathering commemorating the nearly 900 protesters killed in the 2011 revolt.

Activists blame police for the death of Shaimaa el-Sabagh, a 32-year-old mother of one from Alexandria. The government says it is investigating.

Videos posted online show el-Sabagh, a member of the leftist Popular Alliance party, with other protesters carrying placards and chanting “bread, freedom and social justice” — the chief slogan of the 2011 uprising. She and others carried wreaths of flowers they intended to place at nearby Tahrir Square in memory of the fallen protesters.

In the videos, two masked, black-clad police officers point their rifles in her direction before gunshots ring out. The next frame has her on the ground. She is later shown carried by a male protester as blood seeped out of her mouth. The videos are consistent with Associated Press reporting on the shooting.

Hundreds attended her funeral in Alexandria on Sunday without incident.

The prominent Hisham Mubarak Law Center said in a Facebook post that five of el-Sabagh’s fellow protesters who had given investigators their account of the incident were themselves charged with assaulting police and taking part in an illegal demonstration.

There was no immediate confirmation from authorities of the group’s claim.

El-Sabagh’s death is the second of a female protester in recent days. Islamist Sondos Reda was shot dead during a Friday protest in Alexandria. Activists also blame the police.

President Abdel-Fattah el-Sissi’s government has shown zero tolerance for street protests since a law adopted in 2013 banned all demonstrations without prior permission. Dozens of activists have been convicted and jailed for violating the law. A parallel crackdown is targeting supporters of ousted Islamist President Mohammed Morsi, with thousands from his Muslim Brotherhood group imprisoned or facing trial.

El-Sissi, who led the 2013 military ouster of Morsi, has been focusing on reviving the nation’s ailing economy since taking office in May. His public comments have openly dismissed calls for greater freedoms and the end of what activists see as growing police brutality. El-Sissi says his priorities are fixing the economy and battling a simmering Islamist insurgency.

“You can only deal with terrorism when you have free people, not slaves,” Elhami el-Mirghani, a senior official in el-Sabagh’s political party, told a news conference Sunday. “And this regime is the biggest creator of terrorism.”

Sunday’s protests were mostly in response to a call for demonstrations made by an Islamist coalition opposed to el-Sissi and led by the Brotherhood.

They came as police sealed off main squares in Cairo, including Tahrir, and beefed up security at vital state installations. The measures followed the discovery over the past two days of at least 30 roadside bombs in Cairo and a string of other cities intended to be detonated Sunday, security officials said.

Transgender Individuals In Italy Share Stories And Photos

When he first realized that he wasn’t interested in playing with dolls or trying on his mother’s makeup, he was seven years old, dressed in lacy pink clothing and at that time regarded as first of four sisters. Forty years have gone by since then. Four decades full of vacations, love stories, disappointments and hormone therapies. Today Loris is a respected engineer and has fallen crazy in love with Carla.

They are bartenders, supermarket clerks, hairstylists, barbers and office managers. They hold regular jobs, lead ordinary lives and have normal pastimes. What’s more, they refuse to be pigeonholed into typical transgender stereotypes or the common images of transgender people. Their lives changed naturally, through routes that were never easy, but which were rewarded with happy endings. Their stories vary a great deal, but all share the same common denominator: a desire to show people that being transgender is far closer to what people consider “normal” than many people would think — despite a lack of basic rights.

In order to share perspectives on transgender people in Italy, a new traveling photography exhibit has just opened in Milan. Entitled Il tuo tabù è la mia famiglia (Your Taboo is My Family), the exhibition is supported by ALA Milano Onlus, together with the Casa dei Diritti del Comune di Milano (House of Rights, Milan Municipality). The images were taken by photographer Valeria Abis and capture transgender people at home, in daily life, together with family members with whom they’ve shared -– not without difficulty -– the path that led them to live as their authentic selves.

For some, the path to change was incredibly long and full of suffering. For others, it was far easier than they’d expected, as they themselves admit.

For Sabrina, 34, who grew up in Brianza, finding her true self was an ordeal that began not long after she became an adult. That’s when she left her family, faced with parents unable or unwilling to accept who she is. “I moved to Milan on my own, but I had no idea how to take care of myself. So I started to work as a prostitute.” Her life became an abyss of humiliation and suffering, culminating with drug abuse. When she turned 29, Sabrina decided to reach out and ask for help. After spending a long period in a therapeutic community, she managed to create the kind of life she wanted for herself. Today she works as a hairdresser and has lots of friends. In the photograph published here, she chose to have her picture taken face to face with her mother.

The exhibition was on display during the month of December at the Casa dei Dritti (via De Amicis 10), and from January through the end of the Expo 2015 will be hosted in different municipal buildings around Milan. It was created with the help of Antonia Monopoli, who works at the “trans window” set up by ALA Onlus, an association that provides psychological assistance designed to help transgender people join the workforce. Monopoli also emphasizes Italy’s problems with rights and bureaucracy concerning these members of its society, issues that often make their lives more painful and full of unnecessary obstacles.

This post originally appeared on HuffPost Italy and was translated into English.

Thousands Of Spaniards Protest Proposed Security Law

MADRID (AP) — Thousands of protesters are marching in Spanish cities to express their opposition to a proposed law that would set hefty fines for offenses like demonstrating outside parliament buildings or strategic installations.

Parliament approved the Public Security Law last month and it’s expected to become official in February if passed by the government-controlled Senate. Protesters with tape over their mouths and carrying banners calling the measures a “gagging law” gathered Sunday near Spain’s parliament under heavy police surveillance.

The bill is heavily criticized by opposition parties and human rights groups as an attempt by the government to muzzle protests over its handling of Spain’s financial crisis.

The law would allow fines of up to 600,000 euros ($745,000) for individuals demonstrating outside key buildings if they are deemed to breach the peace.

New animated ‘Jetsons’ movie in the works from Warner Bros

New animated 'Jetsons' movie in the works from Warner BrosThe last time we saw The Jetsons, the family from the ’60s cartoon set in the future, on the big screen was way back in 1990. 25 years later, and it looks like Warner Bros. is ready to give the series another chance, as Variety has reported that the studio just hired writer Matt Lieberman to put together a new … Continue reading

Airpnp Is The Best Way To Find Toilets In A Hurry

When you need to tinkle on your travels, it’s hard to remain calm. If you can’t get back to the luxurious comfort of your hotel bathroom, but still crave the posh amenities that come with it, you need a sanctuary in which to pee — and you need it fast.

Enter Airpnp, the (relatively) new app that directs you to the nearest restroom no matter where you are.

Not unlike Airbnb, you’ll enter your location on the app and instantly see a plethora of high-quality toilets in your area. Some are free (like those in a local cafe or store, for example), while some are in private homes that charge a fee — this top-notch spot in Manhattan costs $3 a pop (or is that $3 a poop?).

You can also list your own bathroom, offering others a spot to pee with photos, descriptions, hours of operation and pricing.

We’re not kidding. This is real, the company debuted last year, and their actual tagline is “pee all you can pee with Airpnp.”

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Of course, Airpnp isn’t the only app to help travelers relieve themselves on the road. SitOrSquat, from toilet paper brand Charmin, lets users rate and review roadside bathrooms, and the brand-new Flush Toilet Finder lists more than 100,000 loos worldwide.

But as far as we know, none of these allow you to rent someone’s restroom quite like Airpnp. We think it sounds like a whole new way to travel… and we’re so excited we could tinkle.