The Hill Tribe People of Myanmar

There are over one hundred ethnic groups in Myanmar. Many can be found in the hills around the city of Keng Tung in the Shan State of Myanmar. The Shan State is in eastern Myanmar bordered by China to the north, Laos to the east, and Thailand to the south. It is an area that is familiar with the production of opium and civil war.

To visit the hill tribes from Keng Teng, there is up to a 2 hour drive and then uphill treks of one to seven kilometers.

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A steep climb leads to the Weng Seng area and the Loi tribe. This Loi man offered to show his rifle and his tattoos.

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Loi long house in the rolling hills of the Shan State. Up to eight families will live in this building.

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Loi Women in long house. On the right are strips of pork being smoked.

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This is an Akhu women at the Wan Sai village which is close to Keng Tung. The Akhu are known for smoking hand made bamboo pipes..

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The Akhu woman live into their 80s and 90s with minimal medical care. The Akhu men seldom live past 60.

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Women of the Palaung Tribe. They identify themselves as Ta’ang.

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These two women are from the Akar tribe. They are high up in a pine forest to gather wood.

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The man in the middle is the mayor of the village I visited. The woman on the right is his mother. The woman on the left is his wife.

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An old Akar woman coming back to the village after filling her basket with wood. All cooking and heating is done with wood.

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Akar Women on Mountain Trail

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These are Eng women. They are known for their black teeth. They believe black teeth are attractive and chew tree bark and beetle nut to darken them.

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Eng children come to meet us as we enter their village.

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Eng woman with ear ornaments.

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Eng boy shows us his sling shot.

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Eng sister caring for little brother.

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Eng women sitting among bamboo trees.

All photographs are by Stephen Wallace, M.D., J.D.
Oceanside, California
Blindeyephotography.net
stevewallace@me.com

Special Thanks to Sai Noom Seng (Matt) in Keng Tung and Mya Min Din (MM) of Santa Maria Travel and Tours of Yangon.

When Your Child Wants to Quit a Sport

After playing both spring and fall softball for the past four years, your daughter suddenly announces that she no longer wants to play. This has been a huge part of your family’s life: two practices a week, one to two games each weekend, traveling to various tournaments, not to mention all of her best friends are on the same softball team. You want to support your child, but is she making the right decision? And how do you, as a parent, help your child through this?

Talk with your child about quitting sports

When your child first approaches you announcing she wants to quit a sport, use my Empathic Process, an approach I developed for parents and children to communicate in a safe and open space. The Empathic Process teaches children how to talk to their parents about their feelings, while parents actively listen without defense. Then parents get a chance to speak. Ultimately, parents and children speak together solving their problem, by investing each participant in the solution. This undefended experience creates a safe space in which parent and child can return when needed. During this process, you can learn more about why your child wants to quit.

The advantages of quitting sports

Allowing your child to test herself against her environment, to experiment with different forms of expression and to find her gift is an important part of parenting. When your child wants to quit a sport, it is important to let her do so. Sports are supposed to fun, not a trial by fire. Team sports in particular, but sports in general, teach your child how to push past her effort, find her inner resource, her motivation, teaching her about leadership and how to work well with others. This all adds up to a child’s sense of self, security and good self-esteem. If your child wants to try other sports, let her. If she decides sports are not for her, let her try other interests from which she may discover her gift.

The disadvantages of quitting sports

Some of the disadvantages of quitting a sport may derive from social rather than emotional experiences. Your child may not get along with a teammate, or feel embarrassed or humiliated by a coach… in which case, parental involvement can often remediate the problem. If she truly loves the sport and is just going through a temporary tough time, quitting may not be the best option. Other than that, if your child wants to quit for reasons that cannot be remediated by parental involvement — because she no longer enjoys the sport, or because she finds the schedule too hectic or it interferes with school and other true interests — let her quit. Sports are games to be played, not endured.

Remember: you are your child’s advocate

In the final analysis, though sports may teach many good and important lessons, the most important lesson is to advocate for your child, so that she knows she can count on you to be in her court, right or wrong. Support your child’s decisions, and be there for her. Let her know that whatever activity she chooses to pursue to find her gift, you will be there, cheering her on.

The 3 Things You Should Never Say to Yourself Around Food

When you’re struggling with food or battling your weight, it’s easy to self-sabotage. With constant self-criticism, berating our bodies, and punishing ourselves for things we did/didn’t do, we often become our own worst enemies. But the things we are telling ourselves (subconsciously or consciously) can do us more harm than good.

Here are the three things never to say to yourself around food:

1. “I blew it”
I used to say this all the time. I would have a plan for the day of what I “should” eat, and then if I deviated from it slightly (i.e., I had a cookie after lunch), I would say “shoot, I blew it, so I may as well eat 9240823 other cookies”.

I want you to banish this phrase from your vocabulary.

This way of thinking only sets you up for failure. When you have the mindset that you’ve “blown it,” it sets the stage for eating everything you can get your hands on (that’s not on your diet) for the rest of the day/week/month.

When you don’t even entertain the thought that you could potentially “blow it,” you don’t then need to eat everything in your pantry because it’s not forbidden or restricted.

2. “I can’t have XY or Z food”
When you tell yourself you can’t have a piece of cake at your friend’s birthday fiesta, what do you end up thinking about the entire time? The cake, of course.

You fantasize about the cake, imagine just how tasty a smidgen of icing would be, and daydream about the smooth sugary bite on your tongue. But you immediately refuse to let yourself indulge because you aren’t allowed to eat desserts during the work week! When you’re entirely in your head, going back and forth about eating the cake vs. not eating the cake, you are not really even there with your friends or enjoying the meal; you’re having internal battles about how much you want to eat a piece but told yourself you couldn’t.

When you refuse to allow yourself to eat a certain food group (most likely carbs), mandate a no eating dessert after dinner rule, or refuse to indulge in anything that’s not on your strict food plan, at some point, you are going to want everything you told yourself you weren’t allowed to have. Cue a potential binge.

3. “I’m gonna start over tomorrow”
This is a tricky one. Because, after all of these years of feeling “normal” around food, I still hear myself saying this sometimes! I’ll have a weekend of going out to eat, eating more desserts than normal, being lazy and not working out, feeling “eh” about my body, and then Sunday night rolls around.

I’ll think, “Okay, I’m gonna start over tomorrow and eat perfectly.”

And then I catch myself. Because if there’s no “wagon” to ever fall off of, then you don’t need to get back on it starting tomorrow. If you don’t have strict rules and a rigid way of eating, then you won’t need to begin again after you ate too much one day. You’ll know it will naturally even out, you’ll trust your body to regulate itself, and you’ll believe that one day or a few days of unhealthy eating isn’t the end of the world.

So, your challenge for this week is to catch yourself when you think or say one of these phrases, and recognize that the first step to change is to become of aware of where you are getting in your own way!

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Coffmans' Split Endorsements Titillate Republicans

Conservative talk radio is the front line in the battle over who will be the next chair of the Colorado Republican Party.

That is, for the tea-party wing of the party. The front line for the moneyed side of the party might be in buildings on 17th street or something.

In any case, Steve House, who’s challenging current GOP chair Ryan Call, has appeared on at least nine shows over the past few weeks, including programs on KNUS (Peter Boyles), KLZ (Randy Corporon, Ken Clark, Kris Cook) and KFKA (Amy Oliver).

In contrast, I can’t find a single appearance by Call on conservative talk radio in the past month.

Even when the candidates themselves aren’t on their shows, the conservative yappers talk on and on about race to be the GOP chair, as if it’s the epic battle that will decide the future of the Republican Party in Colorado.

One of the developments in the race that titillates the Republicans is the split endorsements of Mike and Cynthia Coffman. Congressman Coffman (R-Aurora) is backing Ryan Call, the current chair. And his wife, Cynthia Coffman, who’s Colorado’s Attorney General, has thrown her weight behind challenger Steve House.

Below is an example of the kind of erudite discussion you find on conservative radio about the Coffman situation and relationship, such as it is. (Recall that they apparently don’t live together.) It occurred on Valentine’s Day on KNUS’  “Weekend Wake Up” Show with Julie Hayden and hubby Chuck Bonniwell. The guest is conservative political operative Laura Carno (who’s been crusading for powdered alcohol recently):

 Bonniwell: This leadership race for the chairmanship of the Republican Party is going wild! It’s just going wild out there. And you can read all about it in ColoradoPols, which is sad because it’s a left-wing site… It’s a battle royale with Cynthia Coffman, who’s the Attorney General, urging Steve House to run, and then her husband, Congressman Coffman, opposing him, saying, ‘Re-elect Ryan Call.’ It’s just an amazing fight.

Carno: Yeah. It’s going crazy. …I thought that the Coffman angle was absolutely fascinating.

Hayden: You have to wonder!

Carno: Cynthia Coffman is backing one guy. Congressman Coffman is backing another guy. And what does that household look like?

Bonniwell: It’s one of two things: They say, ‘You go on one side. I’ll go on the other side. And we’ll all be covered.’ Or they’re screaming at each other. One of the two.

Carno: Right. It’s a house divided, in some manner. It would just be interesting to be a fly on the wall with those conversations. Interesting Valentine’s Day.

Republicans will elect their new chair March 14. Who knows what will happen to the Coffmans after that.

The Conscious Web: When the Internet of Things Becomes Artificially Intelligent

When Stephen Hawking, Bill Gates and Elon Musk all agree on something, it’s worth paying attention.

All three have warned of the potential dangers that artificial intelligence or AI can bring. The world’s foremost physicist, Hawking said that the full development of AI could “spell the end of the human race.” Musk, the tech entrepreneur who brought us PayPal, Tesla and SpaceX described artificial intelligence as our “biggest existential threat” and said that playing around with AI was like “summoning the demon.” Gates, who knows a thing or two about tech, puts himself in the “concerned” camp when it comes to machines becoming too intelligent for us humans to control.

What are these wise souls afraid of? AI is broadly described as the ability of computer systems to ape or mimic human intelligent behavior. This could be anything from recognizing speech, to visual perception, making decisions and translating languages. Examples run from Deep Blue who beat chess champion Garry Kasparov to supercomputer Watson who out guessed the world’s best Jeopardy player. Fictionally, we have Her, the movie that depicts the protagonist, played by Joaquin Phoenix, falling in love with his operating system, seductively voiced by Scarlett Johansson. And coming soon, Chappie stars a stolen police robot who is reprogrammed to make conscious choices and to feel emotions.

An important component of AI, and a key element in the fears it engenders, is the ability of machines to take action on their own without human intervention. This could take the form of a computer reprogramming itself in the face of an obstacle or restriction. In other words, to think for itself and to take action accordingly.

Needless to say, there are those in the tech world who have a more sanguine view of AI and what it could bring. Kevin Kelly, the founding editor of Wired magazine does not see the future inhabited by HAL’s – the homicidal computer on board the spaceship in 2001: A Space Odyssey. Kelly sees a more prosaic world that looks more like Amazon Web Services, a cheap, smart, utility which is also exceedingly boring simply because it will run in the background of our lives. He says AI will enliven inert objects in the way that electricity did over a hundred years ago. “Everything that we formerly electrified, we will now cognitize.” And he sees the business plans of the next 10,000 start-ups as easy to predict: ” Take X and add AI.”

While he acknowledges the concerns about artificial intelligence, Kelly writes, “As AI develops, we might have to engineer ways to prevent consciousness in them – our most premium AI services will be advertised as consciousness-free.” (my emphasis). And this from the author of a book called, What Technology Wants.

Running parallel to the extraordinary advances in the field of AI is the even bigger development of what is loosely called, The Internet of Things or IoT. This can be broadly described as the emergence of countless objects, animals and even people who have uniquely identifiable, embedded devices that are wirelessly connected to the Internet. These “nodes” can send or receive information without the need for human intervention. There are estimates that there will be 50 billion connected devices by 2020. Current examples of these “smart” devices include Nest thermostats, wifi-enabled washing machines and the increasingly connected cars with their built-in sensors that can avoid accidents and even park for you.

The U.S. Federal Trade Commission is sufficiently concerned about the security and privacy implications of the Internet of Things, and has conducted a public workshop and released a report urging companies to adopt best practices and “bake in” procedures to minimize data collection and to ensure consumers trust in the new networked environment.

Tim O’Reilly, coiner of the phrase, “Web 2.0” sees the Internet of Things as the most important online development yet. He thinks the name is misleading – that the IoT will simply mean giving people greater access to human intelligence and that it is “really about human augmentation” and that we will shortly “expect our devices to anticipate us in all sorts of ways”. He uses the “intelligent personal assistant”, Google Now, to make his point.

So what happens with these millions of embedded devices connect to artificially intelligent machines? What does AI + IoT = ? Will it mean the end of civilization as we know it? Will our self-programming computers send out hostile orders to the chips we’ve added to our everyday objects? Or is this just another disruptive moment, similar to the harnessing of steam or the splitting of the atom? An important step in our own evolution as a species, but nothing to be too concerned about?

The answer may lie in some new thinking about consciousness. As a concept, as well as an experience, consciousness has proved remarkably hard to pin down. We all know that we have it (or at least we think we do), but scientists are unable to prove that we have it or, indeed, exactly what it is and how it arises. Dictionaries describe consciousness as the state of being awake and aware of our own existence. It is an “internal knowledge” characterized by sensation, emotions and thought.

Just over 20 years ago, an obscure Australian philosopher named David Chalmers created controversy in philosophical circles by raising what became known as the Hard Problem of Consciousness. He asked how the grey matter inside our heads gave rise to the mysterious experience of being. What makes us different than, say, a very efficient robot, one with, perhaps, artificial intelligence? And are we humans the only ones with consciousness?

Some scientists propose that consciousness is an illusion, a trick of the brain. Still others believe we will never solve the consciousness riddle. But a few neuroscientists think we may finally figure it out, provided we accept the remarkable idea that soon computers or the Internet might one day become conscious.

In an extensive Guardian article, the author Oliver Burkeman writes that Chalmers and others have put forth a notion that all things in the universe might be or potentially be conscious “providing the information it contains is sufficiently interconnected and organized.” So could an iPhone or a thermostat be conscious? And, if so, could we have a “Conscious Web”?

Back in the earliest days of the web, the author, Jennifer Cobb Kreisberg wrote an influential piece entitled, “A Globe, Clothing Itself with a Brain.” In it she described the work of a little known Jesuit priest and paleontologist, Pierre Teilhard de Chardin, who fifty years earlier described a global sphere of thought, the “living unity of a single tissue” containing our collective thoughts, experiences and consciousness.

Teilhard called it the “nooshphere” (noo is Greek for mind). He saw it as the evolutionary step beyond our geosphere (physical world) and biosphere (biological world). The informational wiring of a being, whether it is made up of neurons or electronics, gives birth to consciousness. As the diversification of nervous connections increase, de Chardin argued, evolution is led towards greater consciousness. Or as John Perry Barlow, Grateful Dead lyricist, cyber advocate and Teilhard de Chardin fan said, “With cyberspace, we are, in effect, hard-wiring the collective consciousness.”

So, perhaps we shouldn’t be so alarmed. Maybe we are on the cusp of a breakthrough not just in the field of artificial intelligence and the emerging Internet of Things, but also in our understanding of consciousness itself. If we can resolve the privacy, security and trust issues that both AI and the IoT present, we might make an evolutionary leap of historic proportions. And it’s just possible Teilhard’s remarkable vision of an interconnected “thinking layer” is what the web has been all along.

This Is What Water Democracy Looks Like

A quiet little sustainability experiment is showing astonishing results, here in New York’s iconic Hudson River Valley. Communities are flexing their muscles and taking control of their drinking water supplies — instead of just letting outside interests call the shots on how to manage local water resources.

Last week, I joined grassroots advocates, local officials in suburban Rockland County and the Chairwoman of the New York State Public Service Commission for a truly groundbreaking planning event. Our goal: create a comprehensive strategy for sustainable water supplies, better flood control and greater protection for aquatic flora and fauna, in the wake of the PSC’s ruling last November rejecting a wasteful plan to desalinate the Hudson to create a new drinking water supply that Rockland simply doesn’t need.

State PSC Chairwoman Audrey Zibelman couldn’t stop praising the community activists, government officials, business representatives and water utility officials involved in this unique from-the-ground-up planning process. In fact, she called it a campaign for sustainability that the whole state might one day be able to learn from.

The morning after this great meeting in Rockland, I learned of another huge win for smart, community-driven water management planning, just a little farther up the Hudson.

Victory number two was in Ulster County, near Woodstock, where the Niagara Bottling company decided to drop plans to build the region’s first major water bottling plant, rather than go through an in-depth environmental impact review process, which skeptical local water advocates fought for and won earlier this year.

Inspired by Rockland’s example and their own success in forcing Niagara to defend their project or just go home, Ulster County’s grassroots water protectors have started their own planning initiative, holding a “Watershed Task Force” organizing meeting the very same night that State PSC Chairwoman Zibelman was with Rockland’s water management planners.

Looking at the defeat of desalination in Rockland and the abandonment of plans to sell bottled water from Ulster, as well as the two community-based planning initiatives arising from the ashes of these failed projects, it’s clear that something extraordinary is taking shape, here along the Hudson:

  • Environmentally-questionable plans like desalination and water bottling are hatched in a top-down manner and then pitched to the public as the best approach to water management that cash-strapped communities can hope for.
  • Local advocates, supported by organizations like Riverkeeper, Woodstock Land Conservancy and Scenic Hudson, fact-check these projects and find major flaws.
  • Grassroots coalitions form and draw support from thoughtful, concerned public officials. The press runs story after story raising real questions about whether these supposedly must-do projects were ever all that great in the first place.
  • Once they’ve been held to proper scrutiny, these projects that we’re supposed to need so desperately are eventually withdrawn or rejected by regulatory agencies.
  • Not satisfied simply with stopping these sketchy projects, the local coalitions formed to fight them turn their efforts to developing smarter, more sustainable water supply plans which offer collateral benefits like enhanced habitat preservation and improved storm water management.

The work ahead for Rockland’s and Ulster’s “smart-tap” planning coalitions won’t be easy. Even in the relatively water-rich Hudson Valley, our H2O supplies face progressively increasing stress from climate change and companies hankering to slake thirsts in drier regions by getting hold of our own “excess” water supplies. Communities will need help to get these initiatives right — they’re simply bigger than what dedicated volunteer advocates and local nonprofits can manage on their own.

But the first shots in the battle to protect our water supplies have already been fired and their aim was true. In turning back powerful and well-funded interests seeking to desalinate the Hudson River and export water from our lakes and streams, these grassroots water patriots are revolutionizing water resource planning here in New York. By doing so, they just might have provided us with a roadmap for success in many of the other big sustainability battles that lie ahead.

The Merit Badges of Parenthood

A few weeks ago, I had a series of days where I thought seriously about hanging up my motherhood apron and walking out. It started with one kid coming down with the flu while my husband was out of town, quickly followed by the other. Which meant that I was quarantined at home for four solid days.

My son took the long and drawn-out route, holding on to that 102 fever like a souvenir for days on end, but other than the fever, he felt pretty good and played around the house as if nothing was wrong.

My daughter, on the other hand, fell fast and hard, unable to keep anything down for hours and lay, coma-like, on the couch for 12 hours straight, but woke up the next morning without even a hint of a temperature.

I’m not sure what’s worse when it comes to sick kids: When fevers keep them from going to school or out in public, but they still feel well enough to get on each others nerves, or when they’re so sick they don’t want you to leave their side for a millisecond.

At around day four, I thought I might be slowly going insane, and realized I wasn’t cut out for this crap. I could never be a nurse, clearly visible in the way I bathed myself in hand sanitizer, buried my nose and mouth in my shirt when I got close to the kids and got angry at the thermometer.

Thankfully, we got through the muck and lived to tell about it. But right in trenches of it all, I realized that these moments are the grit and grime of parenthood. It was a week that would help shape what kind of mother I would be — the kind that would stay strong, show patience and compassion, put my head down and get through it, instead of trying to avoid everyone by holing up in my room with a case of Girl Scout cookies.

Dammit if I didn’t earn that badge of parenthood.

Don’t we all? I don’t know a single parent that hasn’t experienced weeks like this. Like a rite of passage, there are universal experiences we all have as parents, and I often feel like we could earn badges of honor for them. When I’m surrounded by a room full of parents, I envision us all like little Cub and Girl Scouts, dawning invisible polyester vests sprinkled with little merit badges of parenthood.

The Potty-Training Badge

The Week-Long Flu Badge

The Sleep Training Badge

The Sight Words Badge

The ER Visit Badge

The Road Trip Badge

The Too Many Days at Disney Badge

The My Kid Won’t Keep His Diaper On At Naptime Badge

The I Screwed Up As Tooth Fairy Badge

The Over Committed Room Parent Badge

The I Need To Be In Two Places At Once Badge

The Sitting Through Hours of Recitals/Double Headers/Meets/Tournaments Badge

The Our Kids Only Eat Yellow Foods and Might Have Scurvy Badge

While phases like this seem to take forever to resolve, we parents muster through them and live to face the next one. Except, as parents, we don’t need to show off these accomplishments. Our merit badges lie in the (hopefully) rested, healthy smiles of our children’s faces, the hugs that reassure we have the magic touch to make things better, or the joy of watching our children accomplish something on their own.

Badges? We don’t need no stinkin’ badges!

Which one of these merit badges have you earned?

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San Francisco Catholic Students Push Archdiocese To #TeachAcceptance

Catholic students in San Francisco are speaking out against their archbishop — and they chose one of the holiest days on the church’s calendar to do so.

On Ash Wednesday, hundreds of students and parents, some with ashes still streaked across their foreheads, gathered outside Saint Mary’s Cathedral to protest morality clauses for Catholic school teachers proposed by San Francisco’s Archbishop Salvatore Cordileone, ABC News’ local affiliate reported.

Hannah Regan, a 14-year-old student at Sacred Heart Cathedral Preparatory, was one of the many who sang and recited prayers outside the church. She’s been in the city’s Catholic school system for about 10 years and loves the community she’s grown up with. But on Wednesday, she came out with a challenge, holding up a sign that read, “Teach Love, Teach Justice, Teach Acceptance.”

The hashtag #TeachAcceptance has become a rallying cry, she said.

“The message we’re trying to get across is that we support all of our teachers, no matter their gender, sexuality, religion or race,” Hannah told The Huffington Post via a phone call. “The majority of students are very concerned about our teachers and all we want to do is show our love and support.”

Archbishop Cordileone has been getting pushback from parents and even local lawmakers about efforts to clarify morality clauses that are a part of teachers’ contracts. The changes add language that reaffirms the church’s stance against homosexuality, same-sex marriage, abortion, contraceptives and artificial insemination. Teachers who violate or even show support for these issues in public could be subject to discipline, the San Francisco Chronicle reported.

The proposed agreement with the teacher’s union would also label teachers and employees at San Francisco’s Catholic schools as “ministers,” according to the Los Angeles Times. This designation allows religious organizations to hire and fire employees without government interference.

On Ash Wednesday, Rev. John Piderit told CBS San Francisco that the archbishop is “reiterating standard Catholic doctrine.”

In a letter to Catholic high school teachers issued earlier this month, Cordileone wrote that all teachers are expected to “contribute to an atmosphere of holiness, virtue and familiarity with the Gospel.

“How can this occur if not all teachers agree with Catholic teachings?” he wrote.

But in a city like San Francisco, it’s hard for some young people to accept that their teachers could be fired for being visibly pro-choice or supportive of LGBT issues.

“It’s very backwards and doesn’t match anything San Francisco stands for,” Hannah told HuffPost.

The teenager’s dad, Bob Regan, said he wanted his children to grow up in a school that emphasizes social justice and service. He found that the Catholic archdiocese schools taught all these values, but he doesn’t like the aura of exclusion the morality clauses are creating.

He looks at the example of Pope Francis, who has asked the church to spend less time denouncing sins and more time reaching out to the margins of society.

“One of the things that concerns me is the contrast in language we hear from Pope Francis and the language we hear from our own pastor and our own archbishop,” Regan told HuffPost.

The San Francisco Chronicle has called the rumblings within the city’s archdiocese “the archbishop’s effort to rein in secularism at Catholic schools.” And although the contracts only apply to high schools in the region, elementary schools are also feeling the results of that push.

Regan’s younger child attends Star of the Sea School, a K-8 school in San Francisco. Its priest, Rev. Joseph Illo, recently announced his decision to phase out altar girls from serving at Mass.

In an effort to reinforce Catholic doctrine, some students in grades two through six at Star of the Sea School reportedly received pamphlets that asked questions about sexual conduct on Ash Wednesday.

The pamphlets allegedly asked questions like, “Did I perform impure acts by myself (masturbation) or with another (adultery, fornication and sodomy)?” and, “Did I practice artificial birth control or was I or my spouse prematurely sterilized (tubal ligation or vasectomy)?”

“It was very careless on their behalf, and you would expect anyone who works around children to be much more careful,” a parent at the school Siobhan McFeeney told SFGate. “You should never show this to a 9-year-old”

Illo later apologized for the incident, admitting that some of the items for reflection were not age-appropriate.

Still, it may take much more than an apology for some families to be reconciled with the archdiocese.

Hannah says she hopes her school will one day be an open and welcoming place for both teachers and students who are struggling to make sense of their own sexuality.

“Hopefully Catholic schools will not only be publicly supportive, but willing to help struggling LGBT youth and lessen social stigma against birth control and sex education,” she said. “Rather than boxing it up.”

A Tribute to Tanisha Anderson: African-American, Schizophrenic and Lost on the Streets

When Tanisha Anderson, a 37-year old African-American woman who had been reportedly diagnosed with schizophrenia and bipolar disorder, died at the hands of the Cleveland Police Department this past November, she became not only one in a long line of African-American victims of alleged police brutality, she also became the latest person of color with a mental illness to be killed by law enforcement.

Miriam Carey, Ezell Ford and Eleanor Bumpurs, among others, were all shot dead by law enforcement over the years. Sadly, the victims in these cases have been mostly forgotten, primarily because they suffered from mental illness.

Carey, an African-American woman who was diagnosed with post-partum depression and psychosis, led the Secret Service and Capitol Police on an October 2013 chase in Washington, D.C., because she was under the delusion that she was being monitored by President Obama and the federal government.

She was shot dead by law enforcement with her baby in the car. While political leaders on the left and the right applauded the acts of the Secret Service and Capitol Police, I was not so sanguine.

As I wrote at the time, “There has got to be a better way for police and Secret Service to handle unarmed, psychotic people, short of killing them.”

I added, “Even if shooting out tires does not always work, there must be some other procedure for disabling a car. Couldn’t the police have stalled Carey’s vehicle by ramming it? Couldn’t they have fired warning shots in the air? Couldn’t they have shot Carey in the leg with a Taser?”

I asked a similar question last year after Ezell Ford, an African-American man who had reportedly been diagnosed with schizophrenia and bipolar disorder, was shot dead by the LAPD on the streets of South L.A.

While the tragic deaths of Michael Brown and Eric Garner understandably received a good deal of attention, Ezell Ford’s death did not. Some of that may have been due to the improved community outreach of the LAPD in the two decades since the Rodney King beating, but the relative neglect in publicity surrounding Ford’s case was also likely due to the fact that he was mentally ill.

Similarly, the death of Tanisha Anderson has received less attention than that of Tamir Rice, a 12-year old African-American boy, who was playing with a toy gun when he was killed by Cleveland police last year.

All of these incidents deserve attention so that policies can be implemented to prevent future tragedies.

But I would argue that the case of Tanisha Anderson deserves extra scrutiny because, unlike some of the victims in the past, Anderson was unarmed, was not under the suspicion of committing a crime and was almost assuredly harmless.

According to Cleveland.com, Tanisha Anderson’s family had called police to report that she was being “unruly, but non-violent,” during a psychotic episode.

I understand this very well, as my psychiatrist was going to call the police to have them pick me up when I was psychotic and diagnosed with schizophrenia in January 1999. Like Tanisha Anderson, I was not violent.

But the Cleveland police claim that Anderson kicked them and struggled with them on the way to the car. She was going to be taken to a medical center for treatment.

Members of Anderson’s family, who witnessed her death, have said that she panicked when she was confined in the back seat of the police cruiser. She bolted out of the back seat before she was slammed on the pavement and killed.

Even if Tanisha Anderson did struggle with and kick the police, law enforcement has to do a much better job of training officers to handle people in the midst of psychosis.

Social workers should accompany cops in those situations, as they reportedly do now in L.A., although I must point out that Ezell Ford was known to be mentally ill, and he was still killed by the LAPD.

In Ezell Ford’s case, the police alleged that he brandished a knife.

The same thing was said of Eleanor Bumpurs, a 66-year-old African-American woman with a history of emotional problems. Bumpurs, who was killed at her Bronx apartment in October 1984, may not have had an official diagnosis like Tanisha Anderson, but she too was reported to be psychotic, which simply means divorced from reality.

A specially trained police unit went to her apartment to evict her for being behind in the rent. She was shot twice by an officer, who was acquitted in state court.

Rudy Giuliani, then the U.S. Attorney for the Southern District of New York, did not bring federal charges.

Then, as now in the Tanisha Anderson case, many called for an independent prosecutor, although at that time it was to no avail.

By contrast, an independent prosecutor, Charles Hynes, who later became the Brooklyn District Attorney, was brought in to prosecute the Howard Beach case a few years after Eleanor Bumpurs was killed.

By then, there had been a spate of hate crimes in New York. Civil rights activists had built momentum for the cause. And perhaps, most tellingly, the victims in the Howard Beach case, Michael Griffith and Cedric Sandiford, two black men, were not mentally ill.

They were two men of color who wandered into the wrong neighborhood, a primarily white enclave in Queens, at the wrong time and were attacked by a gang of white kids.

Tanisha Anderson was in her own neighborhood and outside of her own home when she was thrown onto the pavement in a “take-down” move by the Cleveland police. The Cuyahoga County Medical Examiner’s office ruled her death a homicide and determined that it was “a sudden death associated with physical restraint in a prone position.”

According to Cleveland.com, the Justice Department recently issued a 58-page report, which found, not surprisingly, that Cleveland police officers have not been properly trained in how to handle people with mental illness and how to use “de-escalation techniques.” The report also found that officers have used “cruel and excessive force against the mentally and medically ill.”
How many more tragedies like this do we have to have before we realize that people of color and people with mental illness should be treated humanely on the streets!

Specially trained police units may not be enough. After all, Eleanor Bumpurs, whose name was remembered by the Greek chorus in Spike Lee’s Do the Right Thing, was killed by officers in a specially trained unit. And that was 31 years ago!

Cameras monitoring the police, social workers on the scene, and specially trained police units can and should help.

But what we really need is humanity and insight into a very complicated situation.

When police officers encounter a person who is known to be mentally ill, the officers have got to keep in mind that psychotic people are scared, terrified that they are going to be harmed.
That fear is justified because, as studies show, those with severe mental illness are more likely to be the victims than the perpetrators of violent crime.

My advice to officers is to allow the social worker on the scene to talk to, reason with and comfort the mentally ill person, particularly if that person is unarmed.

Tanisha Anderson, who was unarmed and who also reportedly had a heart condition, clearly did not get such reassurance when she was in the police cruiser. Instead, she got slammed on the pavement, while an officer rammed his knee against her back.

Now, she is gone, another lost soul in our country’s failure to deal humanely not only with people of color but also with those diagnosed with severe mental illness.

Mother's Whispers

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Mothers’ Whispers

How many times have you read a new article and something resonates personally? I’m beginning to see clearer that these ideas are reflections of powerful spirit-winds winking back at us. When this happens, it’s a time to ask ourselves: Are they showing us to be even more humble and be grateful for the guidance? And by becoming mindful, will we see that not a day that goes by that doesn’t mirror our own heart’s ideals from everywhere?

Recently discovered something I have in common with Pope Frances, which I discovered in his writings. I was stunned to find out that his mother had a similar saying to one of my own. Was this just a coincidence or is this something that Italian mothers whispered to their children? Below is a quote from Pope Francis’s talk, “Children are the joy of family and society.” (Vatican Radio)

“Allow me to share a childhood memory, my mother would always say — there were five of us in our family — when asked which one was her favorite, she would say ‘I have five children like I have five fingers… if they beat one of my fingers all five hurt… all of my children are mine, but each one is different, just like my fingers… this is the way it is in the family, all children are different but all children… You love your child because he is a child, not because he is beautiful, healthy, and good; not because he thinks like me, or embodies my desires. A child is a child: a life created by us but destined for him, for his good, the good of the family, society, humanity.”

My own mother made a similar comment, which I excerpted in Imprinted Wisdom:

“We would ask her which of her children she liked best, and she would answer us with another question: “Look at your fingers. Do you like one more than the other?” It was a perfect way to illustrate her point that it would be impossible to choose. She always made sure that each of us knew she loved us, and that our differences were what made us unique and treasured.”

I believe that minds are joined, and the heart is the biggest connection to others through our feelings and emotions. This just might be the greatest reward — to remind us that despite being unique, we’re really very much alike. And that we’ve already been heard, with our spirit rising to the Highest among us to celebrate our mother’s whispers.

About Catherine Nagle: Catherine grew up in Philadelphia with 16 brothers and sisters, reared by loving, old school Italian parents. Catherine’s artist father’s
works graced locations from churches to public buildings; her mother was a full-time homemaker. A professional hairdresser, Catherine worked in various salons while studying the Bible and pursuing spiritual growth through courses, seminars, lectures and inspirational books, including A Course in Miracles and the works of Marianne Williamson among many others. The mother of two children and a grandmother, Catherine lives in Pennsylvania with her husband and son. She is the Author of Imprinted Wisdom.
http://www.amazon.com/Imprinted-Wisdom-Catherine-Nagle/dp/145256938X