Our Top Tips for Beating Jet Lag

Every traveler has heard of it and everyone fears it: the dreaded jet lag. But for those of us who are constantly on the go, we rely on these top tips for avoiding jet lag and arriving at our destination feeling as fresh as possible.

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Get plenty of rest the night before
We know — easier said than done! But try to get ahead of your packing so you’re not up all night wondering whether you remembered your converter or if you have enough pairs of pants for the week. Getting a good night’s sleep will help you feel more rested upon arrival, even if you don’t sleep well on the plane.

Stay hydrated (and avoid alcohol)
The plane’s cabin and traveling at high altitudes automatically cause dehydration, and while a cocktail might help to ease your in-flight nerves, it won’t do anything to help with the impending jet lag. Skip the alcohol and drink plenty of water, which will ensure you’re feeling fresh when you arrive at your destination. The added benefit of chugging H2O? Getting up to use the restroom allows you to stretch your legs and keeps you from getting stiff.

Sleep on the plane
Again, easier said then done, but slightly simpler on an overnight flight. Bring a travel pillow and/or an eye mask, and choose an aisle or window seat for slightly more room. If you often have trouble sleeping on planes, try taking a melatonin pill to ease into slumber — it’s even rumored to help reset your internal body clock.

Do NOT take a nap when you arrive
After switching time zones or spending all night on a plane (or both), immediately checking in and curling up in your fluffy hotel bed is extremely tempting. But resist the urge to take a “short” nap; more often than not it will end up longer than you anticipated and will throw off your sleep schedule for at least one more night. Instead, take the opportunity to explore your new city and indulge in a local cup of coffee to keep you awake and alert until it’s time for bed.

Bring a good attitude
When all else fails and you can’t help but feel sluggish and tired, remember to open your eyes and look at the new sights around you. Take a moment to drink in your surroundings and remember that you’re on an adventure — a positive outlook can work wonders! And if that still doesn’t work, there’s nothing like a handful of trail mix (or your favorite travel snack) to give you a boost of energy.

What are your tips for battling jet lag? Share them with us in the comments!

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Anxiety About Anxiety Can Cause Anxiety

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There was an 8-year-old crying at after-school pick up today. She was almost hysterical, racing back and forth, saying she wanted to go home, and that she was afraid. I asked the counselor what was going on and it seemed the young girl had an untied shoe lace and felt she was going to die as a result. The counselor kept telling her to stop crying, that she wasn’t going to die, there was nothing to be afraid of and to stop it. This just increased the child’s hysteria.

I walked over and said, “It’s okay to be afraid. It can be scary.” Immediately, she stopped crying and looked at me. I said. “Can you breathe in through your nose and out through your mouth like me?” and I began to breathe slowly, modeling what I wanted her to do. She began to do it, eyes locked with mine. We breathed together and mellowed the beast of anxiety.

I write this not as a kudos to me, but as a show of compassion for people who experience any level of anxiety. It is a nasty companion.

I believe that the young girl truly felt that she was gong to die, and here’s why: Her heart was probably pounding incredibly fast; her head was probably hurting from clenching her jaw; she was jumpy and probably felt out of control. All of these symptoms of anxiety can be terrifying, which just increases the anxiety.

Anxiety about anxiety can cause anxiety.

The fastest way to stop anxiety is to pop a Xanax. Gotcha! The even faster way is to breathe. Slowly and steadily. And walk through your body: Is my heart racing? Check. Is my head hurting? Check. Am I sweating? Check. Thank you, body, for showing me I need to get more oxygen to my brain. Breathe.

Oxygen to the brain helps slow down the train of anxiety and allows you to see things a bit more clearly. That high-pitched hysteria you were feeling is now ebbing to a softer edginess. The more you breathe, the gentler you feel. You’re in charge again, not anxiety.

And talk to yourself the way I spoke to that young girl. No judgment. “It’s okay to be scared.” I didn’t agree or disagree that there was something to be afraid of; I allowed her to feel what she was feeling. I didn’t fight her anxiety; I invited it to the table. And in that gesture, anxiety released its grip.

Give yourself the gifts of breathing and no judgment. Share this with your family, friends, coworkers — anyone you know who has slight or more intense anxiety. I don’t propose that medication is unnecessary. In fact, medication can be amazing. But relying on medication alone can feed the feeling of helplessness so many anxiety sufferers experience. It’s empowering, and immediately effective, to be an active participant in managing one’s anxiety.

You’ve got the power.

Actors' Equity Should Pull National Tours From Indiana

Mike Pence and the majority of Indiana lawmakers stated a very clear message last week with the passing of this supposed “religious freedoms bill.” They made it clear that in Indiana, it is now OK to discriminate against someone based on anything that may conflict with your religious convictions. The main group being targeted? The gay community.

Pence took to the political morning shows to defend this law, yet whenever asked if people could refuse service to an LGBT person citing it, he could not answer. He didn’t try to defend one side or word it in some clever way, he literally could not give a “yes” or “no” when asked for one directly.

The theatre community has historically been a place where many LGBT people call home, but also a community that does not stand for oppression or discrimination of any kind. We are on the front lines of advocacy, from fighting AIDS when no one else would talk about it, to pushing for marriage equality successfully here in New York state and all over the country. We know the power we have when we band together. We are passionate, we are informed and we have millions of supporters that march alongside us.

The immediate reaction to Pence’s new law was for those who support equality to boycott Indiana. And it’s a smart one. As a country, when a nation starts to make choices that we find unacceptable, we place economic sanctions on them. We are seeing this play out in Russia as a punishment for Putin’s actions and his encroaching on foreign borders. These sanctions are built to put economic pressure on the people of the country, so they will see the true colors of their politicians and that these actions will cost a high price. The hopes are that in turn, the people will call for a change in national law or a recall of their leadership.

And this is exactly what Indiana needs right now.

Broadway National Tours are BIG business… huge in fact. Aside from the actual tickets purchased, local governments stand to gain revenue from theatre rental, parking, hotel stays, restaurants, you name it. On top of that, you have a cast and crew that reside in this state for weeks, if not months at a time, adding to local revenue with everything they purchase.

And it’s time to pull the plug on this now.

I understand that there are contracts already drawn and bookings that we need to uphold, but we need to take a stand now and say that from this day on, touring actors will no longer feed their money into a state that openly discriminates LGBT people. It goes against every grain that our community stands for, as we are always on the progressive sides of an issue well before the rest of the world catches up.

This is our chance to add our voice to all the others that are economically fighting this legislation. This is our chance to band together once again and force people to see beyond their bigotry. This is our chance to help the people of Indiana (a majority of whom oppose this law) to take down a government that is longer working for the peoples good, but against their will.

Discrimination has a price, and we will no longer “act” as if it doesn’t. Join us.

This Is Nursing

This is why I fell in love with my coworkers and with our nursing profession. I cannot look at this picture without getting a little teary. If you’re religious, what religion you practice, whatever it is you may believe in… none of it matters. When we’ve had a horrific outcome, when we have had a close call, when one of our own is sick, we come together. We pray for our patients, we pray for their babies, we pray for our families, and we pray for our coworkers.

When times are tough. When times are rough. When times are tough. When times are rough.

This is nursing. It’s nurses, and physicians, and midwives, and unit clerks, and scrub techs, and patient care assistants and management, and even housekeepers! We are family. This is one of my work families, and I’m so proud to say that I work here, at Houston Methodist San Jacinto. Whatever our days bring, whatever walks through the door, we have each other. This isn’t going on at just this hospital, in this city. This happens at every hospital, everywhere. I hope the people we serve know how we care for them, how we hurt for them. And I know how we care and hurt for each other. Sometimes we huddle together in the break room, sometimes we hug each other in an empty room. When we are blindsided by the unexpected or when our patients are blindsided, we cry together, we cry alone, and we cry at home. We’re the only ones that know what kind of work we really do, and if we didn’t have each other, it just wouldn’t be nursing.

Until my next delivery ♥

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Social Media Makes Us All Bullies, Say Monica Lewinsky And Jon Ronson

If anyone understands public shaming, it’s Monica Lewinsky — making her a perfect person to interview journalist and author Jon Ronson about his new book, “So You’ve Been Publicly Shamed.”

A tendency to go to emotional extremes on social media contributes to public shaming today, Ronson told Lewinsky.

“It’s like on social media we’ve set a stage for constant high dramas,” Ronson said. “So, like, we either have to do something wonderful and heroic or something like, ‘We have to shame this terrible person.'”

“I sort of think that’s not how we are as human beings,” Ronson added.

Now a contributing editor at Vanity Fair, Lewinsky was publicly shamed nearly 20 years ago, long before the social-media era, for her affair with then-President Bill Clinton. Her experience is included in Ronson’s book.

Another subject of the book is Justine Sacco, the former senior director of corporate communications at IAC, who was publicly shamed for a tweet she wrote in 2013: “Going to Africa. Hope I don’t get AIDS. Just kidding. I’m white!”

News outlets picked up the insensitive tweet, and Sacco was quickly fired. Ronson suggested that Sacco’s treatment was unfair.

“We like to pretend that Justine Sacco’s badly worded tweet is a clue to her inherent evil, but that’s not true,” Ronson said. “We know that’s not true about people, but we’ve tricked ourselves into believing that’s true.”

Context is key, Lewinsky said.

“What’s happened with the Internet is that we lose context for a story, but mainly we lose context for a person,” she said. “This is someone’s daughter. This is someone’s sister. This is somebody that has a sense of humor that might be different from mine. This is someone who has a long range of life experiences, which inform how they themselves, view the world, or how they articulate themselves.”

Cuba: So What Now?

Few people can get the entire travel industry tittering about the same thing at the same time, but President Obama managed to do just that. On December 17, travel news (and just about every other news) reported that that the Cuban embargo, in place for 54 years, will be, as the New York Times put it, “defanged.” Exports and banking are expected to increase, and the State Department will begin a review that could see Cuba being removed from a damning list of nations suspected of state-sponsored terrorism. It was quite the event.

For people in the American travel business, it was like a new star had appeared in the sky. When we say “untapped market,” it is usually a game of degrees and perception, but Cuba really is just that. However, being a terra incognita can have as many pitfalls as highpoints.

I spoke with Kurt Weinsheimer, VP of Business Development at Sojern, a data-driven performance marketing company for travel, working with the major hotel chains, airlines, car rental companies and who also monitors web traffic to spot trends and other information for its clients. He is in a better position than most to say what Cuba now “means” to travelers.

“What the government did is lessened restrictions on travel to Cuba,” says Weinsheimer. “A lot of those restrictions are still in place, but they have lightened the need for pre-approval of that travel, and they also allow it so that there are less restrictions on travel.”

In what may be a contradiction to many assumptions, it was never flat-out illegal to visit Cuba. More, the U.S. never really left — aside from Guantanamo Bay, the grounds of the American embassy in Havana may not have an ambassador on-site, but does house the United States Interests Section. But where legality leaves off, bureaucracy picks up; before December 17, a potential traveler had to meet at least one of 12 criteria that would allow for a visa:

• Family visits
• Official business of the US government, foreign governments, and certain intergovernmental organizations
• Journalistic activity
• Professional research and professional meetings
• Educational activities
• Religious activities
• Public performances, clinics, workshops, athletic and other competitions, and exhibitions
• Support for the Cuban people
• Humanitarian projects
• Activities of private foundations or research or educational institutes
• Exportation, importation, or transmission of information or information materials
• Certain authorized export transactions

Even better, travelers had to account and document every place they went in Cuba and what they did there because they would be given the third-degree once back in the States. And guess what?

“You still have to officially have one of 12 reasons to go to Cuba,” Weinsheimer tells me. “And you still need to document what it is you are doing so if the government does come knocking on your door after that trip, you are able to account all your activity.”

In other words, as of now, the restrictions have been relaxed, not removed. The reason for that is because however warm — or at least, “less frosty” — American officials are to Cuba, nothing in or about that country’s political system has necessarily changed. Throw in residual soreness in Washington’s old guard over Castro’s rise, and little wonder even a quick read through the “Destination Description” of Cuba on the State Dept.’s website makes for a sobering experience. Cuba is still an authoritarian Communist state, dissidents are still repressed or forced into labor camps, the all-over human rights situation is dismal, and the Cuban illicit sex trade is thriving. But, just to hedge my bets, Cuba is no guiltier of those crimes than, say, China or Vietnam, two nations whom Americans in both government and private business are scrambling to engage and, indeed, already have.

That’s the politics involved. Messy stuff. Even getting to Cuba is complicated, because a rare few U.S. carriers fly to the island, most travelers, even those from Miami or Key West, have to stop over in Mexico City or Canada for a connecting flight.

And then there are the realities once on the ground — Weinsheim observes that even though herds of Canadians and Europeans have been happily shuttling back and forth, embargo or no embargo, he adds that a vacation in Cuba is going to be… rustic.

“People who are looking for the typical ‘Caribbean’ resort experience may not get as much as they would hope for because a lot of your major resorts have not gone into Cuba yet,” he says.

It takes a while to break ground and build a resort and get it up and running, so there is still a lot of time there. There is going to be a two- to three-year process by which Cuba opens up and comes into its own.

Not only is Cuba’s tourism infrastructure way behind the times, the country could not be in a more competitive tourism region; Caribbean nations, some of which rely almost entirely on tourism dollars, have long since written the book when it comes to satisfying every last whim and tax bracket. It is not to say there nothing at all in Cuba, Havana and the eastern city Baracoa have plenty of hotels — European player Meliá is already operating there — but people expecting five-diamond accommodation with butler service and personalized cigars monogrammed in gold leaf may have to bring the aspirations down a peg.

All that being said, online interest in Cuba continues to grow. Weinsheimer points out that Cuba represents the Caribbean before the tourists got there. That is a significant allure. In the days of Ernest Hemingway, Cuba was the place to be. People want to go; and at the recent New York Times Travel Show, in January, the I found that the Cuba kiosk was jammed. But a close look at the individual vendors turned up another reality of Cuban travel. It was not for “solo” travelers, but tours.

“To manage the logistics and then having everything lined up as far as going for one of the 12 reasons that are allowed,” says Weinsheimer.

The vast majority of travel is still being done though private groups that are helping with charter flights or are helping organize different activities you would be doing there, that everything is well monitored, well covered, and well-documented when you do come back.

Sojern and Weinsheimer admit that online interest, and presumably real-world interest, is nowhere near in scale to Jamaica or Puerto Rico. Still, that people are hitting the Internet, asking questions, and doing research suggests that this is not one of those flash-in-the-pan fads that habitually sweep the travel biz.

You’ve got some beautiful beaches and beach resorts that you can take advantage of. But the biggest thing is culture; it is one of the most amazing islands when it comes to food, when it comes to music, and it is also a unique step back in time.

The fact that it doesn’t have a lot of development and growth and so forth, there is a slowness of pace that is a sort of a fun, throw-back experience.

Cuba is here to stay. And it seems that we are all now getting used to it, whatever it is.

'Lost In America' Documents The Reality Of Youth Homelessness In America

“Lost in America” is a compelling new documentary that takes a look at the reality of homeless youth in America.

While certainly not the first documentary to elevate issues surrounding the issue, “Lost in America” is unique in the large-scale coverage it provides to this nationwide epidemic. The film, which is currently engaged in an Indiegogo campaign, is directed by Rotimi Rainwater, who lived on the streets of Florida for almost a year.

The reality is that 40% of homeless youth identify as LGBT in America. The Huffington Post chatted with Rainwater this week about the implications of this fact, as well as his goals for “Lost in America” as a whole.

The Huffington Post: What is your concept/vision for this film? Why is it important?
Rotimi Rainwater: My vision for the film is to show the first national spotlight on youth homelessness in America — to finally shed the light on this epidemic that so few are seeing. The film will be a mix of a series of vignettes telling the stories of homeless youth across the country, mixed with interviews of members of the Senate and Congress as well as leaders of organizations across the country. There have been other films about youth homelessness, but they generally tell the story of a few youth, in one specific area, over a period of time. “Lost in America” is the first “Michael Moore” in scope look at the problem on a national level. It tackles the main issues that surround youth homelessness: sex trafficking, the failure of the foster care system and the epidemic of rejection of LGBT youth in America. It also looks into why youth end up on the streets, what they have to do to survive and asks the question: why, as a country, do we not do anything about this?

How is this film personal for you?
This film is very personal to me because I spent nine and a half months homeless on the streets of Orlando, Florida. I was in the Navy when my mother first got cancer. It took me a few months to get discharged and by the time I did my mother was already in a long-term hospice program and had lost her apartment. So I spent the next nine and a half months first living in my car, then in a park and an underpass while taking care of my mother. I got to experience first-hand the rejection you experience when you’re on the streets, the feeling that no one wants to see you, that they all wished you would just disappear. It was heart breaking and difficult to fight through.

What kind of stories can we expect to hear/see through this film?
We have travelled the country for the past year gathering stories from all walks of life. We’ve met youth on the streets because their parents died and everyone forgot about them so they lived in their abandoned family home for years with no electricity or running water. We have stories of LGBT youth who are on the streets because their parents couldn’t accept them and now they are being preyed upon.

Why is this film important?
This film is important because there are over 1.5 million homeless youth on the streets of America every year and, honestly, as a nation most of us don’t know about it. It is an unseen epidemic this country is facing. Unfortunately, because we are not pushing it as a nation, our government is doing very little about it. There has never been a national study on youth homelessness, ever. So the government says it’s between 1.6 – 2.8 million youth on the street, but then HUD says it’s only 45,000. The one thing that is stopping the Senate from passing new legislature to help these youth is that everyone involved is adamant that there has to be money in there for LGBT youth. And the Republican-run senate has said directly, we won’t pass any Runaway & Homeless Youth Act legislature with special provisions in their for monies for LGBT youth.

The reason this is so important is that over 40 percent of all homeless youth identify as LGBT. So now there are over 400,000 LGBT youth on the streets, afraid to go to most shelters because they will be preyed upon. We have stories of these youth being victimized, raped and beaten all because they are LGBT. So they are forced to live on the streets, with little help and so many end up forced in to sex slavery or prostitution. We work directly with Senator Patrick Leahy and other members of both the Senate and Congress who are fighting to get this legislature passed but are being told directly that this will not pass until they take out any monies allotted to LGBT youth. This is unacceptable, and this is why these stories have to be told and why this film has to be made.

Head here to visit the “Lost in America” Indiegogo campaign.

12 Essential iOS Widgets For a More Functional Notification Center

A few weeks ago we rounded up some eye-catching widgets for your Android device so it’s only fair that we spend some time looking at a selection for iOS too, even if widgets aren’t quite the same thing on both platforms. All of these apps will add functionality and flexibility and to the Notification Center on your iOS 8 device, so get busy browsing and installing.

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Mad Max Trailer Reveals Its Big Bad Villain — And His Big Bad Plan

Mad Max: Fury Road isn’t all sand and explosions. There’s a plot in there… somewhere. And now, this latest trailer has finally revealed the beast behind the mask. Find out what Mad Max: Fury Road is finally about, now.

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​Why Hammocks Suck

I’m writing this with a sore back and exhausted from not getting enough sleep over the weekend. Hammocks lure you in with the romantic appeal of above-the-ground, free swinging sleep, then pounce on you with a poorly insulated, biomechanically painful design.

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