No, Bruce Jenner Is Not Having a 'Midlife Crisis'

Yesterday at the gym while stretching post-workout, I overheard two women talking about Bruce Jenner’s recent announcement that he was transitioning into a woman. (I wasn’t exactly eavesdropping; if you saw the small area devoted to stretching, you’d understand why it isn’t easy to ignore nearby conversations.)

“Why do you think he waited so long to come out with that?” asked one. (I had often wondered that myself, but was pretty sure I understood the possible answer.)

I was already getting annoyed.

She lifted one leg effortlessly into a yoga-like pose, adjusted her stance slightly, then continued.
“I mean, he’s old! He’s in his sixties, at least! Why even bother to live your life over at that point?”

Now I was really annoyed.

“Well,” answered the other, adjusting her posture as she bent down to lay her palms flat onto the floor. “It’s obvious he’s going through some sort of midlife crisis.”

I had to remind myself to breathe and hold myself back from hurling obscenities her way.

I’ve heard people call Bruce Jenner’s announcement a publicity stunt. I’ve heard some say that he’s doing it just for the money. I’ve seen them roll their eyes. And then again, I’ve turned a deaf ear to the ones who like to ramble on judgmentally and equally without sympathy about the insanity of it all.

Everyone seems to have an opinion. And they’re entitled to it.

I don’t usually get involved in politically-charged conversations, especially with perfect strangers. Come to think of it, I don’t like heated discussions even with close friends and family. Call me meek, but I’m happy to call it a typical Libra trait: non-confrontational; valuing fairness and justice above most things; steering clear of conflict or argument.

But I really had to fight to keep my mouth shut when I heard that midlife crisis comment. Oh, and that other one about 60 being “old” and too late to make changes.

First, midlife is not a crisis. Rather, it’s a time when we are able to reevaluate our choices in life and realize that there is time to change those choices, turn things around, learn from the past and step forward with renewed wisdom and vigor — and confidence. I like to call it Midlife Opportunity. In fact, when I started my other blog, MidlifeMatters, in 2009, it was one of the very first things I wrote about.

So it’s possible, after all, that Bruce Jenner waited all these years because — simply put — he realized that now was the right time to do it. Which brings me to my next point about 60 being “too old.” Banish that thought! I wanted to scream out that day in the gym. I went back to school when I was in midlife and I also ran my first half-marathon at 60. I don’t think I’m so special or an aberration, either: there are people in midlife all over the place who are stepping out and starting new and important chapters in their lives. With great accomplishment, I might add.

While Jenner admitted that his feelings dated back more than 50 years to when he was 8 or 9 and shamefully tried on his sister’s clothes, carefully putting them back exactly where they hung in her closet so he wouldn’t be found out, can you imagine coming to real terms with his confused feelings, or even coming close to understanding them, in that era? He, like that entire generation, was caught up in the shame of being different and swept up by the urgent need to conform and belong. And he played that game to its extreme by becoming a idealized physical symbol of a male: athletic, muscular, strong and bold.

To me, Jenner is taking the precious years he has left and giving himself — and many other transgender people — a precious gift: to live a life in which they are comfortable and secure in who they are. Finally.

Crisis? I think not. I think any “crisis” Jenner might have been experiencing is a thing of the past.

That male/female battle is no longer so tightly locked.

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What It Takes to Be a Rockstar

If you want to be a rockstar, don’t pay heed to the article’s title. And most of all, don’t expect to find an answer to your quest or some secret formula here. I’m just offering some thoughts around what’s currently the worst industry in the world, the music industry and about new artists’ struggle to make it. It’s a struggle whose sole purpose is survival.

In a previous article, “Is Music Dead? Thoughts on The Music Industry After SXSW 2015“, I had laid blame on the major labels’ growing inclination to invest mainly in their catalogue rather than in promoting new artists and bands. This has huge consequences for music as a whole and creates the absence of new music trends.

But what does this mean for new musicians whose goal is to make it in the art that expresses them? What’s their strategy and what are their stories on the rough road to success?

Recently, I’ve had the good fortune to follow one of these stories thanks to my personal relationship with a band struggling to make it. The band is My Excuse, and many rock fans who’ve heard them or been to one of their gigs believe that if groups like them can’t get a U.S. label to sign them, then the music industry is on the wrong path.

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My Excuse has an interesting background. The band is from Greece and decided, amid a crippling recession, to sell everything they owned and make the journey across the Atlantic (carrying a paper suitcase, as European migrants said decades earlier) to chase their dream.

“Music was always the excuse for everything we did and how we did it. Hence, the name,” says the band’s frontman Steven Triant. “We believe that being in America and having the opportunity to play for an audience whose ear is trained in rock and can recognize a good band, sooner or later we’ll be heard by people from the industry who can change our lives and our careers.”

This doesn’t make the day-to-day any less of a struggle. “We live on a budget of $20 a day, which in some cities barely covers a couple of slices of pizza and a couple of beers. We often have to stay in the ‘wrong’ side of town to find an affordable hotel. In Charlotte, we stayed in a motel where homeless children slept in the halls and, in just a week, came home at least three times to find cops there with weapons drawn. On the last night, there was a guy in the next room holding a hostage at gunpoint. Those were times when we feared for our lives and wondered what the hell we were doing there. Our only excuse was music.”

Of course, there’s also a bright side. “All these experiences give us vivid images whose influence we already see in our music. And we have companies and friends who support us. We were lucky enough to play at the McDonald’s Music Experience Stage during SXSW 2015 and the staff were really caring. These past few weeks we were in New York, where a friend put us up in her loft so we could save money. All this energizes us and helps us keep on going until we make it.”

I ask them what they think would help them reach success, expecting to hear some innovative social media strategy or joining some new platform. Their reply took me by surprise. “Music, pal,” said Steve, grinning broadly like a future rockstar. “Music is our destiny so our focus is on writing good songs which, sooner or later, we believe we’ll have a chance to play before a larger audience. Unless we run out of gas…”

Until that day, My Excuse continue to invite representatives of the music industry to their gigs, hoping that they will show up, like the one at New York’s Bowery Electric on May 5th. It’s what all new bands are doing across the country. Maybe it’s time some music industry executives got out of their chairs and took a look around, leaving the catalogue behind.

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5 Mind-Blowing Ways Supermaterial Graphene May Soon Change Your World

The structure of graphene. Image by AlexanderAlUS.It has been over a decade now since the first reported measurements on the new material “graphene”. Consisting of just a single layer of carbon atoms, graphene is one of the strongest, thinnest and most flexible materials and its remarkable electronic, thermal and structural properties led to its immediate hailing as a ‘supermaterial’. Here are five possible applications taking advantage of the various superior properties of graphene that may change our world for the better.

Remembering The 1992 LA Riots Over 2 Decades Later

Freddie Gray, 25, died earlier this month while in police custody due to injuries he sustained during an arrest. His passing prompted protest against police brutality in his home city of Baltimore, where unrest exploded into structure fires and looting Monday night. But Baltimore isn’t the only American city that’s seen violent April riots.

Twenty-three years ago, the streets of South Los Angeles also broke into chaos. April 29, 1992 was the day an LA court announced a not-guilty verdict for four officers who had been on trial for the brutal beating of Rodney King — an incident that was caught on film.

Also captured on video was the rampant violence that followed news of the verdict. The city would descend into what reporter Linda Deutsch remembers as a “war zone.” Over four days, 53 people died, thousands more were injured and many more were arrested as fires burned throughout the city.

Not to mention a billion dollars in damage and unquantifiable distrust intensified between residents and law enforcement. Video footage and images of the infamous uprising have burned themselves into the cultural memory of the city, for those who live there and those who don’t.

Whether you remember the LA riots of ’92 or not, these images are a testament to a continuing history of protest against police brutality in America.

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Preaching Reflections On Freddie Gray and Baltimore

This post was co-authored by Rev. Eric D. Barreto, Ph.D., Rev. Wil Gafney, Ph.D., Rev. John Arthur Nunes, Ph.D., Rev. Karyn L. Wiseman, Ph.D., Rev. Greg Carey, Ph.D., Rev. Billy Michael Honor, Ingrid E. Lilly, Ph.D., Rev. Karoline Lewis, Ph.D., and Rev. Jacqueline J. Lewis, Ph.D.

In light of this week’s events in Baltimore, MD, several of our ON Scripture writers took a few moments to reflect upon what they would/will be preaching on this Sunday. To continue the conversation, join us on Twitter at #onscripture.

Rev. Eric D. Barreto, Ph.D. Associate Professor of New Testament, Luther Seminary: St Paul, MN

Here we are, again.

The cycle of police violence and public outrage are once again filling our lives. Or I should say that these conflicts are burdening some with the weight of history of oppression, silencing, and violence while others of us have the luxury to see these events as yet another piece of breaking news, here today but gone tomorrow when some other bit of sensationalism will draw our eyes.

Here we are, again.

And perhaps we are here again because we do not really listen. We gaze at each other’s pain and lament, but we don’t really see in a way that will shift our vision, clarify our perspective. We hear each other’s stories but don’t really listen in a way that will change us in a profound way, lead us to question our deepest held assumptions. We post a hashtag but don’t embody these digital signatures in our everyday lives.

This week, many Christians will be hearing one of my favorite texts in the Bible: Acts 8:26-40. It is a vibrant, powerful story. But one detail has drawn my attention most recently.

Imagine that you are this wealthy, powerful, educated Ethiopian official. You are riding in a glorious chariot and reading Isaiah off a delicately copied manuscript. You are pondering the mysteries of God when some stranger appears out of nowhere. This stranger is running alongside your chariot struggling to keep up, barely panting the words, “Do you understand what you are reading?”

This question is audacious, ridiculous. The Ethiopian should ask his driver to speed up and leave this breathless stranger in the wilderness. Instead, this powerful, wealthy, educated official asks a critical question of faith: “How can I unless someone guides me?”

Indeed, how can I understand the plight of my neighbor unless I sit at their feet, walk their streets, hear their pain, participate in their deepest joys? How can I unless someone guides me? How can I understand unless God brings the neighbor into my life? How can I understand unless God gives me ears to hear and eyes to see? How can I unless God gives me the grace and patience and humility to heed the witness of those the world tramples?

So, preachers of the gospel of Jesus Christ, how do you speak about Baltimore this week? Listen to the witness of our neighbors. Listen and learn and love.

How else will we understand? How else will God speak to us? How else will we avoid being here once again in a few months time?

Rev. Wil Gafney, Ph.D.

Associate Professor of Hebrew Bible at Brite Divinity School: Fort Worth, TX

I am preaching on Sunday and I am using the lectionary. I am focusing on “hearing and listening” from Ps 22:24:

God did not despise or detest the affliction of the afflicted.

God did not hide God’s face from me.

God heard when I cried out to God.

And from Acts 8:

26 The messenger of the Lord said to Philip, “Get up and go toward the south to the road that goes down from Jerusalem to Gaza.” (This is a wilderness road.) 27 So he got up and went. Now there was a Nubian eunuch, a senior official of the Kandake, queen of the Nubians, in charge of her entire treasury. He had come to Jerusalem to worship.

We can’t escape the violence in the scriptures or in the streets. The violence imposed on the body of Jesus was neither the beginning nor the end of his story. And it was not only his story. His people were subject to lethal violence whether guilty or innocent on individual and national levels. The story of the Jewish people is one of slavery, deliverance, occupation and subjugation and, in times of desperation, resistance, rebellion and retaliation. Aspects of the Israelite story are shared with the poor, marginalized and oppressed in every time and place, including ours.

It may not be your experience, but many poor black and brown people experience the police as an occupying force, at best daily harassment at worse lethal violence. Twenty-three years ago anger and pain boiled over in Los Angeles. Last summer it boiled over in Ferguson, MO. This week it boiled over in Baltimore, MD.

Dr. King taught us that riots are the language of the unheard. Are we listening? Will we hear the voices of today’s street-prophets? Or will we allow the spectacle of violence to become an excuse to turn away? The Church has listened to these stories read and preached for millennia, but have we truly heard them?

God hears the cry of the psalmist as surely as God hears the cries from the streets and those of mothers like our Virgin Mother who have lost their sons to police violence.

And, at the intersection of race and ethnicity, the Greek gentile apostle Philip crosses paths with the black Jewish bureaucrat serving an African queendom. And God builds the beloved community through the encounter of these very different bodies. God can use them to transform the world, starting to each other because they listen to and hear each other.

Rev. John Arthur Nunes, Ph.D.

Jochum Professor at Valparaiso University: Valparaiso, IN

James 1:19-20

“You must understand this, my beloved: let everyone be quick to listen, slow to speak, slow to anger; for your anger does not produce God’s righteousness.”

The Echo of Easter

In the echo of Easter, we greet one another, “Christ is risen. Alleluia!” There’s a lot of pressure on witnesses. I speak of those who do not have the right to remain silent; Spirit-compelled, they speak of those things they have seen and heard (Acts 4:20). Yet, in the high-pressure echo of Easter 2015, some find themselves speechless, divided again as a nation.

Tribal instincts are alive, full force, red-hot, gobbling up grotesque, pixelated distortions of one another; even believers can forget quickly the ultimate death we’ve already died, with Jesus, from which we’re raised as martyrs, confident, risking freely every other death in pursuit of both peace and justice.

In this kind of Easter echo, we must test the spirits. News media often airs oversimplified stories boosting ratings, but not building up community. Social media can be recklessly one-sided, an echo chamber of noisy images dividing us from others created in God’s image. Verbal flame-throwers get lots of Likes but they don’t do much to promote love for neighbor or simple civility. Saying, “they just don’t get it,” or “they just need to get over it,” is not taking seriously others for whom Christ died.

In the echo of this Easter, we know resurrection revolutions “will not be televised” (Gil Scott-Heron). Few were there on Good Friday, fewer the first Easter. Resurrection revolutions rarely go viral on social media. Resurrection revolutionaries know that Facebook is no replacement for face-to-face dialogue; they run from the deadly tomb of stereotypes, witnessing life to Joe Plumber, Jane Professor, Juan Immigrant, single moms working their way uphill through life’s many-sided complexities.

Like Christ, we rise: above the noise-making, political grandstanding, social-media showboating, fear-mongering. We rise: as peacemakers, bridge-builders, hope-dealers, “quick to listen, slow to speak,” confessing concretely the resurrection insurrection: Christ is risen, indeed. Alleluia!

Rev. Karyn L. Wiseman, Ph.D.

Associate Professor of Homiletics and Director of United Methodist Studies at The Lutheran Theological Seminary at Philadelphia: Philadelphia, PA

Ephesians 4:25 Therefore, having put away falsehood, let each one of you speak the truth with his neighbor, for we are members one of another.

As a preaching professor, I teach my students that context is one of the most vital parts of preaching – in any time, place, or situation. The preacher has to know what it happening in the community and in the culture around them – as well as what is happening in the larger world. I often have students say to me, “But if I talk about tough stuff, someone might get mad. What do I do?”

What I say to them is what I say to you now – preach the gospel, speak the truth, and make people uncomfortable, if necessary. What the students would admit after I pushed them was that many in their churches did not think the situations of violence and protest in Ferguson over the last few months or in Baltimore this week really affect them.

BUT they do. As Barack Obama said this week, “[what if] we don’t just pay attention to these communities when a CVS burns, and we don’t just pay attention when a young man gets shot or has his spine snapped, but we’re paying attention all the time because we consider those kids our kids.”

You see if we view our context as the wider world and we consider “those kids our kids,” then we cannot help but talk about them from the pulpit. We cannot help but speak truth about and to our neighbors. In this text, Paul reminds the church at Ephesus that they are all part of a larger body and that speaking truth about reconciliation and unity is essential. That reconciliation and unity come when we live our faith, walk the walk, and talk the talk. It happens when we speak truth as neighbors, brothers, and sisters. It happens when we enter into the pulpit unafraid of making any mad – knowing that at times it might be the best thing we can do in love. Preach the gospel of love and unity this week. That’s what we are called to do.

Rev. Greg Carey, Ph.D.

Professor of New Testament, Lancaster Theological Seminary: Lancaster, PA

Were I preaching this Sunday, I’d strongly consider preaching from Psalm 137. This Psalm features one of Scripture’s most notorious lines: “a blessing on him who seizes your babies and dashes them against the rocks!” (Jewish Publication Society translation).

No one can excuse that line. No one will ever justify killing children in any manner. Our guts twist in revulsion at the image of bashing babies against rocks.

Then again, a friend pointed out that the media describes the looting and rock throwing as violence, yet it withholds judgment for the police officers under whose care Freddie Gray suffered a fatal spine injury. Few off us condone looting or rock throwing, but we know the context. Like many other cities, Baltimore displays a shiny exterior to visitors, but its urban core has been abandoned to decay. Neighborhood segregation correlates with pockets of intense poverty. The Baltimore Sun was reporting patterns of police brutality long before Freddie Gray’s fatal encounter.

The author of Psalm 137 gives voice to a violent rage. The Psalm locates itself among Judahite exiles in Babylon, people who have witnessed the destruction of their holy city. They have suffered greatly. They have seen horrific things. They experience the profound grief that accompanies the loss of home and loved ones: “How can we sing a song of the LORD on alien soil?” Perhaps more intense than all those losses, the people know what it means to be mocked, disregarded. “Our captors there asked us for songs, our tormentors, for amusement.” As their own city succumbed to violence, they heard their neighbors cheer on: “Strip her, strip her to her very foundations!”

Come to think of it, I’ll share Psalm 137 before I teach this Sunday. I can’t defend this Psalm, but it does help me understand what dehumanization does to us. The Psalm shows us how anger, violent anger, can stand before God.

Rev. Billy Michael Honor

Pastor of Pulse Church: Atlanta, GA

As a preacher, I make no claims to sermonic objectivity. I understand that to great extent preaching is as much biographical as it is theological. So when I stand to preach this Sunday my intention will not be to only proclaim God’s truth but to tell my truth as well. The fact is as a young black male in the United States I am not a detached observer of unjust policing, racial profiling, white privilege and black rage. I live in the midst of these realities on a daily basis and this compels me to preach a sermon titled “When Black People Get Crazy.”

In the Bible in 2 Corinthians chapter 5 verse 13, Paul, the writer and church leader, responds to critics who say his actions are crazy and the work of a mad man by declaring that “If we are out of our mind,” as some say, it is for God….” In other words, Paul says if my actions are crazy it is for the sake of a greater divine cause.

In the same spirit of the Apostle Paul I hope to proclaim that given the degree of existential pain and oppression that blacks have experienced in this country, the anger and indignation of some is not only understandable but divinely inspired. Just as Paul saw his actions of institutional disruption for the sake of the gospel as an act of God, I submit that blacks and all people fighting for the cause of justice in the streets and halls of power are doing divine work as well.

If we truly believe that God cares about the lives of all people, specifically black lives, then we must believe that God stands with those who have been driven to the brinks of existential craziness and bold action for greater cause of divine justice. These words I will share on Sunday.

Ingrid E. Lilly, Ph.D. Visiting Scholar at Pacific School of Religion: Berkeley, CA

Adjunct Instructor at San Francisco Theological Seminary: San Anselmo, CA

The Dominant Lie of Peace

Probably the most challenging sermon to deliver is one that raises consciousness by annihilating a cherished lie. It is hard to critique calls for peace in Baltimore. Being ‘against peace’ does not play well with the comfortable. So let Ezekiel be your strong arm. He is flipping enraged at the concept of false peace.

Ezekiel’s excoriating anger in ch. 13 is directed at the dominant lie. ‘Prophetic’ visions peddled in the main stream pervert the character and quality of peace, mocking its very meaning at a time when its reality is most sorely needed.

“They have misled my people, saying ‘Peace,” when there is no peace; and because when the people build a wall, these prophets smear whitewash on it.”

The issue is safety. The city walls are all that stand between a life of security and military siege. Walls are basic protections. But the dominant lie paints the picture of peace to avoid facing the crumbling infrastructure of a city on the brink of violence.

The riots in Baltimore and recently in Ferguson should direct peace-lover’s attention to the lies we tell about security in our society. Baltimore has a history of undue force as Baltimore-born commentators point out. A toxic mix when the citizens also face poverty and incarceration problems. There is no question that the Ferguson Police Department routinely violates the civil rights of its black citizens.

American security is unequal. No peace comes of returning to the status quo. Peace is to quit whitewashing our society.

Rev. Karoline Lewis, Ph.D.

Associate Professor of Biblical Preaching and The Alvin N. Rogness Chair of Homiletics at Luther Seminary: St Paul, MN

To address the unfolding events in Baltimore when preaching this coming Sunday, I would focus on the Revised Common Lectionary Gospel reading, John 15:1-8, specifically verse 5, “I am the vine, you are the branches. Those who abide in me and I in them bear much fruit, because apart from me you can do nothing.” A response to Baltimore has to have something to do with bearing fruit because bearing fruit has everything to do with who you are in relationship. The manifestations of our faith are not individual expressions of our theological commitments and convictions but are deeply lodged in and arise from the communities of our lives. The potential for faith’s actions that arise from love for the sake of abundant life is deeply truncated when we do not realize that the bearing fruit of our faith is premised on dependence. Because life is nothing without belonging, without intimacy, without relationship.

Our lack of response to the events in Baltimore arises from the inherent fear of bearing fruit. That fear has many levels. Because once we bear fruit, we lose control. We chance exposure. Others will be able to see on what or whom we rely; in what and in whom we locate and lodge our strength, our trust, and the ways we choose to be in the world.

Bearing fruit is risky business. It will reveal who you are and on whom and what you depend. It will expose your lack of self-sufficiency. It will show others that there is no other way to be but to be dependent, but to be in community. Many will think it’s weakness. Many will think the ties should be broken, that we should move on. Many will think that being cut off is beneficial because it will result in some sort of self-actualized and admirable autonomy.

But we have to be different. And that’s what needs to be preached.

Rev. Jacqueline J. Lewis, Ph.D.

Senior Minister at Middle Collegiate Church: New York, NY

Creating The World We Want

Monday night , as a straight Black ally, I attended a United4Marriage equality rally in Times Square anticipating the Supreme Court hearings Tuesday. Before I spoke, a religious leader hissed, “Read your Bible!” I said, “I read my Bible in Hebrew, Greek, and in English!”

Why is that the question?

While the list of dead bodies — black and brown female, male, trans and gay bodies — lie dead in our streets; while Baltimore burns in the fires where racism, desperation and violence converge; while we wonder if SCOTUS will scuttle gay marriage, the burning question for me is “What are people of faith going to do about it?”

Are we to be paralyzed by these things? Or are we, as my Bible says, “able to do more than we can ask or imagine through the power at work within us” and create the world we want?

My favorite text in scripture is:

God is love, and those who live in God live in love and love lives in them (1 John 4:16).

Love is the power with which we can do more than we can even imagine.I am counting on people of faith to put Love-In-Action. Do something, do one thing today, to right a wrong, to communicate a kindness, to create the world we want. A just world. A world in which Black Lives Matter. A world in which gay love is sacred. A world in which every life is precious.

Recently my Muslim sister, Linda Sarsour, organized and marched with the New York Justice League from New York City to Washington D.C. to protest police brutality. Love and a vision for a just society put her faith in the line and her feet on the ground.

What can you do? What will you do?

If we each do something because love abides in us, we can create the world we want. We can create The Beloved Community, right here on earth, as it is in heaven.

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Being a White Ally During Baltimore's Uprising

You can’t escape coverage of the escalating protests in Baltimore this week. Headlines declare it, radios buzz about it, people tweet nonstop on it. The spectrum of opinions on this movement varies greatly, perhaps depending on a number of factors such as age, gender, race, geographical location and job. I live in North Carolina, a few hours south of Baltimore, in a state no stranger to race discussions and historical oppression. I have watched these events with great interest, but one of the most disheartening effects for me is the responses I see from friends and strangers on social media.

Undeniably, I live with white privilege. Because racism is a system — not small acts done by individuals — that means as a white person I have unwittingly participated in the oppression of people of color. A recent documentary I watched called I’m Not Racist… Am I? argued that all white people are racist, because all white people benefit from the system as-is. All white people, regardless of income or education or even gender, experience and benefit from white privilege. I am aware that this is a controversial statement, and most white people don’t want to be complicit in the ongoing oppression of our fellow Americans. But I know my role in the protests is different than a person of color. I have not been oppressed. I have not worried about getting a job or a ticket or a death warrant because of my race.

However, because my husband is black and my daughter is half-black, I watch these protests with concern for my family. I wonder if my husband is the next Mike Brown or Eric Garner or Freddie Gray. I wonder if my daughter will be the next Marissa Alexander or Aiyana Jones or Rekia Boyd. I worry about the justice system that could and probably will fail them at some point, if not on a near-daily basis. Two nights ago, as the Baltimore protests took over headlines, I had a terrible nightmare about a gigantic white snake following me around my house, its fangs searching. When I woke up at 5 am I couldn’t go back to sleep, so vivid was the memory in my mind. It was only later that I wondered at the symbolism, the wretched snake that is sneaking its way through our public consciousness.

I saw many white friends post links on Facebook to GoFundMe pages to help Baltimore police. There were conversations to send the police a lot of protein bars and other supplies. One friend posted a picture of a burning car and another person commented on it, declaring disgust at the “ghetto thugs” responsible. No one who spoke of good police mentioned Freddie Gray or the reason behind the protests.

But what can we do? Some ideas:

1. Refrain from judging how oppressed people handle their oppression. White people might feel marginalized sometimes — especially women and those that are poor or gay, etc. — but we are not people of color, and therefore we are not oppressed in the way that POC are. We have no say in how effectively such communities pursue justice. In this sense, do not use Dr. Martin Luther King’s strategy of nonviolence as a way to shame those who rise up in Baltimore. Even Dr. King said, “A riot is the language of the unheard.”

2. Seek all sides of the story. Many whites are content with the narrative being told, that looting is bad and police are good and there are ghetto thugs terrorizing the city. “What if it was your car, or your store, being burned?” they say, or add, “My husband is a good cop. I know so many good cops!” But this narrative is incomplete. As one protestor said, broken windshields are not broken spines. Cars can be replaced, but people can’t. We have been fed an image of blacks committing violence, but truly we have to consider that their anger is justified, that their rage is valid, that police brutality is real. So you know a good cop? Great. I hope there are more out there. But racism is a system, not one person. Police brutality is a system, not one person. Do not be satisfied merely supporting police. There are enough reports out there, like this one and this one and this one and this one, that reveal facts and statistics about how Baltimore has crippled its black community. Question how you perpetuate the one-sided story, like by using coded language like “thugs,” or condemning the riots without acknowledging the valid anger and loss of life. Even President Obama, who tends to be more diplomatic, said that change will not occur until we, all of us, admit there is a problem, and that the children who are oppressed are not “others,” but rather belong to all of us. Those who say Dr. King would be ashamed forget that Dr. King said you cannot condemn a riot without also condemning the intolerable conditions that led to it.

3. Understand white privilege. If this terms is new or offensive to you, take a look at this questionnaire by Peggy McIntosh. It is very revealing as to the nature of racial privilege, which affects our lives in more ways than we may think.

4. We cannot stay silent. Maybe you have chosen to just stay out of it. Certainly, there is enough going on in the world and our daily lives to distract us. But the problem is that silence makes us complicit. When we condemn riots but not police, we are in fact endorsing and perpetuating racial violence.

One way that we can begin to shift the narrative as white allies is to seek the full story. Follow the uprising on the ground by following @deray and @urbancusp and @luvvie and @iJessieWilliams and @ShaunKing on Twitter. Urban Cusp also has a strong presence on Facebook with tons of videos and updates. Seek to understand the prevalence of white privilege — like how it allows whites to riot without being called thugs, such as here. Invest yourself in the movement, by learning more and by calling out white people when they perpetuate racism and racial violence. Think about how this permeates our daily lives, even if we don’t live in Baltimore. Consider how our black coworkers might not feel safe at work, or our students of color who might feel unsafe at school, due to our silence or our condemnation. Let’s strive to go from being bystanders to being allies.

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