Flying To Europe Just Got Easier

by the Editors of Condé Nast Traveler

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Seasonal routes that take a hiatus in the colder months resume this month and next: These nonstop flights will take you to Dublin, Edinburgh, and beyond.

MAY 1: DELTA AIR LINES

New York (JFK) to Reykjavik (KEF) – Round Trip from May 1 to May 8 is $656 per person.

This summer is as good a time as any to visit the picturesque beauty of Iceland.

MAY 7: AMERICAN AIRLINES

New York (JFK) to Edinburgh (EDI) – Round Trip from May 8 to May 15 is $832 per person.

Wondering what to do in Edinburgh? We’ve got you covered.

Boston (BOS) to Paris (CDG) – Round Trip is from May 8 to May 15 is $1441 per person.

While you’re in Paris, you should dine at one of our 50 favorite restaurants.

JUNE 1: DELTA AIR LINES

Atlanta (ATL) to Barcelona (BCN) – Round Trip from June 5 to June 12 is $1760 per person.

Check out our nine favorite places to visit in Barcelona.

JUNE 4: UNITED AIRLINES

Newark (EWR) to Venice (VCE)
– Round Trip from June 5 to June 12 is $1,470 per person.

Ever thought about exploring Venice by boat? We’ll show you how.

Chicago O’Hare (ORD) to Dublin (DUB) – Round Trip from June 5 to June 12 is $1,015 per person.

We’ve rounded up our favorite Dublin day trips for your perusal.

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Brazil's See-Through Cave Has Water As Clear As The Caribbean

If you’re looking for water as clear as the Caribbean, you might want to book it to Brazil this summer. Hidden in a cave in Chapada Diamantina National Park, one of Brazil’s most beautiful bodies of water becomes see-through in the sun.

Take a look at Poço Azul cavern:

Poço Azul means “blue well” or “the blue pool.” Though the water is blue, the cave appears so clear during certain points in the day that it looks like swimmers are floating on air. Around 50-60 feet deep, the little underground pool stays warm throughout the year, hovering at about 75 degrees.

Visitors say the best time to go is during the early afternoon, between the hours of 12 p.m. and 2 p.m. Be warned, if you visit during a cloudy day or outside of the designated “sunny” hours, Poço Azul could be a bit underwhelming. In that case, simply wander to the waterfalls of Chapada Diamantina National Park and keep your eyes peeled for diamonds left behind by long-gone miners. Happy swimming!

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NEA's Lily Eskelsen Garcia Remains Faithful to Gates Funding

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On April 26, 2015, education historian Diane Ravitch moderated an hour-long discussion between National Education Association (NEA) President Lily Eskelsen Garcia and American Federation of Teachers (AFT) President Randi Weingarten at the second annual conference of the Network for Public Education (NPE). (View here: https://vimeo.com/126322770)

Only minutes prior to the conclusion of the session, Ravitch “Barbara Waltered” Garcia and Weingarten with the following question:

The Walton, Gates and Broad Foundations are at the forefront of the privatization movement. Will you commit not to accept funding from them and not to collaborate with them? [56:56]

She then asked for their “yes or no” answers:

Lily?

Garcia: Yes.

Randi?

Weingarten: Yes.

A beautiful moment. The audience stood and applauded first for Ravitch’s question and then for the Garcia-Weingarten response.

The session soon ended, and Garcia wasted no time backing out of that one.

In fact, in a blog post entitiled, “Gates Keepers” dated three days prior to her conference appearance (??) and categorized as , “I just had to say this,” Garcia defended her right to say “yes” and mean “no.”

In her oddly-dated post, Garcia attempts to set Gates apart from Walton and Broad. In reality, NEA has no problem with refusing money from Walton because the Waltons hate unions.

As for the Broad Foundation, Garcia criticizes it as “all charters all the time.”

But when it comes to taking cash from the Gates Foundation, Garcia states that Gates is “complicated.”

She might as well have noted that with “all charters all the time” Broad, it is also “complicated” since some NEA locals have accepted Broad funding in the past. But let’s just set that aside for now.

As supposed evidence that Gates can be trusted (and that accepting his money is fine), Garcia cites part of the Gates Foundation website that offers a brochured Gates sell:

We are focused on results. Those that can be measured. And those measured in ways beyond numbers. We see individuals, not issues. We are inspired by passion, and compassion for the wellbeing of people. Our methods are based on logic, driven by rigor, results, issues, and outcomes. Our innovation means trying new things, learning from our mistakes, and consistently refining our approach. Our strategies help us define our path to success, but our effectiveness is based in the aggregate power of our initiatives to impact holistic change.

That is enough for Garcia. She considers Gates trustworthiness as established.

She does not add that the Gates Foundation is clear about making grants “according to our funding priorities” and by directly contacting organizations to invite them to apply for grants under those Gates-determined priorities.

As evidence of Gates’ goodness, Garcia notes that Gates funds “the National Board for Professional Teaching Standards (which the NEA helped found).”

Let’s talk about Gates money and National Board.

In March 2014, Gates shelled out $200,000 to help pay for National Board’s conference. Coincidentally, in March 2014, Bill Gates gave a keynote at that same National Board Teaching and Learning conference.

His speech focused on one of his pet investment priorities: the Common Core State Standards (CCSS).

Gates wants CCSS. He gives millions (billions?) to organizations to implement CCSS.

Gates wants it– he buys it.

That’s not so complicated. But it certainly does afford Gates some power-wielding influence. Indeed, the day before Gates’ speech to the National Board, he dined with 80 senators.

Think about that.

Billionaire Gates has the ear of scores of influential individuals. It’s a great exchange: You give us money; we give you an audience. Another example: in summer 2008, Council of Chief State School Officers (CCSSO) President Gene Wilhoit asked Gates to fund CCSS. In November 2010, Gates offered a CCSSO keynote on CCSS. Gates was listed as a CCSSO “co-chair and trustee.”

By way of his wallet, Gates is allowed time and again to voice his ideas on test-score-driven, market-friendly education “reform.”

Since 2003, Gates has given the National Conference of State Legislatures (NCSL) $2.3 million. In 2009, NCSL “co-chair” Gates gave a keynote in which he said, “Without measurement, there is no pressure for improvement.”

Forget learning for learning’s sake. External pressure is required, says expert Gates.

He also urged legislators to lift caps on charter schools.

And of course, Gates did not want to miss an opportunity to plug CCSS as a hub for “measurable” reform:

We need to take two enabling steps: we need longitudinal data systems that track student performance and are linked to the teacher; and we need fewer, clearer, higher standards that are common from state to state. The standards will tell the teachers what their students are supposed to learn, and the data will tell them whether they’re learning it. …

Fortunately, the state-led Common Core State Standards Initiative is developing clear, rigorous common standards that match the best in the world. …

This is encouraging–but identifying common standards is not enough. We’ll know we’ve succeeded when the curriculum and the tests are aligned to these standards.

It is no secret that NEA is all in for CCSS. So, the fact that Gates is all in is no problem for Garcia. As of May 2015, the Gates Foundation has paid the NGA Foundation $4.6 million for CCSS implementation.

Gates was asked to foot the bill for CCSS before there was a CCSS. Gates agreed. And in the following several years, NEA has raked in upwards $5 million for a CCSS that surely did not originate with NEA. Yet Garcia maintains, “Outside funders don’t drive our mission.We drive funders to our members and their ideas….”

Right.

Let’s do another keynote:

In February 2011, Gates gave a keynote to the National Governors Association. One of his suggestions was to lift caps on class sizes. He said that having the “more effective teacher” teach a larger class (from 20 to 26) would be better on the budget– and he said it would produce “better student outcomes.” (See video #2 on the playlist: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7f7AI2q_WhE&index=2&list=PL59A85238C8B52C62 )

In addition, it is worth noting that in February 2011, the Gates Foundation gave NGA $1.3 million “to work with state policymakers on the implementation of the Common Core State Standards, with special attention to effective resource reallocation to ensure complete execution, as well as rethinking state policies on teacher effectiveness.”

Gates is able to not only pay for his vision of American public education; his money provides him ample keynote addresses to speak his vision to influential individuals. This ability affords Gates a power over American education not to be underestimated.

But Lily Eskelsen Garcia is willing to defend NEA’s continued receiving of Gates funding on a technicality:

NEA doesn’t directly receive the Gates funding. The NEA Foundation does.

And she completely glosses over her verbal agreement at the NPE conference to no longer even collaborate with Gates.

Nothing doing.

Her version of Ravitch’s question is botched on her blog, but the point of her unswerving Gates allegiance is clear:

I was asked at the NPE conference to give a simple answer to a question that is not so simple: Would my union, the NEA, accept Gates grants? The fact is that, no, NEA does not directly take funds from the Gates Foundation. … Our union organized an independent foundation for the very purpose of connecting philanthropists with the creative work of our member practitioners in classrooms across the country. … And in service to those members and those students, we will continue to work with powerful partners, foundations and institutions dedicated to educational innovation, educator empowerment, student health, and parent engagement. Over the years, we’ve helped educators connect with many donors, including the Gates Foundation….

NEA and the NEA Foundation are two peas, same pod. The NEA Foundation is supported in part via NEA membership dues, and Garcia sits on the NEA Foundation board of directors.

Gates money to the NEA Foundation is Gates money to NEA. For example, consider these two July 2013 NEA Foundation grants:

Date: July 2013
Purpose: to support a cohort of National Education Association Master Teachers in the development of Common Core-aligned lessons in K-5 mathematics and K-12 English Language Arts
Amount: $3,882,600

Date: July 2013
Purpose: to support the capacity of state NEA affiliates to advance teaching and learning issues and student success in collaboration with local affiliates
Amount: $2,446,500

This $6.3 million was paid to the NEA Foundation but directed toward NEA members/affiliates.

And, to be clear, Garcia was not asked by Ravitch if her union, the NEA, would accept Gates grants. She was asked to “commit not to accept funding from” Gates “and not to collaborate with” Gates.

To this, she said yes.

But she meant no.

Originally posted 05-18-15 at deutsch29.wordpress.com

Schneider is a southern Louisiana native, career teacher, trained researcher, and author of the ed reform whistle blower, A Chronicle of Echoes: Who’s Who In the Implosion of American Public Education.

She also has her second book available on pre-order, Common Core Dilemma: Who Owns Our Schools?, due for publication June 12, 2015.

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We Need to Remember… Why We're Getting Married

“I think we all – I think all of us – want to feel something that we’ve forgotten or turned our backs on because maybe we didn’t realize how much we were leaving behind. We need to remember what used to be good. If we don’t, we won’t recognize it even if it hits us between the eyes.”

-Jennifer Garner, 13 Going on 30-

My grandparents were married for 60 years. It was the marriage I always wanted and the marriage I always was inspired by. They both worked hard, had two amazing businesses together, and we celebrated holidays at their home where they both commanded the kitchen. In 2005, my grandfather passed away, and the vision I have of my grandmother collapsing in the aisle of the church at his funeral will never be erased from my mind. That vision helped me not want to get married.

Why would I want to hurt like that? Why spend years with someone, making incredible memories, to only have them taken away? Why would I even want to go on living if they left me alone? I saw her pain and it still, to this day, breaks my heart. Her heels coming out from under her and her knees buckling and her two sons, by each side, catching her from crashing to the floor. A site I will never forget.

And yet, it’s one of the reasons I got married. I too wanted to experience a love like that. One that would cause me to fall to the ground the day that I lost it. Because if you don’t get a chance at love like that, you may be missing a true gift in life. And this is something each bride and groom should remember when planning a wedding.

Too often I hear about the skydiving proposals, or the first dances that need to be choreographed by a superstar. I hear about cost, I hear about expenses, I hear about food and difficult guest lists. I hear about siblings being unsupportive, crash diets to fit into the gown, and securing people like Bon Jovi to sing at the reception (I’m from Jersey….feel free to insert your state’s rockstar here). What I am not hearing is why couples are getting married in the first place.

As a planner, I hear my fair share of drama during the planning of a wedding. I see brides being torn down by their sisters, and grooms having to justify things to their mothers. This is why so many planners feel like shrinks (with all due respect to those that are the real deal).

We need to remember why we get married.

We need to remember why we said “that’s the one”.

We need to remember that it’s not about the tallest centerpieces, the grandest entrance, the amount of dresses — but that it’s about the love.

When planning your Big Day (or even a proposal), let the love the two of your have be your own inspiration board. What you see online and magazines is wonderful for ideas, but what you two have together is what should inspire you.

Why are you jumping out of a plane to ask someone to marry you? Are you a pilot? Do you both skydive together? Don’t do it just because it’s big.

Why are you having 500 people at an over the top banquet hall that you cannot afford? Do you need to impress these people? Is that how you want to remember your wedding?

Or do you want to look back on your wedding and remember it as the day you said “I do” to the person you cannot live without? Do you want to remember your wedding as the day you connected with your soulmate and declared to each other that you will be together until death do you part?

Spend less time deciding on the color of your wedding flowers, and more time writing your vows.

It’s about love. It’s about the love that you would die without. It’s about the both of you.

And when that is your inspiration, your wedding will be flawless!

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Why 'Free Trade' Treaties Destroy Jobs

This article originally appeared in The Washington Spectator.

By Robert E. Scott

Recently, the president claimed that critics who say that the Trans-Pacific Partnership (TPP) “is bad for working families … don’t know what they are talking about.”

Skeptics would respond, “Show me the money. Show me the jobs and wages you’re going to generate for working Americans. Explain how the TPP is going to be different from the lousy trade deals we’ve had since the North American Free Trade Agreement (NAFTA) was signed into law in 1993.”

The White House Council of Economic Advisors released a report touting the benefits of the TPP in pulling down barriers to U.S. exports abroad, but the report fails to mention the most important barrier to U.S. export success: several major trade partners (including TPP partners) managing the value of their own currencies for competitive gain vis-à-vis the U.S. Yet the Obama administration has refused to even discuss the currency issue in the TPP negotiations.

Without currency protection, the TPP is likely to lead to growing trade deficits and job losses.

One problem with trade and investment deals, especially with lower-wage countries like Korea and China, is that they often result in growing trade deficits and job losses. In 2011, President Obama claimed that the Korea-U.S. free trade agreement (KORUS) would “support 70,000 American jobs” because the agreement would “increase exports of American goods by $10 billion to $11 billion.”

He failed to say anything about rising imports, which will put Americans out of work. Looking only at exports is like counting only the runs by the home team. It might make you feel good, but it doesn’t tell you the outcome of the game–it doesn’t tell you whether your team won or lost.

Since KORUS took effect in 2012, exports to Korea have increased by less than $1 billion. Meanwhile, U.S. imports have surged more than $12 billion, resulting in a net loss of 75,000 U.S. jobs.

Similarly, Bill Clinton claimed that NAFTA would create 200,000 jobs in its first two years and a million jobs in five years. Instead, between 1993 (before NAFTA) and 2013, the U.S. trade deficit with Mexico and Canada increased from $17 billion to $177.2 billion, displacing more than 850,000 U.S. jobs.

And then there’s Permanent Normal Trade Relations with China and China’s admission to the World Trade Organization (WTO), which led to an explosion of imports and the loss of more than 3 million jobs, mostly in manufacturing and mostly in occupations that paid more than the jobs created in exports industries, and much more than jobs in non-traded industries.

While trade and investment deals have eliminated millions of good jobs, that’s only the most visible part of their corrosive effect on working Americans. Growing trade with low-wage countries has also driven down the wages of most American workers, especially those without college degrees.

My colleague Josh Bivens has shown that expanded trade with low-wage countries has reduced the annual wages of a typical worker by $1,800 per year. Given that there are roughly 100 million non-college-educated workers in the U.S. economy (about 70 percent of the labor force), the scale of wage losses suffered by this group translates to roughly $180 billion.

Trade deals such as KORUS (completed by President Obama), and the agreement to bring China into the WTO (negotiated by President Clinton), have contributed to these losses. It’s not surprising that one commentator concluded that “the Trans-Pacific Partnership trade deal is an abomination,” because of its impacts on “low-skilled manufacturing workers and income inequality.”

The leading cause of growing U.S. trade deficits is currency manipulation, which distorts trade flows by artificially lowering the cost of U.S. imports and raising the cost of U.S. exports. More than 20 countries, led by China, have been spending about $1 trillion per year buying foreign assets to artificially suppress the value of their currencies. Ending currency manipulation can create between 2.3 million and 5.8 million jobs for working Americans.

Several well-known currency manipulators–including Japan, Malaysia, and Singapore–are members of the proposed TPP, and others–including Korea, Taiwan and China–have expressed interest in joining the agreement.

Unless there is a strong currency provision in the TPP, reductions in the U.S. trade deficit–the most promising route back to sustainable full employment–will be harder to obtain following its passage. Without a currency provision, the TPP is likely to lead to growing trade deficits and job losses. If Obama is concerned with working families, he should focus on stopping currency manipulation.


Robert E. Scott is the director of trade and manufacturing policy research at the Economic Policy Institute in Washington, D.C.

This article will appear in the June 2015 print edition of The Washington Spectator.

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8 Easy Tricks to Be More Present

I’ve spent just enough time living in the present to know that Deepak Chopra speaks the truth when he says:

Life gives you plenty of time to do whatever you want to do
if you stay in the present moment.

But knowing something and doing it are not the same, are they? My motivation for improving this skill is that life is short and getting shorter every day. I want to stop wasting time in meaningless activity — or thinking and acting in ways that aren’t positive or helpful. Perfect? No, just making more progress than I am at the moment.

This ever happen to you?

I’m sitting at my computer, all revved up and ready to dive into something that matters. I get started, but before I know it I’ve darted over to the browser to check a fact or to take just a sec to see how many Like’s last night’s post has received. You know, just a minute and I’ll get right back on it. But somehow in the blink of an eye I’m reading the news, or watching a (really short) video, or checking my email to see if anything urgent has come in.

Living in the present is difficult, but the more I have the experience, the easier it gets. So here are some easy tricks you can use to practice spending time in this moment.

  1. Write more slowly. It doesn’t matter if it’s a grocery list or an envelope. A while ago I noticed that my handwriting was starting to look like an old lady’s, so I tried this technique. The only way to make it work is to clear your mind so that you are aware of each letter as you write it.
  2. Look up at the sky. Whether it’s out the window at home, through the windscreen when you’re at a red light, or when you’re walking down the street — just gaze up, be aware of the vast presence, and leave the little stuff down here for a bit.
  3. Send a thank-you note. Choose someone who’s helped you. I’m not talking about dashing off a quick email after a dinner party, but connecting with someone who has made an impact on your life. Say everything in your heart so this person knows the difference he or she has made. It’s impossible to do this without being present, plus the same will happen for the recipient when they receive it.
  4. Meditate quietly for at least 10 minutes. It can be on a park bench, your desk chair, or your cushion — wherever you can sit tall, breathe deeply, let your gaze soften, and your thoughts slowly quiet down. Don’t judge what happens; just do your best to be present to whatever experience you’re having.
  5. Call someone you care about. Choose a time you think they’ll have time to talk or leave a voicemail that lets them know you’re thinking about them. The point is to ask how they’re feeling — how are things going for you? If you get them in person, they may deflect with a “just fine.” If so, ask them again until they know you’re really interested.
  6. Do a simple task. It can be emptying the dishwasher, cleaning out your pencil drawer, making the bed, folding clothes, or straightening a pile of magazines — whatever occurs to you. While you’re doing this task, do the task. Pay attention to what you’re doing rather than letting your thoughts wander. If they do, just bring them back to what’s in front of you right now.
  7. Speak to your pet or a child. Talk to them quietly, letting them know how you appreciate them, and showing you care while touching them in a gentle and comforting way.
  8. Listen to classical music. Get comfortable and close your eyes while really listening to the sound. Let the music in and allow it to lift your heart into this precious moment. As I’m writing, I’ve been listening to Mozart piano sonatas, and they’ve made this experience a joyous one.

In the moments when we’re present, our fears disappear, and we know without a doubt who we are — and what we care about most. From this list of tricks choose just one you like and do it. Please give yourself this gift as often as you can.

Being fully present in every moment is the greatest meditation I have found. It’s a prayer of praise to appreciate the now — and the best way I know
to create a sense of well-being.

— Oprah Winfrey, May 2015

I invite you to share your experiences with living in the present. Either leave a comment on this page or contact me directly jinny@bestyearyet.com.

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Can I Use My Wood Board for Meat? And Other Cutting Board Conundrums

by Sheela Prakash, Epicurious

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PHOTO: CHARLES MASTERS, FOOD STYLING BY SUZANNE LENZER

I’ve broken every unwritten cutting board rule there is: I don’t wipe my wood board with mineral oil. I let my boards soak in the sink. I don’t use a separate board for prepping raw meat.

So when I recently decided to replace the board I had used and abused, I vowed to start paying attention to the rules. But a quick Google search about general DOs and DON’Ts left me ridiculously confused. In a state of panic, I reached out to couple experts: author and cleaning advice columnist Jolie Kerr, and Epicurious Food Editor Rhoda Boone.

HOW MANY CUTTING BOARDS DO I REALLY NEED?
Boone and Kerr agree that two boards is enough: “One plastic, one wood,” says Boone. “One big, one small.”

DO I NEED A SEPARATE CUTTING BOARD FOR MEAT?
Kerr doesn’t think it’s something to sweat over. “Ideally, if you’re washing them properly, it shouldn’t matter much if you have dedicated meat and vegetable boards,” she says. That said, “if you have the space and the financial resources to have multiple boards, by all means designate one for meat and poultry, another for fish, and one for vegetables.”

OKAY, SO HOW SHOULD I CLEAN MY CUTTING BOARD?
“Plastic boards can go right in the dishwasher, that will be the best bet for getting them clean,” says Kerr. “Wooden and bamboo boards should be hand washed in hot, soapy water and dried immediately after washing to prevent water from causing warping. If the board is retaining a smell even after washing, try scrubbing it with half a lemon to eliminate odors.”

PLASTIC, WOOD, OR BAMBOO?
“I usually use plastic for raw meat, but for any other cutting, my favorite board material is wood,” says Epicurious Food Editor Rhoda Boone. “I love my Boos Block, which has grooves to catch any unruly juice” What about bamboo? Rhoda sticks with wood and Kerr concurs: “I prefer wood to bamboo–bamboo boards are more likely than wood to split or warp, and can be harder on knives.”

WHAT ABOUT THOSE FANCY GLASS CUTTING BOARDS?
Avoid them. They may look nice, and they’re definitely easy to clean, but because their surface is completely hard, “they can dull your knives,” says Boone. Not to mention the fact that, even though they’re made from tempered glass, there’s still the chance that they could break and shatter.

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Former Bully Sends Powerful Apology To Classmate 20 Years Later

An apology that one man received from an old classmate reminds us all that it’s never too late to right your wrongs.

ChadMichael Morrisette, now 34, grew up in a small town in Alaska and, starting in the sixth grade, was bullied for being gay, he told Today.com.

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ChadMichael Morrisette.

“There were times I’d walk down the hallway and groups of guys would follow me, threaten me, humiliate me, push me,” Morrisette, who now works as a brand consultant and visual designer in West Hollywood, California, told the outlet.

But earlier this month, about 20 years after the bullying occurred, Morrisette received a message from Louis Amundson, one of those bullies. This time, it was far from cruel.

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The apology message.

“I was recently talking with the my 10-year-old daughter about bullies. She asked me if I ever bullied anyone and sadly I had to say ‘yes.’ What came to mind is how … mean I was to you when we were in Jr. High,” the message read. “I want to apologize … I don’t even know if you remember, but I do and I am sorry.”

The apology had a huge affect on Morrisette.

“It unlocked something in me I didn’t realize I’d been holding onto,” the visual designer told Yahoo. “I cried a little bit. It was so moving.”

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Morrisette’s response.

Morrisette replied, thanking his former bully for the redeeming act and accepting his apology.

“I’m quite moved by this,” he wrote. “In 20 years you are the only person to apologize for being a bully to me when we were younger. I hope you can proudly tell your daughter that you have also apologized for it, and that we are good.”

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More of Morrisette and Amundson’s conversation.

Amundson was relieved by the forgiveness he received and says that though it took a while for him to go forward with it, it was worth it.

“You can’t change your past, but you do still own it,” he told Yahoo. “I can’t take back the names I called him, and the threats I made toward him, but I can apologize. It doesn’t excuse my behavior as a child in any way, but as an adult it’s the best I can do to try to make it up to him.”

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India Plays Soft Power Game In China's Backyard

To those who wonder why Narendra Modi, India’s prime minister, was in distant Mongolia this week trying his hand at archery, playing a traditional fiddle and receiving the gift of a racehorse called Kanthaka (after Buddha’s mount), the short answer is: China.

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The Three Rules of Great Speakers

Three is my favorite number. Three little pigs, three Cs of relationships, three musketeers. According to Wikipedia, it’s a writing rule, but I believe it also applies to public speaking. Inspiring speakers like Martin Luther King followed three simple rules when preparing for a speech: preparation, presentation, performance. The three rules of great speakers. Here is what I taught Stanford graduate students about them.

Rule #1. Preparation. Clear outline, simple visuals, smooth flow.

Preparation is everything a presenter needs to do before getting on stage to give a talk. When preparing for a speech, it’s critical to articulate a strong structure, fetch memorable images to use as support and orchestrate seamless transitions:

  • Clear outline: To be convincing, speeches need to state supporting evidence in a compelling way. During the preparation leading up to a presentation, come up with three data points that contribute to the thesis and back each of them with relevant facts and figures.
  • Simple visuals: Many presenters drive attention away from them by using crowded slides that are difficult to grasp. This is distracting the audience and hence counterproductive. When creating presentations to support a speech, use memorable images and no more than three bullet points of text that captures the idea expressed in a single sentence.
  • Smooth flow: Giving a speech is telling a story, with a beginning, a middle and an end. Between each section, a logical, short transition allows the audience to follow the argument easily. Jot down opening, transitions and conclusion during the preparation phase.

Rule #2. Presentation. Open posture, welcoming presence, rhythmic pace.

All the preparation work accounts to little if the delivery of a talk is suboptimal. Presentation is everything a speaker has control over during a talk. A strong delivery requires maintaining a confident demeanor, establishing eye contact and using voice and movement skillfully:

  • Open posture: Inspiring speakers are familiar with the “ready position,” which is the posture that’s most desirable when giving a speech. Standing straight, feet slightly apart, arms down, which feels unnatural to most beginners. When giving a presentation, stick to this open body position because it makes presenters appear confident and relaxed.
  • Welcoming presence: Some cultures see looking down as a sign of respect but in the US and Western Europe, effective presenters are better off establishing strong eye contact with their audience. Randomly pick audience members, look them in the eyes for a few seconds, long enough to make a real connection without starring, and then move to the next person.
  • Rhythmic pace: While fidgeting is to be avoided, using voice, pace and gestures to give rhythm to a speech can make a huge difference when done well. During speeches, slow down when sharing an important fact (or even repeat it slower to drive it home,) and to move to a different part of the room or stage when transitioning from one point to another.

Rule #3. Performance. Supportive allies, known audience, mastered Q&A.

Even with the best preparation and a compelling presentation, a speaker can get derailed by its audience, which is the reason most people fear public speaking. Fortunately, there are ways to handle these unknowns effectively. A successful performance requires getting to know people in the audience ahead of time via introduction or polling, and anticipating questions:

  • Supportive allies: By arriving early, speakers have an opportunity to meet and greet a few people in the audience before getting on stage. They can do this effectively by introducing themselves to a few audience members and asking whether there’s a specific topic they’d like to see covered. I recommend that approach because it creates a lot of goodwill and helps tailor presentations.
  • Known audience: Many skilled presenters begin their talk with a simple poll, which gives them a sense for the nature of their audience and helps them adapt their speech. It can make a big difference to understand the level of familiarity with the topic, or the urgency of the issue, or the degree of connection to a matter. Get to know an audience before addressing it.
  • Mastered Q&A: When handling Q&As, it’s important to identify the intent of a question. Is the person asking for additional facts, or maybe trying to stand out as an expert him/herself and looking for recognition, or possibly trying to challenge the speaker and trigger a conflict or outline a difference of opinion? Often, the best answers combine facts with emotional acknowledgement.

Whether selling a service to a customer, pitching to a new startup to an investor, presenting a report to an organization, or speaking at a conference, using the three rules of public speaking can make a huge difference: Prepare thoroughly, present professionally and perform effectively. See you on stage!

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