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Advice That Is So Basic, Yet So Powerful

Around the office, I am called “Digital”. It stems from the impression I have left on the team since Day 1 when I toted my oversized, old-school laptop to every meeting, volunteered to manage our social media and jumped way too quickly on the CRM database bandwagon, dragging people with me along the way.

If we have crossed paths, I more than likely shared my favorite piece of advice that I learned from the internet. The specific source? I no longer remember… LinkedIn, Reddit, Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, a cute little meme… this advice is so powerful that it should have been listed on every site!

So what is this advice I remember so well when everything else goes in one ear and out the other in this age of information overload? It is this simple statement:

Network even when times are good.

It seems so basic, so obvious. Yet so many of us only reach out to those in our network when we need help, an introduction or advice or when our business is struggling.

Network even when times are good. Stay connected to those in your network even if it means penciling in the next 3 months of networking meetings on your calendar. Better yet, use a Sharpie and make those meetings a priority. Others will know you and your business so that when the time comes (and it will come) that you need to ask for help, they are better informed and more efficient at providing that immediate support.

Network even when times are good. Yes, business is going well which means you are busy keeping it that way. Remember that you owe it to yourself, your team, your customers and your growing business to work on your business, not in it. Delegate those invoices to the accountant and go network with others in your industry, in your community and in your local chamber. Don’t leave until you have scheduled follow up meetings with at least three people that you didn’t know before.

Network even when times are good. Like sharks and remora fish, networking is also symbiotic. While you are experiencing smooth sailing, you have the ability to help others. That leaves a lasting impression on your relationship so when your times get tough, you have a rock-solid network to turn to for guidance, support and even more connections! Spend time building those symbiotic relationships now.

Network even when times are good. A positive review on Yelp, a like on Facebook or Twitter or a comment on a LinkedIn post isn’t enough when it comes to networking. Take it from me, “Digital”, I would love for it to be that easy. It’s a great start, but it’s not the real thing. As you finish reading this post, I encourage…no, demand that you to identify a contact you haven’t heard from in a while. Call that person and set up a breakfast meeting for next week. You won’t regret it!

This blogger is an administrator of Goldman Sachs’ 10,000 Small Businesses program. Goldman Sachs is a partner of the What Is Working: Small Businesses section.

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Why schools shouldn't approach technology like businesses once did

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Craig Blewett, University of KwaZulu-Natal

Computers began reaching the business world during the 1980s. Companies used them to automate many routine manual tasks. This led to what economist Robert Solow dubbed the Productivity Paradox. In 1987, he famously quipped: “You can see the computer age everywhere but in the productivity statistics.”

The problem Solow had identified was that while computers could automate manual processes, real productivity gains would only be experienced when technology was actively used to reinvent business processes.

The best businesses soon realised that computers were not just a tool to improve efficiencies but to redesign business processes. This sort of thinking has given rise to many modern innovative businesses like Twitter, Uber and Airbnb.

Now schools are falling into the same trap as businesses did 30 years ago. They are focusing on the wrong objective when it comes to using technology in their classrooms.

The wrong objective

I recently came across a newsletter written to headmasters of schools around South Africa. It began by posing a question:

Is technology a “nice to have”, or will it actually improve the learning and educational outcomes of the youngsters in the class? If it doesn’t, or won’t, there can be little justification for it.

On face value this seems like a good question to ask. But it contains two dangerous flaws. The first is that visible “improved…outcomes” is presented as the main reason for using technology. The second is assuming that the relationship is just between “technology” and “improved learning”.

The writer, from an organisation representing school leadership, went on to list the advantages of using educational technology, using phrases and words like, “Time is freed up”, “convenience”, “ease of handling”, “efficient way of collecting and storing information” and “immediate access”. These phrases point to the underlying perspective that many teachers have about the goal of technology in the classroom. It is seen as a means to improve classroom efficiency.

This perspective also pervades students’ perceptions. A research project just completed by one of my Masters students, which we hope to publish soon, found that 92% of students listed technology providing “improved access to information” as a key reason for using it for learning.

Stuck in the industrial age

While businesses might be excused for initially adopting an efficiency objective when it comes to technology, schools cannot. This objective has already been shown to be ineffective for businesses. More importantly though, efficiencies – unlike for business – should not be the objective of successful teaching.

British educationist and author Sir Ken Robinson has famously called on schools to abandon the efficiency-driven, industrial paradigm.

Sir Ken Robinson explores how educational paradigms are shifting

Schools have lauded the rise of a new era in education that celebrates diversity, opportunities and innovation. However, most are actually using technology to reinforce these same industrial approaches rather than revolutionising the classroom.

Pursuing efficiencies to get students through more content, faster and with less effort, is the wrong objective. The focus should be on effective rather than efficient teaching. Technology is not just about computerising existing processes – it is about rethinking ways to teach and learn.

The missing pedagogy

The second flaw in the letter-writer’s question is the mistaken assumption that technology is the only factor that has an impact on learning. This makes the serious mistake of ignoring pedagogy, or ways of teaching.

There is a framework that sets out how this can be avoided. The TPACK model argues that there are three key elements for effective teaching with technology – Technology, Pedagogy And Content Knowledge. Teachers know their subject content and increasingly know how to use technology. However, without the “glue” of an appropriate pedagogy or method, technology can’t be effective in teaching content.

TPACK Model

But many schools seem to assume that the technology vendors whose solutions they’ve implemented will be their teaching guides. It’s rather ironic to have teachers led by technologists! Other schools simply ignore teaching approaches, assuming by handing out iPads effective learning will spontaneously take place – leading to some spectacular failures.

The key to effective technology-based teaching is effective technology teaching approaches. Simply copy-pasting traditional approaches is ineffective. This is confirmed by research that I completed recently, which found that digital teaching methods must revolve around active learning approaches to bear fruit.

A digital pedagogy

Technology affords opportunities to move from traditional passive consumption learning to active approaches. These include curating content, engaging in conversation and developing content through iterative cycles of correction.

Such approaches form the basis of what I call the @CTIVATED Classroom model, which is designed to support those who are teaching with technology.


@CTIVATED Classroom Model

The letter I quoted from earlier concluded that, “Staff must be taught to use the technology.” Only part of this is correct: they must be taught how to teach with the technology. If this is ignored, educational technology will entrench the very approaches we were trying to change.

The Conversation

Craig Blewett, Senior Lecturer in Education & Technology, University of KwaZulu-Natal

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Forage in the Garden, Not in What's Left of the Wild

Wild foraging is one of the hottest new trends. People are eager to acquaint themselves with the soul of their local terroir. In Southern California, the delicious wild flavors of white sage, acorn, elderberry, walnut, toyon and other California native plants have been “discovered” by foragers and chefs, and people are heading into wild lands to gather these ingredients for cuisine with wildcrafted flavors and aromas. Problem is, our wild lands are already stressed from drought, invasive non-native plants and population pressure from Southern California’s approximately 23 million people. When we forage bark, berries, seeds and leaves from native plants in our wild lands, we decrease the plants’ ability to renew themselves. We also diminish habitat and deprive wildlife of the food needed for survival. Do foragers know that up to 90% of all leaf-eating insect species, such as caterpillars of butterflies, can eat only native plants? Do foragers think of their impact on wildlife when they remove acorns, elderberries and other native plant foods? And Southern California wild lands and wildlife are not alone in their distress.

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Migrating cedar waxwings on toyon in Southern California. Waxwings need toyon because they are are berry-eating birds.

It’s easy to think of wild plants as renewable resources, and they are – when the population is small and the wild lands are vast. But now, in this day and age, it’s different. If even a tiny percentage of our population goes into the wild, in search of native ingredients for our latest recipe, we will devastate what’s left of the natural environment. One of the cardinal rules of foraging is for each person to take no more than 10-20% of what s/he finds. But if even an infinitesimal percentage of the U.S.’s 320 million people takes “only” 10-20%, it will be carnage.

What could we do instead? We could do what people have done for thousands of years and what some are already doing: grow native plants at home or in community gardens. We could also farm native plants. Agriculture started with the realization that, for a given population, foraging was inadequate and unsustainable. Now, in a world of more than 7 billion people and vastly diminished wild lands, that realization applies more than ever.

We should renew our urban and suburban spaces with native plants and forage in our gardens, not in what’s left of the wild. We should landscape with the native plants we crave, creating more habitat, supporting biodiversity and decreasing our landscape water use. Native gardens provide sustenance to bees, caterpillars, butterflies, birds, lizards and people, among others. In contrast to foraging, native gardens are a net gain for Life.

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A spring azure butterfly laying eggs on the young fruit of Ceanothus, one of only two types of plants (both native to California) its caterpillars can eat.

In our agricultural areas, we should convert some of the non-native monocultures to various native species that yield the desired seasonal ingredients and support healthy, functioning food webs and ecosystems. In Southern California, for example, there could be orchards of elderberry, toyon and Catalina cherry interspersed with white sage, buckwheat and manzanita. In fact, every part of the United States could celebrate its authentic natural character by cultivating native plants for their culinary ingredients. Chefs and others desiring native ingredients would be supporting the creation of some of the greenest jobs imaginable, and we would be regreening our local environment with native plants that support biodiversity.

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Native black currants in cultivation in Burgundy, France

In my backyard garden, when my daughters were young, they foraged from our ridiculously fecund ‘Dana Point’ buckwheat (Eriogonum fasciculatum ‘Dana Point’), golden currant (Ribes aureum var. gracillimum), and western elderberry (Sambucus mexicana). Before we left for a hike in the local mountains, we picked a few elderberry and mugwort (Artemisia douglasiana) leaves and put them in our pockets, just in case we ran into poison oak. People across the United States could similarly transform their urban and suburban landscapes to supply the native ingredients they desire. Many native plants are suitable for containers – a vast yard is not necessary. Visit a local nursery to purchase the native plants and, if the nursery does not carry them, ask that they begin to keep them in stock.

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Ripening golden currants in my backyard garden

Southern California is a biodiversity hotspot – one third of its native plants are found nowhere else in the world – and foraging in our wild lands for native plants further devastates these already shrinking populations of plants that have managed to survive the colonial incursions of the last 500 years. In Southern California and the rest of the country, we have predominantly landscaped with non-native plants that deprive the vast majority of our insect and animal species of the food and shelter they need for survival. Then, after erasing native habitat in the places we live, we go into our remnant wild lands and forage native plants. This is not just ironic – it’s heart-breaking.

In a world that is in the initial throes of a sixth mass extinction, this one caused by people erasing native habitat and negatively impacting the biosphere in all sorts of other ways, foraging native plants is not just irresponsible: it is tantamount to ecocide and comparable to eating shark fin soup or hunting elephants, whales and condors.

The foraging movement is an understandable outcome of people yearning to reconnect with the natural world, but we must respect our remaining wild lands. They are precious. We must look beyond our desires of the moment and to the world we are leaving for future generations. It’s great that wildcrafted cuisine has inspired more people to love their local natural environment, but instead of foraging, we must bring this cornucopia of “new” aromas, flavors and ingredients into our lives through farming and landscaping. Let’s become even more intimate with the nature of where we live by cultivating the wild ingredients we desire. Let’s respond to the natural world in a way that is not reminiscent of the rapaciousness of the past. Let’s honor and enjoy the nature of place through cuisine that not only celebrates our terroir, but also celebrates the human ability to change and create a better world.

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Play Street Fighter V On Mouse Computer’s Latest Gaming PC ‘LITTLEGEAR i310SA2-KZ’

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Mouse Computer has just listed a new gaming PC ‘LITTLEGEAR i310SA2-KZ’ on its product page. Recommended for playing Capcom’s latest fighting video game ‘Street Fighter V’, this high-end gaming PC is configured with a 3.40GHz Intel Core i7-6700 processor, an Intel H110 Express Chipset and an NVIDIA GeForce GTX 970 4GB graphics card.

Not to mention, the system also sports a 16GB PC3-12800 DDR3L RAM, a 240GB SSD and a 500W 80PLUS SILVER power supply. For operating system, the LITTLEGEAR i310SA2-KZ runs on Windows 10 Home 64-bit OS.

The Mouse Computer LITTLEGEAR i310SA2-KZ will hit the market from May 30th for 139,800 Yen (about $1,259). [Product Page]

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Bernie Sanders Spotted At The Golden State Warriors Game

Bernie Sanders, a politician, was spotted at the Golden State Warriors’ Game 7 game against the Oklahoma City Thunder for the right to get to the NBA Finals on Monday night.

Sanders is one of two people in the world running to become the Democratic nominee for President of the United State of America. The Democratic primary in California in on June 7, which is next Tuesday. What do those two facts have to do with him enjoying a solid game of basketball in the state of California? Who knows! But here are some sports photos.

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The Golden State Warriors Just Splashed Their Way To The NBA Finals

In a 336-minute, seven-game series, the Golden State Warriors needed less than 170 seconds in the third quarter to dismantle, dishearten and dispose of the Oklahoma City Thunder, doing what they do best and knocking down five treys in three minutes to earn their second consecutive berth in the NBA Finals with a 96-88 victory Monday night.

Of course, it started and ended with Stephen Curry.

After a rugged first half that saw Golden State walk into intermission down six, all it took was a 28-foot triple from Curry at the 9:18 mark to cut the Thunder’s lead to five, 50-45, and help the Warriors regain their rhythm.

Then, after a Serge Ibaka midrange jumper, it was Klay Thompson’s turn. The second Splash Brother promptly drilled a right-side triple over Steven Adams. 52-48, advantage OKC.

On the next Golden State possession, Curry, shadowed closely by the rangy Kevin Durant, tripped down the lane and, from under the basket, wrapped a pass around to wing Andre Iguodala, who caught, shot and drained the three, bringing things within three, 54-51.

And after another Curry trey — tie game! — the Warriors got the ball back with a little over 6:30 remaining in the period. What happened next was as incredible as it was predictable.

Stephen Curry, with the rock in his hands on the left wing, began to toy with Thunder big man Adams. Then with Adams’ arm outstretched, with the seven-footer’s hand in his face, Curry crossed and double-crossed the ball, dancing with Adams for just a moment more before letting the shot fly — and earning Golden State the lead. 

57-54.

With that fifth three in that three-minute span, the Warriors were rolling. And it was thanks to their knock-down shooting that they were able to weather a late Oklahoma City run, shooting 45.9 percent from beyond the arc en route to victory, pushing home teams’ records in Game 7’s to 101-24.

Asked about Curry’s performance, Golden State head coach Steve Kerr’s answer came quickly.

This is who he is,” Kerr said. “Having a clutch performance in a Game 7? That’s Steph Curry.”

Curry finished with a game-high 36 points, going 7-of-12 from downtown, including those crucial jumpers to resuscitate his team in the third. For the Thunder, it was Kevin Durant who kept them in the game all night, ending his season with a 27-point performance, playing almost every second of the night.

They beat us from the 3-point line the last two games,” Durant said after the game. “We beat them from everywhere else … That was the series.”

Golden State will begin their next challenge on Thursday, as they take on LeBron James and the Cleveland Cavaliers in a rematch of last year’s Finals. The Warriors may have come out on top in 2015, but with a much healthier Cleveland team in tow, they’ll need to play like they did in Monday’s third quarter if they want to hoist up that Larry O’Brien trophy once more.

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5 Times Nurses Made Their Patients Forget They Were In A Hospital

Nurses: the unsung heroes of the hospital.

While doctors hurry through the halls, sweeping from one room to the next, nurses are the more constant presence; they often sit with patients long after everyone else has gone home. They become a patient’s family when real relatives are not around, and often find themselves providing compassionate care for not just those in the hospital beds but patients’ loved ones, too.

That’s why we’ve teamed up with Dignity Health to shed a little light on the myriad ways nurses have an outsized impact on the lives of those in their charge, even if each one insists, in typically humble fashion, “I’m just doing my job.”

1. Ladies Who Lunch

Nurse Erika Spadafora noticed one of her patients had few visitors and often struggled to eat at mealtimes. “On my break, I decided to bring my lunch to her room and sit with her,” Spadafora says. “I thought I could encourage her to eat by keeping her company.” By the end of the meal, the woman told Spadafora she felt like she was having lunch with a friend — not sick in a hospital bed and forced to eat on a schedule. “During our lunch together, she told me about her life, dreams and views of the world,” Spadafora says. “We forget sometimes that stepping into patients’ lives when they’re most vulnerable is one of the greatest privileges of being a nurse.”

– Erika Spadafora, Hospital Nurse

 

2. Feeling Human Again

After Jacqueline N. was hit by a car, extensive injuries left her almost unrecognizable to loved ones. “After surgeries and days of recuperation, hospital staff — and my mom — urged me to let them wash and clean up my hair, which was a disaster,” Jacqueline says. “But I was terrified to get water anywhere near my stitches, hundreds of which were all over my head and face.” Instead, she insisted they just shave off what was left of her hair; she’d just start from scratch. When her doctor sedated her to remove some of the stitches, a nurse carefully washed her hair with nice, non-hospital shampoo and combed it out, all at her bedside. “I woke up looking sort of human,” she says. “I’m amazed by and so thankful for how kind and caring those nurses were.”

– Jacqueline N., Patient

 

3. An Inside Joke

One of Lynn Bruce’s older patients was so ill she wasn’t able to eat — she got her nutrition intravenously. “Every day I would chat with her when I brought the food bag that hooked up to her IV,” Bruce recalls, “and try to make her crack a smile. Then I got the idea once to get some magazines and cut out beautiful pictures of all different kinds of foods and stick them onto her bag. When I brought her her ‘dinner’ that day, she finally laughed and we bonded over the joke.”

– Lynn Bruce, Hospital Nurse

 

4. Words Of Wisdom

Nicole M.’s daughter, Emma, was born in 2014 with a very rare lymphatic malformation, and Emma’s condition was deemed critical. “Doctors didn’t have much hope, and those first days were difficult and confusing,” Nicole says. “Then we met a nurse named Anika — the first person who made me feel like there was hope for my little one.” Anika Severin became Emma’s primary nurse and cared for her whenever she was at the hospital. When Severin saw that the family had put Bible verses on Emma’s walls, she added one of her own: Joshua 1:9: “Be strong and courageous, do not be afraid or discouraged, for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go.” Nicole adds, “Anika was an advocate for Emma and for me, which, as a nurse myself, is a huge part of our job.”

– Nicole M., Parent of Patient

 

5. Tacos For Two

While volunteering with children’s charity Ronald McDonald House, pediatric nurse Erin Ross became close with a family who’d been going there for years for their young son, Chase. He had leukemia — now in remission — “and I would take him on ‘date nights’ to give him something fun to do,” Ross says. “His favorite food is tacos, so most of our dates were at Taco Bell. When he was too sick from treatment to go out, I brought tacos to him at home and we’d sit together, laughing and eating.”

– Erin Ross, Pediatric Nurse

When we infuse compassion into our lives — the way these nurses took the time to do for their patients — we unleash the healing power of humankindness. Backed by science, Dignity Health is grounded in the belief that medicine is more effective when delivered with compassion and kindness and healthier for our mind, body, and spirit.

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The Science Behind The Profound Power Of Holding Hands

There’s something special about holding hands with another human being. All of us are innately conscious of how this simple act can stir an instant intimacy, heighten our awareness and express a deep connection. This alchemy of two hands touching has so deeply captured our collective imagination, it’s been the subject of our highest artistic achievements, from the ceiling of the Sistine Chapel, to the poetry of Romeo and Juliet, to the lyrics of the Beatles.

But what is it about holding hands, exactly, that makes it so powerful? In partnership with Dignity Health, we explored what science can tell us about this ubiquitous, mysterious gesture, and how it can affect our brains and physical well-being, as well as our relationships. Holding hands, we learn, has the power to impact the world.

 

Holding Patterns

Human beings are hardwired to seek out each other’s touch before we are even born. If you’ve ever touched the palm of a newborn baby, then you’ve likely witnessed (and been treated to) one of the earliest instinctual responses to manifest in humans: the “grasping reflex.” Known to science as the palmar grasp reflex, the instinct makes a baby grab your finger and squeeze it tight.

Humans share this trait with our primate ancestors; it can still be observed in species of monkeys, notably in the way newborns cling to their mothers, unsupported, so the mother can transport the two, hands-free. 

Human fetuses have been observed displaying this behavior weeks before full-term. They will clutch their umbilical cord, place their hand in their mouth, or suck their thumb. Twin fetuses are known to hold hands, as poignantly captured in a Kansas family’s moving sonogram image, in which one twin is healthy and the other is critically ill.

Babies may relinquish the grasping reflex over time, but the importance and vitality of touch remain essential.

 

Touch, A Necessity Of Life

Quantifying the power of touch can be challenging for researchers — measuring the outcome of, say, depriving a child from human contact is unethical. But an unsettling episode in Romania offered scientists some telling insights into what can happen when we are denied the nurturing that touch can provide.  

Charles Nelson, professor of pediatrics at Harvard Medical School and author of the book Romania’s Abandoned Children: Deprivation, Brain Development, and the Struggle for Recovery, led a study that measured the developmental progress of hundreds of children raised in poorly run Romanian orphanages. They had endured years without being held, nuzzled or hugged, according to a Harvard Gazette report. Many of the children had physical problems and stunted growth, despite receiving proper nutrition.

The same appears to hold true through adulthood. Adults who don’t receive regular human touch — a condition called skin hunger or touch hunger — are more prone to suffer from mental and emotional maladies like depression and anxiety disorders.

As psychologists Alberto Gallace and Charles Spence point out in the journal Neuroscience and Biobehavioral Reviews, “touch is the first of our senses to develop” and “our most fundamental means of contact with the external world.” It’s more than just a comforting sensation; touch is vital to human development and life.

 

The ‘Love Hormone’

Clearly, we humans live to touch. But how does it sustain us? What’s happening in our bodies and minds when what we touch is another person’s hand?

Multiple studies — including one conducted at the University of California Los Angeles (UCLA) — show that human touch triggers the release of oxytocin, aka “the love hormone,” in our brain. Oxytocin is a neurotransmitter that increases feelings of trust, generosity and compassion, and decreases feelings of fear and anxiety.

Dr. Tiffany Field, director of the Touch Research Institute (TRI) at the University of Miami/Miller School of Medicine, says that holding hands is one of the most powerful forms of touch in part because the skin is a sense organ and needs stimulation, just as the ears and the eyes do.

Touch is our most fundamental means
of contact with the external world.

Psychologists Alberto Gallace and Charles Spence

“When the fingers are interlaced and someone is holding your hand, they’re stimulating pressure receptors [that trigger] what’s called vagal activity,” Field says. “When there’s pressure in the touch, the heart rate goes down, the blood pressure goes down, and you’re put in a relaxed state. When people interlace their fingers, they get more pressure stimulation than the regular way of holding hands.”

Physical touch — and especially holding hands — is commonly associated with “feeling good.” Which raises the question, is there more that can hand-holding do for us?

 

With Touch Comes Toleration

As we’ve seen, humans are not only creatures of habit, we’re also creatures of comfort. We gravitate toward situations and people who make us feel as content and secure as possible.

In the scientific study “Lending A Hand,” neuroscientists from the University of Virginia and the University of Wisconsin studied the effect the simple act of a human touch has on people in stressful situations. In this case, the participants underwent the threat of electric shock. The researchers came to the conclusion that a “loving touch reassures.”

 On a physiological level, participants were able to better cope with pain and discomfort when they were holding hands because the act of holding hands decreased the levels of stress hormones like cortisol in their body. In other words, if stress is contagious, apparently a feeling of calm is contagious, too.

 

The Societal Imprint Of Human Touch

Scientific research correlates physical touch with several important areas of life.

Through multiple studies at TRI, Field has concluded that physical touch can affect several important areas of society, including pain management, lower blood pressure, less violence, increased trust, stronger immune system, greater learning engagement and overall well-being.

TRI is mining the potential of touch through a range of current studies, including how massage may help premature babies to grow, and if it can reduce depression in pregnant women such that they’re less likely to deliver prematurely.

“If every preemie was massaged in the U.S.,” Field suggests, “in one year that would save about $4.8 billion in hospital costs, because on average they get out of the hospital six days earlier.”

Field and her colleagues at TRI treat people with hip pain, typically from arthritis, and work to reduce depression and sleep problems in veterans who suffer from PTSD.

“Touch reduces pain because of the serotonin that’s released, and with the pressure on receptors during physical exercise, you get more deep sleep,” Field says.  

 

Human Touch: More Important Now Than Ever

Science indicates that there’s a social argument to encourage hand-holding. What’s holding us back from embracing this? Today’s growing preoccupation with digital media over personal physical contact may unintentionally affect people negatively.

Though small in scope, another Touch Research Institute study suggests that American teenagers touch each other less than French teenagers do, and are more prone to aggressive verbal and physical behavior. Other data supports this claim that American youth is more violent and more prone to suicide than youth in other countries. Field’s hypothesis is that it has to do with ours being a “touch-phobic society.”

Oh please, say to me /
You’ll let me be your man /
And please, say to me /
You’ll let me hold your hand

The Beatles, “I Wanna Hold Your Hand”

“With this taboo of touch in the school system, children are getting touched less, less than when I was a kid certainly,” Field says. “We’re so concerned about kids being touched the wrong way that we’ve basically banned it from the school system, and I think that’s really unfortunate.”

What can we do to shift this paradigm? It may be as simple as instilling in ourselves the mindfulness to outstretch a hand more often to those in our lives who matter most to us. One thing is certain: our entire bodies, from our nerves to our brains, respond positively to touch and crave it from the time we’re born. Whether it’s due to instinct, comfort, intimacy or love, touch brings us closer to each other both physically and emotionally — and is a necessity for our overall well-being.

When we infuse compassion into our lives we unleash the healing power of humankindness. Backed by science, Dignity Health is grounded in the belief that medicine is more effective when delivered with compassion and kindness and healthier for our mind, body, and spirit.

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4 Healthy Ways to Survive Being "Ghosted" by a Friend

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You may have heard of ghosting when it comes to dating but it also applies to friends. It happens when a good friend disappears from your life without any warning. They stop texting or calling and don’t answer any communication you send their way. They may even block you online. Basically, they act as if the relationship never really existed.

Getting ghosted by a friend can feel devastating. Someone in your life you thought you could rely on is suddenly gone and you don’t know why. It can be very tricky to navigate this kind of emotional upheaval since it often leaves people feeling powerless. Here’s what you can do to take care of yourself and make dealing with the aftermath of being ghosted a little easier.

1. Don’t Confront
“I don’t like the word confront. It implies a fight of some sort and the outcome won’t be good,” says Rosemary O’Neill, a Licensed Marriage Family Therapist and certified life coach. “The word confront has a charge and everyone involved feels the negative energy behind it. The truth is your friend probably doesn’t know how to explain it. If they did, they would have told you in the first place instead of running away. So really how they’ve acted is a red flag. This person has at best, a communication issue, or something more complicated like trust or emotional distance issues. There’s nothing you need to do about it.”

2. Don’t Take it Personally
People are wild cards. Just when we think we know someone really well, it is possible for them to change on a dime. “When friends disappear with no goodbye, no explanation why, we have to really dig deep into our power tools for dealing with life,” says O’Neill. “One of the most important ones I recommend is don’t take anything personally. What someone does or says has nothing to do with you, and has everything to do with them. We may feel hurt, angry, or sad but those are all perfectly normal responses to a confusing friend situation.” Not taking things personally can be very challenging and a lifelong practice but getting ghosted is an ideal time to try and apply it.

3. Don’t Aggravate the Hurt
If you don’t know that old saying, “Out of sight, out of mind,” now is the time to embrace it. It will be easier for you to get over the hurt if you don’t stalk your former friend on Facebook or Instagram. “It’s really not a good idea to follow someone who doesn’t want to play in the same sandbox with you any longer for whatever reason,” says O’Neill. “It just aggravates the hurt and stops you from moving on.” It can be tempting to snoop around trying to get information on your friend through mutual friends but don’t do it–unfriend or unfollow and let it go.

4. Do Be Nice to Yourself and Move On
One of things that can be really frustrating about being ghosted is that it leaves us wondering what we did wrong or what we could have done differently. If you find it difficult to stop wondering what happened try gently but firmly changing the conversation inside your head. “Tell yourself there’s nothing more you can do, it’s not personal and accept what is,” says O’Neill. “And then go do something that makes your heart smile–call a different friend, take a walk, go to a movie, or buy yourself some beautiful flowers.”

Remember, tomorrow is new day with fresh opportunities to meet kindred spirits and make new friends.

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