Miss Manners Gets HARSH With Teen Who Skips Own Graduation Party

You tell ’em, Miss Manners.

The longtime advice columnist, aka Judith Martin, skewered a teen and her parents after the high schooler skipped her own graduation party.

MM’s firm response has received social media attention because it’s quite a takedown.

In a nutshell, the parents wrote in a letter that they planned a gathering of 30 people for their party-averse daughter and gave her the option of bowing out a week before. The party went forward and guests left monetary gifts at the celebration. But the daughter didn’t show, texting her dad that she didn’t feel up to it. She didn’t open the gifts, either. The letter mentioned that the teen also ignored her grandparents, who flew in for the occasion, during their stay.

The writer notes the daughter’s “extremely rude behavior” and asks Miss Manners if it would be rude to keep the gifts.

With what seems to be steam coming out of her pen, Miss Manners answers thusly: “It seems to Miss Manners that this is the least of your problems, considering that you have a thoroughly rude and callous daughter.”

The columnist counsels the parents to return the money with a note explaining that since their child did not participate in the celebration, she doesn’t deserve it.

Then Mom and Dad get theirs: “Miss Manners does not consider you to be free of responsibility for this fiasco. Leaving aside your duty to teach your daughter manners and consideration for others, there is the question of why you even considered giving a party for someone who hates parties and your willingness to allow guests to make plans that you offered to cancel a week before.”

Some readers of the column in the Washington Post wondered whether the child has an anxiety problem and noted that the dilemma was presented from a parental perspective without the kid’s side of things. Others called out a line in which the writer said the parents would have to write thank-you notes since the daughter won’t.

“It takes rude, inconsiderate parents to raise a rude, inconsiderate daughter,” one person wrote.

For the full Miss Manners exchange, head over to The Washington Post.

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The Subtle Ways Mindy Kaling Pranked B.J. Novak On 'The Office' Set

Multitalented actors B.J. Novak and Mindy Kaling have been friends-slash-soulmates ever since they met by filming “The Office,” a show known for its pranks

In a gushing profile of Novak’s many assorted projects published Sunday in The Guardian, we learned how Kaling managed to trick Novak again and again over the course of their work together on the show.

“She would lie to me. She would make up these — just out of nowhere — purposeless lies that I believed,” Novak told The Guardian.

Among the untruths Kaling spouted was that the casting director for “The Office” had starred in “Cold Mountain,” and that one of the “Office” directors used to date showrunner Greg Daniels in college. Novak was therefore reluctant to criticize the director’s work on one episode, failing to suggest the changes he wanted to make. Eventually, he learned the truth from Daniels.

“I asked him about it and he was like, ‘What are you talking about? She’s 20 years older than I am; we didn’t go to college together!’ I realized that Mindy just made it up,” Novak said. “It actually affected my work life!” 

So, how did he extract revenge? What else did she lie about? What other lies has he not yet noticed?

We hope Novak is saving some of those details for the book he is writing with his best friend on their strange, adorable relationship. A release date has not been set.

 

So, how did he extract revenge? What else did she lie about? What other lies have he not even realized?

We hope Novak is is saving those details for the book he is writing with his best friend on their strange, adorable relationship. A release date has not been set.

Read the entire Guardian interview here.

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The New <i>Roots</i> Revisits America's Worst Institution, and Reminds Us That Bullies Aren't So Great, Either

Watching the new Roots, which would be one of the best TV things you could do this week, you’re reminded that in at least one important sense, it’s about a bigger matter than even slavery.

It’s about the most timeless part of human nature, which is how we behave toward other people. In this case, widespread acceptance of an abhorrent institution becomes the trigger for much of that behavior.

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The new Roots, a four-part, eight-hour series that airs Monday-Thursday at 9 p.m. ET on History, wisely follows the lead of the original 1977 production by making us care about the enslaved African Kunta Kinte (Malachi Kirby) (above) and the subsequent generations that finally fulfill his fierce determination that they regain their freedom.

It’s tempting to say that in finding that freedom, they also restored their human dignity. But the real point of Roots, in many ways, is that they never lost their dignity.

While Kunta Kinte was degraded, beaten and humiliated, all parts of the slavery package, that never made him less than what he really was, which was a Mandinka warrior.

That point is underscored in the first episode by the older African Fiddler (Forest Whitaker).

Fiddler is introduced as a black man who has abandoned himself. He seemingly has submitted to the bidding of Massah John Waller (James Purefoy) in exchange for a tiny shred of autonomy, that is, his shackles aren’t physical.

After Fiddler is assigned to break Kunta, meaning Fiddler gets the blame if Kunta rebels, Fiddler helps Kunta in a futile escape attempt.

Fiddler, it turns out, is from the “tell ’em what they want to hear” school. If you know your real name, he tells Kunta, it doesn’t matter what they call you, because “this isn’t your home – this is just a place you have to be.”

The dialogue in Roots is sprinkled with philosophical passages like that, alongside a few lines that might give the viewer pause, like a Mandinka warrior in the mid-18th century saying something will happen “sooner than later.”

That’s small stuff. Roots became a phenomenon almost 40 years ago because the Alex Haley book on which it was based was not a documentary on slavery. It told the slavery story by dramatizing the stories of people who were forced – or, on the other side, delighted – to live under its auspices.

The first episode alone contains several extended scenes so brutal they’re hard to watch. Their common moral thread is that the perpetrators of this brutality felt no shame. Rather, they declared their actions were necessary and proper to achieve their legitimate interest: getting maximum production out of this slave for whom, or rather for which, they paid good money.

Nor does Roots pass over the wide range of non-physical cruelties, like knowing your spouse and child could be sold tomorrow to a plantation several states away and you might never see them again.

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The beneficiaries of this system are not all painted with the same brush. The cold John Waller has a brother, William (Matthew Goode) (above), who has a streak of sympathy. Just not enough to step in when Kunta’s back is whipped into hamburger by a sadistic overseer.

That overseer, John Waller and others like them are the easy villains here, and certainly the ones on whom the producers encourage us to focus our outrage. They’re nasty pieces of work.

As generations roll along and we meet more of them, however, another fact becomes hard to avoid. Slavery, in a way, was a contemporary institution that gave license to a subspecies of mankind that’s been around since we developed opposable thumbs: the bully, someone who sneers, taunts and abuses those not in a position to fight back.

Today, though slavery has fallen out of fashion, bullying has not, which lends Roots an intriguingly contemporary subtext even as it stays true to its specific narrative mission.

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Roots employs a large, skilled cast that includes the likes of Mekhi Phifer, Anika Noni Rose (above), Anna Paquin, TI, Laurence Fishburne and Sedale Threatt Jr. to focuses on a vile institution America permitted for 246 years. It dramatizes the long, winding, uneven path through which the descendants of one determined man finally threw off its shackles.

But slavery was a stone that still sends ripples to the wider shores of every American pond, and the fact we thought it was fine for all those centuries says some uncomfortable things about both the people of those times and the human nature that continues right up through today.

As for whether the new Roots matches the old one, that’s ultimately a minor question. It won’t have the same impact, simply because this time we come into knowing the story. But at a time when style too often trumps substance, the new Roots is a solid show about something that matters.

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Great, Now Kangaroos Are Jumping Cyclists

Look, we all know there are plenty of things in Australia that can kill you. But we figured we didn’t have to worry about bicyclist-jumping kangaroos.

Until now.

Sharon Heinrich was riding a bike with her friend Helen Salter on a trail in South Australia’s Clare Valley when she spotted a kangaroo standing on a ledge, she told the Northern Argus.

“I saw him and thought ‘oh isn’t he cute’ — then he was on top of me,” Heinrich said.

The kangaroo jumped on top of Heinrich, then propelled itself off of her and onto Salter. Both were knocked off their bikes by the kangaroo. Heinrich, at 5’4”, said the animal was taller than she is.

The fall gave Salter a concussion, while Heinrich wound up with three cracked ribs and scratch marks. Heinrich also ruptured her breast implants, which she jokingly says helped cushion her fall.

“They worked as air bags and have been ruptured by the ordeal,” she told the Associated Press.

She added that the kangaroo seemed “peaceful” and not like it was acting out of anger.

That’s a good thing, since an aggressive kangaroo can be a formidable enemy. Last year, another South Australia woman was nearly killed after a kangaroo repeatedly struck and scratched her while she was out with her dog. But kangaroo attacks are “extremely rare,” Deb Kelly of Australia’s Department for Environment and Heritage told the Adelaide Advertiser at the time, noting that the kangaroo was probably afraid of the woman’s dog, which had followed it into the water.

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America's Desert Playground: Joshua Tree National Park

It’s difficult to measure all of the positives that can come from just one visit to a U.S. National Park. By simply dipping your toe into the waters of America’s great outdoors, your world is touched by greater health, improved mood, increased knowledge, all the while you are offering support to the preservation of one of the world’s finest treasures… and, national parks are a perfect place to go play.

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Wahoo! at Joshua Tree National Park. Jonathan Irish catches Stefanie Payne in mid-air while playing on the rocks.

With 14 parks in the bag in just 10 short weeks, all we really wanted to do by the time we got to Joshua Tree was to relax and regroup, goof off and unwind for a minute. This park is ideal for that–it really is a perfect place to go play. It is also a perfect place to camp. The clear skies and temperate spring climate found in the California desert makes pitching a tent, building a fire, and practicing the lost art of conversation a lot more relaxing.

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A balanced rock and Juniper Tree right next to our perfect campsite, site #18, at the Jumbo Rock campground.

Luck was on our side the day we arrived, because not only did we find a campsite at the popular Jumbo Rock campground during a particularly busy week, but we found the best campsite one could possibly hope for–set beneath a balanced rock formation and a beautiful outreached tree that climbed upwards toward the sky. It was not only an “aw, that’s really nice” view; but a “brilliant, we can step outside of the tent in the middle of the night to capture star-stuff and photograph the sunrise five minutes after waking with coffee in hand” kind of view. A little dose of inspiration to kick off our park visit dedicated to “relaxness” (relaxness: noun, The state of being completely relaxed.)

Beyond the the Joshua tree forests lies a world of adventure that appeals to three important factors that compel people to enjoy it: accessibility, the draw of adventure, and inspiration.

First, it’s easy to get there–just a couple hours east of L.A. and you are traversing well-maintained scenic roads from one awesome landmark to the next. Trails start flat and rise and fall over geological formations in all directions allowing families spanning generations to head off on the same trails together, adopting exertion levels that suit their personal ability.

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A “Cinemagram” of Wally the Airstream exploring Joshua Tree.

On the adventure front, climbers find here a world-class climbing and repelling playground. Photographers visit to capture silhouettes of wonder-shaped trees against the backdrop of the sun, moon, and stars. Equines go there to ride horseback, birders to bird, mountain bikers to ride, nature walkers to walk, campers to camp… It’s the “every man” park–a true wilderness playground.

And for our hearts, there is inspiration. Famous artists and musicians have taken from Joshua Tree ideas that have manifested into creative works that we all know and love… anybody out there a fan of Dr. Seuss? How about U2, Selena, John Lennon, Victoria Williams, Keith Richards, Gram Parsons, and Jim Morrison? At a more grass-roots level, inspiration is gleaned every day in the park. One can see the very act of discovery occurring all around. Kids scamper with cotton-tail rabbits through the brush and climb upon rock formations shouting to mom or dad, “can I go up here?!” Gown-up kids stand aside Joshua Trees that are the park’s namesake taking selfies to share with their friends on Facebook and Insta. Solo explorers sit atop boulders looking into the distance taking in moments of solitude. And then, there are the Joshua Trees themselves. Like snowflakes and fingerprints, each is one of a kind. Every slight change of angle in your view produces what seems like an entirely different tree to look at. The sun shines, the birds soar, and it is just another stroke of great luck to be able to participate in the makeup of the landscape any day of the year.

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Hiking stick medallions from Joshua Tree National Park.

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15 parks down, 44 to go!

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Feel Free to Wear White

A colleague posted an inquiry to the internet about the social norms on wearing white clothing. She wondered if she flouted the protocol of wearing white between Memorial Day and Labor Day, by putting on white jeans this past Saturday — was she too early?

Her rationale was that she complied, because Memorial Day weekend by definition includes the Saturday preceding the actual holiday. A law professor, she has come up with an excellent example for explaining concepts her students should learn. Daily life demonstrates well technical principles. I am always looking for stories such as hers, because I want people to appreciate how they already are aware of legal reasoning without calling it that. I will add to her situation with analogies to driving and traffic regulations.

Her issue presents the distinction between bright-line rules and standards. Legal norms, and all conventions, come in those two distinct forms. Both can be legitimate. Although people are partial to one over the other if it favors them, we often combine them.

A bright-line rule is more rigid, with less variation from interpretation. It could be deemed objective. If it has exceptions, they also are delineated. A speed limit of 55 is a bright-line rule. Anything below that limit complies; anything above, violates. Rules are easy to administer, not subject to quarrels about implications.

A standard also can be formal, but it is flexible and might depend on circumstances. It would be regarded as more subjective. “You must operate your motor vehicle in a safe, not reckless, manner” is a standard requiring balancing of factors. What constitutes safe depends; even aside from personal preference, it is varies by time of day, weather, road conditions, traffic, etc. Standards can be adapted, producing superior substantive results from at least the authority’s perspective.

Norms that rely on numbers belong to the category of rules; norms that refer to words (“reasonable”) are along the lines of standards.

A police officer who stops you while you are behind the wheel can cite you for driving 75 or for driving dangerously. You could comply with one rule but not the other rule, driving below the limit but above what is appropriate at midnight in a blizzard over black ice around other cars, or barely above the limit but concededly without any greater risk than at the limit (an argument that does not win over the cop who pulls you over). A bright-line rule seems more strict than a standard. But it is possible to enforce either to a harsh degree.

In my friend’s case, the social norm of wearing white only seasonally is — or was — well-established. Etiquette guides attest to it. I am sure there are some fashion experts who treat it as a rule rather than standard, while others would take it as a suggestion. Even the absolute version of the bright-line rule allows the bride, but no others, that hue of dress on her special day. My wife advises me that “winter white” is an accepted cheat.

To me, “wear white between Memorial Day and Labor Day” is akin to a bright-line rule. It happens to be one I would disregard, if I wore white at all. But it looks like an admonition, not an aspiration. Even so, I see how practice might have transformed “Memorial Day” to “Memorial Day weekend.” Stores have sales honoring “Memorial Day,” and nobody takes them to task if they mark down prices on Saturday.

My friend’s concern emphasizes the importance of being exact. Both rules and standards can be ambiguous or exist in multiple versions. Are the markers Memorial Day and Labor Day, or the long weekends celebrated for each? Quite a bit can happen in a day or two. Is the norm, as I was instructed, about shoes and similar leather goods (belts)? Or does it extend to other articles of clothing?

The stakes here are not high. Family and friends are not likely to impose a great penalty on someone sporting white jeans the Saturday before Memorial Day. Her life will continue.

But in many contexts, decisions turn on a word or punctuation mark. That is because they communicate meaning, or miscommunicate it; semantics are not pointless. A contract term has been breached or satisfied if a phrase is read according to one party’s intent (as they report it after the fact), but not by the other party’s understanding. Whether a tort or a crime was committed is decided by whether an adverb modifies a dependent clause. The Oxford comma matters.

We should care about language. Mindfulness about diction and grammar is not a lawyer’s fetish. Scientists are conscientious too. “Accuracy” and “precision” are used neither accurately nor precisely. Accuracy refers to a measurement being true; precision refers to it being reproducible. In a car, a speedometer that is correct half the time but off by three miles per hour the other half the time is accurate to that degree, plus or minus three, but not precise; a speedometer that is consistently, to a fault, wrong by 25 miles per hour is quite inaccurate but equally precise.

To wear white or to wait implicates what lawyers term “jurisdiction” and “choice of law.” Law is bounded by time and place. Speed limits have been altered over time and change along the same road between urban and rural stretches.

The social norm about wearing white only in the summer may have fallen into desuetude — a Latinate term for “disuse.” Emily Post has relaxed.

My friend’s friends, in that virtual network we inhabit nowadays, commented actively on her query. More than a few were unaware that there was any bar against on wearing white during much of the year. Acquaintances lectured her on perpetuating immoral class hierarchy. The custom originated with the wealthy, wearing white at their summer home, outside the city, while at leisure. Presumably their help took care of the cleaning. A white outfit makes a man a dandy, a popinjay: witness Tom Wolfe, who was a high-brow documenting the low-brow.

Or it may be that California, with its casual attitudes, lies beyond the reach of this social norm. My wife once scolded me for leaving the house in a sport coat for an evening wedding (instead of a dark suit). When we arrived at the outdoor venue, people were in every type of outfit. I saw shorts.

No doubt other societies have their own admonitions about attire. In China, we are told, a man does not wear a green hat. It indicates he is a cuckold.

This social norm presents another distinction nicely. “Wear white only between X and Y days,” is not “malum in se” but “malum prohibitum.” Fancy terms are not uniformly pompous. There is a pair, “malum in se” and “malum prohibitum,” that have not been improved on for expressing what they do. The former refers to what is evil intrinsically, whatever the actual rule. Murder is “malum in se.” The latter refers to what is wrong, because it is prohibited. Driving 125 miles per hour is “malum prohibitum.”

My friend generated a lengthy discussion. That shows how law is a social practice. Everyone, laypeople included, engages in legal reasoning. Intellectual engagement is a pleasurable activity.

Her example is useful because it is trivial. It is only about appearances. We can talk without losing our tempers. Our ability to deliberate, not only individually but within a community, is how we set social norms. It is the essence of self-government.

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Bill Nye – Before They Were Famous

For kids who grew up in the 90s the best times in school were when your science teacher wheeled out the TV and popped in a ‘Bill Nye The Science Guy’ tape. We may not have admitted it back then, but everyone LOVED the Bill.

As we grew up Bill Nye’s Science Guy persona was phased out. We put those great science facts into the back of our minds, but Bill remained busy with his work on climate change awareness.

Now Bill Nye is back in the public eye and this time his science lessons are more grown up, but so is his audience. This generation of kids who grew up watching his antics are now in their late 20s and early 30s, many of which are working to change the world in their own right.

With the help of Nye’s strong platform, supported by COLD HARD SCIENTIFIC EVIDENCE, we can help to not destroy the entire planet. Bill Nye, and his colleagues, believe that climate change is solvable and that awareness is key. He’s even taking his battle to the non-believers like Sarah Palin who thinks she’s “as much of a scientist” as the Science Guy….

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So if you don’t want to live out the plot of Wall-E, you have to know that we can correct humanity’s destruction course and stop climate change in it’s tracks. As the man said himself, “Quit ya bitchin’; let’s get to work.”

Check out more ‘Before They Were Famous’ on Michael McCrudden’s YouTube Channel, Twitter, and Instagram.

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Halo Wars 2 For Xbox One And PC Playable At E3 2016

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Halo fans might have heard of Halo Wars 2. It’s a real-time strategy game for Xbox One and Windows 10. Since the biggest annual gaming convention is coming up next month it’s likely that we’re going to hear more about it. Microsoft has actually revealed quietly that Halo Wars 2 for Xbox One and Windows 10 PC will be showcased in playable form at E3 2016 next month.

Halo Wars 2 was first unveiled back at Gamescon. At the unveil we only got to see a CGI teaser trailer and it was said that this real-time strategy game is going to be launched in the fall of 2016. No confirmed release date has been provided yet. Halo Wars 2 is being developed by Sega’s Total War Team at The Creative Assembly.

Expect to hear more about Halo Wars 2 during Microsoft’s press event at E3 2016. The company is expected to make several interesting announcements, it’s also rumored to unveil some new Xbox hardware.

“The Halo Wars 2 team is anxiously gearing up for E3, where the game will indeed be playable,” it has been confirmed in the weekly post on the official Halo blog, though I should mention here that E3 isn’t exactly a public event, it’s largely limited to media and members of the industry.

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