On the Shelf: A How-to Guide to Broadway Musicals

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How do you produce a Broadway musical? More specifically, what does a producer do? Or even more specifically, how does a producer set about putting a Broadway musical in motion?

This is the question addressed in John Breglio’s “I Wanna Be a Producer” [Applause]. The subtitle, lest you want a more complete description: “How to Make a Killing on Broadway…or Get Killed.”

Breglio is not a producer, exactly; he spent thirty-six years as a theatrical lawyer, including a long spell as one of the pre-eminent practitioners of the craft. In the course of which he had numerous celebrated clients on the level of Sondheim, Lloyd Webber and August Wilson. Most powerful, though–for a time, at least–was Michael Bennett. The two latched onto each other early on, and when Bennett formed his own production company, Breglio was by his side. The relationship has continued since the director’s death in 1987; Breglio remains executor of Bennett’s estate. In 2006, Breglio officially turned producer, with the revival of Bennett’s A Chorus Line.

As Breglio describes it, the producer doesn’t create the show. He or she (and Breglio’s book noticeably stresses the pronoun “she” instead of “he”) is more like the ringmaster of a circus. She doesn’t fly on the trapeze, train the animals, or spritz seltzer at the clowns; rather, the producer surrounds herself with the best talent she can line up, sets them all to doing their job, and collates everything into a whole. The author goes step-by-step through the process, with most of the twenty-nine chapters focusing on a separate element: finding source material, clearing the rights, selecting authors, hiring a director, raising money, etc. He also discusses the key personnel required, including non-creative members of the team like the general manager.

Some of Breglio’s early chapters are more general than compelling, at least for readers with knowledge of the field. But this is a book about the business of Broadway, not the act of creating art. As soon as he gets to contracts–specifically, discussions of the authors agreements, royalty pools, the APC (“Approved Production Contract”), raising money–we get a primer that is invaluable for those involved in, or merely interested in, the field.

I can’t stress how good a job does explaining these matters, especially the profit pool; this is the finest and clearest explanation I’ve ever read. It helps, I suppose, that Breglio was personally involved (as an attorney) when it was developed and refined.
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John Breglio
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“I Wanna Be a Producer” is peppered with examples from real life, as Breglio illustrates the discussion with tales drawn from his involvement on such shows as A Chorus Line, Fences, Dreamgirls, Ballroom and more. Bennett is frequently cited, as are a panoply of Broadway bigshots of the era. All in all, “I Wanna Be a Producer” is a fascinating and entertaining look at just what it takes to produce a Broadway musical.
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I Wanna Be a Producer: How to Make a Killing on Broadway…or Get Killed by John Breglio is available from Applause Books

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Crazy On You

You know the song ‘Crazy on you’ by Heart? I often wondered what exactly they meant by that phrase. What does it really mean to be crazy on someone?

In all of my conversations with friends about their dating lives, one thing has become abundantly clear; men make us crazy. Women who are bright, independent people, unperturbed by work place challenges and who relish the intrigue of most of life’s curveballs, are reduced to crazy women when a man with whom they are enamored comes into the picture.

The point at which the craziness sets in varies from case to case. Sometimes it’s after one date or three. Other times, it’s before we’ve even met. They give an inch and it makes us feel like we can take a mile. An established pattern of a daily text leaves us reduced to sniveling messes when we don’t hear from them the next day. A single kind word leaves us yearning for more, fueling our lust and intrigue with each empty compliment.

All craziness is not created equal. The manner in which craziness manifests itself changes, ebbing and flowing in intensity. There are days when it’s a slow simmer and days where we literally think of nothing else but the impending blink of a text message. I think it’s safe to say we’re all obsessed with our phones. But if we normally check for texts or emails a few times an hour, when we’re waiting to hear from that special guy, it increases exponentially as we manically check our phones 10, 20, 30 times an hour.

But the texting is just the beginning. We also take to overanalyzing every single word of every single conversation, both in person and by phone. When they said they were ‘just hanging out’ that night, does it mean they’re with another woman? When after a seemingly great date, they say they had an amazing time and we’ll talk soon, does it actually mean we will?

I’ve heard stories of women who force themselves to take ‘phone breaks’–hours away from their phones–just so they can resist the temptation to reach out and contact their guy, or who check obsessively to see if they’ve heard from him. Others who will set a mental timer laying out the exact frequency with which they can check their phone. Or how about when we permit ourselves to send a solitary text only to be racked by regret immediately thereafter that we didn’t play a little harder to get and make them work a little bit more–and then obsessively await their response anyway.

To be fair, some of this craziness is a result of history proving that women should be constantly on the defensive. Guys often don’t say what they mean. Mostly, they say what they think we want to hear with zero intention of actually following through with their promises. And while on the one hand, there’s something tremendously intriguing about having a crush, and the heady mix of emotions that swoops in with every contact they make, I for one wish I could take the crush and leave the crazy. In the mean time, thanks Heart for putting into words just how these guys make us feel.

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How Moms Make Friends in the Digital Age

Before the Internet, moms met each other at Mothers’ Centers, when they dropped off and picked up their kids from nursery school, at child birth classes, in their neighborhood where moms used to knock on each others’ doors for coffee and a chat, and at work.

As time rolled on, depending on how chatty they were, moms also met at Starbucks, Legoland, and parenting groups at schools. Moms formed play date groups, had girls’ nights out, and also met at sports if they were so inclined.

Then Came Mommy Blogs!

There are now hundreds of Mommy Blogs, so how do you choose who to link up with? Searching the web myself and starting my own blog, I’ve discovered that different websites and blogs attract different mommy personalities, beliefs, and discussions.

There are varied topics on the wide range of Mommy Blogs from recipes and diapers to behavior and parenting angst. Some topics are about activities and others about parent education such as child development.

Different Mommy Personalities, Interests, and Beliefs

Different bloggers invite different levels of candor and even bluntness about “real life” as a mom. Compare Laurie Hollman, Ph.D. at Parental Intelligence to Magnolia Ripkin at Blunt Moms. The vast majority of blogging moms are cordial, mind their etiquette, are nonjudgmental, supportive and kind. A few, however, are argumentative, confrontational, and intense, not my cup of tea.

Some moms are soul searching for other moms who are adjusting to the changes motherhood brings. Some mothers want to discuss husbands, partners, stay-at-home dads, working life, and being different shapes and sizes as a female.

Then there are bloggers who are in a specific country or locale and others who span the world.

How Do You Make Friends on Mommy Blogs?

Once you’ve settled in to your favorite blogs, you find a community. This is very much the way friend groups used to form in small geographic areas before blogging. Moms find other moms who seem to think alike and feel for each other. You even find “best friends” who you can tell the “real stuff” to who reply in a jiffy when you need it.

As Relationships Deepen

In time, you can get to know who you’re talking to and to whom you can say what. Pictures and videos help you conjure up what your friend looks like which adds to the sense of knowing your new friend.
Then, certain moms begin to email so their conversations are more private than comments and replies on blog sites. These moms are focused on getting to know each other “from the inside.”

The biggest shift is when you use the telephone and hear a real voice behind the written word. Now, that’s making a friend. Or, you go to a mommy blogging conference and meet that friend or even fly across a country for a one-on-one meet!

Blogging Sites Have a Family Tone
Sometimes moms have kids of similar ages, though they benefit also if there’s a range of ages, too. With different age kids discussed on one site, moms can look forward to what’s coming and share what’s gone on already with their children. This is like any family where members are of different ages.

ALL -IN-ALL

As time flies by, which it always does when you’re a mom, you discover you are not alone. This is what friendship is about. You see in your friend’s face your reflection. You even mommy each other a bit.

Friends do that.

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Laurie Hollman, Ph.D. is a psychoanalyst who writes a blog, Parental Intelligence, that discusses parenting infants, children, and teens. She is also the author of the recent book, Unlocking Parental Intelligence: Finding Meaning in Your Child’s Behavior found on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, Familius and wherever books are sold.

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Your New Favorite Strawberry Shortcake

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Recipe from the Rodale Test Kitchen

No dessert showcases strawberries at the height of their season quite like this strawberry shortcake!

Grab some fresh berries today and try this recipe for a simple, sweet, and seasonal treat…

Strawberry Shortcake

Serves 6

Ingredients:

  • 1 pound fresh strawberries, hulled and sliced
  • 5 Tablespoons sugar, divided, plus more for sprinkling
  • 2 cups all-purpose flour, plus more as needed
  • 1 Tablespoon baking powder
  • ½ teaspoon kosher salt
  • 8 tablespoons (1 stick) cold unsalted butter, cut into ½-inch pieces
  • ½ cup buttermilk, plus more as needed
  • 1 cup whipped cream, for serving

Directions:

  1. Combine berries and 1 tablespoon sugar; let sit at room temperature 30 minutes.
  2. Heat oven to 450 degrees. Line a large baking sheet with parchment.
  3. Sift together flour, 4 tablespoons sugar, baking powder, and salt. Work in butter by hand until mixture resembles coarse meal. Stir in buttermilk until dough just comes together, adding more a tablespoon at a time as needed.
  4. Turn dough out onto a floured surface; pat into ¾-inch tall disc. Using a 3-inch round biscuit cutter, punch out as many biscuits as you can. Knead scraps together and repeat until you have 6 biscuits.
  5. Transfer to prepared pan. Brush with buttermilk; sprinkle with sugar. Bake until shortcakes are puffed and golden brown, 12 minutes. Cut open shortcakes, fill with strawberries and whipped cream, and top with more cream and berries.

Originally published on RodalesOrganicLife.com

For more from Maria Rodale, visit www.mariasfarmcountrykitchen.com

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Viola Davis on Motherhood, Harriet Tubman, Denzel Washington and <em>Fences</em> at the Maui Film Festival

“At a certain stage in life… you begin to not think of success as much as you think of significance.”

Emmy Award winner (and two-time Academy Award nominee) Viola Davis received the Navigator Award this week at the Maui Film Festival, which “honors a film artist for carving a path of distinction through the turbulent waters of the entertainment industry without sacrificing her fundamental commitment to excellence.”

Following the award presentation at the Celestial Cinema at Wailea Golf Club on June 17, 2016, you could have heard a pin drop as Ms. Davis talked with Maui journalist Rick Chatenever about her incredible career in prestige films, on must-see television, and on the stage. Their conversation ranged from playing Harriet Tubman to motherhood to working with Denzel Washington on Fences to being a “citizen of the world.”

The audience was drawn in by her magnetic presence, and she really is a class act. Prepare to be wowed.

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The 3 Things This Doctor Mom Wishes She Could Tell Her Younger Mom Self

I had no clue what I was doing when my first child was born 25 years ago.

Now, that’s true of most if not all first-time parents. As unfortunate as it may be for our children, parenthood is by definition a seat-of-your-pants, on-the-job-training kind of thing. As much as you can read and learn and get advice, the reality is that you don’t know stuff until you live it. Even as a pediatrician, that was true for me.

As I look back on my younger mom self (that one with more energy, no gray hair and taut skin), I wish I could tell her what I’ve learned through the past 25 years of day-in, day-out parenting and being a pediatrician. If I could, if I could come to her in a dream and tell her what I most want her to know, here’s what I’d say:

1. It’s okay to be strict. (I bet that wasn’t what you were expecting.) Boy, it’s hard to be strict with unruly toddlers or teenagers (ok, any age), especially when you are exhausted, when giving in stops the crying or the argument or lets you go back to sleep, when you figure you have time to teach them things later — especially when other people around you are giving in. Plus, your kids seem so much happier — and happier with you — when you aren’t strict.

Don’t do it. Don’t give in. Teach your kids that no means no, that they have to be polite and kind, that they need to tell the truth and keep their word, that there are consequences to breaking rules. Start early, and be consistent.

I have always been a strict parent, and over the years my kids have made it really clear that they didn’t like that about me in ways that made me doubt myself, big time. But now that my kids are older, I see the fruits of it: along with making overall good decisions, they are the kind of people that not just peers but parents, teachers, employers and other adults like. Which, it turns out, is really useful in life. It helps them get what they want and need. That’s the part that’s easy to forget when your kid is screaming for candy in the grocery line or your teen breaks curfew yet again. This is about life skills. I would have felt so much better back then if I’d understood that — especially if I could also have known that my kids (mostly) forgave me.

2. Relax and have fun.
This is not a contradiction of #1. It’s an addition to it. Yes, you have to be strict–but not about every last thing, and not every moment. And, more importantly, life is made up of millions of moments and chances; there is no one developmental milestone, one test, one swim meet, playdate or teacher that can make or ruin everything. I worried too much. I got too caught up the in the chores, drop-offs, pickups, report cards, swim times, birthday party invitations, college applications…and too often missed not just the child in front of me, who maybe needed something different from what I was doing, but a chance to enjoy that child and enjoy myself.

Kids can be a drag, sure, but they can be a blast too. They can be funny, snuggly, surprising–and incredibly wise. And the moments that we spend enjoying each other are the moments that end up sustaining us. I wish it hadn’t taken me so long to learn it.

3. Your kids are who they are. This is also not a contradiction of #1. I am not saying that it’s fine if your kid is the class bully or never does her homework because, hey, that’s who she is. (Don’t even get me started on “Boys will be boys.”) But too often, parents try to make their kids do or be things that just don’t work. Parents do it for all sorts of good reasons; they want their children to be successful, they think their children will like the things they do, they think things are good for them. But while we can guide our children, we can’t change them.

When my eldest was a teenager, she quit dancing rather than continue taking the ballet class I wanted her to take along with her jazz and modern dance. That was me; that was my belief that the discipline and grace of ballet were good for her, that was me wishing I’d been able to take ballet as a child. It wasn’t about her–and it was a decision we both regretted. Luckily for me I learned my lesson with a dance class and not something bigger.

It’s hard for me, but I’m finally learning to take a breath and let my children be who they are. It’s not that I don’t give advice and push and prod (of course I do). But I am slowly learning that there are things I cannot change, and that if I do my best and have a little faith, life has a way of working out.

Which my younger self would probably never believe. But boy, I wish I could tell her.

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Smug Leftism Won't Fix Whatever's Going On Right Now

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Last Sunday, I got in a fight with a man on the London Overground. A panhandler walked through our car, asking for change in a pretty low key way, and this man — white, middle-aged, didn’t look too scrappy — started muttering loudly about mugs and how the pandhandler should get a job.

“Dude, leave him alone,” I said, reaching for my headphones and thinking that’d be that. Instead, this guy ramped up, continuing to insult the man, calling him a waster, and again, shouting that he should find employment “just like the rest of us.”

“It’s not that easy,” said I. “You need to stop.” He moved on to insulting me. I put my damn headphones in. But the man kept going, and before I could find Mariah, a girl sitting opposite took over where I left off, following my line and standing up for me. Eventually, we arrived at her stop. I found Mariah, and the man continued his toxic rant.

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It’s been a week of travel, and I’m now in Berlin — waking up to find a majority of voters have chosen for the UK to leave the European Union. Guardian journo Owen Jones reported this as a working class revolt, having predicted on June 10 that “unless a working-class Britain that feels betrayed by the political elite can be persuaded, then Britain will vote to leave the European Union in less than two weeks.”

In March, 3,000 right wing demonstrators, including a cohort of neo-Nazis, marched through Mitte, the typically crisp, quiet neighbourhood that is central Berlin.

Last week, a homophobe shot and killed 49 people at Pulse nightclub in Orlando, Florida, even as Donald Trump continues to hold ground in the U.S. primaries. Facism and its precursors are feeling a little too close for comfort right now. And that’s without even acknowledging the many hate-related incidents that regularly occur in countries far less free than the democracies I’ve lived and live in.

My current home is Salford, a neighborhood in Greater Manchester historically known for its poverty. I’m in a quickly developing/gentrifying part of it on the border of one of the poorest neighborhoods in the UK, Pendleton. The contrast between the apartments rising up around me, filling in the often trash-filled landscape a short walk from the center of town, is stark, and illustrates a trend common in many so-called developed countries: pockets of prosperity slowly, or swiftly, push poverty further and further out.

The poverty doesn’t go away. It gets squeezed further to the fringes, or onto the streets. Homelessness in Manchester has risen profoundly over the last couple of years. Indeed, one in five people in the UK live below the poverty line.

Last year, sitting in a pub in Sheffield, I got into a conversation with a Jarvis Cocker-lookalike who’d just played “Common People” on the juke. Clean-cut and educated, he was in his 20s and a member of Blue Labour — and spoke of feeling betrayed by the then-current drive to accept a greater number of migrants into Britain off the back of the refugee crisis.

“What about us?” He asked. “My community’s worked hard their whole lives, yet we’re still stuck — and poor people arriving from other countries get looked out for. We get forgotten, and it’s getting worse.”

For many on the fringes, the equation is as simple as that. Poverty leads to feelings of isolation and disconnection from local processes, let alone global ones. The reason I feel so strongly about addressing the systemic, structural causes of poverty — as opposed to (only) throwing financial aid and secondhand clothes at people who live it — is not just because I think it would be nice for everyone to experience a decent quality of life, and equality of opportunity (although I think that too), but because if you don’t fix a break, it becomes infected. And infection, when left to fester, can lead to far worse things.

The increasing volume of the conservative right wing — whether at the very wealthy or very poor poles of that spectrum — doesn’t solely signal a tussle over ideologies. It’s a fight over real world shit, that’s playing out around us, right now. The very wealthy are scared to lose control of that wealth in an increasingly fragile economic climate, and the poor feel already-forgotten and fear becoming even more marginalized.

In the lead-up to the Brexit vote, I saw a number of large billboards go up throughout Salford, shouting slogans like “Turkey is joining the EU, vote leave.” Both riffing off and tapping into xenophobia, the Vote Leave campaign knew that targeting poorer neighborhoods would play in their favour, and showed no shame in doing just that.

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A Brexit billboard in Manchester, UK.

In my fledgling understanding of a complex economic, social and political global landscape, apathy seems like more and more of a fail. Smug leftism can’t continue to fly; us-and-them splits have proven themselves still strong around the world, and there are many reasons for conservative views like those expressed by my man on the train — or those still resisting improved gun control legislation in the U.S., despite last week’s massacre — to dig in their spurs.

I really didn’t think Brexit would result in a win for the Leavers, but I also couldn’t, like *most of us*, comprehend that Donald Trump would get as far as he has in the U.S. primaries. Poverty and wealth and income inequality are feeding feelings of resentment toward a political elite that have failed the working class, and helping to fuel prejudice and hate, and the actions they trigger, around the world. It’s time to drill down and address these things at a systemic level.

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Adjusting to Summer Camp for the First Time

There are so many variations of summer camps from sports camps, to science camps, to travel camps and day camps. Each offers their own opportunities for learning new skills, socializing with new and old friends, and developing independence away from home. Some kids adjust easily; others find it hard to feel a sense of belonging and get in step with the camp’s routines. How can a parent help their child adjust?

Parenting Tips on Easing Anxiety

First time experiences away from home can trigger separation anxiety at all ages. It’s typically expected from the youngest kids but tweens and teens trying out a new experience can feel it just the same.

Here are some suggestions for easing the transition:
• Both younger and older kids like to know the routines to expect. Discuss the daily activities that will be planned for them. Feeling prepared reduces anxiety.
• If your child wants to, go shopping together to get all the sports equipment needed for a sports camp or clothes and other items for a day or travel camp. Having everything that is needed ahead of time gives the child or teen the feeling that they will have a sense of belonging with other kids who will also have the same items needed.
• If it’s available, watch a video of the camp that shows the setting and kids playing. This is very reassuring because it’s like having a visit ahead of time.

Planning for Travel Camps

Travel camps offer extraordinary adventures for kids to broaden their knowledge of new places and cultures. If your teen is flying solo or going with a friend it still means getting to know new people away from home. Here are some suggestions to help them foresee what’s ahead.
• Look at maps together online even using google earth to zero in on the places that will be visited. This gives the teen a chance to get acclimated before they ever step foot out of town.
• Discuss the kinds of contact with parents they might want. Reassure them that you’re always glad to hear from them but also trust they’ll be doing fine on their own. Make an initial plan for first contacts and then be flexible as the summer moves forward.
• Review their itinerary so they are clear on when and where they’ll be going so they know what to expect.
• Learn about sleeping arrangements so they know if they will be camping, staying in hotels, or whatever the plan may be. Find out ahead who they will be sharing rooms with in hotels, for example, so they can correspond with that person ahead of time.

Preparing for Day Camps

The first time experience at a day camp raises high hopes of having a great time mixed with some trepidation about fitting in. Depending on how social your child is and how easy they make friends, preparations vary.
• For children who are on the introverted side and need to warm up to new situations, reassure them by telling them who their counselor will be. Give the camp director some tips on what may help your child get acclimated, such as the counselor meeting them at the bus with a warm greeting.
• If possible, visit the camp ahead of time just to give your child some familiarity with the layout. Maybe the director or a counselor could give a tour of the grounds, so the child realizes they won’t get lost and will be in the company of an inviting adult.
• Find out the bus route ahead of time so you can tell your child how long the trip will be. Knowing what to expect is always comforting especially the first few days.
• Days at camp are often longer than a school day and being in the sunshine all day can be exhausting. Plan to greet them at the end of the day with some quiet time with you to hear about their day and recoup their energy with a late afternoon snack.

Getting Organized for Sports Camps

Kids who go to sports camps generally love the sport and want to be good at it. These camps can be very rigorous, demanding strenuous physical activity.
• Kids grow quickly. Make sure their equipment fits well and meets the camp’s requirements.
• Although the camp may provide plenty of fluids, make sure your child knows how important it is to be hydrated and give him extra bottles of water to have on hand.
• Discuss your expectations are for having fun, not being the stellar player. This is reassuring and comforting to the kid who drives him or herself hard at being the best on the field.
• If the sports camp is away from home for an extended period of time, find out with whom your child will be rooming so they can make contact before opening day. This eases a sense of security for those who need it when it’s their first time away from home.

Most important, regardless of the camp, is for the kids to have a good time. They will be wondering about your expectations for them, not only their own. Make sure to tell them you want them to enjoy themselves and will help them over any rough patches as the summer goes on. Share in their excitement that they are going to have a new experience and you’re behind them 100%!

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Laurie Hollman, Ph.D., is a psychoanalyst and author of Unlocking Parental Intelligence: Finding Meaning in Your Child’s Behavior found on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, Familius and wherever books are sold.

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Creating Change Is A Team Sport

Bill Shankly, a successful football manager of yesteryear and a maverick in the eyes of many once said, “Some people believe football is a matter of life and death, I am very disappointed with that attitude. I can assure you it is much, much more important than that”. Over the past 12 years, my experiences have brought those words to life.

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As a young adult I experienced something that shouldn’t exist: homelessness.

The death of my father led me on a downward spiral which saw me spend almost two years of my life as a homeless young person. Being homeless isn’t nice, I lost everything. Being homeless doesn’t just take away the roof from above your head, it often disconnects you from the society you once felt part of. The stigma of homelessness meant I disconnected myself from family and friends as I was ashamed of what had happened. I was broken by the hopeless person I felt I had become, my confidence was non-existent, I lost every ounce of self-respect and I spent most days waiting for it to end.

Back in 2003, Glasgow was home to some of the worst homeless hostels in the country. Often dubbed ‘open prisons’, the hostels were notorious for violence and drug dealers and only offered a basic ‘urine scented’ room. The staff members were nice, but instead of support workers, there were mainly janitors and security guards!

Thankfully after months of living there, I was offered a place at a young person’s supported accommodation, which provided me support and finally a feeling of safety albeit I was still ‘homeless’.

The rope that pulled me out a dark hole.

One day, I saw a poster advertising try-outs for a Scottish team to take part in a World Cup. It’s not often these days to associate a Scottish Football Team with a World Cup (hopefully in 2018 though!) but this was the Homeless World Cup, a tournament (in its second year) which united homeless people by football. With my confidence low, I forced myself along to the trials and luckily secured myself a spot on the team.

After being selected, I would meet up with the team and play football twice a week. Although this is something that most of us would take for granted, these basic football sessions gave me some hope. The training gave me structure to the week, a feeling of belonging and it triggered positive lifestyle changes both on and off the pitch. I was doing extra fitness training, eating better, not drinking as much and suddenly it wasn’t just my physical health improving, my mental health improved too. With a positive mindset, I went to the 2004 Homeless World Cup.

It’s easy to assume that playing for your country would be the biggest game-changer, but actually it wasn’t. It was the people I met. One guy from Namibia taught me a valuable lesson in gratitude. When chatting one day, I asked him the question, what’s next after the Homeless World Cup? He replied, “happiness”. This man lived in a place where education and training opportunities were limited, there were little or no job opportunities and the healthcare system was out of reach. His country didn’t have a welfare system like here in the UK and although it could be better, it served its purpose for me. For the first time since I can remember, I felt blessed.

When I returned to Scotland, I realized that even though I was still in temporary accommodation and homeless, I had the confidence and opportunity to change it. So I did. The football sessions stopped, but I started volunteering at a kids football club. Once I got my own home, I decided to study community development at college whilst gaining football coaching certificates. I then decided to commit my time to working in the community, combining supporting homeless people and coaching kids football. In 2009 I decided that I wanted to try and give other people the chance to change their lives using football, so I quit my job and set up Street Soccer Scotland, a social enterprise which uses football to create positive social change in the lives of socially disadvantage adults and young people.

We started with a £3,000 grant, working at the end of someone’s desk and running a weekly football session. This soon developed into delivering 32 weekly programs for around 1,000 attendees each week across eight regions in Scotland. We now deliver free drop-in football sessions, personal development and education courses. We have also helped represent Team Scotland at the Homeless World Cup (twice World Champions — believe it or not) and since 2009, over 10,000 people have engaged in our service. Many of whom, (not all) have made significant positive changes in their lives, which is great. But change can only happen only with the help of others. Our players become peer mentors to one another, supporting and encouraging each other when times are tough. Former players often give their time to volunteer and help out. As an organization, we work together with mental health charities and Addiction Centers to provide support to players when they need it. The government also supports our work by investing into key areas of our work. For example, businesses such as the Royal Bank of Scotland provide support financially but they also get their staff involved in volunteering. So when I say change is a Team Sport, I really mean it. Without my teammates, and the people around me, I wouldn’t have changed my life. Without the support of everyone mentioned above, Street Soccer Scotland wouldn’t be able to create change in other people’s lives.

@MrDavidDuke
Founder & Chief Executive of Street Soccer Scotland
www.streetsoccerscotland.org

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