The Lies of John McCain

In a disgusting moment of ‘straight talk’ from Senator John McCain (R-AZ) this week, the former Republican Presidential nominee claimed that President Obama was “directly responsible” for the violent and deadly carnage at the Pulse nightclub in Orlando. The senior Senator from Arizona quickly backtracked, offering a Washington-style apology in which he clarified that he “misspoke” and didn’t mean to imply that President Obama was “personally” responsible, simply that it was his policies that led to the death of 49 people and the wounding of another 53.

The Senator’s comments, despite his attempt to backtrack, are offensive and outrageously tone deaf at a moment when our nation needs solidarity and unity. Worse, his comments are also a distortion of the truth and must be called out for what they are: a lie.

Senator McCain’s argument boils down to the following: President Obama, by removing US combat troops from Iraq and not militarily intervening in the Syrian civil war, is responsible for the rise of ISIS, and thus the carnage in Orlando.

Let’s start with some simple fact checking. The departure of American military forces from Iraq was negotiated under the Bush Administration. When President Obama came to office, having soundly defeated Senator McCain (who famously promised to keep US troops in Iraq for 100 years), Obama actually sought to negotiate a new Status of Forces Agreement with Iraqi Prime Minister Maliki that would allow as many as 10,000 US troops to stay in Iraq. The Iraqis refused. After a decade of occupation, there was no political will or support for Iraqi leaders to keep thousands of American soldiers on the streets of Iraq, and so no agreement could be reached.

Senator McCain also believes that Obama’s refusal to violently overthrow Syria’s government — the way we had a decade earlier in Iraq — led to the shooting at Pulse. Here, Senator McCain is on stronger footing inasmuch as President Obama has in fact refused to take direct military action against Bashar al Assad and to engage in regime change in Syria. But while Daesh (also referred to as ISIS or ISIL) undoubtedly gained power in the chaos of Syria’s civil war, it owes its origins to the invasion of Iraq, of which, lest we forget, Senator McCain championed.

Daesh emerged from al-Qaeda in Iraq, which arose during the Sunni opposition to the Iraq War. It’s well remembered that, despite the lies of the Bush Administration, there was no al-Qaeda presence in Iraq prior to the US invasion. That disastrous war of choice brought al-Qaeda to Iraq, which subsequently spawned Daesh. As unpleasant as that recent history is, Senator McCain cannot be forgiven for ignoring the reality of the origins of the violent extremism he now pins on Obama’s shoulders. Daesh’s ranks are filled with those indoctrinated with hatred fueled in part by the torture of Abu Ghraib and Guantanamo Bay, the dark reality of military occupation, and the brutal repression of Sunnis at the hands of the Maliki and Assad regimes, two governments openly, substantively, and recently supported by America.

If one were feeling generous, you might allow McCain a ‘half-truth’ for claiming that America’s slow response to the horrors of the Syrian revolution turned civil war. But the reality is that Sen. McCain has openly advocated for policies that had little chance to improve the situation and may have made things even worse. Let’s set aside the fact that Daesh drives American tanks and fires American guns that they looted from the $25 billion army American taxpayers built in Iraq. Sen. McCain’s argument essentially boils down to ‘Obama should have attacked the Assad regime and done more to arm and train Syrian rebels.’

The truth is that America has spent hundreds of millions of dollars arming and training Syria’s various rebels. In some cases, those forces have handed their guns over to al-Qaeda affiliates, while others have turned their guns on other rebel groups that America has also armed and trained. Sen. McCain’s argument boils down to ‘We should have done more of this and sooner.’ Not exactly compelling.

The core of Senator McCain’s argument is that we should have done more to violently overthrow the Assad regime. In particular, he is likely amongst those who believe President Obama failed when he did not bomb Assad following the alleged use of chemical weapons in 2013. Again, history tells a reality at odds with McCain’s wishes. Having been abandoned by our allies, including the British who announced they wanted no part in a military attack on Assad, President Obama turned to Congress to authorize military action against Assad. McCain was, of course, one of the loudest supporters, even earning private meetings at the White House to discuss the plans with the President.

But here’s the thing, we live in a democracy and the American public, when asked their opinion, responded with a resounding and unequivocal ‘hell no’ to the planned war. Congress was inundated with calls 100 to 1 against bombing Syria, and, faced with such overwhelming opposition, was set to reject the requested war authorization. Confronted with this reality, President Obama dispatched Secretary of State Kerry to make a deal with Russia. In an overlooked diplomatic masterpiece, Assad was forced by his Russian backers to not only acknowledge a chemical weapons stockpile he had always denied, but to hand it over to international organizations to destroy. Within months, that’s exactly what happened.

However one feels about America’s policy towards Syria, we should all agree that the carnage and death in Syria would be far, far worse if Syria’s chemical weapons had remained in Assad’s hands, or worse, fallen into Daesh’s hands as they almost assuredly would have done as they overran numerous previous chemical weapons storehouses not long after the weapons were removed. Had the Obama administration listened to Senator McCain and intervened militarily, Daesh would have likely held and deployed major stockpiles of chemical weapons by now.

Senator McCain is wrong in his belief that we should have overthrown Assad through military force. It is hard to look at the carnage and bloodshed in Iraq, Libya, and Afghanistan today and see any basis for thinking that this argument holds any merit. It is far more likely that a US military intervention would have continued to fuel the same instability we saw in Iraq where Daesh was created or in Libya and Afghanistan, where it is gaining strength today. Sen. McCain’s own arguments fail to pass a basic bar of common sense, and history has shown them to be dangerously at odds with reality.

This is not to say America should not be doing more to stop the violence in Syria, including holding Assad responsible for horrific war crimes. We can and we should, but we have options for doing so that go beyond airstrikes and ground troops.

The reality though is that Sen. McCain is allowed to continue spilling lies and false history like this because of a simple fact, we lack accountability. Ironically, while Sen. McCain wants to hold President Obama accountable for his policies, it is an accounting of the consequences of McCain’s own preferred policies that is truly needed if we want to understand America’s disastrous failures in the Middle East. If John McCain wants to hold someone accountable, he should look in the mirror.

A quarter century of US military intervention in Iraq, supported by Senator McCain, has brought a failed state, brutal sectarian violence, and the fuel for a global violent insurgency. The core of McCain’s constant calls for more deployments is his belief that American troops can overcome centuries of hostility and sectarian conflict. Never does McCain explain how 10,000 troops in Iraq would have accomplished what 100,000 failed to do between 2003 and 2011. Our troops are perhaps the most amazing fighting force in history, but they’re not magical, and they cannot win wars that have no military solution.

The simple reality is that we cannot bomb our way to peace in the Middle East, no matter what John McCain thinks. And, until the Senator from Arizona wants to apologize for the disastrous consequences of the policies he advocated, he can kindly shut up. It would be disgusting and untrue to say that Senator McCain is directly responsible for the actions of a deranged young man who walked into a gay nightclub in Orlando with death in his heart. But if he wants to talk about who is responsible for the violence and chaos of the Middle East, let’s have that debate.

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Consultation: Your Expertise Is Valuable

I get emails all the time asking questions about how I started my own school, emails that I gladly answer, but usually end up going no further than an initial contact, for whatever reason. This weekend however, I had the pleasure of doing my first full on-site consultation, face to face, across state lines, which started out as an email. I was so excited. Hearing how this client’s philosophy aligned with my own and getting to pass on some tried and true methods was such an honor.

So when I was driving back, I began thinking, how could I do more of this? And I began brainstorming for the next three hours.

These are the three top things to do if you want to do more consultation work, and of course get paid for your time:

Establish your brand. Our publisher at The Educator’s Room has written some great pieces on just this topic. (READ ABOUT THEM HERE) Having a brand is so very important, and it’s even more important to tell others about your brand. Never discount what you stand for and what you bring to the table. This client found me through my writing, namely the piece I wrote on starting my own school (READ IT HERE). Starting a school is what I’m known for. Everything else I do is the icing on the cake. Don’t be ashamed to brag on what you do. You’ve worked hard to get where you are and you have information that will benefit others. Let them know what you have to offer.

Answer your emails. Once your brand is out there for others to see, be sure to respond to the emails asking about your brand. Other people will want to know more about you and what you have to offer. Never just wave off correspondence from people who are asking questions about YOU. One or more of those emails may lead to someone wanting you to come teach them what you know. Not everyone possesses your expertise, and don’t tell yourself that they do.

Believe in your intellectual property. I used to roll my eyes when someone would mention intellectual property. You bet I’m a believer now. I have fourteen years of experience with school start-up, in all aspects. Very few people have attempted to do what I’ve done and been successful at it. I now realize the value I have in that experience, knowing what works and what doesn’t work, knowing what laws exist and what policies need to be followed. Do not discount your knowledge! Remember that you are the expert in your expertise. Don’t be embarrassed to acknowledge that.

Once people are interested in what you have to offer, you’ll need to figure out what services you are willing to provide and what prices you will charge. You should always get paid for the services you offer, even just advising. You are giving important knowledge to others, just like when you teach. You deserve to get paid for passing on that knowledge.

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When He Wants Sex But She Doesn't

Remember the time in your relationship when sex was spontaneous, fun, and frequent? You’d both jump into bed eager for the physical closeness and the sexual interludes that would follow.
But as the years went by, suddenly she is not as interested as she once was. Suddenly, more often than not, when you crawl into bed, she is already laying on her side facing away from you. You gently caress her shoulder to assess her interest and right away, she not only gives you the proverbial cold shoulder but also the terse “not tonight” response.

When desire is missing

What happened men ask? His sexual desire is as strong and vibrant as ever but hers has fallen to the wayside. This is not an unusual scenario being played out in bedrooms across the United States. Women, who still love their husbands or partners, have found more of a desire to simply get a good night’s sleep than to have a wild rumble in bed.

It’s estimated that 24 million women in the United States lack interest in sex according to a study published in the Journal of the American Medical Association.

The lack of interest appears to peak when a woman is in her thirties and early forties before most women have begun to enter into the phase of menopause. Often blamed for this downward spiral of sexual desire is a weakened libido due to a progressive decline in estrogen levels that start during this time of a woman’s life.
This makes sense but there are also many other factors involved putting up roadblocks to a couple’s intimate relationship.

During a woman’s thirties and forties is an extremely busy time. Whether she is working outside the home or not, caregiving of children and their busy schedules along with caregiving of aging parents puts a strain on her formally more carefree lifestyle manifesting itself by putting on the brakes in the bedroom. Along with all the activities and responsibilities she faces, chronic sleep deprivation can arise causing women to lose precious hours of needed rest. She feels tired, angry, and resentful and the last thing she wants is one more person asking her to give of herself.

Women who have been in a long-term relationship may be bored with “the usual” when it comes to sex. If the relationship has become routine with hardly any spark of newness, she may view it as feeling less personal and more of a chore. When sex isn’t mutually pleasurable for both her and him – and usually it’s him that does get the pleasure – she may lose desire in feeling like she is being used and missing out on a satisfactory sex life.

Depression among women can be another issue leading to a loss of interest in sex. This is when a woman needs to seek advice from her physician on whether an anti-depressant may be an answer in helping her discover more joy in life.

Other contributing factors possibly inhibiting libido can be oral contraceptives, an underactive thyroid, and blood-pressure-lowering medications.

Igniting sexual desire

What does it take to light the fire to where a couple once again resumes a mutually satisfying sexual relationship?

It starts with both the man and woman stepping back and really talking about what each of them want out of their sex life. Plan a time outside of the bedroom to simply discuss if their sexual needs are being met, what works and what doesn’t, how frequent does each person want sex, and most importantly is for him to ask her “What can I do for you to make you more interested in sex?”

He needs to be prepared for whatever she will tell him and then be a man of honor and do what she asks. It might be doing more household chores, paying more bills, driving children to activities, doing yard work or simply giving her a massage every night.

When couples actively work together on sexual issues, the outcome can be greater and more fulfilling than expected. But if it seems like you’re both struggling to be on the same page of intimacy, then it may be time to see a therapist. They can guide you through this delicate time so that neither one of you is blaming the other for situations out of your control and more importantly, it helps her get back that loving feeling once again.

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After Orlando: What Would The Buddha Say?

The call for a moment of silence to honor victims of the largest mass shooting in U.S. history, prompted some members of the U.S House of Representatives to walk out in protest of what Rep. Jim Himes called the “faux concern, contrived gravity and tepid smugness of a House complicit in the weekly bloodshed.”

“Congress: We are not interested in your thoughts and prayers. We are interested in your gun control policies,” reads a meme widely circulated on social media, in the aftermath of the massacre that took the lives of 49 people and injured at least 53 more at a gay nightclub in Orlando, Florida.

On Wednesday, U.S. Senate Democrats showed a commitment to move from words to action, launching an almost 15-hour filibuster to push for passage of legislation restricting gun purchases.

Outrage, frustration, sorrow, fury–these are among the feelings infusing new energy into a push to translate feelings into action in the aftermath of what is widely seen as yet another preventable tragedy perpetrated by a single man wielding an assault weapon.

I could not be more on board. But as someone who works in the world of words–who devotes much of my time to expanding the presence of women’s and other under-represented voices in the public arena–I also find myself grappling with the question of how. Yes, we must move beyond words–but we can only do so through words. How can we make our words count–and do so in a way that is true to our deepest values?

This question has particular resonance as I prepare to lead an interfaith program aimed at helping members of diverse clergies reach wider audiences with their ideas and words. My own spirituality is eclectic–my childhood Sunday School Christianity having long since blossomed into a deep appreciation for all faiths with a commitment to tolerance and love. One of these is Buddhism, and like so many spiritual eclectics, I’ve spent my share of time in meditation halls, exploring a religion that has as one of its central teachings the notion of “right speech.”

If you propose to speak, always ask yourself, is it true, is it necessary, is it kind? These words are widely attributed to The Buddha and pretty much in line with Buddhist teachings as I’ve come to understand them. Interestingly, however, the precise phrasing appears to be not from The Buddha but rather the title of a Victorian poem by one Mary Ann Pietzker, published in 1872 by Griffith and Farran of London. (“Oh! Stay, dear child, one moment stay/ Before a word you speak . . .”)

I mention this curious bit of trivia to make the point that Buddhist teachings on right speech are not unique to Buddhism but also deeply engrained in our larger culture. Be kind. Tell the truth. These are familiar exhortations–the terrain of manners as well as morals. But do they really translate to today’s realities? How to respond when anger and lies are fast propelling a candidate towards the U.S. presidency–when the fastest way to impact often appears to be through fanning emotions?

A core tenet of the “Write to Change the World” seminars I teach through the nonprofit OpEd Project is that we seek to change minds through true facts, through evidence-based arguments–and that the most powerful arguments are grounded in empathy and respect for opposing viewpoints. These are, to my mind, beautiful teachings, in line with Buddhist notions of right speech as well as traditional norms. But are they commensurate to the Age of Rage?

In recent months, I’ve thought a lot about this, and ultimately for me, the answer is–the answer must be–Yes. Implicit in this response is a conviction that speaking truth, grounding our arguments in facts, is fundamental to democracy–you might call it the rhetorical equivalent of the rule of law. It is at the heart of who I want to be and the kind of world that I want to inhabit and leave to future generations.

As for kindness–empathy and respect–they are strategies as well as values. How often have you been persuaded to change your mind by someone angrily shouting at you (or the virtual equivalent)? If our goal is to change minds, we need to speak in ways that make it easy for people to listen. We know from research–like here and here–as well as personal experience that simply being “right” is rarely enough. Rather, we are well-served by recognizing that an argument is necessarily a partnership where, in the words of Julia Galef “you together are trying to figure out the right answer.”

That said, kindness does not mean turning a blind eye to hatred, violence, or injustice. Quite to the contrary. Buddhist teacher Sharon Salzberg tells a story about a terrifying encounter in Calcutta, when she was grabbed out of a rickshaw in a dark alley. Her teacher’s response when, still shaken, she later described the incident: “Oh Sharon, with all the loving kindness in your heart, you should have taken your umbrella and hit that man over the head with it!” It’s all about intention: Don’t strike out with the primary intention of doing harm. Do take wise action to protect (whether yourself or others).

Words are not something apart from action – they are both action in themselves and pave the way for real-world change. It’s long been said that the pen is mightier than the sword. Will the (virtual) pen prove mightier than the Sig Sauer MCX? The answer will be up to us.

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Blake Lively Can't Help But Gush About Her Daughter On 'Today'

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Blake Lively is really loving this whole motherhood thing. 

The 28-year-old actress, who’s expecting baby number two with her husband, Ryan Reynolds, appeared on the “Today” show Monday morning, and she couldn’t help but gush about her family.

Lively was on the show to promote her new shark thriller “The Shallows,” which hits theaters this weekend. She revealed that Reynolds, who starred in his own isolation thriller called “Buried,” was a huge motivation for her to take the role.

“[Buried] was, I think, even harder to do because you have to carry a movie in a box. At least I got these beautiful settings and a shark to help me,” she said, adding, “An isolation film is tough. It’s you the whole time and your imagination.” 

The conversation quickly shifted to Lively and Reynolds’ 1-year-old daughter, James. 

When asked if their little girl is doing anything exciting at the moment, Lively responded, “She’s always doing something fun and exciting. She’s the most fun, funny human being I’ve ever been around in my life.”

The actress then quipped that her and Reynolds “are officially breeders,” as they both come from big families and hope to have their own in the future. 

“You can go on our website and we will give you some of our children,” she joked. 

“The Shallows” hits theaters June 24. 

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Don't Tell Me To Feel Safe. Just Don't.

Opening my eyes, I feel innocent and free. Happy even. And then the world descends upon me.

I remember.

Orlando. Newtown. Boston Marathon bombing. 911. Syria. And on. And on. And on. And on.

Orlando was one of 43 shootings in the United States on June 12. One of 43.

I remember that I have an event to go to. Out in public. In front of many people.

And it doesn’t feel safe.

Please don’t tell me we can’t live this way. That I can’t live this way, in fear.

People die. They die, not believing that they will die that day, in that way.

How do we live this way?

How do I feel safe in an unsafe world?

Please stop telling me that I shouldn’t feel unsafe.

I feel unsafe because in this country, where I live, it’s become less and less safe.

I don’t feel unsafe because I’m over protective. I don’t feel unsafe because I’m anxious. Or neurotic. Or paranoid.

I feel unsafe because people go places that they think are safe and then they find out they are wrong. They go to work because they think it’s safe and they are wrong. They go to places to enjoy themselves or push themselves or ask questions. And they think it’s safe.

We mourn them because they think it’s safe and then they are killed.

I’m not missing anything. There’s no dot that I have left unconnected.

I feel unsafe because the world is unsafe.

And every single time I start to feel safe again, something happens again.

Something.

A shooting.

A bombing.

A murder.

Don’t put it on me that I feel unsafe.

That’s all I ask.

It’s ok that I feel unsafe in an unsafe world.

It’s what I do next, what we do, that is going to matter most.

So feeling unsafe, I go. I go out to places that don’t feel safe. Places that I never worried about before.

I feel fear, when and where I never have before. In my throat, as I try to swallow. In my stomach, which is
rumbling and not from hunger. In my legs, that sometimes tremble when there’s been no physical exertion.

I feel it overwhelming me, washing over me. I feel myself drowning in it.

And there are no simple answers. No miraculous fixes. The fear is present and real.

But I slowly swim up. Because I see the loving faces around me. And some I recognize and many I
do not.
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I see friendly faces. I see love. Compassion. Humor even.

I see you.

And I see me.

And the fear slowly circles around the drain.

Gone.
For now.

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HUFFPOST HILL – Trump Regains Control Of Message By Reminding Everyone About That Deeply Disturbed Man He Employed

Online headline writers furiously mixed beakers, wiped their brows and drew equations on chalkboards as they devised Corey Lewandowski / “Game of Thrones” headlines. GQ published a profile of Hope Hicks, who rose to the top of the GOP communications world without putting the cryptic “GOP comms guru” in her Twitter profile. And Tim Cook will host a fundraiser for Paul Ryan, because nothing is more on-brand for the “I’m a Mac, You’re A PC” company than to associate itself with Republicans from Wisconsin. This is HUFFPOST HILL for Monday, June 20th, 2016:



Current mood.

SENATE PRIMED FOR GUN VOTE – Alan Fram and Mary Clare Jalonick: “A divided Senate hurtled Monday toward an election-year stalemate over curbing guns, eight days after Orlando’s mass shooting horror intensified pressure on lawmakers to act but left them gridlocked anyway — even over restricting firearms for terrorists. Each party was offering one plan it said would keep terrorists from obtaining firearms and a second bolstering the existing system of background checks for gun purchases. Democrats said the GOP proposals were unacceptably weak, Republicans faulted the Democrats’ plans as overly restrictive and all four proposals faced likely defeat in largely party-line votes.” [AP]

PAUL RYAN DONS BACKWARDS BASEBALL CAP, BENCH PRESSES FBI INTO SUBMISSION – Looks like the speaker put two spoonfuls of Get Outta My Whey Protein into this situation. Josh Gerstein: “The FBI reversed itself and publicly issued a complete transcript of a 911 call from the Orlando nightclub shooter Monday afternoon after coming under withering criticism from House Speaker Paul Ryan and other Republicans for deleting references to the Islamic State group as well as the group’s leader, Abu Bakr Al-Baghdadi. A version of the text of the 50-second call between an Orlando 911 dispatcher and shooter Omar Mateen disclosed Monday morning, included his claim of responsibility for the shooting, but was edited to remove Mateen’s mention of ISIL and of Al-Baghdadi….’Selectively editing this transcript is preposterous. We know the shooter was a radical Islamist extremist inspired by ISIS. We also know he intentionally targeted the LGBT community,’ Ryan said.” [Politico]

LEWAN – OUT- SKI – Trump lightly took Lewandowski by the wrist and the now former campaign manager tripped out the door. Jill Colvin and Jonathan Lemire: “Donald Trump fired his hard-charging campaign manager, Corey Lewandowski, in a dramatic shake-up designed to calm panicked Republican leaders and reverse one of the most tumultuous stretches of Trump’s unconventional White House bid. Lewandowski, in some ways as brash and unconventional as the candidate himself, had been by Trump’s side since the beginning of his unlikely rise to presumptive GOP nominee. But he clashed with longtime operatives brought in to make the seat-of-the-pants campaign more professional. The former conservative activist played a central role in daily operations, fundraising, and Trump’s search for a running mate, but Lewandowski’s aggressive approach also fueled near-constant campaign infighting that complicated Trump’s shift toward the general election. Reached on Monday, Lewandowsky deflected any criticism of his approach, pointing instead to campaign chairman Paul Manafort. ‘Paul Manafort has been in operational control of the campaign since April 7. That’s a fact,’ Lewandowski said, declining to elaborate on his dismissal.” [AP]

TRUMP’S KIDS ORCHESTRATED LEWANDOWSKI OUSTER – Gabriel Sherman: “At around 9:30 Monday morning, Donald Trump and his adult children gathered for a regular strategy meeting at Trump Tower. Also present were senior staff, including Corey Lewandowski, the campaign’s embattled manager….the candidate’s children, who have been involved in strategy from the beginning, saw an opening to achieve a shared goal: Fire Lewandowski. According to two sources briefed on the events, the meeting was a setup. Shortly after it began, the children peppered Lewandowski with questions, asking him to explain the campaign’s lack of infrastructure. ‘They went through the punch list. ‘Where are we with staffing? Where are we with getting the infrastructure built?’ one source explained. Their father grew visibly upset as he heard the list of failures. Finally, he turned to Lewandowski and said, ‘What’s your plan here?’ Lewandowski responded that he wanted to leak Trump’s vice-president pick. And with that, Lewandowski was out.” [NYMag]

Message discipline: “A top adviser to Donald Trump resigned Monday after sending a mocking tweet about just-fired campaign manager Corey Lewandowski, a campaign source tells CNN. Michael Caputo, a Trump adviser and head of the communications for Trump’s caucus operations team, tweeted ‘Ding Dong the witch is dead’ following the news that Lewandowski had been fired.” [CNN]

DELANEY DOWNER – AP: “A federal officer says a man arrested at a Donald Trump rally in Las Vegas told authorities he tried to grab an officer’s gun so he could kill the candidate. A complaint filed Monday in U.S. District Court in Nevada charges Michael Steven Sandford with an act of violence on restricted grounds.” [AP]

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MEET HOPE HICKS, TRUMP’S PRESS WHISPERER – And by “press whisperer” we mean “press aide who won’t email you back.” Olivia Nuzzi: “I wanted Hicks to help me understand just how all this had come to pass, how a person who’d never worked in politics had nonetheless become the most improbably important operative in this election. But she declined my request to talk. Instead, she arranged something more surreal: I could talk about her with Donald Trump, in front of her …'[Corey Lewandowski] made her cry a bunch of times,'[adviser Sam] Nunberg said. In Nunberg’s telling, Lewandowski said to Hicks, ‘You made a big fucking mistake; you’re fucking dead to me.’ Lewandowski declined to either confirm or correct Nunberg’s recollection. ‘I don’t recall the specifics of that,’ he told me. ‘I can say definitively that I don’t recall the specific incident that you’re referring to.'” [GQ]

Benjy Sarlin and Sam petulla break down Trump’s primary numbers and provide a deep look at his supporters.

APPLE DOESN’T HATE ALL REPUBLICANS, JUST THAT REPUBLICAN – Tony Romm: “Apple CEO Tim Cook will host a fundraiser with House Speaker Paul Ryan next week as the iPhone maker tries to strengthen its relationships with key Republicans — despite its decision to pull support for the GOP convention because of its distaste for Donald Trump. Cook will help generate cash for Ryan at a private breakfast on June 28 in Menlo Park, Calif., along with Gary Wipfler, the company’s treasurer, according to an invite obtained by POLITICO on Monday. The money benefits not only the speaker but a joint fundraising committee aimed at helping to elect other House Republicans.” [Politico]

Couldn’t have happened to a nicer guy: “Dennis Hastert’s attorney says the former U.S. House speaker will report to a federal prison in southeastern Minnesota this week to begin serving a 15-month sentence in his hush-money case. Washington, D.C.,-based attorney Thomas Green confirmed Monday in an email that the Illinois Republican will report to the Rochester Federal Medical Center. Hastert has a Wednesday afternoon deadline to report.” [AP]

HIGH COURT RULES FOR POLICE IN 4TH AMENDMENT CASE, SOTOMAYOR STAYS WOKE – “The case had asked the justices to decide whether evidence uncovered during an unlawful police stop could be used against the person in possession of it — a question that requires an interpretation of the Fourth Amendment‘s prohibitions against unreasonable searches and seizures…Justice Sonia Sotomayor on Monday seemed to address the people most affected by unfortunate encounters with the police — black and brown Americans. ‘Do not be soothed by the opinion’s technical language: This case allows the police to stop you on the street, demand your identification, and check it for outstanding traffic warrants—even if you are doing nothing wrong,’ Sotomayor wrote in the opening paragraph of her response to Utah v. Strieff, which the court decided in a 5-3 vote.” [HuffPost]

Also this: “The Supreme Court on Monday declined to review a sweeping ban on so-called ‘assault weapons’ enacted in the wake of the 2012 shooting at Sandy Hook Elementary School in Newtown, Connecticut.” [HuffPost’s Cristian Farias]

AMERICA DISAPPOINTING VICTIMS OF CONFLICTS WE HELPED START, PT. 305,111,946 – Willa Frej: “[T]he crisis in Syria, which produced almost 5 million refugees according to UNHCR, has become the subject of particular concern. In September, Secretary of State John Kerry declared that the U.S. would go from taking in 70,000 refugees per year to accepting 85,000 in fiscal year 2016 and 100,000 in the year after that… It’s unlikely that the United States will resettle a total of 85,000 refugees in the 2016 fiscal year, let alone 10,000 Syrians, according to experts. Since Oct. 1, 2015, 2,805 Syrians have been resettled across the U.S., according to the State Department’s Bureau of Population, Refugees and Migration’s latest figures, released after May 31, 2016. That’s almost 30 percent of the 10,000 goal.” [HuffPost]

POWERFUL AND WEALTHY MAN GETTING HUGE GOVERNMENT BAILOUT – One percenter security, right here. John Wagner: “Although Hillary Clinton has clinched the party’s nomination, Sanders retains one of the trappings of a top-notch candidate: A team of agents still guards him at his home, where they’ve constructed a small watch station on the property. They travel with him on commercial and charter flights and use a motorcade to whisk him through cities he visits. And they marched alongside him during a gay-pride event here in his hometown after the Orlando shootings. Such round-the-clock protection can cost taxpayers more than $38,000 a day. And with the potential for the Secret Service to be watching over Sanders through the Democratic convention in Philadelphia in five weeks, taxpayers may get stuck with a big security bill long after his campaign receded from the daily cable-news cycle.” [WaPo]

BECAUSE YOU’VE READ THIS FAR – Here’s a baby who has a love-hate relationship with cranberries.



If you want to despair over the state of journalism, watch tronc’s internal video on “content.”

COMFORT FOOD

– Really lazy package delivery.

– Painting a portrait of Eminem with spaghetti.

– Pianist performs in the Arctic Ocean.

TWITTERAMA

@fshakir: Did Lewandowski at least get the fancy limo ride after being told he was fired? I hear contestants find that cathartic.
@kramtrak: “THIS is the point at which Trump starts running a real campaign” is the new “THIS is the point at which Trump starts losing primaries”

@BobbyBigWheel: TRUMP: I’m gonna say it
COREY: Please don’t
TRUMP: I gotta
COREY: No…
TRUMP: You’re fired
COREY: Damn, he said it

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How Technology Has Made Our Kids Smarter Than Ever

The argument over whether technology is making people smarter or stupider has become something of an eternal debate over the years. One study revealed that the cognitive ability of people has increased continuously since 1930.

Some people agree that it’s making people smarter and others think that the Internet only makes you think you are smarter. Another study says that 90% of people are suffering from so-called digital amnesia.

MEL Science is one company that believes kids are smarter than ever before, but there’s still a place for offline learning. Through combining the power of the Internet and two innovative chemistry sets, they are determined to help children continue their education.

With the help of MEL Science, this guide is going to explain to you why technology has actually increased how smart kids are.

More Information than Ever

Try getting a kid to do their homework or read a book. Parents have been screaming at their kids to do something useful since the invention of education. These days they don’t have to do that because they’re doing it of their own accord via Google.

The difference is they have a library of information at their disposal. Previously, if you wanted to find out about a subject you had to go to the library and find the right book. Now all you have to do is type it into Google and you’ll soon come across a Wikipedia page on that subject. The difference is you didn’t have to move and it happened in less than ten seconds.

The sheer wealth of information alone is one reason why kids are smarter than ever before.

Doing it For Fun

Education and learning used to be something that kids found boring. Nobody likes to sit in front of a dusty textbook all day. They want to do something fun. That’s why MEL Science makes their products practical. Kids still learn the theory, but they have a blast doing it.

Kids these days are using technology to find out new things because they want to not because they have to. Learning is something that’s happening passively.

But What About the Crutch Argument?

The argument that technology is acting as a crutch is a common one, particularly since millennials have become a dirty word. It works like this. The majority of people who believe technology is making people dumber say that kids are lazy because they can just look up the answer and they don’t have to absorb it.

To an extent, this is true, but by looking something up you have no choice but to absorb it. Furthermore, there are other ways of taking in information. The idea that you can just go to Wikipedia is the most basic form of education in technology. There are so many other ways to take in new information, such as through gaming and new technologies, like virtual reality.

New Technology is Making Learning Fun

No matter how much you try to drill into your kids that education is important, they are still just kids. They are not going to do something that they don’t enjoy. That’s why it’s so difficult to actually get them to learn a subject they have no interest in. And that’s why some people are better at some things than others.

But new technology is filling in these knowledge gaps through making learning fun. A lot of people have learned through gaming. They have used their practical knowledge, and the best part is they didn’t even see it as learning. They saw it as just having fun.

And virtual reality is expected to take that to a whole new level. MEL Science believes there will still be room for practical objects in the real world, but they will be utilizing even more advanced technology. That’s why their chemistry sets continue to be updated to match up with the real world.

So is Technology Making Kids Smarter?

There’s no doubt that kids are getting smarter than ever before. Exam results are constantly climbing around the world, and a greater proportion of people possess higher education qualifications than ever before. That alone should demonstrate how the world is growing smarter.

As with all young people, it’s about engagement. The only way they’re going to keep getting smarter is through engagement. MEL Science has seen a huge amount of uptake in their chemistry sets because everything is about grabbing the attentions of young people and keeping them engaged.

What do you think technology has done in regards to making people smarter?

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An Inspirational Divorce

If you have ever gotten divorced, you will always remember that moment in time when you realized your life was changing forever. I do. I remember where I was standing when that fateful text came through on his phone and I saw it. I remember the ground opening up in slow motion and me falling like Alice through the rabbit hole only to look up from below to see a very tiny prick of light so very far above and wondering how I was ever going to reach it again. But you do, and as you climb your way up, you learn and you grow and you emerge into the sunlight a different person.

Friends always asked, “How did you do it?” and as Peter Pan said, “Faith, trust and a little bit of pixie dust.” Well, actually, my pixie dust came in the form of 3×5 index cards that lined my bathroom mirror. It worked so well for me I have passed this exercise of empowerment onto my clients.

Below you will find motivational/empowerment quotes I used. Write them on 3×5 cards and keep them on your bathroom counter. Every morning flip through them till one jumps out at you and tape it on your mirror. Sometimes I had up to five cards up there at one time because I felt they were so inspiring. Now here is an added bonus — my kids saw them as well. One day I walked into my son’s room and he had two of his own on his mirror. By doing this, you are constantly empowering yourself and in the process teaching your children how to find the light in the darkness.

– How do you view your life? Are you a victim or an explorer on a quest for a new and exciting life?

– I am developing a new image of myself. I am a warrior. I have strength and peace. I am in control. I am not a victim.

-It’s not so much what is happening in that moment or in our lives. It’s our thoughts about what is happening that causes us great stress. Control your thoughts and you control the situation.

– Always listen to your heart. Do not let it harden.

– The fear of something is always greater than the thing you fear.

– The point was to free yourself from something that costs your heart even more. — Paolo Coelho

– Everything that begins also ends. Make peace with that and all will be well. — Buddha

– In the midst of winter, I discovered within me an invincible summer. — Albert Carnus

– Slide your Katherine Hepburn glasses on and face the day.

– A person can justify anything. Don’t let their justification become your reality.

– Surround yourself with positive people and activities.

– Divorce is a sad, traumatic “time” in one’s life. Don’t make it a “lifetime” event.

– When you fall into that abyss, take a deep breath, put it all into perspective, and climb out. No relationship is worth residence there.

– Divorce is not the worst thing that can happen; losing yourself is the worst thing.

– Do not let fear cloud your decisions.

– Whoever angers you, controls you.

– Divorce is about one’s life changing, but not one’s life being taken away.

– You’ve come too far to give up now. You are closer than you think.

– Do not be a slave to others’ opinions. Discard them as you would rotten food. For nothing good will come out of holding on to others’ opinions. Your heart knows the truth.

People always say this is a new chapter, but I say, “Hell, this is a new book and I am the writer, the director and the heroine.” You be the same and I’ll see you on the New York Times bestseller list!

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Beyond The Bullet: Do Rubrics Corrupt Thinking?

There is no checklist in life that somehow spells out how to succeed. There is no step-by-step guide that, if followed correctly, leads a person to wealth or happiness. Yet in school, our over-use of standardized rubrics has possibly created that promise, and as a result, our students and their creativity may have suffered.

Standardized rubrics can give detailed feedback easily and efficiently to large groups of students, and help make the sometimes amorphous task of teaching writing more concrete.

I use standardized rubrics in different ways:

1. I provide rubrics prior to an assignment to be transparent with my expectations.

2. I have students translate rubrics into their own words to ensure that they understand the teacher-ese found in many of these documents.

3. I train students in using rubrics formatively to assess their peers’ rough drafts prior to creating final drafts.

CORRUPTING THE USE OF RUBRICS

However, in the past few years I’m starting to see a trend that worries me. Students, those we differentiate and individualize for, have become dependent on these standardized rubrics, not as a tool to seek advice, but as a definitive checklist towards the A.

After all, when you look up a synonym for “rubric,” you find “rulebook” listed. And that’s just what many students are looking for. A Lego manual of How-to Impress.

According to Susan Brookhart’s book for ASCD, How to Create and Use Rubrics for Formative Assessment and Grading, “Rubrics are important because they clarify for students the qualities their work should have.” This is well-intentioned, but many students use rubrics, not as a clarification, but as a formula.

When I assign students work, I give them a list of the elements I would need to see in order for them to earn credit for accomplishing the task. But:

Accomplished ≠ Exceeded

However, more and more students ask for “above and beyond” to be clearly defined for them.

Additionally, more and more parents ask to see a filled out rubric, not to see the quality of the work their student submitted, but to challenge the assessment of a particular bullet point. After all, a bullet on a rubric might mean the difference between a 4 or a 5, if only they push the teacher hard enough.

It’s a terrible position to put a teacher in. Yes, we should be able to justify the scores we assign, but we shouldn’t have to be pushed into a Lincoln-Douglas debate that requires the skills of a lawyer to fight for each professional decision.

However, it isn’t debating with parents that concerns me. It’s the fact that more and more students want to skip the feedback step entirely, like being critiqued is a bad thing, and they want a step-by-step guide towards success before attempting the task at all.

The use of standardized rubrics also serves to stifle subjectivity. I get it; I really do. Teachers need guidance and rubrics are a tool to help us assess without personal bias. But without subjectivity, we can’t honor the students as individuals and allow for personalized goals.

As Alfie Kohn says in “The Trouble with Rubrics, “Once we check our judgment at the door, we can all learn to give a 4 to exactly the same things.” And as a result, we’re developing a generation who works only towards that 4 even if they can do better.

We’re developing a generation of students who can’t take the feedback at all, as if having room for improvement is a fatal flaw.

We’re developing a student that focuses more on the bullet point and less on the brain.

HOW CAN WE HELP STUDENTS CREATE AN INTERNAL RUBRIC?

Standardized rubrics have become a crutch, and as a result, students have become timid in their desire to challenge themselves and timid in their attempts to produce beyond the bullet.

Furthermore, by over-emphasizing standardized rubrics we’ve stolen students’ ability to develop their own internal rubric of what constitutes great work.

But how can we deconstruct the elements all students must produce and still assess the development of the whole individual child? How can we give regular feedback without trapping our students into needing it? How can we have conversations about improvement if a student might hesitate because their artifact might, heaven forbid, still need something?

The answer just might reside in the rubrics themselves.

Surely we can adapt rubrics and convert them from a more standardized method of giving feedback to one that is both efficient and individualized. There must be a way to use this vital tool to give clarity and transparency in a way that promotes both individualized assessment and valuable criticism.

Here’s what I have begun to do:

Step 1: Individualize the table itself. Create a row on the rubric that is unique to each student based on goals that student asks to receive feedback on.

Step 2: Calibrate with the students. Show model pieces (not from that class) in order for them to see what an element looks like as a 2, a 3, a 4, etc…

Step 3: Develop a row focused on risk-taking. A student who genuinely strives towards achievement is one that takes the initial assignment and runs with it. Failed or no, in my book, if a student takes a risk, they get credit for it.

Step 4: Hand-off the job. Have the student fill out their own rubric and justify their own scores. See it if matches your own assessment.

Step 5: Mix-and-match how you give feedback. Don’t provide rubrics with every assignment. It trains students to need one with every task.

I’m not saying we need to totally ditch standardized rubrics. They have a place in our education system. But their overuse has corrupted our goals to help students discover their own internal rubrics as they venture out into the world beyond our walls.

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