'Saddest Photo Ever Taken' Captures Elderly Couple's Agonizing Goodbye

Wolfram Gottschalk and his wife of 62 years, Anita, are pictured weeping together in what may just be one of the saddest photos we’ve ever seen. The couple from British Columbia, Canada, have been living separately since the beginning of the year due to health problems. A photo taken by their granddaughter, Ashley Bartyik, on a recent visit has gone viral along with a plea to reunite the couple before it’s too late.

Earlier this year, Wolfram, who suffers from dementia and congestive heart failure, was hospitalized and moved to a transitional health care facility where he’s been ever since, Bartyik told The Huffington Post.

Before, the couple lived independently, but after the decline of Wolfram’s condition, Anita was told caring for him required professional support.

 

“Grandma has taken pride in taking care of him for years, so it was heartbreaking for her,” Bartyik said. 

Meanwhile, Anita has moved to an assisted living facility a 30-minute drive away from her husband in the hope that a spot will open up for him in the complex care area. 

Bartyik wrote in her post that the separation is due to “backlogs and delays by our health care system.”

So until they are reunited, the pair look forward to meeting every other day after Bartyik or her mother drives Anita to see Wolfram. Given his dementia, routinely seeing her is important so that he feels his surroundings aren’t totally unfamiliar. 

And most of these meetings are tearful like the one photographed on Monday in the now-viral photo that has been shared more than 5,000 times.

“It’s like that every time,” Bartyik said. “Every time when they first see each other, they cry. Then they generally have a really good time. We bring him snacks. But when it comes time to leave, he wonders why he can’t come with us and we have to try and distract him or make up an excuse.”

It’s a situation that’s only gotten more painful with Wolfram’s lymphoma diagnosis earlier this week. The family is worried that with the time spent apart, eventually, his memories of his wife will fade. 

Since posting the photo on Facebook ― and calling it “the saddest photo I have ever taken” ― Bartyik and the rest of the family have heard from Fraser Health Authority.

“One of the challenges with couple reunification is that they don’t necessarily need the same level of care at the same time. In this case, the husband’s care needs are considerably higher than his wife’s. He needs residential care while his wife needs assisted living care. This means we need to make sure the facility can accommodate both their needs,” Tasleem Juma, a spokesperson for Fraser Health told Global News. 

Fraser Health tells the family that they’re working on reuniting the couple and are making it a top priority. Still, they don’t have an exact timeline for when that will be, Bartyik said. 

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Big Toe Pain: Bunions, Gout, Turf Toe and Sesamoiditis

Experiencing pain in your big toe is a relatively common occurrence. This is because the feet are constantly exposed to stress from the outside world and general overuse. Often times, injury results from participation in sporting events; however, this is not always the case. Injury to the foot and the resulting big toe pain can occur simply from walking, or running.

Arthritis
Arthritis of the big toe restricts movement of the big toe limiting motion to only small degrees. Degenerative arthritis of the big toe is painful, and results in stiffness and swelling of the first metatarsophalangeal joint. In this particular scenario, the patient may need a fusion of the joint.

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Hallux Rigidus
Arthritis of the big toe joint can be present with large dorsal bone spurs. This condition is referred to as Hallux Rigidus. Hallux Rigidus restricts dorsiflexion of the big toe and is associated with swelling. In this case, cartilage will remain within the joint space and bone spurs around the joint. The first line of treatment usually calls for medication and shoe inserts. Next, a physician may remove 25% of the dorsal aspect of the metatarsal head, including the dorsal osteophytes. The procedure is contraindicated if the pain is located in the mid-range of joint motion. Often advanced arthritis will need a fusion.

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Hallux Valgus (Bunion Deformity)
Hallux Valgus is deformity characterized by a lateral deviation of the big toe with enlargement of the tissue around the metatarsophalangeal joint (aka a bunion). Bunions can be painful and the pain may be aggravated by wearing shoes. It isn’t very feasible to go a day without wearing shoes. Thus, when simply wearing shoes is painful, surgery becomes necessary.

Fun Fact: Hallux Valgus deformity is more common in women than in men.

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Gout
The first metatarsal joint is the most common joint in the body to be affected by gout. Recurrent pain in the big toe can occur from gout. Gout is caused by the buildup of uric acid and the deposit of uric acid crystals inside the joint. Gout is usually very painful and it’s crystals look like tiny needles. Often, gout will resemble an infection and a proper diagnosis is essential for treatment. Aspiration and analysis of the joint fluid is the best method for diagnosis. A positive indicator for gout on an X-Ray will show punched out periarticular erosions. However, most people with high levels of uric acid will not have a gouty attack.

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Turf Toe
“Turf toe” is the common term used to describe a big toe injury of the plantar plate and sesamoid complex of the MTP. It is an injury to the joint at the base of the big toe caused by hyperextension. This particular condition often occurs in contact sports (hence the name). “Turf Toe” injury gets its origin from engaging in activity on fields covered in artificial turf. Artificial turf is a harder much more dense surface than regular grass. Thus, turf only allows for very little “give” when a force is placed on it. The easiest way to identify Turf Toe is by X-Ray. A positive identification may show a fracture or displacement of the sesamoid. An MRI may show disruption of the volar plate.

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Sesamoiditis
There are two sesamoid bones, one tibular and one fibular. The sesamoiditis bones act like pulleys for the flexor tendons and are embedded into the tendons of the flexor hallucis brevis muscle. Sesamoiditis is generalized big toe pain located at the bottom of the big toe. The sesamoids are important to the big toe region because they absorb weight-bearing pressure and reduce friction on the metatarsal head. In addition, the sesamoids protect the flexor hallucis longus tendon as it glides between the two sesamoid bones. Any chronic sesamoid condition that is unresponsive to conservative treatment may require surgery.

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Check out my other YouTube videos involving other foot problems:
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How I Overcame An 8-Year Co-Parenting Struggle

As part of our Blended Family Friday series, each week we spotlight a different stepfamily to learn how they’ve worked to bring their two families together. Our hope is that by telling their stories, we’ll bring you closer to blended family bliss in your own life! Want to share your family’s story? Email us at divorce@huffingtonpost.com.

When a college mentor asked Melissa Alexander to map out her goals for the future, she never thought to include “co-parenting with another woman.” But when her ex-husband married a woman named Elisa years after their divorce, that’s exactly what happened. 

“The first time I saw Delilah’s stepmom Elisa, I immediately felt challenged,” Alexander told The Huffington Post. 

“She was dressed to the nines, put together and looked like she could fill my shoes as Delilah’s mom with such ease and pose,” she recalled. “Then there was me, pregnant and newly married. This day set off an eight-year co-parenting struggle: it felt like a competition in my eyes, of who could be the best mom.”

Below, Alexander, who blogs at the House Of Hazel, tells us more of her family’s story.

Hi Melissa. Please introduce us to your family.

My husband Clint and I have been married for 12 years. We have one daughter together named Lucy (11).

My ex-husband Keith and I have a daughter named Delilah (16).  

Keith and his wife Elisa have been married a little over 11 years. Elisa has a daughter named Avery (13).

What was it like when you first met Elisa and how has your relationship developed over time? 

When you have two parents it can be difficult to agree on parenting techniques. Imagine doing it with four parents. It took us years of trying to get along and communicate effectively. We were like Teresa Giudice and Melissa Gorga on “Real Housewives of New Jersey.” You know the episodes where they just smile and say they will work on communicating but the second another problem arose, they were back fighting? We were kind of like that.

We finally had a breakthrough about three years ago. Delilah had gotten into one of those middle school spats with a few friends and unfortunately, it involved the moms. Elisa went to bat for Delilah. I realized for the first time she had no intentions of replacing me. She had every intention of being Delilah’s biggest cheerleader, motivator and support guide. She wanted to give her another loving home. Elisa and I realized that if we were really going to get on a good path we needed to change our relationship and treat each other as friends. That was the beginning of a beautiful friendship and effective co-parenting between the four of us.

What do you appreciate most about parenting in a stepfamily? 

The best part is gaining an outside perspective. I really rely on Clint and Elisa’s opinions. They see a bigger picture and have great suggestions. There are times when we don’t agree. In those times, we mutually agree to respect one another and put our differences aside for the sake of Delilah.  

What makes you proudest of your family? 

I am proud and grateful that both sets of families can share in Delilah’s achievements. Before we would avoid each other like the plague. Now, we show Delilah we are a united front. I can tell it’s made a positive difference in her life.   

What’s your best advice for parents and stepparents struggling to keep the peace? 

If I could go back and do it all over again, I would have humbled myself and put aside pettiness. If I would have let my guard down from the beginning we could have saved ourselves years of arguments which ultimately put Delilah in the middle. I really missed out years of establishing a good friendship with Elisa. She is a genuinely good-hearted person. At the beginning, I chose to judge someone before really getting to know their heart. That is never the best co-parenting strategy.

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Don't Underestimate How Much Steve Bannon Can Damage Hillary Clinton

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Donald Trump and Steve Bannon

Working in the film business, I briefly met the Donald Trump Republican presidential campaign’s new CEO, Steve Bannon, during the 1990s when he was a Hollywood investment banker. As one producer whom Bannon helped raise capital for told me, even back then he was an angry, racist, egregiously aggressive, and inappropriately temperamental character.

Bannon was also whip smart with a sophisticated understanding of how the media works.

Inside the liberal bubble, Democrats may be taking Bannon’s appointment to help run Trump’s campaign as a something of a joke. But, at their peril, they underestimate Bannon’s ability to harm Hillary Clinton, the Democratic presidential nominee.

Bannon was one of the early Harvard MBA-type financial pirates who realized that Wall Street money could be tapped to finance film and television, often with disastrous results for the investors but with great results for the Hollywood studios and the financial engineers like Bannon who brokered the deals.

In the late ’80s-early ’90s, Wall Street discovered that intellectual property like movies and television and the companies that owned them could be bought, sold and traded just like hard assets such as real estate and commodities. Bannon engineered some of those transactions, first as a specialist at Goldman Sachs, then at his own boutique investment bank Bannon & Co., and briefly in partnership with a volatile manager Jeff Kwatinetz (whose first claim to fame was discovering the heavy metal band Korn and managing The Backstreet Boys).

Bannon was tough and merciless. It was Bannon who personally stuck the shiv in the heart of former superagent and Disney President Michael Ovitz, effectively ending the career of the man who had been known as the most powerful person in Hollywood.

After being fired by Disney, Ovitz set out to create a powerful new entertainment company called the American Management Group, with clients like Leonardo DiCaprio and Cameron Diaz, in which Ovitz invested over $100 million of his own money. (I remember visiting AMG’s new offices, the most expensive and lavish in Beverly Hills, with millions of dollars in art by the likes of Mark Rothko and Jasper Johns adorning the walls.) But AMG was an abject failure, bleeding millions of dollars a month, while Ovitz desperately sought a buyer. Finally, the only available buyer was Kwatinetz and Bannon.

According to Vanity Fair, Bannon went alone to see Ovitz and offered him $5 million, none in cash. After a moment of silence, Ovitz told Bannon, “If I didn’t know you personally, I’d throw you out of the room.” But out of options, Ovitz ended up selling to Kwatinetz and Bannon’s company, effectively ending Ovitz’s legendary Hollywood career. (Remember that, Hillary.)

Bannon’s smartest (or luckiest) deal was brokering the sale of Rob Reiner’s company, Castle Rock Entertainment, to Ted Turner. In lieu of part of its brokerage fee, Bannon & Co. agreed to take a piece of the future syndication revenues from five TV shows, one of which turned out to be “Seinfeld.” The rest is history.

The Seinfeld royalties freed Bannon (with a reported net worth of $41 million) from needing to work for a living, allowing him to try his hand at producing (including the Sean Penn-directed “Indian Runner” and a number of right-wing documentaries) and then to throw himself into extremist and racist alt-right politics.

He invested $1 million in a laudatory film about Sarah Palin and became a close confidante. He then attached himself to Andrew Breitbart and took over Breitbart News after Andrew Breitbart’s sudden death at 43, moving the already far-right website closer to the openly white nationalist alt-right. There he became a major advocate for Trump before being tapped to help run his campaign.

But Bannon’s real danger doesn’t come so much from his work with Breitbart News, which plays mostly to the angry, racist white base. It comes more from the Bannon-funded Government Accountability Institute, a research institute staffed with some very smart and talented investigative journalists, data scientists and lawyers.

GAI’s staff does intensive and deep investigative research digging up hard-to-find, but well-documented dirt on major politicians and then feeding it to the mainstream media to disseminate to the general public.

Among other things, its staff has developed protocols to access the so-called “deep web,” which consists of a lot of old or useless information and information in foreign languages which don’t show up in traditional web searches, but often contains otherwise undiscoverable and sometimes scandalous information which Bannon then feeds to the mainstream media.

For example, Bannon is responsible for uncovering former liberal New York congressman Anthony Weiner (husband of Hillary Clinton’s personal aide Huma Abedin) tweeting photos of his crotch to various women. Bannon hired trackers to follow Weiner’s Twitter account 24 hours a day until they eventually uncovered the infamous crotch shots. They released them to the mass media, effectively ending Weiner’s political career. (Remember that, Hillary.)

Bannon’s mantra for GAI is “Facts get shares, opinions get shrugs.” GAI’s strategy is to feed damaging, fact-based stories that will get headlines in the mainstream media and change mass perceptions. According to Bloomberg, “GAI has collaborated with such mainstream media outlets as Newsweek, ABC News, and CBS’s “60 Minutes” on stories ranging from insider trading in Congress to credit card fraud among presidential campaigns. It’s essentially a mining operation for political scoops.”

One of Bannon’s key insights is that economic imperatives have caused mainstream media outlets to drastically cut back budgets for investigative reporting. “The modern economics of the newsroom don’t support big investigative reporting staffs,” says Bannon. “You wouldn’t get a Watergate, a Pentagon Papers today, because nobody can afford to let a reporter spend seven months on a story. We can. We’re working as a support function.”

So GAI’s strategy is to spend weeks and months doing the fact-based research that investigative reporters in the mainstream media no longer have the resources to do, creating a compelling story line, and then feeding the story to investigative reporters who, whatever their personal political views, are anxious in their professional capacity to jump on. As a key GAI staffer says, “We’re not going public until we have something so tantalizing that any editor at a serious publication would be an idiot to pass it up and give a competitor a scoop.”

It’s likely no accident that in the week since Bannon officially joined the Trump campaign, media attention has shifted from focusing primarily on Trump’s gaffes to potential corrupting contributions to the Clinton Foundation in exchange for access to Secretary of State Clinton.

GAI’s biggest, and most effective project has been to uncover the nexus between Bill and Hillary’s paid speeches, contributions to the Clinton Foundation by corrupt oligarchs and billionaires, and access to the State Department by donors. The research culminated in the book “Clinton Cash” by Peter Schweitzer, president of GAI, and published by mainstream publisher Harpers.

The back cover of “Clinton Cash” summarizes its premise:

“The Clintons typically blur the lines between politics, philanthropy, and business. Consider the following: Bill flies into a Third World country where he spends time in the company of a businessman. A deal is struck. Soon after, enormous contributions are made to the Clinton Foundation, while Bill is commissioned to deliver a series of highly paid speeches. Some of these deals require approval or review by the US government and fall within the purview of a powerful senator and secretary of state. Often the people involved are characters of the kind that an American ex-president (or the spouse of a sitting senator, secretary of state, or presidential candidate) should have nothing to do with.”

Bannon and Schweitzer have so far failed to prove any explicit quid pro quo. But they’re highly successful at making the nexus between the Clinton Foundation, Bill and Hillary Clinton’s paid speeches, and special access for donors feel dirty and unseemly.

Before and after its publication, “Clinton Cash” got considerable play in the mainstream media. The New York Times ran a front-page story with the headline, “Cash Flowed to Clinton Foundation Amid Russian Uranium Deal,” drawing on research from “Clinton Cash.”

In an op-ed piece in The Washington Post, Larry Lessig, Harvard Law professor and progressive crusader against money in politics concluded, “On any fair reading, the pattern that Schweitzer has charged is corruption.” And it seems that Bannon and Schweitzer have more damaging research on the Clintons that they will drip out through the campaign. Schweitzer has warned that more emails are coming showing Clinton’s State Department doing favors for foreign oligarchs.

Bannon’s strategy may not be enough to win the White House for Trump. But it will almost certainly do further damage to Clinton. Voters already think Clinton is less trustworthy than Trump. According to a recent Quinnipiac poll, 53 percent of likely voters say Trump is not honest (with 42 percent saying he is honest). But a huge 66 percent of voters say Clinton is not honest, compared to 29 percent who say she is.

Bannon’s work for Trump could drive Clinton’s honesty score even lower. Clinton’s core strategy has been to disqualify Trump as a potential president and commander-in-chief among a majority of voters. Bannon’s strategy is to do the same for Clinton.

Faced with a choice between two presidential candidates whom a large swath of voters find untrustworthy and distasteful, Trump’s outrageousness may still enable Clinton to grind out a victory from a sullen electorate. But it’s going to get even uglier. And even if Clinton wins, popular distrust could harm her ability to govern.

In that context, it would be a huge mistake for Democrats and the Clinton campaign to underestimate Steve Bannon.

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Squirrel Girl Shows Us Computer Science Can Be Extremely Metal

In a quest to continue being the go-to comic for creating the most nonsensical blogs, this week’s issue of Squirrel Girl uses basic computer science and counting in binary to deliver a splash page so fundamentally rad it should probably grace the cover of a mid-’80s metal album. Suffice to say, it’s rather brilliant.

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There's Nothing Remotely Functional About an Axe Handle Made of Gummy Bears

There’s no end to the impressive stuff handy YouTubers will make out of wood, metal, and plastic. Peter Brown, however, favors unorthodox building materials.

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Google 'Solitaire' and Watch What Happens

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Octobot Is a Soft and Squirmy Robot

A team of researchers at Harvard have developed Octobot, what they claim is the first autonomous soft robot with no rigid components. That means it’s all soft and squishy (and creepy.) The octopus-shaped robot has a silicone body and uses a 50% hydrogen peroxide fuel that flows through a microfluidic circuit where it reacts with platinum. That is how it does its little dance.

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So what else does it do? Nothing really. It’s pretty useless. It is just an example of what could be possible in the future, using soft materials and techniques like 3D printing.

I wonder when they are going to make a giant Kraken that dances. Science likes to do stuff like that. Then it can go out of control and kill us all.

[via Nature via Laughing Squid]

Sprint offers 'Unlimited Freedom Premium' for heavy video users

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Twitter is working on a keyword tool to combat harassment

Harassment is one of the biggest problems facing Twitter right now. Some of the company’s most popular and influential users have been driven off the platform because of some truly horrific, hurtful tweets. The problem hasn’t gone unnoticed. Twitter…