The Russian Bear Is Rising

The karmic consequence of imperial hubris stares America in the eye. Every battlefront from Syria to China in the western pacific offers a preview of an empire in irreversible decline. Of all the upheavals reflecting America’s diminishing global influence, a potential war with Russia could spill over into something of earth-shattering proportions. Read the last sentence metaphorically at your peril.

At the recent International Economic Forum in St. Petersburg, Putin warned of the impending danger caused by NATO’s fateful decision to launch missile defence systems on Russian borders. He accounted western journalists for their nonchalant reporting of such deliberate provocations. I don’t blame him. Shockingly, NATO’s increasing military presence in the Baltics is hardly a major news item. God forbid, if the US continues sabre-rattling in Eastern Europe, can we really fault Russia for mobilising forces in Kaliningrad and countering with a ground invasion in the Suwalki Gap, which links Poland to the Baltic states? As unsettling as it sounds, I’m shuddering at the thought of us sleepwalking into a nuclear war by ignoring such combustible geopolitical realities.

Since the Second World War, we’ve all grown up on a steady diet of cultural, economic and political pax-Americana, but the balance of power is rapidly shifting. One thing which should make the West stand up and take notice is the military hardware at Putin’s disposal. The New Tsar, as many label him, boasts a formidable arsenal that can easily penetrate U.S. and European defense shields. It is now generally accepted among military experts that the U.S. lags behind Russia in the development of intercontinental ballistic missiles (ICBMs). The impressive array of state of the art weaponry range from fifth-generation stealth fighters to hypersonic gliders equipped with warheads capable of reaching a speed of Mach 5 and a distance of 10,000km. It begs the question: Have the defense specialists at Lockheed Martin finally met their match in the battle for engineering ingenuity? Regardless, Russia is no pretender and this is clearly recognised by General Mark Miley, the new Chief of US Army Staff who warned that conventional deterrence will not be enough to eliminate the existential threat posed by a nuclear Russia.

But limiting Russia’s strength to a burgeoning martial reputation obscures an equally significant reason for why neocon hawks are genuinely fretting over a globalist demise: A Russia-China axis.

Yes, the unprecedented partnership between Moscow and Beijing has huge implications for U.S. hegemony and has gone from strength to strength in the wake of sanctions following Russia’s annexation of Crimea. What was Putin’s response? In his words, an ‘epochal’ $400bn gas pipeline with China, effectively leaving Europe out in the cold. To rub further salt into American wounds, the Eurasian alliance set about aiding and abetting ‘rogue’ nations like Iran, North Korea and Syria, judging by their numerous trade agreements, military cooperation and cyber-security arrangements threatening to disrupt the new world order.

It goes without saying that Putin is exploiting the current stalemate in US-China relations, which oscillate between conflict and cooperation. Despite being one of America’s largest trading partners, President Xi Jinping has stationed anti-aircraft towers and helipads in the South China Sea to thwart any American designs on the disputed archipelagos. The People’s Liberation Army is also threatening to place its nuclear arsenal on alert to safeguard its maritime rights. Ever the opportunist, Putin has conveniently aligned Kremlin to Chinese national interests as the global policeman looks helplessly on at this bilateral powerhouse from across the Atlantic.

My doubts about Putin’s political savvy were certainly laid to rest after he capitalized on Washington’s apathetic response to last month’s failed coup attempt in Turkey. By offering immediate consolation to Erdogan-embittered by the U.S. for dragging its feet over condemning the coup plotters-he charmed one of Washington’s most strategic allies into questioning the long-term sustainability of Turkey’s NATO membership, striding closer towards upending American exceptionalism.

I still suspect that Erdogan’s overtures to Putin are a mere phishing expedition for a nefarious NATO agenda. But as it stands, Turkey is veering towards multipolarity, much to the chagrin of the U.S. military industrial complex. By halting the YPG advance west of the Euphrates, opposing the creation of a U.S.-backed semiautonomous Kurdish statelet and warming to the idea of Assad remaining President for a brief interim period, Erdogan’s reassessment of foreign policy places him on the Russian side of the Syrian quagmire.

The Pentagon is fuming. After all, more than fifty US B-61 hydrogen bombs are stored in the underground vaults at Turkey’s Incirlik Airbase. The Russian bear must be licking his chops.

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'My Friend Criticizes My Parenting And She Doesn't Have Kids'

Reader Irritated writes:

I’m the mom of a toddler and I love your blog.  My problem is that have a friend who isn’t a mom, whom I met and became close with before I was a mom, and she just LOVES to give parenting advice, unsolicited. It’s actually caused me to stop hanging out with her which is a huge bummer. I’m not sure how to address the issue.

This person is very type A and even when I’ve dropped hints that she has no idea what being a mom is like (as politely as I can) she still doesn’t get the hint. She told me she is going to start having kids after she gets her depression treated (but she doesn’t seem depressed to me). I love her but I can’t take this anymore. Do you have any advice for this dilemma? 

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Dear Irritated,

This sounds like an extremely annoying situation.  Although I would love to give you all manner of humorous or passive aggressive ways to get your friend off your case, there is another way to deal with this.  I urge you to muster up all of your empathy and look at this from your friend’s perspective.  She is insecure about her own potential parenting ability in light of the depression she experiences (and if she’s mentioning it, it’s enough to worry her, even if it isn’t disabling enough for you to observe it).  She is Type A and likely perfectionistic, so it must kill her that she has to delay childbearing to address her own mental health issues. Unfortunately, she doesn’t have enough insight to say, “Boy, I’m worried about what kind of mom I’ll be, so I vicariously parent my friend’s child to prove my innate parenting ability.”  So she gives advice and comments about your parenting.

You are actually doing your friend a favor by allowing her to give you advice.  You don’t have to take her advice; you barely have to listen.  But I have a feeling that she is terribly anxious about her own future parenting, and every time that you pretend to listen to her, you’re being a good friend.  It’s like when you were in high school and your friend’s boyfriend or crush started dating a new girl and you pretended that the new girl was really unattractive.  It has nothing to do with reality, it’s just being a good friend. So, as long as your friend keeps on giving her advice, just nod and smile and say, “Good point!”  You are doing your part to help the world by allowing your friend to self-soothe via compulsive advice-giving.

If your friend strays into criticizing your parenting, however, take a deep breath and confront her directly.  You can say, “Hey, I love you like a sister, but I have to be honest: when you criticize my parenting, I really don’t like it.”  She’ll say, “What?  Criticize?  I was just saying that sleep training kills brain cells!” And then you can say, “Well, whatever it is, please stop doing it.” Then smile and resume your conversation.  This probably won’t have to happen more than once.  Note: It sounds so easy because it is.  Things get complicated when you’re indirect, but can be remarkably easy when you’re direct. The hardest part is gathering your courage to be this forthright.

Good luck, and thanks for writing in.  Till we meet again, I remain, The Blogapist Who Says, Use This Column For Your Mother-in-Law, Too.

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This Stepmom And Biomom's Relationship Is Parenting #Goals

As part of our Blended Family Friday series, each week we spotlight a different stepfamily to learn how they’ve worked to bring their two families together. Our hope is that by telling their stories, we’ll bring you closer to blended family bliss in your own life! Want to share your family’s story? Email us at divorce@huffingtonpost.com. 

Life coach Andi Abraham has spent most of her life in New York City. When she met and married her husband Jason about seven years ago, that meant moving to the middle of Wisconsin and becoming a stepmom to his daughter, Ali. 

“I had never been married or had any biological children of my own,” Andi told The Huffington Post. “I bought every book I could get my hands on in an attempt to give myself a crash course in stepparenting.”

In the end, no book could prepare her for life as a stepmom quite like Ali’s mom, Teena. 

“I will always be thankful to her,” Andi said. “She opened the door for me so that I could have a relationship with Ali.”

 Below, Andi shares more of her stepfamily’s success story. 

Hi Andi. Please introduce us to your family.
There’s me, my husband Jason and my stepdaughter Ali who is 17 and a high school senior. Ali’s mom is Teena.

Jason and I have been together for seven years and married for six.

When you began to get serious with Jason, what approach did you take with Ali? 
I remember the first day I met her: All three of us went golfing and I took the biggest swing I could, trying my best to showcase my athletic ability (which, by the way, I have very little). I ended up loosing my footing, slipped over an entire bucket of golf balls and rolled on the ground for what felt like an eternity. I remember feeling so embarrassed but I soon realized what an incredible icebreaker that was. It also set the tone for my future approach with Ali: I wasn’t perfect but I was going to give stepparenting my all. I never really thought about what my approach was going to be beforehand, but looking back now, I think that I always tried to be genuine and honest.

You said you wouldn’t have been able to have a relationship with Ali without help from her mom Teena. How so?

Teena has been one of my biggest supporters in my role as a stepmom. When I first met her, I thought that she was fabulous ― I really did. Then I thought, wait a second, this can’t be right: where’s the conflict and turmoil? But the truth is, I never knew any stepparents growing up, so I was just going off of what society was telling me. I kept waiting for the other shoe to drop, thinking that it was too good to be true but seven years later, I know that you can absolutely respect and adore your stepkids’ biomom. I could easily list dozens of fabulous memories we’ve all shared together.

What are some of the biggest challenges of adapting to stepparenting?
Finding my own voice. I wanted to be respectful of existing boundaries but I also had a desire to make my own mark on my stepfamily. When I spoke up, I second guessed myself and ruminated over every word for hours on end. It was a very slippery slope. I eventually stopped overanalyzing everything and worrying less. I let go of trying too hard. In time, I learned that a stepparent’s voice develops over time and becomes stronger with patience and humility. There’s always room for someone with good intentions.

How do you deal with stress in your household?
I try to do something for myself, by myself. It’s usually yoga. I know that when I am on my yoga mat, it eases both my mind and body and it reminds me not to sweat the small stuff.

What make you proudest of your family?
The healthy environment that all three of the parents have created for my stepdaughter. That’s not to say that it’s always perfect, but I’m proud of what we have been able to accomplish. We break the traditional stereotypes of a blended family.

What advice do you have for other stepparents who are struggling to feel like part of the family?
Know that it’s completely normal to struggle, to feel like an outsider or invisible at times. You are not alone. Find your support system, whether it’s your spouse, another stepparent or a professional. Don’t struggle alone.

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