A delay in the release date for iPhone 8 (or iPhone X, iPhone Edition), has been tipped this week by analysts. While the reveal date for an Apple Event hasn’t been pinpointed yet, it’s expected that it’ll appear somewhere in early September. The delayed iPhone would also be the OLED model, one of three devices that’d be presented at the … Continue reading
If there was any worry that the issues surrounding the Galaxy Note 7 would hurt Galaxy S8 sales, it can probably be laid to rest. Samsung delivered an update on Galaxy S8 pre-order numbers today, and though we don’t get a specific number, we do get a general idea of how well Samsung’s latest flagship did before launching last week. … Continue reading
The Sony Xperia XA1 will be available in the United States starting on May 1, but ahead of that launch date comes preorders through a couple online retailers. The Xperia XA1 will be offered in a few colors — white, black, pink and gold — and will be sold unlocked for use at any supported carrier. This handset features an … Continue reading
Most working mothers bear some guilt about balancing home and work. It’s so difficult to be productive on the job and come home and raise kids, too. However, there is a certain kind of mother who has a more specific plight—she didn’t really want kids in the first place. There may be various reasons she had children such as societal pressures, desires of her spouse, and accidental pregnancy Her guilt is particularly difficult because she feels so ambivalent about being a mother.
This mother clearly decided, however, once her kids were born that she would do her very best to be a good mother. She becomes deeply attached to her kids despite her feelings about wishing she was just a working woman. She may go out of her way, even more than most working mothers, to provide excellent child care when she is at work and to spend time with her children when she’s at home.
However, there is always that nagging doubt that she is doing a good enough job as a mother because deep inside she bears some resentment that just won’t go away. The guilt can be unbearable and so she tries even harder to be an excellent parent.
Tips For Women Ambivalent About Motherhood
1. Let yourself know that you are entitled to your feelings. Your resentment doesn’t make you a bad person, just a confused one. Give yourself an emotional break from judging yourself harshly.
2. Learn to use resources in your environment to help you with your kids. Providing good child care is essential and that shows how much you
think about being a good mother. Give yourself credit for taking the time to interview the best person to take care of your kids when you’re away from home.
3. Be open with your partner about your feelings. Ask your partner to pick up the slack and co-parent with you effectively. If it was your partner who really wanted a family with kids, let him or her shoulder a lot of the parenting job. This doesn’t mean you are less of a person. It just means you’re honest and this relieves guilt tremendously.
4. Get to know each child individually so you learn to accept them for who they are. Listen carefully to their thoughts, ideas and feelings. You will discover you enjoy your motherhood more fully when you really understand what’s on your child’s mind.
5. When you find yourself yelling at your kids, give some thought to what you are yelling about. Is it that they didn’t do exactly what you asked, or is the resentment surfacing? That’s the time to reflect on your feelings about having kids and not misdirect your emotions by becoming overbearing about some minor, common misbehaviors.
6.You may find that certain ages of kids are more to your liking. If for example infancy and toddlerhood were particularly difficult because of the focused attention these little ones need, look forward to later developmental stages when you can converse more easily with your children. You may find that then you feel you are getting more back from them instead of feeling worn out by their needs
7. Ease your guilt about motherhood by being proud of yourself as a productive working woman in society. This is an accomplishment that shouldn’t be diminished because you feel that pull to be a good mother, too. Applaud your achievements and in fact, as your kids get older, share them. Let them know what you do all day and you will be a model for them.
Most important is that you accept yourself as you are. No one meets everyone’s needs all the time and it is essential that you feel your self-worth as a working woman doing what she likes and is effective at. Try and shrug off society’s and other people’s pressures to be someone you’re not. Give to your kids surely, but not at the expense of taking your needs into account. If you are self-satisfied as a person, it’s going to make you a more effective parent.
Laurie Hollman, Ph.D., is a psychoanalyst, and author of Unlocking Parental Intelligence: Finding Meaning in Your Child’s Behavior found on Amazon and wherever books are sold. Visit her website: www.lauriehollmanphd.com.
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This viral photo of a husband supporting his wife during her cancer treatment is a reminder of what marriage is really about.
On April 14, Mackenna Newman, 17, tweeted a photo of her dad Jon posted up outside his wife Marci’s bedroom, writing, “My mom has to stay in her room in isolation for her cancer radiation so my dad set up a desk at her door to keep her company and I’m crying.”
The sweet image was retweeted more than 7,500 times and received 100K likes on the Love What Matters Facebook page.
According to Newman, Marci was diagnosed with thyroid cancer (which spread to her lymph nodes and trachea) in October. But Jon has been right by her side ever since.
“Jon goes to every doctor’s appointment, every blood test, every surgery, every radiation,” Marci told BuzzFeed News. “And, as you can see, if he can’t be by my side he is as close as he can get!”
Twitter was moved by Jon’s compassion:
And this face just sums it all up:
The Huffington Post reached out to Newman for comment but had not heard back at the time of publication. This story may be updated.
H/T BuzzFeed
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This is pretty fly.
It’s been more than a month since President Donald Trump accused his predecessor, Barak Obama, of wiretapping Trump Tower during the election.
But when it comes to fathers and their dad jokes, timeliness is rarely a factor. Making the point, Bill Clinton — proud pop of Chelsea Clinton — tweeted this picture and punny caption over the weekend:
Zing!
The knee-slapper seemed to tickle a lot of people on Twitter:
Some even made some insect puns of their own:
The giant grasshopper with Clinton in the photo is part of a temporary exhibit at the Clinton Presidential Center in Arkansas called “Xtreme Bugs,” which opened Saturday, also Earth Day. The exhibit is a “study and celebration of some of Earth’s most fascinating inhabitants,” according to a press release.
It also offers an excellent opportunity to bee a total Trump troll.
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The 30-year anniversary of “Dirty Dancing,” possibly the best romance film ever made, is imminent. Thusly, the powers that be (i.e., Hollywood) decided to remake it.
You don’t need me to tell you that this is a bad decision. You already knew that.
But, alas, it is happening anyway. Abigail Breslin will take on Jennifer Grey’s Baby Houseman while the relatively unknown Colt Prattes will transform into the ineffable Johnny Castle, originally played by Patrick Swayze.
In a 30-second promo for the remake, we see recreations of familiar scenes from the 1987 film ― most notably gazebo dance lessons, practicing the dangerous lift in the water, and Johnny saying, “Nobody puts baby in a corner.”
The remake also stars Debra Messing as Kelly Bishop’s Marjorie Houseman and Bruce Greenwood as the late Jerry Orbach’s Dr. Jake Houseman.
According to the People exclusive, the remake will include “what happens to Baby and Johnny after the summer, Jake and Marjorie Houseman’s relationship, and Lisa’s life goals — while also tackling social topics in the country at that time, such as race and women’s rights.”
That seems like … a lot of ground to cover. Especially if the intention is to still pay homage to the glory of the original.
Regardless, we will be scream-singing to “Hungry Eyes” and “(I’ve Had) The Time of My Life” until the premiere on May 24 at 8 p.m. ET on ABC.
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People in Washington, DC, and around the world came together for the March for Science on Saturday, April 22. which was also Earth Day. The march brought together scientists, science enthusiasts and those who simply recognize the value of science for the public good. It also attracted kids who are, you know, taking science class.
Below, 19 of the cutest potential future scientists who marched.
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People for the Ethical Treatment of Animals (PETA) is claiming that a polar bear has died of “heartbreak” after being separated from a close companion of over twenty years that the organization is calling a “same-sex partner.”
According to Yahoo News, SeaWorld split apart long-time companions Szenia and Snowflake in order for the latter polar bear to breed in Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania, earlier this year. Soon after the transfer, Szenia unexpectedly died and now PETA is blaming the death on the company’s decision to separate the pair.
“Szenja died of a broken heart, PETA believes,” Tracy Remain, executive vice president of PETA, said in a statement. “After losing her companion of 20 years when SeaWorld shipped Snowflake to the Pittsburgh Zoo in order to breed more miserable polar bears, Szenja did what anyone would do when they lose all hope, she gave up.”
Dan Mathews, PETA Senior Vice President, echoed Remain’s words, highlighting the fact that same-sex relationships in the animal kingdom are not a unique phenomenon.
“Homosexuality has been observed in more than 500 species, from polar bears to chickens,” he told HuffPost. “This shows not just how natural it is to be gay but also how much we have in common with all animals ― and why their rights must be respected. SeaWorld routinely tears apart marine-mammal families, and in this case, it sentenced a desperate same-sex couple to a miserable life and death. That’s why SeaWorld’s business is tanking.”
The video below shows Szenja playing with a new toy days before her death.
SeaWorld, however, sees things differently and doesn’t think the separation as the cause of death.
“SeaWorld and other accredited and world-class zoological facilities remain focused on our important mission of animal conservation and public education and inspiration,” David Koontz, president of SeaWorld San Diego, told The Huffington Post. “We will not be distracted by organizations with a clear anti-zoo agenda creating false narratives not grounded in any scientific fact.”
Koontz then went on to say that polar bears tend to function primarily as solitary animals and that Szenja did not appear to be negatively impacted by Snowflake’s departure.
“It is well documented that adult polar bears are typically solitary animals, and Szenja was continually cared for and enriched by her dedicated and passionate animal care team,” he continued. “She did not demonstrate any adverse behavioral changes following Snowflake’s transport to the Pittsburgh Zoo in February as part of the Species Survival Plan (SSP) breeding visit. Unlike wild polar bears facing habitat loss, human encroachment and limited food sources, Szenja lived an long and enriching life at SeaWorld with the passionate and uncompromising care provided to her by her loving trainers, and made a positive impact on the tens of millions of park guests that had the chance to see her over the past 20 years.”
Rest in peace, Szenja!
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In the black community, “the talk” with your children isn’t just that of the birds and the bees ― it’s the one where you explain to them how their skin tone may one day make them a police target.
It’s a conversation so difficult that mother, former social worker and Nashville, Tennessee, native Sanya Gragg wanted to help fellow parents navigate it with her recently released book Momma, Did You Hear The News?
Gragg, 46, said she’d been considering writing the book for a short time after she was laid off from her position as a social worker. Her decision to go forth with it came after the police killing of Terence Crutcher last September.
“I knew there would be many families having ‘the talk’ with their children,” Gragg told The Huffington Post last week. “It confirmed that this was my assignment.”
Gragg, who now has two grown sons and a 3-year-old daughter, said that the hardest part of having the talk with her sons was knowing it could only guarantee that they might practice greater caution when confronted by police.
That’s really all they can do, given the disproportionate number of black people killed at the hands of law enforcement. A 2014 ProPublica study reported that black male teens are 21 times more likely to be fatally shot by police than their white counterparts.
“The most difficult part for me is knowing my sons and yours can do everything right and still end up in a tragic situation,” she continued. “That just makes me really sad.”
She said the talk is a staple of all black families no matter their socioeconomic standing ― and suspects it’s beginning to happen at a younger age.
“I think [that] because of social media and our children’s access to it, this conversation is happening much sooner,” Gragg said. “What used to be a concern once our children started driving is now a concern if they are just walking down the street. I think this book can really help with the introduction of this topic.”
In Momma, Did You Hear The News? Gragg establishes a five-part mantra (below) to help black Americans remember what to do during a police encounter.
A – Always use your mannersL – Listen and complyI – In control of your emotionsV – Visible hands alwaysE – Explain everything
“I definitely want everybody to ‘Memorize the 5!’’’ she emphasized. “I think even adults who have been driving for years may get anxious if pulled over. This just gives a quick mental checklist to help you come home alive.”
Momma, Did You Hear The News? can be purchased here.
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